Many men have no idea what actually gets them laid.
They think they just “got lucky”.
Sex is not about luck AT ALL.
Sex is about the following two things:
- Tension
- Logistics
If you know how to build tension and know how to set up good logistics, you WILL get laid.
Let me show you how it’s done…
Why Does Tension + Logistics Lead to Sex?
Tension is what makes two people sexually attracted to each other.
Tension creates an inherent discomfort that needs to be resolved.
The discomfort that gets released in the process of sex brings the two people closer together.
Of course, if the girl doesn’t feel safe with you and with the location you’re in, sex will NOT occur, even if there is amazing tension.
If she DOES feel safe however, tension is VERY likely to lead to sex.
It is VITALLY important that you master both the art of creating tension and the art of setting up the environment so that it maximizes your chances of getting laid.
Creating Tension
Tension can be created in a variety of ways.
Here is a list (with an explanation of why it’s attractive):
- Teasing
Teasing creates tension because it creates a playful argumentative atmosphere. She sees you as someone who is willing to challenge her and that’s attractive.
- Staring
She feels that you are sexually attracted to her, but you haven’t said anything. She wants to see if you are worthy.
- Passing shit tests
You are sending signals that you are a dominant alpha man. It is very attractive and intriguing.
- Dancing
You are good at leading her and touching her. She wonders if this skill is transferable
- Answering questions in unusual ways
You aren’t a typical beta/slave/NPC, you have a brain that thinks differently and it’s intriguing
- Physical closeness without intimate touch
She feels your masculine essence close to her and it piques her interest
- Casual brushing against each other
She feels your power near her and is intrigued
- Argument (with her or someone else)
She knows you’re not a pushover, you are willing to stand up for yourself.
- Physical confrontation (with someone else)
She knows that she can’t dominate you physically. You could easily hurt someone else who’s threatening
- Talking about sex
You’re likely sexually experienced. What other girls have experienced you?
- Dread
She knows for sure you have other women. What if they poach you?
- Fear of Loss
What if she never sees you again? What will she have lost?
- Cheating
What if the new girl steals you away? Were you a stud after all?
If you do one (or more) of these things with women, you will undoubtedly create tension that can then be resolved through sex.
The Meaning of Good Logistics
If you’re in a place with good logistics, it means that there is a very low probability that you can be interrupted or found during sex.
The girl is very unlikely to be seen as a slut from other people in those environments.
Remember that women care about their reputations much more than men.
You want to have a place set up where you can easily have sex without interruption or the fear that you will be found by one of her friends.
Here are some examples of places that are great logistics-wise:
- A secluded trail/park
- Your car, parked somewhere remote
- Your apartment (especially if no roommates)
- Your house (especially if you don’t live with your parents)
If you create a lot of tension and you are in one of these places, initiating anything sexual is very likely to lead to sex.
I hope I don’t need to explain the mechanics of sex to you.
If you’re on a trail or in a park, you need a comfortable, non-wet, flat surface and something to lie on.
For the other places, you need a couch or bed, something you can comfortably have sex on (for the benefit of your knees).
Good Ideas for Dates
You never want to take girls on dates that are unlikely to lead to sex.
This means that you should NEVER take girls to the movies, dinner, etc.
This is TRIPLY true if you’re at the beginning of a relationship.
As I have mentioned in other articles, you should try to have sex with a girl on the second date.
The first date is for comfort/rapport, the second date is for sex.
This means that logistically, for the first date, you need a place where it is easy to build comfort/rapport without signalling that you’re a beta/slave/NPC.
Here are good logistical locations for first dates:
- Coffee shop
- Casual bar
- Mall
- Park
You never want to spend more than 10$ on your first date, remember, you don’t want to signal that you’re a beta/slave/NPC.
For the second date, you need a place where it is easy to have sex once you have built tension.
Here is a list of great places for second dates (and beyond):
- A secluded park (you drive her there)
- Your apartment
- Your house
NEVER take a girl on a date where the logistics to have sex are not set up.
If you don’t have the logistics for sex, it is YOUR FAULT that sex didn’t happen.
Plan with the end goal in mind!
Comfort Does NOT Get You Laid
Talking incessantly on dates is not going to get you laid.
If the girl is super comfortable with you, you’re going to be put in the beta/NPC/slave zone and you’re done.
Comfort does not get you laid, in fact, you want comfort to be at 20%, while tension is at 80%, especially at the beginning of a relationship!
DO NOT set up dates where building comfort is the only thing you can do.
Exception: For the first date, you are allowed a comfort building environment, but it MUST be CASUAL. No “date” dates. Also, for your first date, you want to talk 15 minutes out of the hour you’ve allotted to spend with her.
Here are places you SHOULD NEVER take a girl on a date (especially early on in your relationship, before you have had sex at least 10 times):
- Dinner
- Movie
- Fancy restaurant
- “Theme” dates such as hiking, rock-climbing, mountain biking, etc.
If you build comfort before sex, you’re going BACKWARDS.
You want sex right?
Bad Logistics = No Sex, Even If There Is Tension
Many men go home with their dick in their hands because they had terrible logistics.
Even if there is amazing tension, if you have no way to capitalize on it, the tension is useless!
There is something even worse.
If you build tension with a girl that gets her sexually exited and you DON’T even TRY to have sex with her, you will be immediately beta zoned.
This is how you get the guys at parties that think it’s going so well with a girl and they never respond later.
They didn’t capitalize on their opportunity to get laid and got relegated to the beta zone, where they rightfully belong.
When Do I Go For Sex?
You go for sex starting on the SECOND date.
You have one rapport date, lasting around an hour, where you talk for 15 minutes, directing the conversation towards her interests.
You follow that with a date where you invite the girl to your place for some plausibly deniable activity (come see my new place, let’s watch netflix, etc.) and go for sex then.
Once you have had sex once, you need to have sex a second time to achieve a stable sex state.
You can then cruise, doing the FWB (friend with benefits) thing for around 3 months before she will want to define the relationship (and you can decide the direction the interaction goes in at that point).
Simple In Concept, Difficult In Reality
A lot of you will read what I have written here and think it’s simple.
In concept, it is simple, but it requires a solid framework of game that requires a lot of practice.
Do not be discouraged if you fuck it up a bunch of times.
That is NORMAL.
Try, fail and try again.
You will succeed eventually.
Let me repeat it again.
Sex is tension + logistics.
Conclusion
Three more times for luck:
Sex = tension + logistics
Sex = tension + logistics
Sex = tension + logistics
Remember that!
You cannot have sex without both!
Practice both and you will succeed.
Persevere!
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions
How Do I Get Laid?
Create tension, then have the logistics for it.
You CANNOT get laid without both.
Keep in mind that if you sexually escalate and she doesn’t leave, she does still want to have sex, just a little later.
Pull back, and try again after you’ve built a little more comfort/tension.
How Do I Build Tension?
There are a lot of ways.
Experiment to see which ways work best for you!
Here is a list again (and why these methods work):
1) Teasing
Teasing creates tension because it creates a playful argumentative atmosphere. She sees you as someone who is willing to challenge her and that’s attractive.
2) Staring
She feels that you are sexually attracted to her, but you haven’t said anything. She wants to see if you are worthy.
3) Passing shit tests
You are sending signals that you are a dominant alpha man. It is very attractive and intriguing.
4) Dancing
You are good at leading her and touching her. She wonders if this skill is transferable
5) Answering questions in unusual ways
You aren’t a typical beta/slave/NPC, you have a brain that thinks differently and it’s intriguing
6) Physical closeness without intimate touch
She feels your masculine essence close to her and it piques her interest
7) Casual brushing against each other
She feels your power near her and is intrigued
8) Argument (with her or someone else)
She knows you’re not a pushover, you are willing to stand up for yourself.
9) Physical confrontation (with her or someone else)
She knows that she can’t dominate you physically. You could easily hurt someone else who’s threatening
10) Talking about sex
You’re likely sexually experienced. What other girls have experienced you?
11) Dread
She knows for sure you have other women. What if they poach you?
12) Fear of Loss
What if she never sees you again? What will she have lost?
13) Cheating
What if the new girl steals you away? Were you a stud after all?
It will only serve to reward the wrong behaviour in a population.
How Do I Create Good Logistics for Sex?
Try having second dates (and beyond) in the following environments, you’ll find that it is much easier to get laid if you do:
- A secluded park (you drive her there)
- Your apartment
- Your house
You have easy places to fuck her in each environment (the car in the first one, and a bed/couch in the other two)
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