Many men wonder whether the girl they are with actually desire them or if they are with them for other reasons.
For the most part, it is bad news for men.
We’re going to talk about how women see men today and how that applies to you.
Let’s get to it, shall we?
The Age Old Question
Does she love me, or does she love me not?
That is the age old question.
Unfortunately, for most men, the answer is that she loves him not.
There is only a small fraction of time in a beta’s life where the woman he’s with genuinely desires him, the honeymoon phase (3 months to 3 years).
After that, it is downhill, and downhill hard.
Beta men almost never experience genuine love and affection after that point in their relationship.
What Men Want From Women
A man wants a woman who is a slut FOR HIM.
He wants a woman who will genuinely desire him and who he can fuck in order to relax after a long day at work.
Men want to be appreciated for who they are, and not what they provide.
Unfortunately, women love opportunistically, and so, no man ever experiences the kind of love he imagines.
Of course, many men do experience love from women, but it is not the romantic love that they read about in stories.
The Matriarchy and Its Effects on Men
As a result of the matriarchy and the cultural brainwashing that it has done to men, most men never have a chance to experience genuine love and affection from women.
Most men are trained to be betas/slaves/NPCs who are there to be women’s safety net when women are no longer competitive enough to attract the attention of alpha males.
The matriarchy has ruined the love lives of many men before they have even begun.
By teaching men to be supplicants, rather than independent thinking agents, they raise men on the path of failure.
Only men who realize the truth are able to break free and experience genuine love from women.
Do Betas Get Wives Who Actually Want Them?
The betas who are the safety nets of women almost NEVER get wives who genuinely desire them.
Instead, the betas are a means to an end.
They are the man who will stick around to nurse her, care for her and be her butler for the rest of her life.
Women give to betas ONLY as much sex as is minimally necessary to trap the beta in a permanent slave position and NO MORE.
Once the woman’s hindbrain is convinced that the man she is with is a loser, he has no chance of genuine desire from her ever again.
This is why I do not recommend marriages or LTR’s.
In those types of relationships, women are highly unlikely to exhibit genuine desire for you.
They will quickly realize that you are a human, and not Hercules, at which point she will regret that she got you instead of Hercules.
Being With Someone Due to Genuine Desire vs Material Need
Women in their rockstar phase (16-23) and in their strong independent phase (24-29) are very likely to only seek out partners that give them genuine desire (alphas) and TOTALLY reject betas.
It isn’t until she hits her lady phase (30+) that she starts to seek out her beta safety net.
If you start dating a woman in the lady phase, it is VERY likely that she seeks a bailout and doesn’t feel genuine desire for you.
What I recommend as a result, is NOT to date women that are over the age of 30-32 no matter what your age is as a man.
The women reading this are going to be very offended.
Too bad.
I care about men winning, the matriarchy has already insured the lives of women everywhere in the west.
Women don’t need any more help from me.
Why Betas Get the Shit End of the Stick
Betas get the shit end of the stick because they were never men.
They were always bailouts to women.
Women only have genuine desire for alpha males and so, betas never have a chance at true happiness.
It is due to this knowledge that I prescribe the strategies that I prescribe.
If you are a beta, rather than entering into relationships that don’t favour you, only allow relationships that favour you (FWB – friend with benefits, NMG – non-monogamous girlfriend, SNMG – serious non-monogamous girlfriend).
Use the time you gain by being in these favourable relationships to improve yourself so that you break into the top 20% of men, and leverage the ease of that market to your advantage and future happiness.
The Honeymoon Phase
As I mentioned before, the only time that betas experience genuine love and affection from women is during the honeymoon phase (the early phase in the relationship where everything is new and you’re experiencing each other for the first time).
After the honeymoon phase, betas never experience genuine desire again.
Many women use the honeymoon phase as a sort of “love bombing” tactic, where they convince their partner of how much they are perfect for each other.
The honeymoon phase does NOT last, and if you have solidified yourself into a relationship that favours the woman instead of yourself, you’re going to have a bad time for the foreseeable future.
Betas beware!
You’ll never be happy after this initial period!
Alphas Get Genuine Desire from Women
Unlike betas, alphas always experience genuine desire from women (but tend to have less stable relationships with them).
Alphas receive genuine attention, desire, love and affection from women, but often have on-again, off-again relationships with women, since they refuse to bend to her will.
Women may terminate these relationships, only to come back to them later.
Alphas are extremely addictive and attractive.
They are very hard for women to resist in the long term, though they can fake it in the short term for a beta.
How to Tell If Your Girl Genuinely Desires You
If your girl is fucking you hard and passionately EVERY time you’re together, she genuinely desires you.
If she constantly compliments your appearance, she genuinely desires you.
If she talks about how you’re addictive, she genuinely desires you.
If she defers to you in everything, she genuinely desires you.
If she seems to be afraid to upset you, she genuinely desires you.
Basically, if she submits to you in behaviour, she genuinely desires you.
Only alphas (and some men in the honeymoon phase) get to experience this.
Once you’ve seen behaviour like this from women, it is very hard to go back to the Pavlovian conditioning a woman does to a beta man.
You will learn to see the signs and cut any woman out of your life who doesn’t genuinely desire you.
Conclusion
Women’s desire for men is often NOT genuine.
It is NOT for 80% of the male population.
Women act as though they are interested in betas in order to secure their provisioning.
It is only alphas that are fortunate enough to experience the true love, attention, affection that women are capable of giving.
You should therefore work on becoming one of these alphas in order to reap the benefits for yourself.
Work hard!
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions
Are Women Genuinely Attracted to Their Partners?
Women are NOT genuinely attracted to most of their long term partners.
For the most part, women in LTR/marriages are settling.
As a result, women are NOT genuinely attracted to their long term partners.
This means that most men (80% are doomed to lives of quiet desperation).
I Just Want My Partner to Love Me for Who I Am!
Women do NOT love men for who they are.
They love men for what they DO.
This means that you, as a man will never experience love from women the way you imagine it!
Why Are Betas Always the Losers?
Betas are always the losers because someone needs to facilitate the winners.
80% of men are sacrificed to make the lives of the top 20% better!
Betas are taught to be supplicatory from a young age, to self-select themselves from the attractive pool.
At What Age Do Women Look for Comfort/Security?
Women start to look for security after their strong independent phase (after age 29).
This means that they are MUCH more likely to see men as a safety net at that point.
More than likely, women will NOT be showing you genuine love at that point.
It is for this reason that I do NOT recommend you date women past the age of 29.
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