Modern relationships are garbage. For men, anyway.
Modern society tries to convince men, through its culture, to engage in relationships that absolutely disfavour them.
Here is what society condones as “acceptable” relationships for men:
- Having a monogamous girlfriend
- Entering into a traditional, monogamous marriage
Both of these are trash for men, but amazing for women!
Guess what? Getting into either of these relationship styles will absolutely lead to misery in your future.
Ask me how I know.
Anyway, here’s why…
Hard Truth 1 – Biological Difference in Sex Drives
On average, women have a lower sex drive than men. Ask any scientist who knows biology and they’ll tell you that.
Guess what that means? On average, men are dissatisfied sexually in a monogamous relationship!
But Helios, my girlfriend is breaking my dick off, we’re having so much sex!
Yeah, for now.
All relationships in the honeymoon phase have dick-breaking sex. At least all of the relationships that are worth being in.
That’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about when the honeymoon phase is done. (By the way, the honeymoon phase can last anywhere between 3 months and 3 years, but no longer.)
Mark my words, when the honeymoon phase is done, there is not one male out there in a monogamous relationship that is 100% sexually satisfied.
Men may lie and say that their girlfriend is amazing in bed, or whatever, but I guarantee she is denying him sex on a regular basis. Ask him behind closed doors, away from prying ears, and see what he says.
The truth hurts, but life simply is how it is.
Because of beta-ization, sex slows down over time, or drops to near zero in monogamous relationships. Ask any married man how much sex he’s having after 3 years of marriage. I guarantee you it’s not a lot. This is doubly or triply true if he already has kids.
The normal response from men to this is twofold:
- Grit his teeth and bear it
- Cheat
What if I told you there’s a better way? There most certainly is! (It’s called non-monogamy)
This is in complete contrast to women!
In monogamous relationships, women have their sex drives satisfied. They have the guaranteed commitment of one guy, who they see as a superior match, and so their hypergamy is satisfied. They also have all the sex they desire, as their sex drive is lower, and most men can satisfy that drive.
This brings me to the second hard truth…
Hard Truth 2 – Frame Weakness Due to Lack of Sexual Options
Women that have you in a monogamous relationship have you in a precarious position.
They have sole control over your ability to have sex.
Men, on average, have a higher sex drive than women. This means that, on average, she’ll deny you sex in a monogamous arrangement.
We know that women are cyclical, she will not always want sex as you do.
Here is the key:
Once she knows that you need sex, and you’re only getting it from her, she’s going to start pushing on your frame, because she knows she can.
“Those with power, use that power”.
She’s going to start demanding things she would never have demanded when she knew you could easily walk away. Of course, a man can’t easily walk away from constant access to sex.
You never want to put yourself in a position where your access to sex is threatened if you don’t listen to the orders or demands of another person.
But that is exactly the position you put yourself in when you get into any kind of monogamous relationship.
Over time, you begin to do things that you consider to be demeaning, whatever they may be, and you do these things just because you know that your girl could deny you sex if you don’t comply.
Some might say that you should argue and correct your girl’s behaviour if she starts to push on your frame.
Personally, I hate argument even more than I hate sexual denial. I absolutely hate being forced to argue with a woman because I know that if I let her push my frame a certain way she’ll lose sexual attraction to me, and I, my entire access to sex.
There is a better strategy than this, and that is holding the power to always walk away.
If you hold multiple women as options, the second you see her pushing on your frame in a rude way, you can excuse yourself from the situation and ghost her for a week. She’ll correct her behaviour, trust me.
It is very hard to walk away from a monogamous relationship. This goes triple for a marriage.
It is easy to walk away from a FWB (friend with benefits) or NMG (non-monogamous girlfriend) relationship. Your other options are right in front of you, easily accessed the second you walk away.
Never let yourself be monogamous, or you’ll quickly find yourself as just another beta slave!
Guess what happens when you’re her beta slave? You’re done. She’ll replace you with you, the guy she fell in lust with originally.
Hard Truth 3 – Some Women Let Themselves Go Physically When They Know They Have You
I’m sure many of you have encountered this.
You get into a relationship with a beautiful girl, you go through life’s ups and downs together, you can’t see yourself with anyone else.
Suddenly, your partner has gained 50 pounds and now you’re just not sexually attracted anymore.
They don’t want to leave you, they still love you, but they’re ugly now! And you just hate it, because if they only were a little lighter, you would be fine.
There are many excuses, to which I reply: calories in vs calories out. Also, it really upsets me that some women do this.
No one will tell you the real truth, and here it is:
They do it because they got comfortable! They knew they had you, and they thought that they could get away with it!
Imagine this same scenario in a marriage!
If a girl gets comfortable and refuses to sleep with you in a marriage, you’re screwed. If you leave, you have to pay alimony and child support to a land-whale. Alternatively, you could stay, and never have sex again.
Amazing choices.
I have no idea why people get married monogamously. Stupid.
Again, when a girl thinks she has you, and believe me she knows she has you when you’re traditionally monogamously married, she starts to feel like she can do anything.
Believe me, with the power of the government behind her, she can. You have no recourse at this point. If you decide to get traditionally monogamously married, you’re done.
With TMM (traditional monogamous marriage) you have just signed yourself up to a life of misery, pain and constant stupid arguments over dumb shit that you can’t say no to, as your sexual access and money is held at threatpoint.
If you truly had a choice, would you really be with a 400 pound woman? Really? Knowing that with agency, it could be changed? I know my answer, and I think you know yours too.
Oh, another thing.
The way laws are now, if you live with a girl for 24 months you’re considered married in some places. You sure you want that?
Hard Truth 4 – Divorce, Alimony and Child Support
If you ever get married traditionally to a girl, she automatically holds huge power over you. This is because of the institution of divorce.
When a marriage breaks, the girl is entitled to half your shit, even if you made more money than her. Even if she was the reason the marriage ended.
She is entitled to have money be paid to her so that she can maintain the same lifestyle as she had before she was divorced. You think you receive this?
Any kids? They also need to be paid for.
Needless to say, many men become destitute after divorce.
They have no money, as multiple income streams are redirected from them to the women that they stupidly married traditionally, no prenup.
If you agree to a marriage, you sign your life on the dotted line. From that point on, you are yoked to that woman, forced to pull her oxcart, forever. Or at least for ~20 years, a cool quarter of the human lifespan.
Even when she leaves you and sleeps with some other guy (and believe me, she will, all humans get bored eventually), you’re still pulling her oxcart.
You want to be a slave forever? Sign on the dotted line!
Many men are rudderless and believe that only marriage and children can give their lives meaning. And the marriage they need to have has to be exactly the one that their parents had, no exceptions!
Obviously this is stupid, but it doesn’t stop the average NPC from making that decision.
Ultimately, I can’t do anything to force your hand, but I’m telling you not to get married.
Any intelligent man, nay, any intelligent being wanting to get married when these ridiculous laws are against them is either willfully ignorant or lacks a sense of self-preservation.
It is fitting that the act of getting on one knee is the ritual for marriage. A man has to prostrate himself before his new god, forever.
Summary About the 4 Hard Truths of Modern Relationships
To recap, the relationships that we are taught to participate in and are praised for are the following, both of which are terrible for men:
- Having a monogamous girlfriend
- Entering into a traditional, monogamous marriage
Traditional relationships (monogamous LTR and monogamous marriage) are terrible for multiple reasons, mostly stemming from a lack of options and the disrespect that that generates in the woman.
I hope that this article has imposed upon you some truths about why the traditionally toted modern relationships are to be avoided at all costs.
Ultimately, it is upon our shoulders to make better decisions for ourselves and our future.
Life is not fair, deal with it!
-Helios
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