Dread

Dread is an extremely important component in seduction and the maintenance of any long term relationship.

Relationships for men are always better if there is a little dread involved.

Many women try and shield themselves against dread in the way that they setup their relationships (monogamous, live-in LTR/marriage).

Let’s dive in, shall we?

What is Dread?

Dread is the feeling that a woman feels when she knows that she might lose you.

She experiences dread when she sees other women being interested in you, or when you seem to be either emotionally unavailable or unavailable to talk all the time.

Dread creates extreme tension in women, and as I have mentioned before, sex = tension + logistics.

As a result, I recommend that you try and have all of your partners experience dread regularly.

Dread as it Relates to Competition Anxiety

Competition anxiety is what women feel when they know that they have to fight for you.

It is what they feel when they know that you are exercising multiple options.

She does not feel the safety of a committed relationship, she feels the pull of having to convince you that she is the best.

Competition anxiety is an extremely important component of any relationship, and if your girl doesn’t fear your loss, you’re in for a bad time.

With dread, you stir the competition anxiety in her, to your benefit!

Women Would Rather Share A Winner Than Have A Loser All To Themselves

A harsh truth is that women would rather share a winner than be saddled with a loser.

Dread is a way of signaling to her hindbrain that you’re a winner.

If she fears losing you, it means that you are someone worth stealing, someone she doesn’t want to lose.

Funnily enough, women poach men all the time.

It is one of women’s primary strategies for getting men.

Rather than vet the man yourself, steal a man who is already vetted from a girl who has him.

You ideally want women to be fighting over you in this way.

When women know you have multiple options, and they fight each other over you (indirectly), you will always get their best, most convincing behaviour.

There is therefore, no better point in a relationship than when a girl knows she doesn’t have you and has to try and convince you to be with her.

Creating Dread

Creating dread is one of the most important strategies in relationship management.

Here are a few tactics you can use to inspire dread in your partner:

1)  Do not text regularly. When she does not know what you’re doing exactly, she wonders if you’re not out seeing other girls.

2)  Make a plausibly deniable move on one of her friends when she’s not around

3)  Mention how skilled one of your exes was at giving head. Mention it again the next time you meet as though you forgot you mentioned it the last time

4)  Be seen by your girl to flirt with other women at the venue you’re in

5)  Do something memorable together, then do not message her for four days afterwards

6)  Ignore her calls or messages for a week. When she gets mad, act as if she’s sabotaging the relationship

7)  When someone talks about how cute you look together, say “yeah…” while looking away

8)  When she flirts with another guy, have no reaction and give her tips

9)  Say that you really value your independence and freedom in response to nothing in particular

10)   Have an affair and make sure she finds out, then after she’s super mad and raging at you, tell her she’s never looked more beautiful and you’ll never stop loving her. Walk away and go no contact for two weeks.

You are signaling by these actions that you’re not really all that into her.

She knows for sure that you’re seeing other women, and in every case except the affair, she can’t confirm it!

She will fear losing you in every one of these instances, and is much more likely to stay and give you good behaviour as a result.

Why Dread Is Useful

Dread is useful because women don’t just want to feel good when they think about you.

They want to feel good and bad in cycles.

With dread, there is an easy way of making her feel uncomfortable without having to be domineering .

When she’s with you, she feels love, affection and positivity.

When she’s away from you, she feels anxious, sad and fears your loss.

It creates a constant cycle of positive and negative emotions, BOTH of which women enjoy experiencing.

Set Up Your Actions and Environment to Maximize Dread

Rather than actively trying to generate dread, you should aim for passively generating dread.

You can do this by not texting and also by living alone.

In this way, the girl never knows exactly what you’re doing when you’re not around.

She has no way to verify your behaviour and she imagines all of the amazing things you’re doing and all of the women you’re seeing.

You basically have to do nothing in order to generate these feelings other than being busy.

If you’re so busy you don’t have time to text and you need your independence, you will naturally generate the dread that women desire in their relationships, without having to actively work on it.

If you wanted to “fake it”, you simply need to only text for logistics, and have your own place, where she doesn’t live.

Fantasy vs Reality

Women don’t REALLY want to know what you’re doing when she’s not around.

They want the FANTASY of being able to imagine what you’re doing when she’s not around.

Do not break her fantasy by being too available!

Fantasy is the thing that will maintain your relationship like no other.

Men think that women want to know everything about them, but that is untrue.

Women want to peel back your layers and feel like they’re slowly discovering you, bit by bit, using their feminine “intuition”.

It’s the Little Things

Ultimately, it’s the little things that cause dread.

A woman’s hair band here, a side comment mentioning another woman there, an aloof attitude, etc.

These are all things that signal to women that you’re entertaining multiple options.

It passively triggers their dread without much effort on your part.

If you set up your life to passively trigger dread, you will have much happier, longer lasting relationships.

Conclusion

Women desire men who have multiple options.

When they receive confirmation that you’re seeing multiple women (directly or indirectly), it triggers dread and competition anxiety.

Dread and competition anxiety are absolute necessities when it comes to the maintenance of any kind of relationship with a woman.

Use these tools well, and you’ll improve your quality of life significantly!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions

What Is Dread?

Simply put, dread is the feeling women have when they fear they’re losing you.

It can be triggered a variety of ways and is amazing for maintaining relationships.

Women want men who have multiple options.

My Girl Wants to Text Every Day, Should I?

Hell no!

That is extremely unattractive.

You are too available and giving her too much information about yourself.

There is no mystery or fantasy!

Women need those things in order to be maximally attracted to you!

My Girl Wants Me Tell Her Everything I Do When Leave the House and I Hate It! What Should I Do?

You should NEVER follow instructions like that.

Who is she to tell you what you are to do with your time?

She is not your keeper and is not privy to any information or behaviour she wants just because she wants it.

That entitlement to your time and behaviour is something you should never allow.

How Do I Create Dread In My Partner?

Try any (or all) of the following techniques:

1)  Do not text regularly. When she does not know what you’re doing exactly, she wonders if you’re not out seeing other girls.

2)  Make a plausibly deniable move on one of her friends when she’s not around

3)  Mention how skilled one of your exes was at giving head. Mention it again the next time you meet as though you forgot you mentioned it the last time

4)  Be seen by your girl to flirt with other women at the venue you’re in

5)  Do something memorable together, then do not message her for four days afterwards

6)  Ignore her calls or messages for a week. When she gets mad, act as if she’s sabotaging the relationship

7)  When someone talks about how cute you look together, say “yeah…” while looking away

8)  When she flirts with another guy, have no reaction and give her tips

9)  Say that you really value your independence and freedom in response to nothing in particular10)Have an affair and make sure she finds out, then after she’s super mad and raging at you, tell her she’s never looked more beautiful and you’ll never stop loving her. Walk away and go no contact for two weeks.