Today, I’m going to talk about one of the most important things regarding relationships.
That is tactical thinking.
Tactical thinking is incredibly important in relationships.
Not enough men apply their keen tactical understanding to relationships.
Let’s talk about why it’s useful…
Why You Should Think Tactically Thinking About Relationships
Men should think tactically about relationships because men have strong logical ability.
It allows men to apply logic to a situation that would normally call for emotion.
It allows for men to remove the volatile, emotional aspect from relationships and focus on what makes sense.
Thinking tactically allows men to win the relationship.
Women fuck winners who “just get it”.
A man who tactically approaches relationships can get the best results in the shortest amount of time.
The Relationship Chess Game
I recommend that you think of a relationship as a chess game between man and woman.
Woman makes a move, man makes a move.
Your moves should be made in response to her actions.
There are always correct plays in every situation with a woman in a relationship.
Your job is to make the correct moves in response to her actions.
No matter how you’re feeling, or she’s feeling, you ALWAYS make the correct play.
In this way, you maximise your results with women as a whole.
By using logic and understanding the correct plays, you can maximize the amount of sex you have in certain period of time.
Correct Plays In Certain Situations
Here are some plays that you can make in response to women’s actions.
These are plays that I make in my relationships to maximize my results.
Each of these plays will lead to you maximizing your sexual success.
They cover a wide range of female behaviours.
Check out this table:
| Woman’s Action | Man’s Reaction |
| Showing many indicators of interest (IOI’s) in public | Approach her and get her phone number |
| Girl makes fun of you (shit test) | Cocky and funny counter-response |
| She says you’re a nice guy | Immediate withdrawal of attention (for a minimum of 6 months) |
| She texts you more than twice in a row | Set up a meet within two days |
| She tells you she loves you | Slight smirk and no response |
| She compliments you | Cocky and funny counter-response |
| She says she wants you to buy her something | Tell her you’re not that kind of guy, but she’s free to go find one if she likes |
| She says she doesn’t want to see you anymore because you have “different priorities” | Ghost for 4 months |
| She’s rude to you (disrespect) | Ghost for 1 week |
| She does something you like in bed | Compliment something about her as it’s happening or immediately after |
| She asks you for naked pictures | Redirect conversation to meeting up in person, preferably immediately |
| She does some kind of behaviour you like | Compliment her somehow, or do something nice for her immediately after (at a rate of 2 for every 3 she gives you) |
| She asks: “what are we” | If you want FWB (friend with benefits) to continue: “I like how things are going and I’d like for things to continue as they are” If you want her as an NMG (non-monogamous girlfriend): You’re someone very dear to me |
| She says she wants to be exclusive | Tell her: “I’m not that kind of guy and never will be. You’re free to find some other guy who will be if you like, I won’t stop you.” |
Notice how a lot of these sound like operant conditioning.
That’s because they are!
A lot of the advice I give is simply behaviourism.
We have B.F. Skinner to thank for that!
Feelings vs Actions
No matter how you feel or how awesome the girl is, you MUST still make the correct play.
Making too many incorrect plays leads to the woman losing attraction for you and seeing you as beta.
Obviously that isn’t what you want.
Even if you love her, or especially if you love her, you keep those feelings to yourself and make the CORRECT play.
She wants a strong man who is in control.
This means in control of your own emotions as well!
What Is the Most Powerful Tool A Man Has?
The most powerful tool a man has is his attention.
Women desperately want the attention and affection of strong men.
This means that how you dispense your attention is extremely important.
Give your attention ONLY for behaviour you like, and WITHDRAW attention for any behaviour you dislike.
This sub-communicates to women that you’re not someone to be trifled with.
When you keep your cards close to your chest like this, you signal your power to all women that you interact with.
You allow them to relax, knowing that they’re with a powerful man who will make the correct decision even though he’s feeling good.
Operant Conditioning
As I mentioned before, operant conditioning is the best tool a man has with women.
Operant conditioning contains the following two principles:
- Reward behaviour you like
- Punish behaviour your dislike
Here is how I recommend you reward and punish behaviours:
- Reward by giving attention/compliments
- Punish by withdrawing attention/ghosting
Important note: When you constantly text a girl, you are rewarding her for nothing.
She is getting attention from you without seeing you in person.
As a result, I recommend that you ONLY text women in order to meet up and for NO OTHER REASON.
No Matter How You’re Feeling, Make the Correct Play
You must make the correct play!
I don’t care about the following excuses:
- She’s amazing
- She’s submissive
- She’s super hot
- She’s really nice
- My parents really like her
- I have kids with her, etc.
I don’t care how you feel or who she is to you.
NO MATTER WHAT, you MUST make the correct play.
You cannot give ground or mess up too many plays.
If you do, the relationship dies.
You CANNOT afford many mistakes.
Conclusion
You must think about relationships as a game.
Women make a move, then you make a move.
No matter how you feel or how amazing the relationship is going, you make the correct play!
Making the correct moves sub-communicates that you’re a man who “just gets it”.
Women fuck winners who “just get it”!
Stay strong!
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions
How Should I Think of Relationships?
Relationships are like a chess game.
The woman makes a move, and you make a move.
You must make the correct plays in order to generate attraction and maintain attraction over the course of a relationship.
It doesn’t matter how you feel, the correct play ALWAYS takes precedence!
How Do Women Communicate?
Women communicate indirectly, through sub-communication.
Betas fail because they believe that women communicate directly.
It is very important for men to learn how women communicate in order to navigate the world properly.
When A Girl Tells Me She Just Wants to Be Friends, Does She Actually Want to Be Friends?
She wants to use you as an emotional tampon, yes.
If you’re not fucking, you’re nothing to her.
You could let her use you, or you could move on to a woman who is actually interested in you.
Your choice.
This Girl Never Replies to My Messages, What Gives?
The medium is the message.
She’s not that into you.
Move on to a girl who is.
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