Many men wonder what is wrong with them regarding women.
Here is a compiled list of a few things that women complain about regarding men.
Something interesting of note is that some of these complaints are actually beta-bait.
They are things that women complain about in relationships in order to beta-ize their partner.
In other words, some of these complaints are actually shit tests in disguise.
If you bend to them, you become beta and she’ll lose sexual attraction for you.
Some of these are genuine complaints that men could work on in order to improve their relationships.
Let’s separate the wheat from the chaff, shall we?
Complaint 1 – Men Are Too Distant
This complaint is actually beta bait.
Men who are “distant” are actually attractive to women, especially if a woman sees that man as emotionally distant.
A distant man communicates subtly that he doesn’t have time for the girl and so she chases him, hoping to gain his attention, which he never fully gives.
He’s too busy for that.
When she complains about this, what she’s really complaining about is the fact that the man doesn’t put her above the other things in his life.
Ironically, it is this very fact that makes her so attracted to him.
It is one of the behaviours you should never change.
You should actively maintain a cold wall, a part of you that women can never touch.
This makes them want to get to know you more deeply, and they lose themselves in the chase of getting to know everything about you.
Being distant is actually wonderful for maintaining attraction.
Do not allow yourself to become beta-ized by listening to this one!
2 – Men Aren’t Sensitive to Women’s Emotional Needs
This one is quite similar to the first one.
What this means in womanese is: “he doesn’t agree with my drama enough”.
Again, an alpha should never put himself in the frame of talking to women about their emotional problems or their problems with other men.
That is for the losers in her life, and not for you.
If you start to “deep-dive” into her feelings, you can expect her attraction for you to decrease.
Men are, in general, supposed to be more stoic and less emotional.
You do not want to change this aspect of yourself just because she complains about it.
Men and women are different, and this complaint is basically saying that the man isn’t comparable to one of her girlfriends in emotional depth.
The average man is entirely incapable of matching the average woman’s emotional depth due to our innate biological differences.
It is not something to complain about, rather, it simply is how it is.
3 – Men Aren’t Affectionate Enough
This one is interesting in that it holds an inherent contradiction.
A huge mistake many men make is being too affectionate too early.
This signals neediness.
Of course, if you show no affection at all, it also hurts you.
You have to be balanced in the way that you show affection in your relationships, not too much, and not too little.
Women complain that men show too little affection, but what they are referring to is how affection drops off from men after 1-2 years.
Again, it seems to me that women are expecting men to be as emotionally understanding as women, an unlikely scenario.
My recommendation to you is to do your best to control how much affection you show in relationships.
In general, too much affection signals that you’re a provider.
4 – Men Skip Sexual Foreplay
This one is a huge problem.
Many men are terrible in bed.
They don’t know how to please their women and so women complain.
This problem is one of the reasons that women cheat!
Obviously you want to improve your sexual prowess so that women don’t leave you for a guy that actually knows what he’s doing.
If you’re new to seduction or haven’t had many sexual partners yet, you need to practice making women come.
It doesn’t matter if the process annoys you or if you think it’s tedious, their pleasure is just as important as yours!
Practice! Listen to your partner and pay attention to her reactions!
You need to learn what she likes in bed, and reliably deliver it!
Women come back to men that make them come.
Do not skip this!
Obviously a man who wants to be good at seduction needs to be skilled at making women come.
5 – Men Don’t Communicate Enough
This complaint is again ridiculous.
Another beta-bait strategy that women use.
Many women say that relationships are about communication.
It is true that relationships are about communication, but NOT for men.
It is true for women that relationships are about communication.
Alpha men do not over-verbalize everything in a relationship.
Obviously you’re going to talk, and I hope that you’re with women that provide decent conversation, but that’s not what I’m referring to.
When women say that men don’t communicate enough, what they mean is that men don’t communicate enough about the relationship!
You as the man want to communicate about the relationship as little as possible.
You want to have “the talk” with her after 3 months, to tell her that you’re not monogamous and another “talk”, if you’re really enjoying her company and want to make the relationship more serious (turning it from a NMG to an SNMG relationship).
Other than that, you want NO TALK about the relationship at all, if possible.
A man who is talking about the relationship all the time is beta-izing himself.
Avoid!
6 – Men Don’t Spend Enough Time At Home With Their Children
This one is true for many men.
My opinion is that if you want children then you should be present in their lives.
If you don’t want to be present in their lives, don’t have them!
This complaint by women is definitely one that should be considered.
It is very important for men to be present in the lives of their children as a two-parent household leads to the best outcomes for children.
You want to raise children that are respectful, successful adults in the real world.
It is obviously easier to raise children to be this way with a stable family that has both a mother and father.
I believe in having a stable family if you’re interested in children, I simply don’t believe that it should be a traditional one.
Traditional monogamous relationships do not consider actual biological realities, and therefore lead to misery.
Miserable parents do not make good parents.
7 – Men Do Not Help With Order and Cleanliness in the Home
Order and cleanliness should be egalitarian in the case of the man and woman having similar salaries.
If the man works and the woman doesn’t, or vice versa, then the chores should be done by the person who doesn’t work.
One person provides the lifestyle, and the other supports, in that case.
Either way is fine.
What is NOT fine is one partner demanding that the other partner split the chores 50/50 if only one partner works.
That places a much heavier burden on one partner than the other.
That is clearly unfair.
If we want fairness and an enjoyable experience for both partners, we can’t put a greater burden on one partner over the other.
8 – Men Don’t Take Care of Women Enough, Financially
Oh look, more beta bait!
When a girl says she wants to be “taken care of”, what she means is that she wants you to buy her nice things and take her out to nice dinners.
She wants to be wined and dined.
You know what kind of man wines and dines a woman from an early point in the relationship?
You guessed it, betas.
You should NEVER be that guy.
Let the losers in her life treat her like a special little angel, while you treat her as she actually is, a human with flaws.
She’ll respect you for being real.
Guess which man she’ll fuck?
If you guessed not the beta, you’d be correct.
9 – Men Want Sex With Their Partner Too Often
This is also a ridiculous complaint.
You need to understand where it’s coming from though.
From a biological standpoint, women want sex less than men.
It makes total sense for women to complain that their man’s sex drive is too high.
It creates huge problems for men, though.
It means that inevitably, men will feel sexually starved in monogamous relationships.
This is why it makes sense for men to be non-monogamous.
As a non-monogamous man, your sex drive is always satisfied.
Women that say you’re too horny or that say they’re not your whore are simply trying to establish a frame of not having sex with you.
Obviously that’s a terrible frame to have.
You can avoid this by having multiple partners that you’re having sex with.
When the girl complains that you want too much sex or denies you sex, you don’t get mad or force the issue, you simply stop talking to her for a week and pursue your other options.
She’ll get the message that denying you sex is a no-no.
A girl that doesn’t want to sleep with you is not attracted to you, she’s using you for other things.
10 – Men Create Extramarital Relationships
This is obviously a problem.
The problem isn’t, however, that men cheat.
The problem is in the nature of the relationship itself.
Traditional marriage does not account for biological realities.
As a result, many men end up cheating, as they feel sexually starved.
They could have prevented the problem by never entering into such an arrangement in the first place, but they never thought of that at the time.
They were having dick-breaking sex and didn’t think that that would ever end.
Men cheat, and so do women.
The way to prevent this problem is to acknowledge that neither men nor women are monogamous.
By never entering into monogamous relationships, neither men nor women ever have to cheat on each other.
Rather, they accept the biological reality that they’re going to want some variety here and there, and don’t let it destroy them.
Conclusion
Women have several complaints about men.
Some of them are valid and some of them are ploys used to beta-ize their partners.
It is important to understand what women complain about in men to have better relationship dynamics in the future.
Keep these in mind on your journey to mastering seduction!
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions:
I Wish My Man Were Closer to Me Emotionally, It Always Feels Like There is This Wall Between Us!
Women want what they can’t have.
That cold wall means that you can never fully get into the man’s heart.
You don’t want him to break down his walls, you simply say you do.
Stop confusing men!
My Boyfriend is Such a Dick, He Wants Sex Three Times Per Week!
Men and women have different sex drives.
He wants the amount of sex that he needs in order to satiate his sex drive.
You don’t need that much or even want that much.
This problem could be easily solved if you both weren’t monogamous.
He would pressure you less to fuck.
My Man Is Cheating On Me, I Hate Him!
You hate him for being human?
He loves you, but he NEEDS sexual variety (and so do you for that matter).
Rather than denying this fact and hating him for it, accept it and be non-monogamous.
You’ll both be better for it.
My Man Just Goes Straight to Penetration, No Foreplay, What a Dick!
Yeah.
He’s one of those idiots who doesn’t know how to lay a woman.
Such a shame.
Men, listen up!
Make your girl cum whenever you have sex!
Do some foreplay goddamn it!
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