In psychology, there’s a term called rationalization.
When people are faced with failure or rejection, in order to preserve their egos, many people will resort to these.
These rationalizations are sometimes the very things that hold us back from success.
We lie to ourselves in order to make ourselves feel better, dooming ourselves to a life of desperation and failure.
I would much rather face the lies I tell myself, deal with them and experience a life worth living than wallow in them and die a slow death of quiet desperation.
Wouldn’t you?
If you’re willing to experience discomfort in order to live an actual good life read on.
Here are some of the lies people tell themselves that prevent them from living a good life…
1 – I’m Not Good Enough
Many men just tell themselves this self defeating lie and leave it at that.
Obviously this is idiotic and a total waste of everyone’s time.
Just be honest with yourself.
You are good enough, you’re just taking the easy road.
It’s easy to say that you have no value and instantly stop working and struggling, falling into a depression.
You would be good enough if you fought for it.
What you’re saying with this statement is actually that you’re unwilling to put in the effort required in order to succeed.
If you would stop lying to yourself, and put in the effort, you’d be fine!
2 – I’m “Insert Race Here”
Many guys excuse their failures with women and life in general by their race.
They say that they were born a certain way and therefore, they’re not able to succeed as others have.
That is utterly ridiculous.
If you look at history, it is full of great men from all races.
They have one thing in common however.
They’re not little bitches.
They worked and struggled and overcame their problems in order to succeed.
You’re lying to yourself when you say your race is the problem.
Your race is NOT the problem, YOU are.
YOU are not willing to struggle and fight for what you want and so you get NOTHING.
When you don’t fight for yourself, no-one else will either.
Why should they care if you don’t give a shit about yourself?
3 – I Don’t Have Enough Money
Some people are born with a rich daddy.
Most are not.
Blaming your lack of success with women on lack of money is ridiculous as a result.
How do hobos or starving artists get laid then?
They have no money either!
Your attitude is what is keeping you from getting laid, not your money.
You should develop all aspects of yourself so that you are an attractive person to the core.
Once you are, you’ll see that money isn’t that important.
Money should be for yourself, and not for your women anyway.
4 – I Don’t Have Enough Time
You don’t have enough time to invest in one of the things that will make you actually happy?
Remain miserable then.
You deserve it.
It’s such a bullshit excuse, that you don’t have enough time.
If you have enough time to smoke a blunt once a week, you have enough time to go out and meet women.
If you don’t even have time to smoke a blunt once a week, I’m afraid you have much bigger problems than women.
Get your poverty situation sorted first so that you have some semblance of free time, THEN go and pursue your dreams.
You do not deserve to live in such squalid conditions.
5 – I’m Too Lazy
This is the root of all the problems.
At least you’re self aware enough to know it if this is the lie you tell yourself.
Solve your laziness problem!
Actually do something other than lay on your ass.
If you want to be a success in this life, you’re unfortunately going to need to struggle and bleed for it.
I cannot do that for you.
And neither can anyone else.
I’m telling you that if you remain lazy you’re going to be a failure for the rest of your life.
Guaranteed.
You cannot get something from nothing.
If you put zero effort into this life, you will receive nothing in return.
When you receive nothing as a result of your own laziness, do not complain and cry to anyone.
It is YOUR fault.
Die miserable, loser.
6 – I’m Too Short
This one unfortunately does hurt you quite a lot with women, I’m afraid.
Those of you unfortunate enough to be born short got the shit end of the stick.
You have to work twice as hard as anyone else in order to succeed.
It is possible, however, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
A silver lining to being short is that you get jacked much quicker.
For a short guy to get jacked like a male model, it takes around 3 years.
For a tall guy, it takes 10.
This means that you can have an instagram worthy body as a short guy quite fast.
Get cracking on that beautiful body and watch your results soar!
7 – I’m Too Fat
This one also hurts you with women, but not as much as you think.
If you can get your body weight to the upper end of normal, you can get laid like a warlord.
Some women specifically like this body type, especially if you have muscles (the lumberjack build).
You CAN’T BE OBESE though.
If you are obese, you’re going to have to make some major changes to your lifestyle in order to become attractive to women.
You need to learn how to eat and how much you can afford to eat in order to create that beautiful body you need in order to attract women.
Also, do some exercise fatty!
You can’t sit on the couch all day and expect women to come sit on your dick, come on!
A person who invests in himself is a person worth investing in!
Invest in yourself before you expect anything from anyone.
8 – I’m Too Skinny
This is the opposite problem with the fat guys.
Fat guys eat too much and skinny guys eat too little!
Even if it’s painful for you, you’re going to have to up your calorie intake.
By a lot!
Count your calories.
In the case of some of you, you might even have to double how much you eat.
If you increase your calorie intake and don’t work out, you’re going to have a bad time.
Make sure that you combine increasing your calorie intake with regular intense exercise that puts your muscles into hypertrophy.
This will grow your muscles over time and you’ll create a nice body for yourself!
Problem solved!
9 – I’m Depressed
If you have clinical depression then your CBT likely tells you that exercise is good for depression.
Also, breaking out of the negative spirals in your life needs to happen.
You can start by fixing just one aspect of yourself.
Afterwards, fix another.
As you build yourself up, you’ll find that your confidence increases and your depression lessens.
Eventually, you’ll start to get laid and this will even further boost how you feel about yourself.
Depression gone!
If you have deep, dark, extreme depression, I’m afraid only serious psychiatric help will do the trick, and you’re going to have to consult them for advice.
If you have beta male depression (the shitty way you feel about yourself when you’re not getting laid), then my advice on this blog will help you to solve this problem.
Read EVERYTHING ON THIS SITE and try to internalize it.
You’ll be surprised how well it works at fixing the major things in your life!
10 – I Live In *Insert City Here*
A lot of people blame their lack of success on their city.
“I live in Tokyo, therefore I can’t get laid”.
It’s total bullshit.
Unless you live in a 150 people small town (in which case you should MOVE AWAY), you CAN get laid there.
You simply need to learn and practice.
The city is NOT the problem, YOU are.
Once you acknowledge that you are the problem, you can work to fix it.
Once you’ve fixed the problems within you, you’ll feel an extreme sense of confidence and control as you realize that the power was in you to change the whole time!
Conclusion
There are many self defeating excuses out there that people use to rationalize why they aren’t getting laid or why they’re a failure in the world.
Here’s the list, to recap:
- I’m not good enough
- I’m “insert race here”
- I don’t have enough money
- I don’t have enough time
- I’m too lazy
- I’m too short
- I’m too fat
- I’m too skinny
- I’m depressed
- I live in *insert city here*
The majority of these things can be boiled down to this point:
I am simply too lazy to fix my own problems.
If more people would put in the effort to fix themselves, we would have a world full of alpha males!
We would have a world where guys could get laid and wouldn’t complain so much.
Work on fixing yourself and you’ll very quickly see yourself rise above the pack!
Good luck!
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions:
My Problems Are So Much Bigger than Everyone Else’s, You Don’t Understand!
Bullshit.
Liar.
Work on yourself and STOP MAKING EXCUSES.
I’m *Insert Race Here*, You Couldn’t Possibly Understand How Hard it is to Get Laid!
Work hard and you’ll get laid.
Make excuses and suffer in perpetuity.
Your choice!
Dude, I’m 5’5. I Was Fucked from Birth, What Advice Could You Possibly Give Me?
Instead of giving you advice, I’m going to give you a picture of a guy who’s 5’5.
You tell me if he gets laid or not:
There’s your goal.
Go get it cowboy!
I’m 400 Pounds, I’m Ugly as Shit!
You’re right!
The 400 pound version of you is ugly.
But the 220 pound version of you is fine, I’m sure.
Get to that point and you’ll be alright.
Don’t forget to work out along the way!
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