You walk into a room and you notice a man standing in the centre. He is well dressed and tall. His broad shoulders are impossible to hide.
He speaks with confidence and the crowd near him hangs on his every word. He effortlessly commands attention and respect through his mere presence. He bows to no one.
This is the Alpha Male.
Or should I say Chad?
Men want to be him and women want to be with him.
But what are the elusive qualities that Alpha Males possess?
Can you get them?
Here’s something people don’t tell you:
Alphas are made, not born.
Embody the qualities of an alpha, and congratulations, nothing more is required in order to sleep with as many women as you like.
You will, however, need some relationship management to reduce potential drama.
Here they are…
The 4 Qualities that Alphas Possess
- Physical Attractiveness
- Outcome Independence
Every man has each of these qualities to some degree, but they are not as well developed as they are in the traditional alpha male.
Your job is to build each of these qualities in yourself so that you too may join the elusive top 20% of masculinity.
Let’s talk a little about each one, shall we?
- Physical Attractiveness
All alpha males are at least somewhat physically attractive. Usually they are tall, but not always.
I will not lie to you, if you are under 5’10 as a male in any western country, you are going to struggle with height.
You are going to have to work even harder than a taller man to have the results they have.
Life is unfair, deal with it!
Physical attractiveness is extremely important to any seducer, and if you want to embody the qualities of an alpha male, it is an absolute necessity for you to work on your physical attractiveness.
Here are some things to work on:
- Clothing choice and style:
You should be well dressed at all times, and have a suitable style for your height and build.
Pick a style and stick with it.
Many blogs on pinterest have amazing pictures of styles you can go for.
Try any of those that you think may suit you.
- Muscle mass:
You must have above average muscle mass for your country. This means that you need to beat out at least 80% of the male population in your country.
To do this is relatively simple, but not easy. It requires constant effort in the gym, or in a martial arts/boxing dojo of your choice.
Luckily for you, the western world is in a state of decay and most men are trash. They are easily beaten if you put in the effort.
It needs to be constant effort, however, and heavy.
I would recommend at least 4x per week. If you have never lifted weights before, try stronglifts 5×5.
The compound exercises there will help you make gains very quickly and you’ll see improvement and results within a few months.
You should either lift weights or train martial arts a minimum of 4 times per week. It should be so intense that you can barely move when you’re done.
- Fighting ability:
I believe that every alpha male should know how to fight.
This means that you need to train in some sort of martial art.
The confidence this will give you is enormous, and will change your life in incredible ways (it did for me).
Try muay thai, filipino martial arts, traditional western boxing, brazilian jiu jitsu or greco roman wrestling.
I would also put rugby in the martial arts category, even though it is a “sport”.
Personally, I did and still do filipino martial arts.
You should either lift weights or train martial arts a minimum of 4 times per week.
It should be so intense that you can barely move when you’re done. You need to join a good class/gym to get this in the case of martial arts.
Don’t try to grow facial hair you don’t have.
Clean up your beard and hair. Use products depending on your hair type.
If you are balding, shave your head. Jason Statham is extremely attractive and he’s balding..
Buy cologne that works with your sweat.
Try a few different kinds and see how women react to your smell.
If you get complimented by the women you want to and actually are sleeping with, it’s a good sign.
- Controlling your food consumption and its quality:
Want to be an effective seducer well into middle or even old age?
The only way to do that is with both constant exercise and good nutrition.
You don’t want to be dying preemptively just because you couldn’t control the crap you were putting in your mouth.
Believe me when I tell you that if you do all of the things in the attractiveness category, you’re going to get laid like you wouldn’t believe with very little effort (though you still need game).
Physical attractiveness gets your foot in the door. Game slams it open, throws the woman on the bed, and makes her body contort in ecstasy.
Game is the essence of seduction.
Game is water in the desert.
Many of you struggle now.
Know this: once you know game, you will struggle far less.
It is almost impossible to describe how much less the struggle is once you understand game.
Game is the ability to know women so well, that you act instinctively and confidently in a manner that leads to you sex.
Your actions are based on your knowledge and experience of womankind. With game, you know how women work and women will tell you that you “just get it”.
Game involves four key things:
- Speaking girl/womanese (or at least understanding it):
Many women speak in such a way as to be evasive.
Their true motives and motivations are almost always hidden.
They speak to gain power, and hide from attack.
Sound different from the way men speak? You bet!
A good rule of thumb is to always add “right now” to what a woman is saying.
Also, you should watch their actions and not their words.
Many women will say that they want one thing, only to act in a completely contrary way later.
Their actions are the only reliable indicator of anything. Explaining this in more detail will require an entire post.
Your frame is the way you see the world. You are to hold this no matter what anyone says or does to attack it.
Many women will purposely attack your worldview just to see if it crumbles.
If it does, you’re gone.
You’re not an alpha if your worldview can be easily swayed by some little words.
A good frame to have is one of non-judgment. You don’t care if a girl has a large sexual past, or if she wants to sleep with multiple men.
Another good frame is a non-needy, sexual frame.
This means that you acnowledge that you are an intensely sexual being, but you don’t need sex from any individual girl.
You don’t break frame even if she leaves you.
Some women will leave you just to see if you chase.
If you chase, they never come back. Fucked up, huh?
- Passing shit tests:
Many women will purposely try and get you off balance with their words or their actions, just to see how you react.
If you ever become needy, chase, or show needless anger, you’re gone.
An alpha doesn’t get swayed by dumb bullshit.
When you aren’t swayed, attraction increases.
- Sexual ability/sexual confidence:
Once you actually have a girl in a one-on-one situation and you’re isolated because of your excellent logistics, can you seal the deal with confidence?
Can you fuck the girl like it’s your last day on Earth?
Do you make her cum every time you have sex?
Obviously, women will keep coming back for more if they enjoy you sexually, double that if you’re also attractive on top of being sexually capable.
That’s the stuff dreams are made of!
Game is probably the most important skill on this list.
If you don’t meet women’s benchmark for physical attractiveness, however, you’ll never get the chance to use it.
Keep that in mind.
- Outcome Independence
Outcome independence is not giving a damn one way or another.
Outcome independence means you embody this idea:
“If there is one, there is more than one”
This means that you don’t care about being rejected by that one girl.
You know there are a hundred more around the corner.
You don’t care if one of your FWB’s stops seeing you, you have two more waiting in the wings.
You understand that all relationships are temporary and you don’t try to force someone to stay with you.
You have such a full and busy life that it doesn’t matter really what happens with that one girl or that one situation.
You have the skillset to get more and you don’t worry about the loss of any individual. When you have outcome independence mastered, you have an aura about you that is irresistible.
No individual can shake you and no person can control you. You are truly free when you have true outcome independence.
When you are truly outcome independent, women will flock to you like moths to a flame.
They will not understand why they’re so attracted, even though you don’t do everything they want.
Sometimes, your actions even hurt them emotionally, since you aren’t kissing their ass every second.
But they return. And you don’t care when they return, or even if they return, since you have options.
Options are power.
What do all women say they want? A confident man.
This one is an actual truism, somehow, even though many women say it (a lot of things that some women say are in fact deliberate lies)
Ultimately, if you don’t believe in yourself, no one will.
Confidence is believing in yourself. You must truly believe, with all your heart that you are a strong, powerful man.
Don’t believe it?
Try doing all the things above, and see how you feel about yourself.
Personally, once I started developing every aspect of myself and seeing how much better I became than the NPCs around me, confidence, even arrogance, was easy.
You are fully capable of achieving all of these things. It is not done for free though.
These things take work, effort, dedication, struggle and grit.
Even attempting to improve one of these categories will make you more of an alpha, as you struggle through the reality of the difficulties of life.
Confidence and determination to succeed are incredibly important in our life.
Life is hard, but you must be determined to succeed regardless. Persevere and success will come.
You can display confidence by being the best version of yourself and holding true to that even if people try to tear you down.
Making jokes when people try to tear you down is also a display of confidence.
As you begin your journey of improvement, the crabs-in-a-bucket types around you will try to pull you down.
When you hold frame in the face of this, you are a confident man indeed!
Remember the 4 qualities of an alpha male!
- Physical Attractiveness
- Outcome Independence
Work on yourself to embody those qualities as best you can!
Success is inevitable if you have these qualities.