Many men fall prey to oneitis.
It is a common condition.
Societal programming is incredibly strong, after all…
Oneitis is responsible for the misery that many men experience in their lives, especially beta men.
What if I told you that there is a way to get rid of oneitis, and to prevent it altogether?
Would that be something you’d be interested in?
If you are, read on…
Part 1- Oneitis Explained
1- What is Oneitis
Oneitis is defined as the thought that one specific girl is special.
That she’s different and better than the rest.
That she’s your one and only and without her, you’ll never be happy.
That she’s the one that got away.
She’ll be the mother of your children and future wife.
She’s an angel and the embodiment of everything you love about women, with none of the downsides.
She’s your fantasy come to life.
Oneitis is a powerful falsehood, created by societal programming and disney in order to brainwash you into doing stupid things (like commiting to just one girl in a relationship).
2 – How Do I Know I Have Oneitis?
Many men want to know if they have oneitis. It is a relationship wrecker, after all.
Think you have it?
If one or several of the items on this checklist apply to you, you definitely have it:
- You start to consider her for all the Disney things (traditional monogamous marriage, traditional girlfriend, etc.)
- You think that the rules don’t apply to her.
- You believe that you can behave however you like and she’ll still be with you.
- You think she’s special and different.
- You drop your other girls for her.
- You do everything you can to please her.
- You message her all the time, even though you don’t normally do that.
- You think about her all the time.
Oneitis is probably the worst thing that can happen to a man.
It rocks the foundation of your masculine frame and threatens to ruin you permanently if you don’t address it!
It is very important to identify if you’re experiencing oneitis.
Try these tips if you believe you’re suffering from it…
Part 2 – How to Be Unaffected By Oneitis
1 – Be Outcome Independent
Probably the most helpful thing a man could do to improve the rest of his life is to understand and apply the concept of outcome independence.
This is the idea that you don’t care about this one particular outcome.
You care about the big picture.
One girl doesn’t matter, your ability to seduce women (plural) matters.
One social situation or date doesn’t matter, you want to get better in general at dealing with social situations or dates.
You understand that failure and pain are a part of life, and you embrace that.
You take pain and rejection on the chin, knowing that it is an important aspect to your life and growth.
You suffer for the final goal, and don’t worry about the failures along the way.
You have internalized the concept of:
“It’s not over until I win”.
I can’t stress enough how important it is to think about the big picture and not individuals on your path to success.
The only way to get better with women and with anything in life, really, is to suffer and struggle.
Repeat this to yourself over and over:
This particular situation doesn’t matter, my ability to deal with this situation in general matters. I need to practice in order to get there. I understand that I will struggle along the way. I’m OK with this.
When you understand that you’re going to screw up with women, you understand that no one woman can control your path to greatness.
There is no one special woman who will solve all of your girl problems.
What will solve your girl problems is your masculine ability to struggle and fight in order to be great.
You’re going to meet great girls on this path. None of them will be an angelic perfect girl who’s not like the rest. They are all flawed, as you are.
Internalize this and don’t hate that the world is the way it is.
You didn’t get to choose the world you were born into, you simply must adapt to the cards you’ve been dealt.
Your life will improve immeasurably once you’ve internalized these facts!
2 – Be Non-Monogamous
Non-monogamy is defined as never committing to one girl whole-heartedly.
You might like, or even love one girl more than the rest, but you still have girls on the side.
In fact, I would say that for many men, they are unable to love multiple women at once. They can only love one.
Of course, nearly every man is able to and in fact wants to sleep with many women simultaneously.
Love and lust are two different things.
Lust, unfortunately cannot be ignored, no matter what other women or books tell us.
Non-monogamy helps to prevent oneitis because as you become more experienced with women, you realize that they’re all flawed, like you are.
There is no disney princess angel out there. There are only flawed women, some less flawed than others.
It is perfectly alright for some women to be in the running for a more serious relationship with you, while others are less qualified.
It is perfectly allowed for you to have a serious, non-monogamous relationship with a girl.
Just don’t have any illusions about the fact that she’s human, like you.
When you’re realistic about your relationships and what to expect from a partner, you’re much more likely to have an enjoyable relationship full of peace.
When that relationship no longer serves your needs, you can end it amicably.
Oneitis prevents all of this.
I want you to have a life full of love, sex and peace.
Don’t you?
Non-monogamy is the way!
3 – Have A Well-Rounded, Full-Life
When I say that you should have a well rounded life, here is what I mean you should cover:
- You should have your living expenses covered and have a space of your own
- You should have some way of getting food and paying for it
- You should have some sort of job or mission in life that you enjoy and that brings income
- You should have a hobby, or hobbies that make you happy
- You should have friends that make you happy
- You should exercise regularly and intensely (a minimum of 4x per week)
- You should have multiple women that you’re having sex with who make you happy
- You should spend time with your family relatively regularly and have a good relationship with them (if you can)
Notice how many things there are on this list!
Women are not the only thing that makes a man happy!
Oneitis is the false belief that a woman can fill all the holes in your life. That there exists one special girl who is the solution to all of your problems.
The reality is that the solution to your problems lies in solving ALL of the things in the above list.
Getting a girl you really like only really solves number 7 (and not even that, as one sole girl being your source of sex will make you miserable in the long term).
A complete, well-rounded life will make you happy and fulfilled as you realize that you have huge potential and impact on many spheres of existence.
If you haven’t attempted to solve all of the above points on the list, you’re really missing out on a lot of what life has to offer.
I want you to live a full, exciting, engaging life full of love and happiness.
No girl is going to give you that. Women will add to it, that’s for sure. But give you every happiness imaginable?
That’s a ridiculous falsehood perpetuated by people that are trying to sell you a dream, and not reality.
Work on all aspects of your life and watch as incredible things you never imagined happen to you!
Conclusion
Oneitis is the false belief that one woman can solve all your problems. It is the belief that there is one special girl out there who is a perfect angel that was made just for you.
That is a falsehood, being used to trick you into becoming a beta slave.
You can prevent oneitis by the following things:
- Outcome independence
- Non-monogamy
- Living a well-rounded full life
The road to happiness exists for all people willing to walk it. It simply requires effort and dedication that the average person lacks.
Are you willing to live a life of quiet desperation just because other people are doing it too, or are you willing to suffer in order to rise above the bullshit?
Ultimately, the decision is yours.
Godspeed!
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions:
Helios, I Just Slept With a 19 Year Old Virgin From My Culture Who Says She Loves Me And Has Good Parents, Is She Different?
She may be more compatible with you. I’d consider making her a non-monogamous girlfriend (NMG) to start!
Is she a perfect little angel with no flaws who will solve all your problems and give you all the sex you require as an alpha male?
No.
There’s This One Special Girl, Who’s Not Like the Rest, Can I Date Her?
As a non-monogamous girlfriend (NMG), yes!
As a monogamous girlfriend (GF), hell no!
This is literally a post about oneitis, come on man…
Isn’t The Whole Point Of Game To Be Able To Find That One Special Girl?
There is no one special girl.
Get a roster of 3 special girls that you like in different ways, all of whom you sleep with.
Come back to me when you’ve done it and tell me how you feel.
Happy? I thought so!
Helios, There’s This One Girl, And She’s So Hot, And I’ve Slept With Her! I Want To Drop My Other Girls, This One Is So Much Better!
NEVER drop your other options, even if you have what you think is a superior one.
When she leaves you out of frustration that you’re not her little beta bitch, you’ll thank me.
Don’t be monogamous, dude.
I Want That Girl Over There Who I’ve Wanted Her Since I Was A Young Man. Will Practising The Things Here Get Me Sex With Her?
Maybe, but probably not.
If a girl knew you since you were a kid, she’ll likely never see you as a sexual prospect.
That’s a part of human biology, I’m afraid.
Go for a girl who reminds you of her that you didn’t grow up with!
You’ll be happy you did 🙂
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