Let’s be honest, a lot of men struggle with game.
Or are new to it.
If either of these things apply to you, then don’t worry, that’s what this guide is for!
Try applying the things here, and see your results improve with not much effort.
Of course, life is not all easy.
You are still going to be rejected, especially at the beginning if you are first trying these techniques.
Fear not, however, you can succeed with enough practise!
1 – Do Not Compliment!
A lot of men struggle with women because they are quickly put into the friendzone.
You want to know why that is?
It is because men compliment women too much!
I would say that you NEVER compliment a woman on her appearance, and especially never do it if you haven’t yet slept with her twice.
If you do compliment a woman’s appearance, it instantly pushes the beta button.
Give a woman enough beta tells and you’re in the friendzone.
If you have an abundance mentality, you’ll never feel the need to compliment a woman, as you know that you’re doing women a favour by being with them.
Women sense and desire a strong male to be with them. It is very easy to come off as weak if you are constantly complimenting her.
She should be complimenting you!
2 – On Dates, Lean Back
A man who is confident does not feel the need to lean in on dates, or ever, really.
He is relaxed, taking up as much space as possible.
Women want to be with a man who is confident in his own skin.
You think someone who is confident leans in?
Leaning in subcommunicates that you need something from the other person.
Do you need something from this girl in particular? No!
If you consider the space you’re in as truly yours, you’ll relax and lean into it. That’s what you should be doing.
Lean back and take up as much space as possible!
Just project your voice more if the place is loud that you’re in.
Don’t worry if this girl doesn’t work out!
There will be more where that came from…
3 – Always Carry Yourself With An Upright, Confident Posture
You know how I’m always saying that you should work out, or train at some kind of martial arts gym?
Well, training constantly will improve your posture.
Make sure that as you train, you work on your core, especially.
A strong core will give you an amazing, confident posture.
Carrying yourself in an upright manner like that will cause you to feel more confident!
Women will appreciate it too.
Here are three good rules of thumb for proper posture:
- Imagine that you’re squeezing a popcan between your shoulder blades. This will give you that nice puffed out chest look and will un-slump your shoulders.
- Stare 1000 metres ahead. You should not be looking at the floor as you walk, but straight out in front of you.
- You should feel your core and your back engaged as you’re standing in proper posture.
Try holding your body in this posture for a whole day. What you’ll notice is that you immediately feel more confident!
Also, if you have a gut, standing in an upright posture will hide some of it.
Obviously if you’re trying to seduce women, you shouldn’t have a gut and should be working towards losing it!
4 – Assume the Sale
Seduction is kind of like sales.
You’re trying to sell yourself as well as possible.
Obviously, if the product you’re trying to sell is yourself, you should believe that the product you have is good.
Believe in yourself and assume that others will like you for you as well!
There are many women out there that would love to meet and be seduced by you!
Don’t be discouraged that one specific girl isn’t interested!
We have to follow the adage:
“If you don’t believe in yourself, then who will?”.
Ultimately, it is up to you to have the confidence to believe in yourself.
When you feel it, the women you’re interested in will feel it as well!
This will improve your results greatly!
5 – Speak In A More Masculine Way
Having a masculine, confident voice will help you greatly in your quest for seduction!
Here are a few things to do to make your voice sound more masculine and to help you project it:
- Try to speak in your lower range:
Listen to your own voice, and actively try to lower the tone that you speak in. You’ll see that it is in fact possible for you to speak a little lower than you currently do.
- Speak slower:
Rather than rushing to say everything, slow down. If you slow the speed of your speech by about 20%, you’ll sound a lot more calm and confident.
- Put pauses in your speech:
When you’re speaking to someone, instead of saying “uh”, stop speaking for the entire time it takes you to think.
This pregnant pause will make the things you say more compelling to listen to!
If you’re speaking with a group and you know they’re listening, purposely pause before you say the thing you wanted to say.
You’ll feel them hang on your words! Very alpha 🙂
- Try to project your voice from your diaphragm:
You want your voice to resonate with the help of your diaphragm! As you talk, put your hand over your chest.
If your chest is vibrating as you talk, you’re projecting properly.
If your chest is not vibrating, it likely means you’re projecting through your nose.
Practise speaking from your chest and not your nose.
- Take a deep breath before you talk and breathe deeply in general:
Taking a deep breath before you speak gives you the air to be able to project your voice the way you want to.
You’ll be able to generate a booming alpha voice this way.
Practise all of these tips and you’ll quickly see a different voice come out of you, one that is much more masculine!
You’re welcome 🙂
6 – On Your First Date With A Girl, Break the Touch Barrier
When you’re out on your first date with a girl, you need to break the touch barrier.
You start with places that are the least intimate first, and then as you both feel more comfortable, you move on to slightly more intimate places.
Helios, how do I know when I should break the touch barrier?
When you feel like things are going well in your conversation, you can throw some touching in the mix!
Here are the least intimate places for touch:
- Left or right shoulder
- Upper back
- Outside of hand
Here are slightly more intimate places to touch:
- Lower back
- Hands/fingers
- Hips
You’re not going to go for any real intimate touching on the first date, as it is not a good strategy.
Many women will feel slutty if you are too intimate too early and it will ruin your plans for getting a friend with benefits (FWB) later!
Instead, try to build rapport and break the touch barrier with the above areas.
You’ll be more intimate on the second date!
7 – Disagree With Her More
A lot of beta men struggle with being too much of a doormat.
Betas agree with everything the girl says, kiss her ass and her attraction drops like a stone.
The truth is that disagreement does not hurt your chances of getting laid.
An argument definitely will (before you’ve slept with her twice), but not disagreement.
You need to be your own man and stand strong.
There should be certain things you believe in that no matter what anyone says, you’ll never budge on.
Being a strong man is extremely attractive and disagreement hints that you’re strong.
You’re not going to agree with everything another person says.
That’s fine!
Don’t get into a shouting contest over it though!
Please don’t interpret this as me saying that you should insult women.
An insulted woman will not fuck you!
Build rapport, but disagree when you truly do! You’ll be respected for it.
Respect does get a man laid!
Conclusion
Many men struggle, especially beta men, with game.
The tips I have given you will help you greatly in that regard.
To summarize, here are the 7 things you can do to improve your game instantly:
- Do not compliment
- Lean back
- Carry yourself with an upright, confident posture
- Assume the sale
- Modulate your voice
- Break the touch barrier
- Disagree more
Practice these and also see my guide on starting from scratch!
Good luck!
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions:
I Think She’s So Beautiful, Should I Tell Her?
Hell no!
She’s been told from when she was a little girl that she’s beautiful.
You wanna be her doormat or her lover?
I Can’t Really Hear Her, What Do I Do?
Don’t lean in!
Tell her to speak up, or move closer!
Alphas lean back 🙂
I’m Slouching, Will That Stop Me From Getting Laid?
It sure as hell won’t help!
Practice carrying yourself with an upright posture!
Train martial arts or go to the gym!
Working on your core will improve your posture.
An ergonomic chair may help too…
I Have A Lot of Trouble Getting Laid On the Second Date, What Gives?
You’re probably not breaking the touch barrier on the first date!
Try breaking it when you know the conversation is going super well!
Start with a non-intimate place like her upper back or shoulder, then touch her hands later.
Comparing hand sizes is a fun one I do all the time, try it!
I Think Something She Said Is Stupid, Should I Agree Anyway?
Don’t tell her you think it’s stupid, but definitely disagree.
Showing her you have a backbone will help get you laid!
Ask me how I know.
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