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Now here’s a topic.

Alpha widows are everywhere, you just didn’t know they were there.

They hide in plain sight, normal seeming women, until you look a little bit behind the veil.

Below the surface, these women hide a huge secret (if you know what I mean)…

What is An Alpha Widow?

An alpha widow is a girl that fell into an alpha’s frame so hard, that even when he left her she remained there!

These women are the MMA fighters, the serious rock climbers, and the adrenaline junkies.

These are the women with many many tattoos, or the hardcore stoners.

These are the women who are the nerdy intellectuals or the hardcore hipsters.

These are the women with so-called “baggage” that betas work so hard to fix (to no avail).

Alpha widows still pine for the alpha that got away, even when he’s dead or gone forever.

How Are Alpha Widows Made?

Alpha widows are made as a result of the idea that women reshape their personalities to fit the person they’re with.

Alphas are a powerful personality influencer.

I’m sure you’ve seen women change for the men they are with, alpha widows simply change more.

Alpha widows are created when an alpha has extreme influence over a woman, usually because he is extremely physically attractive relative to her, coupled with having a very alpha demeanor and good frame.

The woman tries and tries and tries to change him, and it never works (increasing his attractiveness in her eyes even more).

 At the peak of her attraction for him, for whatever reason he LEAVES.

This withdrawal of attention creates a severe negative effect in the mind of the woman he’s with, and she chases him desperately, trying to get him back.

If he refuses to return, an alpha widow is born.

Why Being a Beta to an Alpha Widow is Terrible 

A beta that gets into a relationship with such a woman had no chance from the beginning.

Nothing the beta ever does will compare emotionally to the “soul rip” that an alpha leaving at peak attraction does to a woman.

He is forever second (or third) best.

As a result, betas with alpha widows are very obviously (and often publicly) mistreated by them.

Ever seen a tortured beta with a girl who seemingly never gave him any slack?

That’s an alpha widow taking out her frustration on her hapless beta.

Most betas have no idea of the situation they’re in, as they believe at face value, everything their partner tells them.

Women often deny that they were ever with such a man (to their beta), as the negative emotions are too strong, and she fears that he will catch on to the fact that she still loves the alpha.

Signs You’re With An Alpha Widow

I’m sure you’re curious about the signs now.

Here’s a list:

1. If she mentions how some guy in her past was a total asshole who ruined her
2. If she mentions one guy’s name over and over (who she used to date)
3. If she’s EXTREMELY into something niche when you meet her (I’m not talking about a casual hobby here)
4. If she constantly redirects the topic of conversation to one guy in particular
5. If she has a guy’s name tattooed on her (trashy, I know)
6. If she dates you, but nothing you ever do seems to make her happy
7. If she’s a “sub”

Obviously, if you’re with an alpha widow, she should never be promoted past FWB (friends with benefits).

That ship has sailed, unfortunately.

The funny thing is that by denying her commitment, you’re very likely to make her feel how she felt with the guy that alpha-widowed her, and you’ll probably have a good time.

She’ll only start to resent you when the relationship is more serious.

How You Can Create an Alpha Widow

Here is how you can create your very own alpha widow (proceed with caution)

Meet these criteria:

1. Be 2 points of attractiveness higher than her
2. For the ENTIRE length of the relationship, pass every single shit test
3. Always be aloof
4. Text ONLY for logistics
5. Fuck her like it’s your last day on earth every time you have sex
6. Have a hobby or passion that you mention relatively frequently
7. LEAVE when you get bored and DON’T return

If you have all of the above criteria met, I guarantee that you will create an alpha widow.

Signs She’s Becoming Your Alpha Widow

If she ever says any of the following things, beware, there’s a good chance she’s becoming your alpha widow:

1. She says that you’ve ruined sex for her with anyone else
2. She says that she’s yours and only yours
3. She says that she loves you unprompted
4. She says that she’d do anything for you
5. She says that she’s taken up something that you love as a hobby (to try and impress you)
6. She says that she wishes she could be closer to you but knows that that’s not the kind of man you are

Obviously, if she becomes your alpha widow, that means that you’ve ruined her for future relationships with betas (and most other alphas).

It also means that she is EXTREMELY likely to boomerang back to you, pretty much at any point you like.

Alpha widows will be shockingly pleasant with you and assholes to pretty much everyone else.

Are Alpha Widows Good For Society?

I would say that alpha widows unfortunately bring negative energy with them everywhere they go (especially if they’re past the age of 35, with less chance to get another alpha due to their younger competition).

As a result, I believe that they’re not necessarily good for society.

As the myth of Icarus and Daedalus, alpha widows flew too close to the sun and got burnt.

This is the negative consequence of the matriarchy.

By freeing women completely, it has made many women miserable.

If any women out there are reading this, I would advise against pairing up with any man who is “too” attractive, relative to you.

He will not only make you believe that your SMV (sexual market value) is higher than it is, he will also likely make you miserable in the long term as he will never be shackled to any individual woman.

You can go for a man who is 1 point higher than you in attractiveness and probably be OK. 2 or more, and you’re asking for trouble.

Don’t say I didn’t warn you!

Best Type of Game to Use With an Alpha Widow

The best type of game to use with an alpha widow is alpha game.

You have absolutely no chance with beta game.

The sad part is that oftentimes, alpha widows will act as though they want beta game, and punish their beta partners harshly for it.

You’re in for a REALLY bad time if you have a serious relationship with an alpha widow.

Be smart and keep her in the category that she should be in (FWB)!

Can Alpha Widows Ever Recover?

It is possible, but extremely unlikely for an alpha widow to recover.

She had to have been alpha widowed at a young enough age to be able to find an even better alpha than the previous one.

This alpha has to then stay with her until she beta-izes him.

If she can manage this, she can get over being an alpha widow.

It is unlikely because a greater alpha than the first one is even MORE likely to leave than the first one.

A more likely occurrence is that the woman gets alpha widowed even harder!

This is actually what the sex carousel of modern western matriarchy does to women!

It gives them the opportunity to be with as many men as they want, and so they select for the best ones, only to get continually alpha widowed to the point that they are INCAPABLE of happiness in the kind of relationship that they NEED to be in for their long-term stability.

Sadly, going back to the old system doesn’t work either (of women being property).

I believe that a stable system is in fact a middle ground.

In this system, women get into monogamous (temporary) LTRs with non-monogamous men and have children with them.

When they get bored (which is inevitable due to human non-monogamy), they amicably split and continue the process with other partners.

It becomes a pseudo-tribal system through this process and no-one is forced to go against their biology by being monogamous forever.

Conclusion

Alpha widows are common.

The modern cultural climate has allowed more of them to appear.

It is very likely for you, through your journey, to create an alpha widow or two.

Just remember that alpha widows cause misery wherever they go.

Try not to create them on purpose!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions

I Love Making Alpha Widows, I Feel So Powerful!

Careful!

With great power comes great responsibility.

Remember that it isn’t only you that needs a drink of water from the well.

Don’t poison it, lest you hurt all of us.

If You Don’t Believe in Creating Alpha Widows, Why Tell Us How?

When you know how, you have the CHOICE to do it or not.

I believe in freedom of choice.

A man makes decisions and is responsible for the results of his actions.

This Girl Keeps Mentioning This Other Guy She Used to Be With, What Do I Do?

NEVER promote her past FWB.

She’s not over him.

She will make you miserable in an LTR!

Prevent the problem, for your own sake!

I Keep Seeing Guys Being Mistreated Hard By Their Girlfriends, Why Is That Helios?

They are betas who have put power in the hands of an alpha widow.

They are abusing their power now, since they felt powerless with the alpha they used to be with.

The number one priority for a man who wants success in our feminized society is to kill his inner beta.

There are several important points to keep in mind in order to do this.

I have them here, listed, to help you in your journey as your transition from a beta to the alpha you’ve always wanted to be!

Here we go…

1 – Do Not Ask For People’s Approval Before You Do Things

Asking for people’s approval is extremely beta.

It implies that you need permission in order to do things.

If you want to do something, you have full agency to do it, you must just accept the consequences of your actions.

Take ownership of wanting to do things that others around you might not, and you’ll see very quickly that you’ll have much greater success!

You do not need permission to start to live the life that you want.

Go out and live it, and if the people around you don’t approve, just keep on trucking.

“The wolf does not worry about the thoughts of the sheep.”

2 – Stop Apologizing

Too many men apologize as a matter of course.

They are so worried about offending the people around them.

Apologizing for every little thing and every little thought keeps you in a mental prison.

When you’re constantly worried about what other people think of you, you fail to develop yourself as a person outside of the opinions of those people.

Your goal in life is not to be like everyone else (unless you want to experience the follies of being like everyone else).

Your goal is to do what it is that you desire unapologetically.

Even if you feel you did something wrong, it is often not correct to apologize.

This is especially true in your relationships with women.

Often, they will get mad at some nonsensical thing you did.

If you apologize in that case, you put yourself in a position of supplication.

You want to avoid making moves that make you appear as weak.

It is prudent to stop apologizing as a result.

3 – Don’t Be Monogamous

NPCs believe what cultural norms and women in general tell them.

They feel they are doing something wrong if they follow their normal biological drive to be non-monogamous.

This is folly.

You are an alpha male who has a biological imperative just as women do.

Your biological imperative as a man is to be sexually intimate with as many women as possible, not to be monogamous.

When you deny that aspect of yourself, it is akin to castration.

You are weakening your masculine essence in favour of women’s sexual strategy.

That automatically labels you as a beta.

Any woman that knows that you seek monogamy and exclusivity knows what you are giving up and that you are weak as a result.

Any man that would give up his freedom to choose for one woman is not a man worth having in the long term.

He is instead a man worth using and discarding later.

If you would like to see the most feral aspects of female nature, get into a long term monogamous, live in relationship with a woman.

Record what happens over time with regards to her sexual behaviour and level of respect towards you.

If you see anything other than a sharp reduction in both respect and sexuality after the honeymoon phase of that relationship ends, please email me, you’ve found a unicorn (or you’re an extreme alpha in her eyes for some reason, and I’d like to talk to you to find out why).

4 – Don’t DEER

Do NOT do any of these four things with women:

1. Defend
2. Explain
3. Excuse
4. Rationalize

These are defensive behaviours that you would only do with someone that you felt was in a position of power over you.

You should never have to feel like you have to defend, explain, excuse or rationalize any of your actions to anyone.

Since you are not an approval seeker, you don’t care if they disapprove of your actions.

Ultimately, you’re going to do what you want anyway.

In defending, explaining, excusing or rationalizing your actions, you are putting yourself in a position of subservience.

Ideally, in your life, you never want to be in a position where you’re forced to do these things.

An example of a place where you might be forced to do these things is your workplace.

This is the reason why many alphas chafe at 9-5 jobs. They hate to be put into a position of subservience, even for money.

5 – Unplug

Unplugging refers to learning about how the world really works and the lies that you have been raised on regarding women.

Unplugging refers to understanding that listening to women’s words (including those of your mother) will lead to utter lack of sex and intimacy from women.

You must watch women’s actions and behaviours to determine what they want and not do what they say they want.

Unplugging refers to learning that the world we live in right now is a matriarchy, a world that favours women in all things.

You have to embrace your masculinity, and what it means to be a real man, and not be a man that lives as a tool for the feminine reality you were raised in.

You have to unlearn much of what you have been taught up to this point, and re-learn a new paradigm, one that makes you free.

This is extremely difficult thing to do, but an absolute necessity in this world.

6 – Be Stoic

Rather than wear your emotions on your sleeve, so that you are easily manipulated (a common theme among betas/NPCs), you should be reserved in your emotional display.

Do NOT reveal how you truly feel.

You must be stoic and calm in your everyday life, especially with women.

You must be emotionally unreactive and utterly centred.

Even if your girl is behaving erratically, you cannot allow her changing emotions to rock your world.

You need to stay on your course no matter what the world or women do to try and throw you off.

You must control the things you can control, and let go of everything else.

Make the right decisions, even if your feelings are trying to lead you astray.

You are not in control of this world, but as a stoic, you believe that you are in control of yourself.

You can control how you react to what the world gives you.

Be wise in your reactions.

7 – Do What Is Correct, Regardless of Your Feelings

An alpha male is not led around by his feelings.

Even if he feels he has met the absolute best woman he will ever meet, he does not change his behaviours.

If she behaves in a way that the alpha is not ok with, he still withdraws attention.

Even if he has extreme feelings for the girl he’s with, he will still remain stoic and calm.

You must control yourself, despite your feelings.

Your feelings will try to lead you astray, into beta behaviours.

Use your rational mind to control yourself in order to gain the upper hand in these situations.

You are allowed to feel as you like, but your actions cannot EVER reflect neediness, desperation, or beta-hood.

An alpha understands that emotional actions do not lead to the best long term outcomes.

As a result, he makes rational actions instead.

8 – Live on the Edge of Your Fear

To kill your inner beta, you must live on the edge of your fear.

You must actively try to step out of your comfort zone, until stepping out of your comfort zone is comfortable.

You then step again.

You incrementally increase how well you can do things that make you uncomfortable.

This is the way to increase your willpower and escape your feminine social conditioning.

Do things that scare you, or that you’ve never done before, then do them again.

If you fear rejection, you’re going to have to face that.

You need to face your fears until they are not so scary anymore.

Remember this:

“The monster in your head is always greater than the monster in reality.”

Betas/NPCs are extremely self-defeating.

You need to live on the edge of your fear in order to break the cycle of self-destruction.

Talking to women is scary at first, I get it.

Don’t let that stop you.

Starting your own business is scary as well.

Don’t let that stop you.

The things you learn along the way will give you extreme success in life.

Your goal is not to be an NPC like everyone else, but to be free.

Fear and risk are natural aspects of that process.

You’re going to have to choose whether you want a safe, comfortable life of misery, or a risk-taking adventurous life or joy.

9 – Do What Makes YOU Happy

Every man has something that makes them happy.

Do not allow our cultural conditioning to take that from you.

You must fiercely hold on to the things that you hold dear, regardless of what the people around you are telling you.

It is extremely beta to just do the things that people around you say that you should be doing.

“Keeping up with the Joneses” is probably the most destructive thing you could do with your life.

Living your life constantly comparing yourself to others and asking yourself why you can’t be someone else will lead to extreme misery.

If you want to kill your inner beta, you’re going to have to discard this cancerous destructive ideology.

Do what makes YOU happy, and not what the people around you tell you you should be doing.

They don’t know you.

You know you.

How dare they think that they know better!

10 – Do Intense Exercise Regularly

To kill your inner beta requires blood, sweat and tears.

In this case, I mean that literally.

You must put in regular, intense effort into your body.

Betas/NPCs neglect their physical presence in the world.

After all, cultural conditioning has told them that only their personality matters.

Cultural conditioning is wrong.

You must have enough respect for yourself to work on your physical body and presence in this world.

It affects every aspect of your life, from your ability to sleep to your ability to concentrate and persevere.

You would be an idiot to neglect your physical body.

Did I mention that women find a sexy body very attractive?

Conclusion

You must do many things in order to kill your inner beta.

Here is the list again, as a summary:

1. Do not ask for people’s approval before you do things
2. Stop apologizing
3. Don’t be monogamous
4. Don’t DEER
5. Unplug
6. Be stoic
7. Do what is correct, regardless of your feelings
8. Live on the edge of your fear
9. Do what makes you happy
10. Do intense exercise regularly

By following this list of behaviours, you will train yourself to be more alpha day by day.

I recommend starting with two of these, and once you feel you have them handled, doing two more.

Trying to do all of these at once will be very difficult and awkward for you, as you try to change every aspect of yourself at once.

You can do it!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

I Always Ask My Best Friend (Who’s A Girl) Before I Try Anything With New Girls I’m Talking To, It Helps Me A Lot!

Umm.

Why do you need this girl’s permission to do stuff?

This is going about things backwards and probably ruining your results with women.

Women give advice for team girl.

She won’t be helping you with her advice, she’ll be helping any girl you’re with.

You don’t need her permission and she’s advising you wrong!

Stop!

Women Say They Like Men Who Are In Touch With Their Feminine Side, You’re Full of Shit Helios!

Yeah, and then women get wet for Khal Drogo from Game of Thrones, or Captain America.

Are those archetypal men beta?

Women don’t like feminine men, they just wish they did.

My Mom Says That Good Girls Don’t Go For Players, I Want A Good Girl! Your Methods Will Only Attract Sluts!

Read up on the concept of “madonna/whore”.

Women are neither!

Your mom is trying to fool you into believing that there are “good girls” and “bad girls” and that “good girls” like beta shit.

It is a LIE.

Women are women.

They ALL want to fuck alphas and recieve gifts/attention/affection from betas.

A woman’s ideal man (who doesn’t exist) has both aspects (alpha and beta) to his personality.

You can only choose to be ONE of the two archetypes.

One of them gets sex and love (alphas), the other gets used (betas).

You choose which one you want to be.

I Always Explain Who I Am and What I Want With Women, Yet I Never Get Laid, Why?

Women don’t speak as men do.

They speak indirectly.

By telling them directly who you are from the beginning, women think you are posing or being fake.

You are much better off implying the kind of man you are, and letting her figure it out on her own.

Once she wants to define the relationship (3 months in or so), you can explain the kind of man you are.

Do not go into extreme detail.

If she leaves after that discussion, don’t worry, she’ll be back (in 4 months or so)! Simply go no-contact and re-initiate conversation in 4 months.

This is a necessary article.

It is necessary because some men are just too modest!

They self-deprecate and destroy the game for themselves before it has even begun!

Let me explain why self-deprecation is bad…

When Men Date, They Qualify, When Women Date, They Disqualify

Men and women date differently.

When men date, they look to qualify.

They look for reasons why they might like the person they’re with.

Women look to disqualify!

This means that they look for a reason to say “ew, no.”, and when they find it, they leave.

This means that you should limit how many things a girl could say no to, especially early in the interaction.

This is why on first dates, I recommend you talk 15 minutes out of the 60.

When you do this, you give women as little opportunity as possible to disqualify you and thus, you increase your chances of getting laid astronomically.

Self Deprecation Is Beta

Self deprecation is beta because it invites the girl to disqualify you.

You give her ammunition to use in order to determine that you’re not a good sexual partner for her.

You’re going about the process backwards.

You should NOT talk about why you’re bad or weak.

Instead, you should talk about why you’re awesome (indirectly, of course).

Putting yourself down puts women above you.

Since women are hypergamous, they are not interested in a man that’s below them.

Don’t self deprecate!

Do Not Explain Your Weaknesses

Nobody wants to know your weaknesses.

The only people that say they want to know those are those who want ammunition to use against you later (women in LTR’s anyone?).

You need to actively hide your weaknesses and project your strengths.

Ultimately, life is about selling yourself.

You cannot sell yourself short by admitting only your weaknesses and displaying none of your strengths.

People believe what you show and tell them.

If all you’re ever talking about and showing is weakness, people will believe you to be weak, even if you aren’t.

If women who you are interested in sleeping with see you as weak, they will friend zone you.

Sympathy does NOT get sex.

If you have slept with her twice, you might consider revealing one weakness you have, in passing.

This will make you seem more human and will likely work well.

You do not however want to always be talking about your weaknesses.

Identification With Women Decreases Attraction

The modern cultural narrative says that men should embrace their feminine emotional side and that women find this attractive.

This is a lie and beta bait.

If you demonstrate all of the qualities of women as a man, then the masculine-feminine polarity needed for seduction disappears.

Women are NOT attracted to feminine men (unless those men are feminine in appearance, but masculine in demeanor).

You need to firmly hold on to the things that make you a man in order for women to be attracted to you.

Here are some qualities of the alpha male to demonstrate:

1. Frame
2. Physical attractiveness
3. Emotional unavailability
4. Non-monogamy
5. Confidence

Identification with the feminine will unfortunately label you as a beta and have the opposite (anti-seductive) effect to what you want.

Stoicism

Some very attractive qualities that men can show are those of stoicism.

Try these instead of talking about your weaknesses:

1. Low emotional expression
2. Logical demeanor
3. Rational mind
4. Resilient emotional state
5. Strong body

All of these qualities are STRONGLY masculine.

They will naturally have the effect you want on women.

You’ll notice that by adopting these behaviours women will treat you very differently than before.

They are reacting to the masculine polarity put out by you.

Sucking up to women by showing all of your emotions and kissing her ass while talking about how bad you are at certain things will NOT be a successful seduction strategy.

Try stoicism instead!

Romanticism

Many men fall into the trap of romanticism.

Romanticism talks about how women love emotional men, who sacrifice everything for them in  chivalrous displays.

Women in fact DO NOT find romantic behaviours attractive in men.

Supplicational behaviour (which romantic behaviours are) has led to the rise of NPCs in our society.

It is in fact a societal ill that men kiss women’s asses in an effort to be “romantic”.

Women find these behaviours to be weak (even though many women say that they like, or even NEED these behaviours in a relationship).

It is sad that society raises men to be beta NPCs.

The destruction of information regarding what makes men men is one of the reasons why the west is in decline.

You need to break out of the idiotic notion of romanticism and embrace stoicism and realism instead.

You Cannot Relax In A Relationship

Many men feel that when they’re in a relationship with an awesome girl, they can share everything with her.

This could not be further from the truth.

Sharing everything with any sexual partner will lead to a rapid loss of sexual attraction.

This is especially true if you are talking about all of your fears and weaknesses with your sexual partner.

Your sexual partners are for sex and sometimes companionship.

They are not for sharing your problems or burdens.

You cannot relax.

Relaxation of your masculinity leads to rapid beta-ization and loss of attraction from your girl.

Remember, women are hypergamous.

Lowering yourself in her eyes makes her want to instantly look for a replacement.

It is extremely unwise to disclose everything.

You disqualify yourself this way.

Let Them Decide What To Dislike About You, Do Not Give Them Ammunition

Do NOT share your deepest darkest fears with women.

They will then know exactly where to attack you in the future, should they want to.

Let THEM decide what they dislike about you.

They may dislike something completely nonsensical to you, which will make you immune to jabs directed at that aspect of yourself.

When you tell women your deepest fears or what you dislike about yourself, you’ve given them a powerful tool which they can then use to manipulate your emotions with.

You think they won’t use it?

“Those with power, use that power.”

In many ways, telling women your deepest fears is disqualification.

It invites destruction.

A strong man would want to protect his partner from the ills of the world, not share how he feels the world may destroy him.

Conclusion

It is idiotic to disqualify yourself to women.

You are moving backwards in the seduction process if you do this.

Do not give women the tools to friendzone you with.

Let them decide not to like you.

Don’t tell them why they shouldn’t.

Godspeed!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

I Make Fun of Myself Casually All the Time, And I Keep Fucking Up With Women, What Gives?

You’re giving women the impression that you’re weak.

They instantly disqualify you for sex, since you don’t seem confident in yourself.

Mention things that are awesome about you instead, there are many!

My Girl Is Perfect, I Want To Tell Her Everything!

If you do, beta-ization and the end of the relationship will soon follow.

Women do not respect weak men who share their deepest fears and weaknesses with them.

Reserve that for your closest (male) friends.

This Girl Is Amazing, I Want to Give Her the World!

Sucking up to women is antithetical to attraction.

By kissing her ass and revealing your weaknesses, she sees you as a provider and not as a sex partner.

She will likely friendzone/reject you.

Focus on who you are and the value that that provides to women passively.

Buying women shit and sucking up is disqualification.

I Wear My Heart On My Sleeve, Is That Good?

Women tend to not be attracted to emotional men (unless those men are extremely physically attractive, or abusive).

As a result, I recommend you follow the principles of stoicism:

1. Low emotional expression
2. Logical demeanor
3. Rational mind
4. Resilient emotional state
5. Strong body

Through these actions, you behave in a way that is very different from women.

You create a masculine-feminine polarity easily through this method and can get laid more easily as a result.

A lot of men email me and ask how they can revive a failed LTR.

I’m going to tell you it’s not worth it.

While I have written a post on how to escape the friend zone (an unlikely occurrence), I will not be writing a post on how to get your GF back.

It is a fundamentally stupid idea to root through the trash.

If your monogamous relationship didn’t work out with a girl once, what makes you think it will go better the second time?

Here we go…

Once A Problem, Always A Problem

If you do get together with a girl you’ve previously been with, you’ll have an extremely brief period of honeymoon phase (probably 2 weeks or so), where you remember why you liked each other in the first place.

This is quickly followed by an immediate reminder of why you broke up.

All of the old problems you had will resurface and there will instantly be drama and tension.

Once something is a problem in your relationship, it will always be a problem.

Returning to that failed place will NOT remove or resolve the problems that were previously there.

Unless you enjoy living a life of problems and drama, DO NOT return to a failed relationship.

You are much better off pursuing new prospects that won’t give you annoying drama and tension.

Monogamy Sucks

The truth is that monogamy sucks, and oftentimes, the reason you had problems in your relationship in the first place was because humans are NOT monogamous.

Many of the problems you will ever have with a girl would be resolved if you decided to not be monogamous again.

You would never again have problems with sexual denial or with the fear of losing your partner.

You would know that your other partners are waiting for you, as are new potential women in your life.

The women in your life would also lose much of their control over you, as any attempts at beta-ization from them would be met with a swift withdrawal of attention from you.

Try it for yourself!

Beta-ization

As I mentioned, beta-ization often happens in relationships.

Beta-ization is the idea that as men stay in monogamous relationships, even if they started off as alpha, due to constant sexual denial, shit tests and weakening of their frame, they become beta.

Many of the relationship problems men have stem from sexual denial and beta-ization, problems which are easily resolved with non-monogamy.

Of course, when you return to an old relationship, your ex will want you to continue to be the same beta you were when the relationship ended.

This will cause most men to chafe, as they remember why they hated being together with their ex in the first place.

They almost instantly miss being single and able to go after multiple women again.

Emotional Blackmail

When you return to an old relationship, often emotional blackmail can occur.

This is the concept of women using the fact that you left them to shame you and control your actions.

In arguments, they will bring up the things that caused them to leave you in the first place and imply sexual withdrawal if those behaviours continue.

Emotional blackmail is a key strategy in beta-ization.

Make the man feel bad for being masculine, and withdraw sex.

As they become less masculine, lose attraction for them and eventually cheat.

Effectively, by being in a monogamous relationship, you sign your own slow relationship death sentence.

Parasitism

Some women in relationships use their man as a means to an end.

They are not a boyfriend, they are a pawn to be leached off of.

Boyfriends for these women are taxis, grocery carriers, repairmen and free rent, but NOT sex partners.

Returning to a partner like this is utterly ridiculous, but some men do it, for the familiarity of it.

If you allow yourself to be used in this way, I have no sympathy for you.

You have been warned.

Don’t let women parasitize off of you in a relationship, be non-monogamous and prevent the problem!

Focus On New Prospects

You are always better off focusing on new women than on women who treated you poorly and then left.

This equally applies if you left them.

Something about them was bad enough that they did not warrant any more of your attention.

Remember that!

You will be much better off happiness-wise if you don’t bring old drama back into your life.

Focus on new prospects, whose behaviour will be better!

This does not apply if a girl left from a FWB or NMG relationship.

Those women left because you refused to bend.

They will return when they crave some alpha energy in their life.

You can gladly accept those women back into your life.

Of course, FWBs (friends with benefits) and NMGs (non-monogamous girlfriends) are almost always low drama, so it is easy to accept them again.

If It Was Bad, It Would Have Gotten Worse

Keep in mind that if the relationship was bad at the end, it would have gotten worse if you had stayed.

Very often, people are justified in leaving relationships that were not going well.

This also means, however, that you should NOT return!

Óbviously, returning to such a failed place is idiotic!

You will almost invariably make the relationship worse than it was before if you return!

I am of course referring to LTRs.

FWBs and NMGs follow the boomerang rules.

Women tend to naturally leave when they see that they can’t control a man.

Don’t be upset, just revive the connection in 4-6 months.

They will be happy to see you again and will be just as sexual as they were when you had them before!

See why being non-monogamous is good?

There Is No ONE

Keep in mind that there’s no ONE person that can make you happy.

In fact, clinging to the fantasy notion of there being only ONE person for you out there leads to the misery of many people.

It is also often the reason that people return to failed relationships.

They falsely believe that they have lost the one perfect person for them.

Of course this is not the case.

There are many people out there who will make you happy, and in fact, I would argue that you are limiting your happiness by believing that there is only one.

You should care enough about your time, personal happiness and well being to end relationships that are not making you happy.

This sort of attitude ironically makes you more attractive to women.

When they know that you aren’t willing to accept just any kind of treatment, they behave well around you.

This is what it means to have good frame!

Conclusion

As you can see, there are many reasons why you should not return to a failed relationship.

Of course, as you know, I advocate against monogamy here, so I don’t recommend you ever get into a monogamous relationship.

If that is your style though, do not return to a bad monogamous relationship just because you think she was the only good girl out there for you.

You are WRONG about that.

There are many girls out there that will make you happy.

Don’t make yourself miserable worrying about losing one particular one.

Good luck out there!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

My Girl Said She Loves Me! I’m On Top of the World!

Great!

Keep in mind that women don’t love men the same way that men love women.

You can’t lose your edge, or you will see that love quickly wane…

My Girl Tells Me That If I Don’t Do The Dishes, I Won’t Get Laid, Help!

She’s controlling you because she knows that she’s your only option.

Would she be doing this if she knew that you could leave at any point to go sleep with other women?

Doubtful.

All of the Previous Girls I’ve Been With Have Been Garbage, I’m Looking for The One!

There is NO ONE.

That is a nice lie told to men to make them believe that they can be loved unconditionally.

They can’t.

I know reality is sad, but that doesn’t make it untrue.

Lose your edge and be destroyed.

You will NEVER find this mythical unicorn girl.

My Girl Doesn’t Seem To Love Me Like She Did Before, Even Though We’ve Gotten Back Together, What Gives?

That is because all of the old problems your relationship had are still present!

They won’t disappear just because you’ve been apart for a while!

By the way, “communication” won’t solve your problems either.

That will beta-ize you and make the problem worse!

Men have been fooled for much of their lives into believing that women are romantic and men are pragmatic.

While that may be true outside of a relationship context, in the context of male-female interactions men are definitely romantics and women are definitely pragmatic.

It is truly amazing how much the wool gets pulled over men’s eyes due to cultural programming.

Luckily, I’m here to explain.

Here’s why women are pragmatic…

Women Don’t Love As Men Do

Women don’t love the way that men want them to.

Many men believe that the love they will receive from the women in their lives will be akin to the love their mom showed them.

This is NOT the case.

Women love much more pragmatically than all that.

Women will love you based on what you can provide them (be they good sexual experiences and a tingle-inducing alpha demeanor, or resources and security from a beta demeanor).

No man is EVER loved for who he is as a person, instead, he is loved for what he provides and what he does.

Basically, men are loved as STATUS OBJECTS, the same way that women are loved as SEX OBJECTS.

This means that if, as a man, you’re not providing anything to a woman, she will NOT love you, period.

You have to have some value in order to be attractive and be loved.

I know it’s tough to hear, but I’d rather you knew the truth than to doom you to a life of suffering due to ignorance.

Hypergamy

In the same way that men are polygamous (they want multiple partners), women are hypergamous (they want the best partner).

This means that women’s strategy is to attract as many men as they can, and then select the best one.

They then keep other frontrunners on the side in case the main man slips, and another becomes the best.

Women move on extremely quickly once they’ve decided that one man is better than another.

It often surprises men to see this, and they’ve even given it a name (something I have spoken about in other posts):

“The light-switch effect”.

Basically, their attraction for one man instantly turns off, and they move on quickly to a new man.

In any case, those men are often surprised, because the women they were with were showing them love basically up to the point of turning off.

It often jars men out of their comfortable NPC reality when this happens.

They then turn to explanations and tend to actually learn some truths of the world afterwards (the red pill).

Utility

Women love men in a utilitarian fashion.

“What can this man do for me?”

They do not love as a matter of course.

This naturally means that women cannot love you in the way that you expect.

You will always be disappointed if you expect women’s love to be like yours.

It will never be.

As I mentioned before, you are only loved based on your usefulness (or attractiveness), and so, if these ever wane, your girl will replace you, as she would replace a broken purse or some ruined shoes.

You must not take this personally.

Women have evolved to do this over thousands of years, as their partners would often be killed or maimed in wars and needed to be replaced.

This means that you must always hold strong, no matter what you’re truly feeling internally.

Unfortunately, a man can never relax in any relationship he’s in with a woman.

Sad, I know.

Orbiters

As I’ve mentioned before, women select the best due to hypergamy, but best is relative.

If ever at any point, one of the men that she’s stringing along becomes better than her main man for whatever reason, she will quickly replace the main man.

This could be for a whole host of reasons.

Here are a few reasons why her main man might fall in attractiveness:

1. He becomes depressed
2. He becomes fat and lazy
3. He loses his job
4. He becomes physically handicapped
5. He comes down with a serious illness

In these cases, women often abandon their partners in favour of a superior one.

They leave their previous man in the dust, leaving him bewildered at how quickly she shifted in attitude towards him.

Again, this reflects the biological realities of raising offspring in an uncertain and often dangerous past world.

A partner to a woman who was weak would inevitably lead to her death and the death of her children, so she must have had some mechanism for cutting her losses.

Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks

In modern times, survival isn’t so much of an issue, but sex and provisioning still are.

Women fantasize about a man that has both of these traits optimized, but often they do not.

As a result, women will often fuck an alpha, and siphon attention, love and resources from a beta (or several).

The betas never know they’re being used, and the alpha is often not told, or doesn’t care about the men she has on the side.

This is doubly true during ovulation, where women are more likely to take sexual risks with an alpha male.

Of course, if the alpha ever falls in her eyes (due to failing shit tests, or other factors), she can simply move on to a new one.

Alphas and betas are not in short supply (though alphas often have multiple women, an unfortunate reality that women must contend with).

The One

Both men and women often believe in the myth of “the one”, though these manifest in different ways.

Both genders often spend lots of time looking for this mythical being, who does not exist.

Here is how the myth of “the one” manifests for both genders.

For a man, “the one” is a woman that loves him for him, who he can truly relax with and who treats him as his mother did, loving him unconditionally.

Let me repeat this again, this woman DOES NOT exist.

For a woman, “the one” is a man who has both all of the alpha traits and all of the beta traits. 

This means that he is extremely rich and can provide for her every need and kisses her ass, but he’s also a dominant, sexual alpha.

Obviously, in reality she can only pick one.

What I am trying to communicate here is that women CAN’T love you the way you want.

This does not mean they’re incapable of love.

Women are totally capable of love and infatuation, but it manifests for what you provide for her,  not because of who you are as a person.

Men’s Realization of the Truth, and Rationalizations

When men realize that they are being treated effectively as status objects, or purses for women, many men embrace it!

They are not upset, and in fact brag about how good of a purse they are.

They do not realize that in doing this, they are beta-izing themselves, effectively submitting to a feminine reality.

Men also often rationalize women’s love for them as true love and not as the exchange that it really is.

All love is transactional, as are all relationships, but since men are romantics, they often do not want to accept this.

Read some literature and poetry for proof of this statement (most of which is written by men, for women).

Explaining to Women How You Want to Be Loved Creates Obligation

Some men realize that the women they are with are not providing them with the kind of love that they want and so they try to have a conversation with them.

“Please love me the way my mother did.”

This often repulses women, who react in disgust at the idea.

They don’t want to be a mother to the man they’re with, they want to be his wife!

Being a mother to the man they’re with naturally means that she is above him, and the very suggestion of that disgusts her, and makes the man seem weak in her eyes.

A weak beta man is unnatractive and sex all-but dissapears for men who have this conversation with their partner.

Obligation is not hot.

You’ll Never Find Motherly Love Again

Ultimately, it’s important for you to understand that unconditional motherly love only comes from one person, your mother.

No other woman in your life will ever provide you with that kind of love.

Failing to understand this will lead to your misery.

To women, you are what you do for them.

You can decide for yourself whether you want to provide provisioning, or tingles.

You cannot provide both, though many women will try to make you provide the other.

You decide for yourself which kind of man you want to be, and think about your overall life outcome and happiness as a result of your choice.

Vulnerability Leads to Quick Destruction

Men are not allowed to be vulnerable.

The way we love means that we want to feel as though we can be vulnerable, to experience the freedom and love we had as a child from our mother, but it is not to be.

Men who allow themselves to be vulnerable in relationships are praised by their partners, then quickly replaced by a man who refused to be.

Women cannot love a vulnerable man and instead seek to destroy him.

Be vulnerable at your own peril!

Conclusion

As you can see, there are many reasons that men are romantics and women love pragmatically.

I hope that you can see that love is conditional from women, and when you are not providing them with value (be it alpha or beta value), you are quickly discarded for a man who can provide that value.

It is your choice which kind of man you want to be, though I think you know which one you should choose.

Be strong!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

My Girl Said She Loves Me! I’m On Top of the World!

Great!

Keep in mind that women don’t love men the same way that men love women.

You can’t lose your edge, or you will see that love quickly wane…

My Girl Keeps Mentioning Other Guys In Her Life, What Do I Do?

Women naturally cultivate many options in case you falter.

If you were non-monogamous, you wouldn’t care about this, as you would have options of your own.

She uses them for the utility you don’t provide her with, most likely.

All of the Previous Girls I’ve Been With Have Been Garbage, I’m Looking for The One!

There is NO ONE.

That is a nice lie told to men to make them believe that they can be loved unconditionally.

They can’t.

I know reality is sad, but that doesn’t make it untrue.

Lose your edge and be destroyed.

You will NEVER find this mythical unicorn girl.

Maybe If I Explain How I Want to be Loved, Women Will Do It For Me!

Creating obligation is not hot.

Women can’t love you the way you want, even if you explain it to them.

In fact, they are likely to be repulsed by the notion.

This is an extremely important topic which I believe needs to be covered (pun intended?).

We’re going to talk about using protection today.

Ironically, we’re not going to be talking about it in the usual context (preventing STD’s), but in the MUCH more likely context of preventing PREGNANCY.

Here we go…

Why Would A Woman Want to Get Pregnant in the First Place?

Many women decide that they want to get pregnant for all kinds of reasons.

Here are a few:

1. They want a child
2. Their friends all have children
3. They want someone to pay them child support
4. They want to be a strong “single mommy”
5. Their parents pressure them to
6. Their partner pressures them to
7. Their biological clock tells them that it’s “getting late”

Notice how only one of these has the input of a man.

Basically, these feelings could hit one of your partners at any time, and if you’re not careful, you may just end up with a baby you now have to pay for!

That is even if you didn’t want the baby, by the way.

Save yourself the trouble and protect yourself.

Let’s elaborate on this a bit more, shall we…

They Just “Forgot” to Take Their Birth Control

There are many reasons that women get pregnant, but a common one is that they “forgot” to take their birth control that day.

If you let a woman have full control over her ability to get pregnant, with no agency on your part, she could get pregnant without you even knowing, and surprise you with it later!

You will greatly regret not having had any choice in this matter at that point.

You should certainly use protection, in order to make sure that she’s not getting pregnant with your sperm, unless you seriously want a baby.

Lots of men throw their lives away because they had a baby at a time that they didn’t want it!

Have agency over your ability to impregnate a girl, use protection!

Approaching the Wall

Many women surprise men with a pregnancy when they begin to approach the wall. 

The wall is the time in her life when she knows that her rockstar/strong independent phase is over and she has to settle down.

Often, it is because she simply cannot command the same sexual attention that she used to.

She feels her attractiveness slipping and her fertility window as well, and so she feels she has to get pregnant before it’s too late.

She then has an “oops” baby with the current alpha she’s seeing (you).

Of course, not ALL women do this, but you should use protection that you have brought yourself to make sure it doesn’t happen to you!

Some women have even been known to poke holes in condoms they have bought themselves!

Don’t let this be you!

They Were “In Love”

Sometimes, some women who feel they are in “love” (honeymoon phase) decide that it’s time to have a baby with the guy they’re with (without his permission).

They stop whatever treatment they had for birth control without ever telling their partner in the hope that having a kid with him will keep him around.

Obviously, if the guy wasn’t using condoms at this point he would be SOL.

You want to have control over your life and as a result, you need to be using protection with the women you’re having sex with!

It may not be malicious and may be done with the best of intentions, but you don’t want to be paying child support if you didn’t want a baby in the first place!

Make sure that you’re covering yourself!

Sperm Jacking

I’ve heard this with regards to NBA players.

The athlete will sleep with a girl and throw his condom in the trash at her place, she will then take it out of the trash and try to impregnate herself using the sperm in that condom.

Obviously not all women will do this, but I recommend that you take any condoms that you use with you!

This way you can totally prevent this problem from happening.

I would hate for a girl to trap you with a baby when you had no intentions of ever having children with her!

Sexual Pragmatism

Women are sexually pragmatic and strategic in ways that men usually fail to understand.

They will try to impregnate themselves with alpha seed when they’re ovulating and take advantage of male(beta) attention when they’re not.

As a result, women are more likely to perform sexually risky behaviours when they’re most likely to get pregnant.

You need to prevent this problem so that you don’t end up with a child that you didn’t want.

Once again, it is extremely important to protect yourself!

We are not in control of women’s actions, but we are in control of our own.

Before you have sex with a woman, think of the consequences of impregnating her.

If you’re not ok with them, cover yourself!

Child Support

I’ve mentioned it several times, but basically what you’re trying to avoid is unwanted child support.

What will happen if you have a kid you don’t want is that some women will press for you to be forced to pay child support (through legal means).

For the next 20 years, you will be stuck paying the tab for a child you didn’t want.

Some women actively try to have children with different fathers in order to get child support from each one individually.

Obviously this is a huge problem that we want to avoid!

You don’t want to be one of those “deadbeat dads” because you wouldn’t put a condom on.

When you control the birth yourself, regardless of the method of birth control she says she’s using, you prevent this problem.

Chains If You Don’t Comply

In many places in the west, if you fail to pay child support, you can go to jail!

This means that a woman who baby trapped you can legally strongarm you into paying for a child.

If you don’t want to, it doesn’t matter.

The law will force you, or put you in jail!

At that point, you will have wished that you were more prudent with your choices.

Prevention is the best cure.

Unless you absolutely want a child, USE PROTECTION for your own safety.

Conclusion

I hope that repeating this message as many times as I did helped to reinforce the idea that you need to LOOK OUT FOR YOURSELF.

If you are trapped in this manner, there is no legal recourse!

You will be strongarmed into paying child support by the government!

That would be a terrible result for a man seeking freedom in this world.

I’ll repeat this again:

We cannot control the actions of others, but we can control our own actions.

Don’t let a dumb decision like failing to use protection be the reason that you remain a slave for the rest of your life!

Take care.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

My Girl Loves Me, She Would Never Do This To Me!

Honeymoon phase.

You need to make the correct choices regardless of your feelings.

Do you want a baby with her right now?

If you’re cumming in her, it could happen at any time!

Watch out!

My Girl Told Me To Stop Wearing Condoms With Her, Should I Do It?

She desperately wants you to get her pregnant.

Do you want to pay child support for the next 20 years?

Protect yourself then!

I Always Use A Condom, What Do I Have To Be Worried About?

You should be worried about sperm jacking.

Make sure that you don’t throw the condom away in the garbage at her place.

She could impregnate herself with your sperm that way.

Take it with you!

Is Child Support Really That Bad?

It’s money you have to pay for the next 20 years.

Why would you pay that over a child you didn’t even want?

Think about the consequences before you cum in a girl!

Use protection for your future!

Only have kids if you really want them.

This is an extremely important rule!

Ignore it at your peril!

DO NOT EVER LIVE WITH A WOMAN!

This is a huge mistake betas/NPCs make, especially if they do this early in the course of a relationship.

You’ll see why it leads to all kinds of problems…

Anti-Aphrodisiac

Living with a woman is probably the best anti-aphrodisiac on the market!

Within a few months to a few years, living together will have ruined all of the sexual urgency and all of the mystery of your behaviours.

As a result, it leads to a great reduction in sexual frequency and overall relationship satisfaction.

Many men believe that living with a girl will give them more sex.

Ironically, in the long term, it has directly the opposite effect.

Once the mystery is gone, and she knows through your behaviour that you don’t have access to sex from anywhere else, the frequency of sex will drop precipitously.

Women Love to Think About You When You’re Not Around

The problem with living with a girl is that it removes the most important thing needed for female arousal, imagination.

Women love to think about you when you’re not around and imagine all of the amazing things that you’re doing.

When they see you every second, they know for certain that you’re not an incredible badass like she believes in her mind (though the truth is that no-one can measure up to our imagination).

Since she knows you’re not a badass, she’s much more inclined to be convinced by a new guy who hasn’t had his mysterious veil removed yet.

A guy who is hot and mysterious (by comparison, since he doesn’t live with her) will be much more likely to capture her imagination, and therefore be competition.

This competition would have never occurred if you weren’t living together!

Mystery is Hot

I’m going to repeat this.

Mystery is hot!

Women don’t want full disclosure!

Full disclosure naturally happens over time when you’re living together as she learns more and more about you.

When she knows everything and has figured you out, there is no longer any mystery.

In general, women want a man who is archetypal, they don’t want a real man.

What I mean is that they want Achilles, or Superman, or Gilgamesh.

These men are not real! They are heroes.

Women want to feel like they’re with a hero, but the only way for that to happen is for her imagination to be stimulated (as no actual heroes of this type exist in reality).

As a result, mystery is an absolute necessity to being an attractive man in the long term.

Do not allow this to be shattered by living together!

Don’t Be Monogamous

It is very hard to be non-monogamous when you live with a girl.

She can see whenever you go in or out of the place that you live in together, and she can use that against you.

She can constantly question your behaviour, leading to annoying arguments.

It is easy for you to have multiple women when you don’t live with a girl and rarely text, since she has no direct idea exactly what you’re doing and when.

When you don’t live together, and rarely text, her competition anxiety rages fiercely and she knows that she has to work hard to keep you.

She knows instinctively that you will favour your other options over her if she isn’t behaving in a respectful, kind and sexual manner.

Ironically, doing this is also much less work than having a live-in relationship.

You effectively just live your life, however you choose, and when you decide, you spend time with the girl that is your NMG.

At the same time, you can also have other FWBs on the side.

If your NMG ever asks you about details regarding the other girls you’re seeing, you refuse to answer and deflect.

This way, she knows you’re seeing other girls but does not have the specific information to cause super drama with.

Don’t Text All the Time

I have already mentioned this, but you should not be texting all the time.

The only thing texting should be used for is logistics (or confirming your dates).

When you text all the time, you signal that you’re a beta/NPC who has time to waste texting women.

You are signalling that your time is not valuable.

I’m sure many, or all of you, have better things to do than spend all day texting back and forth.

Ideally, you want your girl to not be able to keep tabs on your behaviour.

This allows you freedom in your actions and allows you to do the things you want to do without having to ask permission.

When you don’t text all the time, you buy yourself independence, an extremely attractive quality!

Once again, the combination of not living together + not texting all the time yields mystery.

Mystery is hot!

Familiarity Breeds Contempt

As you live with a girl over time, you build familiarity.

As you’ve already heard, I’m sure, familiarity breeds contempt.

She will slowly start to resent you as the little idiosyncrasies of your behaviour, which she was never privy to before, surface.

These little things, combined with the knowledge that she “has you”, combined with texting all the time make you extremely mundane and boring, no matter how attractive you were when you started.

If you do all of these things, you will have practically castrated yourself in her eyes.

Is it even a surprise then, that because of all of these actions combined with falling into her frame, she leaves you for another man?

Women want mystery and excitement, not a boring doormat who’s there all the time.

Don’t put yourself in that position and you’ll never have this problem!

Slow Beta-Ization

In long term relationships that are monogamous, there begins a process called beta-ization.

Often, men that enter into relationships with women (who are interested in having children with these men) are NOT beta from the outset.

They are simply ignorant of how the world works, fall into all kinds of traps, and slowly end up beta-ized.

Beta-ization is basically when a girl slowly turns a guy who was confident, attractive and handsome into a classic beta (out of shape, loserish and obedient).

You can become a beta if you allow the classic culturally mandated feminine frame to become your frame.

Here it is again (from my article about tactics that women use to make men wait for sex):

1. Women are the prize
2. Women should be worked for
3. Women should be fought for
4. Women should be listened to
5. Women should have nice things bought for them
6. Women deserve attention for free
7. Women should be allowed to date and sleep with any partner they desire

Obviously you can see that if a man begins to adopt these beliefs he is destined for doom.

The sad part is that many men have no idea they’re even doing these things!

Insidious…

Common Progression for Cohabitation

It’s time to show you what happens when you start to live with a girl (to give you an idea how beta-ization occurs).

Here is the classic progression of a live-in relationship with a girl:

1. Marathon sex
2. Sex drops off in quality/quantity
3. Man gets confused/angry
4. Man asks why/man demands answers
5. Girl replies with some bullshit excuse (you didn’t do the laundry, I’m tired, etc.)
6. Sex continues to drop off
7. Man desperately tries to rectify situation
8. Nothing works
9. Sexlessness/Cheating/Relationship implodes

The marathon sex (step 1) occurs over a 3 month to 3 year period, followed by the other steps, as the honeymoon phase of the relationship ends. 

What this means is that effectively all long term monogamous relationships are doomed to either explosion or misery.

It isn’t hard to see this in the real world (just ask any married man who has been married more than three years behind closed doors, away from prying eyes.).

But What About Kids?

This is the sad part.

Due to our current society, the old frameworks that were in place previously are no longer there.

Women are free to follow their feelings, no matter who they hurt.

We all know that children are a huge sacrifice, and they will often lower your happiness.

If you want kids, you’re very likely going to have to cohabitate.

This means that you are putting your relationship on a timer, no matter what you do, and likely, you will separate from your partner and your children will likely end up living with their mother.

You need to have contingencies in place beforehand to make this likely break as clean as possible.

Before having children, you’ll likely need the following in place:

1. Be living in an area of the world that has no common-law marriage
2. Have totally split finances (including no co-ownership of any property, and no co-owned rentals)
3. Not be married
4. Have a parenting plan signed by a notary in case of split
5. Have some kind of apartment, where you can discreetly and without drama sleep with your FWBs
6. Your partner should know that you’ll never be monogamous

With these contingencies in place, you can have children while still being protected in case of a split (which is likely due to the reasons above).

Conclusion

As you can see, there are many reasons why cohabitation leads to the death of a relationship.

Unless you desperately want children, you will want to avoid cohabitation!

Even in the case of wanting children, there are several contingencies you must have in place first, which simply serve to protect you in case of a likely split.

You should aim to keep the mystery in your relationships, and that is only possible if you don’t live together!

Good luck out there!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

My Girl Keeps Texting Me, What Do I Do?

Lower your reply rate significantly!

Reply a maximum of once every week, and to that reply, add your logistics for meeting up again.

You aren’t free to talk all the time, remember?

I Really Love My Girl, Why Can’t I Live With Her?

You’ll shatter her love for you by destroying competition anxiety!

The mystery that you have will be gone!

Don’t do it!

This is ESPECIALLY true if you really like her.

I Want Kids So I’m Gonna Get Married, Even If It’s Stupid!

No prenup? Shared finances?

You know that hitting yourself on the head with a hammer is stupid and you’re going to do it anyways?

I have no sympathy for you.

This, my friends, is an example of an idiot.

He’s literally on a site that can save him from the demons of the world, and he sells his soul to them anyway…

I’m Having Marathon Sex With My Girl Now And She’s Perfect, the Best I’ve Ever Had! You’re Full of Shit Helios!

Ever heard of the myth of Icarus?

You’re about to learn what it means to fly too close to the sun, my friend.

You need to play the long game!

Don’t let your feelings in the moment tarnish your actions for the future!

Many (dare I say all) men have encountered these common female tactics that aim to make men wait for sex.

Many men wonder what they did wrong in order to receive these, while many women are frustrated at the horniness of men who need sex more often than they do.

Many men wonder how they can prevent women from using these tactics on them.

This is going to get a bit involved, I hope you’re ready…

Some Facts About Biological Sex Drives

First, I need to explain some things.

It is a biological FACT that men have higher testosterone (12 to 17x more than the average woman).

This means that on average, men are going to be WAY hornier than women.

A way for a woman to experience just how horny a guy actually is would be for her to inject herself with the equivalent of 12-17x as much testosterone as they currently have.

This has been done before!

Women report an INTENSE surge of horniness and desperation for sexual activity nearly immediately after taking the same amount of testosterone as the average man. 

In the specific study I am describing, women went so far as to say they wanted to “make it stop”. 

THAT is what men have to contend with from the age of 14 to about the age of 40, lowering to about 80% of that level by the age of 60, and we CAN’T turn it off.

It is only natural, as a result, that men would want sex more often than women. This is NORMAL.

For women to state that they get just as horny as men is PATENTLY false.

No “right guy” will make them as horny as men are in the LONG TERM.

Women are cyclical in their sex drive.

They are more horny at certain phases of their ovulation (where they seek out alpha men) and less horny at others (where they’re more ok with beta men).

They are also more horny at different points in their life (more horny in their rockstar phase than in their lady phase).

If She Makes You Wait for Sex, It’s Not Worth the Wait

Now it’s time for some sad truth.

Some women will not be interested in you no matter what you do.

Sometimes, women that are not interested in you will PRETEND they are because they like things about you that are not related to your sexual attractiveness to her.

Examples include:

1. She likes your money
2. She likes your apartment
3. She likes your friends
4. She likes your humour
5. She likes your style

In that case, she will actively try to keep you around, while denying you sex for whatever reason.

If she EVER denies you sex in this way, it is NEVER worth the wait.

In the case of women denying you sex in this way, your reaction should ALWAYS be to walk away.

Your time is too precious and your happiness is too important to entertain someone who is not interested in reciprocating your affection.

She is perfectly allowed to not be interested in you, but you are also perfectly allowed to not be alright with that and to LEAVE.

Women’s Sexual Frame

Many men have no idea the game that is being played around them.

As a result, they often fall into women’s default sexual frame, which is dictated by our current culture.

Women’s default frame is often this:

1. Women are the prize
2. Women should be worked for
3. Women should be fought for
4. Women should be listened to
5. Women should have nice things bought for them
6. Women deserve attention for free
7. Women should be allowed to date and sleep with any partner they desire

Women imply, with their cultural frame that if they don’t receive these things, you won’t get laid.

In fact, these things are a LIE.

If you buy into and truly believe these things, you label yourself as a beta and will LOSE MANY sexual opportunities with women.

You need to have YOUR OWN sexual frame and hold strong to that.

Simply flip the script on it’s head and you have an alpha male’s sexual frame.

Here, I’ve done it for you:

1. I am the prize
2. I should be worked for
3. I should be fought for
4. I should be listened to
5. I should have nice things bought (done) for me
6. I deserve attention
7. I am allowed to date and sleep with any partner I desire

When you see women behaving in a manner that runs counter to your frame, DO NOT point it out.

Simply soft next them! (Leave for a week, go no contact, then contact them as though nothing happened.)

They will get the message that you’re not some kind of beta who is easily trifled with.

You don’t have to get into shouting contests or arguments for this to be your frame. 

You simply withdraw your attention if you aren’t being treated according to your standards.

You NEVER have to force the issue.

If someone doesn’t comply, you simply LEAVE.

Move on to prospects who are willing to do the things that you need to be happy.

Try reversing society’s frame, you’ll see it works like magic!

Common Sexual Filibuster Techniques for Women

Many women use filibuster (stalling) techniques in order to fool betas/NPCs into thinking that they might, at some point in the future, be sexually interested in them.

Women never are.

They simply string these betas along for as long as the attention and gift train runs for, and fuck alphas as soon as the opportunity presents itself.

Here are some examples (you may have heard some of these yourself in your life):

1. I love you but I’m not in love with you
2. We’re just friends
3. I need a stronger connection before we can have sex
4. I’m a good girl and don’t do that
5. I’m saving myself for marriage
6. Let’s try a long distance relationship

The sad part is if you’ve heard these while in an LTR with a woman.

She’s simply stringing you along until she finds a better guy than you, don’t let this be you!

This is especially true, by the way, if you’ve agreed to be in a long distance relationship.

Those aren’t relationships. You’re being used, dude.

Let’s Just Be Friends

This is a classic!

I wanted to take the time to devote one section to this one since it is so common.

If she says she just wants to be friends, you have NO sexual chance with her, now or in the future.

You would have to become an entirely different person for there to be any chance of sex.

She’s wasting your time and using you for the other benefits that you provide.

She will NEVER give sexual intimacy.

You have been warned.

Women that LJBF you, no matter how wonderful, are TIMEWASTERS.

My heart aches thinking about how many sexual opportunities men have lost by wasting their time with women that treat them as literal time ho’s and taxis.

It really kills me…

Online Penpals

Here is another amazing one.

This is for those of you who use online dating.

I’m sure you’ve been talking to a girl online, and had everything go well only for her to say something like:

“I need to get to know someone better usually before I meet them in person.”

Women like this NEVER meet up (ask me how I know).

When a girl suggests that you become online penpals in this manner, you should promptly ghost her.

She deserves not ONE IOTA of attention from you.

Once a girl has labelled herself as a timewaster who is not willing to put in the effort to meet you in person, your valuable time should instantly be moved elsewhere.

NEVER talk incessantly with a girl online, it invariably leads to a ghost down the line when a better man (in her opinion) comes along.

Never allow women to string you along like this.

Every Date Should Have Sexual Progression

Some guys go on date after date after date, and nothing sexual ever happens.

There are several causes to this:

1. The man is a beta/NPC who has no idea how to escalate sexually
2. The man is not attractive to the girl
3. The girl is in her lady phase (29 years old +)

As a man, after the first date (which should be one hour long and for rapport only!), you should be escalating to sex every date.

If she declines, but does something sexual every date, you can consider things to be going well.

You should expect more and more sexual things each date in this case, culminating in sex at around the 4th date.

I would say that this sort of progression will happen about 10% of the time (4th date sex). 

Usually, using this model, you will be having sex by the second date.

Some women will absolutely not ever have sex, no matter what you do.

They will kiss you, grope you, etc, but every time you try to actually have sex, they will decline.

In that case, you’re going to have to have a mature conversation with her that states that sex is an absolute need of yours, and if she isn’t willing to provide it, she can find someone else who she is willing to have sex with.

You are not required to blue-ball yourself sexually, or spend your time with women that aren’t interested in sex with you.

She is totally allowed to decline sex, but you are also totally allowed to not accept a relationship with a girl who would deny your needs.

If You Don’t Really Like Me GTFO

This should be one of your frames as an alpha.

If women don’t really like you, they can fuck off.

The best women in your life are going to be those that are really into you.

There are many women like that for all of us. Women that specifically like our style, or our personality, or whatever, and they fuck us passionately as a result.

You should focus on those.

If a woman doesn’t like you all that much, you should be totally alright with her leaving.

Your goal as a man who wants to maximize his happiness is to find women that are “fuck yes” about you, and not just girls who tolerate you because they don’t have anyone else.

You’ll be much happier following this rule.

Conclusion

As you can see, there are many tactics that women use to make men wait for sex.

If they use these on you, the sex is never worth the wait.

You should only accept women into your life that contribute positively, and not those who make you wait, or simply tolerate you because they have no-one else.

Remember these rules and maximise your happiness!

Godspeed.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

Me and My Girl Have Marathon Sex Every Day, She Seems Every Bit as Horny as Me, Helios!

Yeah, she is.

Temporarily.

Watch her long term behaviour and see if she can keep that up. (past 3 months to 3 years)

I bet you can.

Sex drives are biologically different between men and women, and this is clearly shown in long-term trends.

I’ve Kissed This Girl At A Party Once or Twice, But Every Time We Spend Time Together She Doesn’t Want to Have Sex, What Gives?

She’s stringing you along dude.

She’s just not that into you.

Stop wasting your time with her and move on to prospects that actually want to fuck you passionately.

Me and My Girl Are Trying to Make A Long-Distance Relationship Work, So Far So Good!

You sure bro?

She’s not your girl if you’re not fucking.

You’re now her time ho.

Congrats.

I’ve Gotten to First Base, Second Base and Now Third Base With My Girl, But She Just Won’t Have Sex! I Want It So Bad, What Do I Do?

You’re going to have to have a mature conversation with her about your needs.

Sex is a need for men like vision is.

If she can’t accept that you have needs just as she does, then she shouldn’t be with you.

You should not accept blue balls every time you try sex just because she’s not acknowledging your needs.

If that ends the relationship, oh well.

She would never have had sex anyway, and you would have been tortured constantly.

Many men make the mistake of bragging about how many sex partners they’ve had to new women, only to be met with disgust and instant rejection.

Don’t do it!

It is a very common way to shoot yourself in the foot, and I’m here to explain how this problem can be prevented.

Don’t let your ego go to your head and ruin your opportunities with women!

First, some background…

Some Background

There are two kinds of men out there, alphas and betas.

Betas tend to be more supplicative and alphas tend to be more confrontational.

Women tend to find alphas attractive and betas repulsive.

As a result, they string betas along and fuck alphas.

You ideally want to be an alpha, and that is achievable through work and dedication.

Often, as a result of becoming more alpha, you acquire more sexual partners.

You then run into this shit test (the one where a woman asks you about the number of partners we’ve been with).

Covert vs. Overt Communication

Men communicate overtly (directly), women communicate covertly (indirectly).

You telling a girl how many girls you’ve been with is like slapping her in the face!

It is too direct and hard hitting!

Women want to know that they’re with a stud, but not EXACTLY why.

Men want to know things like exact figures. For the most part, women don’t.

Women live in the world of indirect communication. A girl will only resort to direct communication as an absolute last resort.

You’re much better off signalling covertly that you’re a stud.

Here’s how…

Don’t State, Imply

Don’t state, imply.

Rather than say you’ve been with 50 girls, talk about the fun times you’ve had with your “friends”. Don’t mention the gender of these friends.

If you’re confident and have good frame, she’s going to assume that a bunch of those “friends” were not really friends at all, but girls you were seeing.

You’ve signalled covertly that you’re a stud, good job!

When you don’t text her, she assumes that you’re seeing lots of other people and that you aren’t that interested in her.

Great! You want her to chase!

Of course, if she thinks you’re talking to a bunch of other girls, this competition anxiety will make your life much easier.

Women want to know that they’re with a man who is desired by other women.

Notice how through these strategies, you’re communicating without communicating.

There is an expression for that:

“The medium is the message”.

The way in which you’re talking and texting is telling of the kind of person you are.

We want to use strategies like this to our advantage as much as possible!

What Kind of Man Do Women Want?

Women SAY they want a beta.

Women’s actions, however, imply they want alphas.

It is your choice whether you want to follow what they say they want, or what they actually want.

When you reveal the number of girls you’ve been with, you automatically place yourself in one of the two categories.

The problem is that if you’ve had a number of partners that the girl’s friends don’t approve of, the conversations your girl will have with her friends will ruin her relationship with you.

Her girlfriends will not approve of you and this will cause all kinds of drama, which you could have avoided by not telling her the number.

It also makes her much more likely to flake on you, or boomerang if you tell her.

This is something you want to avoid, even if you’re an alpha with lots of sexual partners.

Deflect!

If a girl ever asks you directly for how many women you’ve slept with, you need to deflect!

Something witty is often a good response.

Her: “How many sexual partners have you had?”

You: “Today?”

Also you: “Actually, you’re my first, did I do that well?”

These both dodge answering the question and turn it into a joke, a very good proposition for you!

Once again, your goal is NOT to answer the question directly, as it is death to your interactions with that girl.

She wants to know she’s with a stud, but not EXACTLY how studly you really are.

Her imagination is a powerful thing indeed!

Open Communication As the Secret to a Good Relationship is a Lie

The secret to a good relationship is not open communication.

The secret to a good relationship is the maintenance of the proper male-female dynamic.

The man, in a relationship, needs to be a man and hold on to himself despite the world trying to change him.

Men should not be communicating openly about everything.

Men need to retain some kind of mystique.

Women say that the key to a good relationship is open communication because having all of the information gives them all the ammunition they need in order to win arguments and beta-ize the man.

When the man holds his cards close to his chest and is emotionally reserved, there are much less points of attack.

These allow men to have much more comfortable relationships with women.

Women NEVER want the full truth, they just SAY they do.

Humans hide all kinds of things from each other in order to protect the other person’s feelings, I’m saying that you do the same in order to preserve her attraction for you.

She doesn’t need to hear your every thought or belief and in fact, that will only serve to hurt you.

Responses to Common Shit Tests

Here are some responses to common phrasings of the question of how many women you’ve slept with:

Shit test	Response
“How many girls have you been with?”	“Today?”“Actually, you’re my first, did I do that well?”
“You look like a fuckboy”	“Everyone seems to think I’m just a sausage with legs, I’m so much more…”
“You must say that to all the girls”	“Only the ones I like!”
“To be that good in bed, you must have slept with a thousand girls!”	“Or maybe aphrodite just likes me?”

Try these answers out and be amazed at their ability to help!

Not answering the question is also a valid answer, after all.

Why Do Women Want to Know How Many Partners You’ve Had?

Women want to know how many partners you’ve had

 in order to ease their competition anxiety.

If they know that you’ve been with no, or very few girls before her, their need to impress you lessens significantly, as they know they have barely any competition.

When women know they have no competition, they take their liberties with you, knowing that you don’t know any better.

A lot of men have no idea how much power they actually have, and let it go so easily.

Obviously, giving away your power like this is a terrible position to be in for any man, and you should avoid it.

Simply don’t tell her your N-count and you prevent all the associated problems!

Deflect instead!

Conclusion

As you can see, revealing how many women you’ve been with is a bad idea that will just lead to super drama and give the girl ammunition she can use against you in the future.

Rather than state directly that you’re a stud, imply it through your actions.

This behaviour will allow for much better outcomes on your end.

Go out and try it!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

I’m Proud of the 20 Girls I’ve Been With Previously And Want To Tell My Current Girls About It!

If you want to make them feel cheap, tell them!

Women want to feel like they’re special.

Stating that they’re just “number 23” does nothing good for you!

Don’t do it!

Why Can’t Girls Just Tell Me What They Like So I Can Do It?

Most people have no idea what they want.

As a result, most people can’t verbalize exactly what they need.

Instead, they verbalize what they have been taught they should want based on societal programming, which favours women.

If you follow that, you are lost.

My Girl Asked Me How Many Women I’ve Been With, Help!

Deflect!

This is not the time to tell her exact numbers!

She doesn’t really want to know the truth, trust me.

Either way, it will be used against you.

My Relationship Counsellor Says That Open Communication is the Key to A Happy Relationship, You’re Wrong!

If what you’re interested in creating is a relationship that heavily favours women and disempowers the guy, then yeah, you’re right!

Unfortunately, this makes neither partner happy in the long term, so I’m going to have to go with the counsellor being wrong on this one.

Let’s talk about a fundamental concept of seduction today.

This concept is called frame.

Frame is extremely important in your interactions with women and it often determines how a relationship is going to turn out.

If you have good frame, often, your relationships will have good outcomes.

Let’s explore this in more detail, shall we?

What is Frame

Your frame is your viewpoint on the world.

It could also be defined as your reality.

In many ways, your frame defines who you are as a person.

Frame is the underlying thing behind all of your actions.

To have a strong frame means to have a strong grasp on the things that you want and who you believe yourself to be.

The goal of your relationships with women is to have them enter your frame.

You want them to believe in and want the same things that you do.

When a girl enters your frame, it will feel like you “have her”.

This means that she is inclined to go with what you want to do, as she wants it for herself as well.

It is not possible to have a 50/50 frame. You are either in her frame, or she is in yours.

Let’s now list a few key things that you should include into your own frame…

Things to Include In Your Frame

Your frame should have some kind of rules on how you expect yourself to behave and how you expect her to behave.

You want to have some kind of sexual frame.

This is basically your expectations for sex.

If your expectations for sex are not met, you need to be willing to walk away!

For example, your frame could be that every time you meet, you expect to be sexual with your partner.

If it doesn’t happen, you need to be prepared to leave the interaction (temporarily, in the case of a soft next, or permanently, in the case of a hard next).

You should also include some kind of expectation for how women should behave around you.

You likely want your frame to include some kind of expectation of pleasant behaviour.

Again, if it isn’t shown, you leave!

Your frame should also include some kind of boundary with relation to texting/other forms of communication.

You will text for logistics only, and if she doesn’t agree, you leave.

All of these things could also be explained through the concept of boundary creation (what you’re ok with and what you’re not ok with).

You need to be able to say no in order to have strong frame, and you need to know what you want for the same reason.

The Default Societal Frame is Women’s Frame

Society teaches us, from a young age, several women’s frames, and these become default beliefs for NPCs.

Here they are:

1. Women are better than men
2. Women are more important than men
3. There are certain things that men can do to each other that they can’t do to women
4. Women need to be provided for
5. Women need multiple expensive dates before sex
6. The proper relationship progression is: dating > serious relationship > marriage, nothing else is considered a good relationship
7. Women are the same as men and want the same things
8. Men must ask VERBAL permission before sexual activity
9. Monogamous relationships are the ONLY relationship that kids can be raised in

If you adopt any or all of these, you are doomed from the beginning.

Following these scripts is antithetical to getting laid.

Your frame should often be the opposite of these, or at least, should resist these common societal scripts.

It’s ironic that doing the opposite of what we were taught as kids is what is correct.

Often, if you do the opposite of what you remember your mom’s advice being, it will be attractive to women.

If You Fall Into A Woman’s Frame, You’re Done

Women’s sexual attraction drops like a rock for anyone who agrees to her in principle.

If you believe in and follow the feminine social script (women’s frame), you ARE a woman to her (or at least a feminized man).

Most women are not sexually attracted to other women.

By following the societal scripts, you lower attraction.

You make it inevitable that she will leave you, or at least sexually tire of you.

Women will try to impose their frame on you through shit tests mostly.

These are tests that are designed to flip the script of your alpha frame, in order to see if you are actually alpha or just a pretender.

If you fail and fall into her frame too many times, the sexual game is lost for you and her light goes out.

You are then better off pursuing other women than continuing with this failed prospect.

Women Want to Fall Into A Man’s Frame

Despite protests and shit tests, the reality is that women want to submit to a man’s frame.

They want the assurance of being with an alpha that will absolutely not bend in his worldview.

Women want to test, and test, and test no more, as they realize that he is unbreakable.

Women want to lose!

The reason they poke at you is to make sure that you can win!

If you can beat them, you can beat others too.

In many ways, shit tests are a ritual.

They are the repetition of the thing that animals have been doing for millions of years.

Shit tests are simply a genetic fitness test.

If you are being tested for your genetic fitness though, it means you are in the running!

It’s a very good sign!

Don’t Get Monogamous

An easy frame to hold that will make you wildly successful with women is the non-monogamous frame.

No matter which girl you’re with, no matter how amazing she is, you will NEVER commit to only one girl.

She will test and test, trying to break that frame and get you into an exclusive relationship.

By denying her pushes to become monogamous, you pass her shit tests with ease.

Your focus on yourself also dispels many of the common societal frames that favour women as well.

Try holding true to your non-monogamous frame and watch your success with women soar to heights you didn’t even know existed!

The “Yes Dear” Frame

Many men get into monogamous relationships with women (despite what I suggest), since they believe that their special angel is not like the rest.

Once in these types of relationships, they immediately adopt the woman’s frame, which is their ultimate downfall.

Her frame is as follows:

“Do everything I say or you don’t get laid.”.

From this, we get the “yes dear” frame.

Another one you may have heard is this one:

“Happy wife, happy life.”.

Both of these are fem-centric garbage frames which will only serve to turn you into a butler.

Butlers don’t get laid, they do work.

Doing more chores and labouring for your wife, doing every little thing she desires will NOT get you laid.

It will cause resentment to grow as she fails to understand why you’re debasing yourself so.

She thought you were a stud and you have reduced yourself to a list-following butler.

You will also be severely unhappy in such a state.

Try this frame instead…

The “I’m Me” Frame

This frame is one held by many rock stars.

It goes something like this:

“I’m me, and if you don’t like it you can go fuck yourself.”.

You hold strong to who you are, even if you are weird, and no matter what anyone says or does to the contrary you remain firmly yourself.

This gives you a powerful aura.

You think Freddy Mercury wasn’t made fun or for his style?

How about the Beatles when they had long grungy hair?

They simply said fuck you to anyone that made fun of them and went on their merry way.

They were themselves, however weird.

Eventually, people envied them, and even copied them!

Such is the power of a strong frame!

You need to have a strong frame, despite doubters.

Conclusion

It is very important to have strong frame, despite what other people, and especially what society has taught you.

You need to be your own man and hold on to yourself.

Ultimately, you are responsible for how you allow other people to treat you!

Don’t accept a raw deal just because society has raised you to be a chump!

You need to rise above all that.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

What is Frame?

Frame is how you view the world.

You are either in someone’s frame, or they are in yours.

You cannot choose to live a frame-less life and so, you must try to hold on to yourself in situations and relationships that would seek to take your power away.

Having poor frame in your interactions with women will lead to rejection or LJBF.

If you’re in a relationship, it will lead to sexlesness and disrespect, ESPECIALLY if you’re monogamous.

Helios, I Could Never Be Non-Monogamous, I Respect My Partner Too Much!

Respect your partner by respecting yourself.

A man with weak frame is not a man worth following.

Women would rather share a strong man than be shackled to a loser monogamously.

By Frame, Do You Mean I Have to Be An Asshole to Women to Get Laid?

Actually, you don’t have to be an asshole, or even rude!

You can be, but it isn’t a requirement.

What you have to be is a NON-DOORMAT.

You have to be able to say NO, however respectfully or kindly you say it.

No matter how nice, or beautiful, or perfect, or amazing the girl is, you STILL have to stay true to yourself and say no when it is the correct play, regardless of your feelings.

I Thought That the Patriarchy Was the Default Way That Society Runs?

Sure!

On the surface.

But look more deeply into the way the world works and uncover the truth for yourself.

Who can you not criticise in today’s world?

Men, or women?

Who is treated as superior?

Men, or women?

I’m not talking about the absolute upper echelons of the world, I’m talking about the average person.

That should yield your answer.

Think for yourself, don’t just blindly accept everything everyone tells you as gospel.