It is time to teach you an important aspect of the real world.
We can optimize our behaviour all we like, but chance is a factor that is impossible to ignore.
It is entirely possible to play the game entirely correctly and still lose.
I’m here to tell you that that’s ok!
On we go…
Life Is A Game
You need to remember that life is a game.
Just like in games, sometimes you win and sometimes you lose.
It is perfectly alright to lose once in a while.
Even the best of us lose once in a while.
It is a HUGE problem if you’re CONSTANTLY losing.
That implies that you are doing something incorrectly.
If you lose occasionally, despite making the correct moves, that is no problem.
You can rest assured, knowing that you are making optimal plays!
An Important Aspect of Life is to Play the Game Correctly
As I have mentioned before in previous posts, it is extremely important to play the game of life correctly.
You need to make decisions constantly in life, and you need to make sure that the decisions you make are aligned with the long term goals you have in mind.
Make sure that you are always thinking about your long term goals as you make decisions.
How will the moves that you’re currently making impact your long term goals?
If your moves are not aligned with your long term goals, you’re going to have a bad time.
Your interactions with women are no different.
Think about how your reactions to her shit tests and other behaviours will impact your long term goals with women.
Are you likely to maintain your FWB by following the plays you’re making, or are you signaling something else?
Your moves matter!
Make the correct ones!
Chance As A Normal Aspect of Life
Once you’re sure that the moves you’re making are correct (as evidenced by your results at whatever you’re doing), understand that chance is a part of life.
No matter how correctly you play, you’re still likely to encounter failure, rejection and sadness.
You just need to understand that by playing the odds in your favour, you are extremely likely to experience happiness and positive outcomes in the long term, and that should be your goal.
It doesn’t matter how many battles you lose if you win the war!
Even Though You Make the Correct Plays, You Can Still Fail
Despite making the correct plays and doing everything optimally, due to chance, you’re going to fail.
Accept that failure and rejection is a part of life!
It is OK to fail, so long as you do not let the failure destroy you and you know that you are making the correct plays for the long term.
There are a multitude of reasons why you might have failed, none of them your fault.
If you know that you are doing things correctly, any individual failure should roll off your back.
It doesn’t matter, you will succeed in the long term regardless.
Reasons Why You May Have Failed Despite Making the Correct Plays
With women, there are all kinds of reasons why you may have failed.
Here’s a few:
1) She was never interested in you, only your attention
2) She’s sick
3) She’s tired
4) She had a bad day at work
5) Someone else annoyed her
6) She had a previous bad experience with someone that looked like you
Notice how none of these are your fault!
If you get rejected despite doing everything right, it is very likely that some external reason was the issue and not you.
Don’t worry about it!
Move on to the next girl and rest assured you’ll be fine in the long term!
Stoicism
Stoicism is an amazing philosophy to have.
It encourages men to stay strong in the face of adversity.
Life is full of punishment, failure, sadness and rejection.
That is OK!
Experiencing punishment, failure, sadness and rejection do not make you inferior, they make you HUMAN.
If you are doing everything correctly and you get rejected once in a while, that is LIFE.
You wouldn’t enjoy seduction if it worked every time!
Control the Things You Can Control, Leave Everything Else Alone
Ultimately, you need to internalize the stoic idea of controlling what you can, and leaving the rest alone.
You CANNOT control EVERYTHING and you will drive yourself insane trying.
Control your actions, behaviours and beliefs.
Once you have those things under control, understand that not everyone is going to like or appreciate you for who you are and THAT IS OK.
By controlling the things you can and leaving the rest, you will optimize your happiness and outcomes in life.
We ultimately didn’t get to choose the life that we were born into, but we can adapt to it and overcome!
Results of Living A Tactical Life
As a result of living a tactical life, you will be able to maximize your happiness over time.
You will understand that it is possible to fail despite making the correct moves and you’ll press on undaunted regardless.
You will be a juggernaut, able to take on the world, unworried about the random times that you fail.
Make the correct plays and watch how much your life improves!
Conclusion
It is possible to make the correct plays in life and still fail.
That is alright!
When you know that you are making the correct moves, it is alright to fail once in a while.
The failures are likely not your fault and happen despite your best efforts.
Failure is alright once in a while, but if you let failures defeat you and you abandon your tactical approach to life, you’ll never experience true happiness in the long term.
Be judicious in your choices and strive for excellence!
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions
There’s This One Girl, And She Doesn’t Want Me, What Do I Do?
Understand that despite your best efforts and tactics, something external is likely preventing your success.
Embrace the fact that this is a part of life and move on to a girl who actually is interested in you.
It is alright to fail!
I Keep Failing With Women, What Gives?
You are likely making incorrect plays and doing things that lower her attraction for you.
Read some of the blog posts here about seduction and try to internalize the concepts.
You will then understand why you are making the incorrect moves and what you should be doing instead.
You’ll stop failing so regularly then!
I Feel as Though I Did Everything Correctly, Why Is She Still Not Interested?
There are all kinds of reasons why a woman might not be interested in your despite your best efforts.
Here is a list:
1) She was never interested in you, only your attention
2) She’s sick
3) She’s tired
4) She had a bad day at work
5) Someone else annoyed her
6) She had a previous bad experience with someone that looked like you
If you did everything correctly and she still wasn’t interested, it was likely some external reason outside your control.
Don’t worry about it.
Understand that if you play the odds, you’ll win in the long term!
What Is A Philosophy You Recommend I Follow?
Stoicism.
Stoicism encourages that you control what you can and leave the rest alone.
When you are controlling what you can, and not trying to control everything, you can focus on what is truly important.
When you do that, you will improve your life outcomes immeasurably!
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