Many men look online for dating advice.
Most mainstream advice is garbage, and if it’s followed, will lead to your long term misery.
The reason is because most advice (especially advice for men) is female-favoured.
Let me explain the real things you need to do in order to maintain any kind of relationship with a woman.
Many of these are counterintuitive.
Off we go!
1 – Be Selfish
What the hell, Helios?
I love my girl, how dare you tell me to be selfish?
My son, selfishness is absolutely key to maintaining relationships with women.
You should always have YOURSELF as the most important thing in your life.
NO-ONE should have priority over you in your own life.
When you look out for yourself first, women will know where your boundaries lie.
They will know that trying to get you to worship them and pedestalize them will not work!
Women want a man who is superior to them (due to hypergamy).
When you put yourself first, you signal that you are superior and worthy of more attention than her.
She will be more attracted to you as a result.
2 – Keep Texting to a Minimum
DO NOT text a girl incessantly in any relationship.
A lot of attraction is based on mystery and tension.
When she knows what you’re doing and thinking at all times, the opportunity for tension and mystery vanishes.
You lose a lot of attractiveness by texting all the time.
You also, by texting all the time, sub-communicate that you have nothing better to do than text her all the time.
Obviously, this is a terrible message to send.
I recommend that you text for LOGISTICS ONLY (to meet up).
3 – Have Multiple Options
When you have multiple options, you never fear losing any individual woman.
When women feel that you are fearless to lose them, they find you much more attractive.
Of course, when you put yourself in the position of being sexually free, you are much better able to have a positive future.
You no longer worry about your next hit of dopamine from any individual woman, and so, no woman can control you.
Women want men who just get it.
You obviously get it if you’re able to hold multiple women as sexual options concurrently.
4 – Reward Good Behaviour and Punish Bad Behaviour
As I’ve said before, B.F. Skinner has probably contributed to more positive relationships than anyone else in psychology.
Skinner talks about behaviourism, and the idea that you should reward behaviour you want to see and punish bad behaviour.
As I have spoken about previously in other posts, the best way to do this is with how you give attention.
Give positive attention to good behaviour and withdraw attention in response to bad behaviour.
Women want your attention if you’re an attractive man.
This means that you have a lever you can use to get the behaviour you want out of relationships.
Firm boundaries combined with reward and punishment through your attention creates amazing behaviour.
5 – Work Out
Having an aesthetically pleasing body allows you to get your foot in the door with many more women than if you’re not.
This means that with a more attractive body you’re much more easily able to add women to your funnel.
Women find muscularity and height attractive.
Work on the masculine characteristics that are most likely to lead to your success.
Basically, women find muscles attractive for the same reason they find beards attractive.
They are signals of masculinity.
Obviously, if you’re already in a relationship with a woman, having a body that she finds attractive is amazing as she knows for sure that other women find your body attractive as well.
Competition anxiety is incredibly helpful in maintaining positive relationships with women.
6 – Have An Active Social Life
You want to be reliant on your woman as little as possible.
You need to be totally self-sufficient without her and that means that you need an active social life outside of her.
You need to have friends you spend time with and activities you do that don’t involve her.
This has the added benefit of creating extra mystery and competition anxiety.
She will always fear that you may be stolen by some other girl that you’ve possibly met elsewhere, and so she works hard in order to keep you.
Your relationship thus remains stable as she competes with the ghosts that she thinks are chasing you.
7 – Be Emotionally Unavailable
A man who is emotionally unavailable is simply unable to express emotions the way a woman is.
He is cold and women are unable to get him to open up.
As a result, women try extremely hard to convince him to.
When she is constantly working to change you, she is happy, as her emotions cycle.
Emotionally unavailable, stoic men have been attractive for thousands of years.
Do not reinvent the wheel.
Be stoic and unemotional and watch your results with women improve tenfold!
Again, women want men, not other women, so showing less emotions than women is an expression of masculinity.
Women want their emotions to cycle in relationships and so, emotionally unavailable men are extremely attractive in the long term for women, as they are men they can work to try and fix.
8 – Frame
Men who have frame are themselves no matter what anyone says or does.
A man who holds frame stays true to himself no matter what someone else says or wants.
Men who hold frame are extremely attractive and women feel safe being in their presence.
Obviously, women want to feel safe with the men they’re with and feel that they are in the presence of a rock when they see they can’t affect him no matter how hard they try!
Men who stay true to themselves are very attractive in any kind of relationship.
No matter what a woman does to try and convince you, NEVER allow her to change you from who you were at the beginning of the relationship.
It was that man she wanted to fuck.
Once you do change, she’ll replace you with another man who is exactly as you were when you began the relationship!
Conclusion
There are many things men can do in order to maintain their relationships.
Many of these things are counter-intuitive, or are the opposite of what society teaches men to do growing up.
Of course, the reason that is done is so that the matriarchy can continue to hold power over men.
Ignore the matriarchy’s advice and do the following instead:
1) Be selfish
2) Text rarely
3) Have multiple options
4) Reward good behaviour and punish the bad
5) Work out
6) Have an active social life
7) Be emotionally unavailable
8) Hold frame
By doing these things, you will assert your strong masculinity and women won’t be able to help being attracted to you!
Stay strong!
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions
What Should I Do to Maintain My Relationships With Women?
Here is a list of things to do to maintain your relationships with women:
1) Be selfish
2) Text rarely
3) Have multiple options
4) Reward good behaviour and punish the bad
5) Work out
6) Have an active social life
7) Be emotionally unavailable
8) Hold frame
Interestingly, many of these are counterintuitive.
They are often the opposite of what men have been raised to do regarding women.
These are actions that only people that “just get it” do.
Why Is It Effective Not To Text Often?
Not texting often is effective because mystery is important to all relationships.
When your girl knows exactly what you’re doing at all times, there is no more mystery.
She knows everything about you and therefore knows for SURE you are not an archetypal alpha male (which no man is).
At that point, she will replace you with a man who is more likely to be an archetypal male than you.
Why Is It Effective to Be Emotionally Unavailable?
When you are emotionally unavailable, women spend time trying to chase you.
They try to convince you to open up (which never works).
When women are working to fix you, they are happy, since their emotions are cycling between happiness and despair.
Women actually enjoy their emotions cycling from positive to negative, unlike men.
Why Is Working Out Necessary to Maintaining Relationships?
It is necessary because women find masculine men attractive.
When you are physically fit, your partner knows for sure that other women find you attractive.
She knows she has competition and will have to work to keep you.
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