Lots of people email me asking questions.
A lot of them are variations of these questions.
Let me just make a list of 8 really common things women tell men and what they really mean.
This will clear the air of many frequently asked questions that I get.
Here we go!
1 – You’re A Nice Guy
If a girl ever calls you a “nice guy”, you’re fucked.
It means that she sees you as a beta.
She is NOT sexually interested in you and is likely interested in using you as a provisioning prospect later.
If you think about some previous articles I’ve written regarding how women treat betas, you know that it is a TERRIBLE place to be.
Know this:
If a girl calls you a nice guy, there isn’t much you can do to salvage it other than disappear for 6 months, no contact.
Nice guys finish last.
2 – I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You
If your girl ever says this to you it means the following:
The thrill is gone.
She no longer finds you sexually attractive, but still finds you USEFUL as a purse/butler.
If you find yourself in this position, it likely means that you have failed MANY shit tests and she now sees you as an abject beta.
You must begin to rebuild yourself to be more alpha if you are put in this position.
Here are some things you can do:
1) Stop agreeing with her so much
2) Go out with your friends without her
3) Hit the gym
4) Take up some hobby that does not include her and could have other women associated with it
If none of these things work, I’m afraid you’re SOL (shit out of luck).
The relationship is on death’s door if none of those work.
3 – I Think We Should See Other People
“I think we should see other people” means that she’s breaking up with you.
She’s just being nice about it.
Rather than telling you that she literally can’t stand to be around you anymore, she instead says something nice like this to let you off easy.
Know this:
No relationship survives the “I think we should see other people” talk.
You have likely ruined it through your actions (being beta, kissing her ass, being too agreeable, having no other options, etc.).
4 – Let’s Just Be Friends
Also known as LJBF, this expression is used by women on betas.
LJBF is used so that women can keep the beta as an orbiter, who she can use for free favours while giving him no sex.
As extra torture, she often talks to this beta about other men she’s fucking, so as to rub it in how sexually disinterested she is in him.
If a girl tells you that you should just be friends, your immediate move is to walk away and go no contact.
Message her in 6 months after improving yourself if you’re still interested in her, but by the 6 month mark, you will have likely found 1 or 2 new girls anyway, and you likely won’t care about her.
You should NEVER be a girl’s friend who says this to you.
She is USING YOU.
5 – Can We Open the Relationship?
This one is very similar to the “I love you but I’m not in love with you”.
A woman who wants to open the relationship sees you as a beta and wants some alpha dick.
She wants to use you as a purse/butler while fucking a stud on the side.
Don’t EVER allow yourself to be a butler by entering into shitty relationships for you (LTR and marriage).
If a girl asks to open the relationship, your immediate response should be to seek other women ruthlessly.
Ignore your current partner completely, and focus entirely on yourself.
Work out, and begin pursuing other women a LOT.
If you can get to the point where you have at least two women you’re fucking other than the girl that asked you to open the relationship, you can win the relationship.
Effectively, you can downgrade your ex into a FWB (friend with benefits) and continue like that.
If she’s not cool with the current arrangement (you fucking 3 women, including her), drop her.
She just wanted to use you for resources anyway.
6 – I’m Seeing Someone
When a girl tells you she’s seeing someone, what it actually means is that she’s fucking an alpha.
Only alphas “see girls”.
Betas date them.
A girl who’s “seeing someone” is VERY unlikely to want to want a new man.
They are likely in the honeymoon phase of their alpha relationship.
It is actually very difficult to sleep or date a girl who is in this phase.
Just move on to someone else.
7 – I Have a Boyfriend
When a girl tells you she has a boyfriend, it can mean one of two things:
1) She actually has a boyfriend
2) She is shit testing you to see if you have the guts to keep going regardless
In both cases, you are still likely to succeed.
You just need to respond appropriately to the statement.
Say something like:
“We just met and you already want to date me? We’re just talking.”
Say it with a smile and proper delivery and confidence and you’ll pass the shit test.
Ask for her phone number.
If she gives her phone number to you, she is likely in the market for a guy like you (a change from her boyfriend).
8 – Don’t Ever Change
If a girl tells you not to ever change, it means your current behaviour is perfectly in line with what women SAY they want.
You are reciting EXACTLY what the matriarchy wants to hear.
If a girl tells you not to ever change, it means that your behaviour is seriously wrong.
Women should want to change you and be unable to.
Women want masculine men, not whiny bitches who can’t think or act for themselves.
Conclusion
There are many statements that women make to men that don’t mean what they appear to mean on the surface.
Here is a reminder of that list again:
1) You’re a nice guy
2) I love you but I’m not in love with you
3) I think we should see other people
4) Let’s just be friends
5) Can we open the relationship?
6) I’m seeing someone
7) I have a boyfriend
8) Don’t ever change
Understanding what these common phrases mean will help you to plan your response to them in advance.
You know what is correct to do in the situation that these statements are used on you.
Learn from the wisdom of others!
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions
A Girl I Really Like Told Me I’m A Nice Guy, Am I In?
Not even close.
She is not sexually attracted to you.
You’re going to need to go no-contact for 6 months if you want any chance with this girl.
Once you re-establish contact, you’re going to need to reframe the interaction.
My Girlfriend Told Me She Thinks We Should See Other People, What Should I Do?
You should immediately begin pursuing other women and ignoring your current girl.
You should limit the time that you see your girl as much as possible.
Your goal is to establish a minimum of two other women that you regularly sleep with.
Once you have that, downgrade your current girl to a FWB.
If she isn’t ok with the new arrangement, drop her.
She only wanted to use you as a purse.
A Girl That I Really Like Told Me She Wants to Be Friends First, I Think It’s A Good Idea, What Do You Think?
It is a terrible idea to be “friends” with a girl you haven’t slept with.
She will use you for time, attention, affection and taxi services, and will fuck someone else.
She will likely torture you by telling you all the details of the men she’s fucking too.
Don’t ever let this be you!
I Tried Talking to This Girl At the Mall, and She Immediately Said She Had A Boyfriend. What Could I Have Done Differently?
Don’t worry about if she says she has a boyfriend.
You don’t know her and haven’t qualified her as relationship material yet.
Tell her that you’re just talking and not dating, so she should relax.
With the correct delivery, you’ll be fine to seduce her.
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