It is a terrible time in all of our lives when a girl we trust betrays us.
We thought she would be our one and only, that special girl to beat all others, and she turned out to be just like the rest.
We vow to never let it happen to us again.
Then we get with a new girl and EXACTLY the same thing happens.
Most men just blame it on the girl and repeat the same mistakes for the rest of their lives.
What if I told you that the problem lies not with the women cheating on you, but with you?
That’s right.
It’s your fault.
Here’s why…
Why Did She Cheat on Me?
Women cheat on men for many reasons.
They’re bored. They’re frustrated.
They’ve been with a man for too long.
The man was a total doormat and let the girl walk all over him.
The guy was an alpha and absolutely refused to budge on anything.
She saw a hot guy on tinder and just wanted to try a no-strings thing.
I have a secret for you.
There is no special girl who isn’t like this.
Women are human.
Allow me to explain…
Don’t Think of It As Cheating, Think of It As Human
Humans want sex with multiple partners in the long term.
Women are human.
This means that if a woman stays with you for long enough, they will want sex with someone other than you.
It is exactly the same thing for men.
If you leave men for long enough, no MATTER HOW GOOD their partner is, they STILL want to sleep with other women.
What this means is that fundamentally, humans are not monogamous.
This means that the issue was not the person, but the nature of the promises made that were the problem.
You expected her to be monogamous with you because she promised. Then, she turned out to be human.
You shouldn’t blame her, you should blame your expectations that she would be perfect.
Let me explain a bit about female nature to you now…
Hypergamy
In general, women are hypergamous.
This means that they want the best partner.
The problem is that “the best” is subjective to them.
Who “the best” person is changes over time, and with a woman’s mood.
What this leads to is serial monogamy in women.
They stay with one partner for a while (up to 3 years), and then some problem comes up that leads them to not believe that their partner is the best anymore.
They will then see another as the best, and want to move on.
This does not mean that they necessarily move on instantly after the 3 year period has passed, simply that the honeymoon period is over.
Men usually report an increase in bad behaviour from women at this point in the relationship, and sex is usually denied, if not rarely, then occasionally.
The problem is further exascerbated until the man and woman are having no sex at all.
This is less of a problem for the woman than for the man, as men usually have higher sex drives than women.
As a result, men tend to suffer in long monogamous relationships.
Monogamy
Monogamy does tend to work for women in the short term (and sometimes for men as well, in rare beta cases).
Monogamy is defined as being with only one partner exclusively.
Often monogamy manifests in women as sleeping with only one partner and keeping a few others on the backburner.
It does NOT, however, work in the long term.
It doesn’t matter if you’re the “best boyfriend in the world” (which usually to women just means you’re an amazing doormat-beta to them), or if you’re “the worst” (which usually to women means that you’re a hot alpha who refuses to bend).
They will inevitably want to fuck another partner.
Some women, then just cheat on their partner while staying in the relationship (for the other benefits).
Others break up with their man and immediately try fucking another man, a guy who they already had on the backburner.
This is why being her beta bitch boyfriend (or her “yes, dear” husband) doesn’t work in the long term.
It is ALSO why being “alpha” and “holding frame” as they say in the manosphere doesn’t work either.
You WILL INEVITABLY be cheated on or left if you’re with a woman monogamously for long enough.
It is simply human nature and NOT your fault.
What IS your fault is agreeing to be monogamous.
Once you know a certain relationship strategy doesn’t work, you shouldn’t use it.
Women’s Cyclical Nature
Women have a cyclical nature. Men do not, they have a more linear nature.
Just read literature or do your own observations if you want proof of this.
As a result, women’s emotions change over time and they enjoy this (whereas men generally hate it when their emotions are fluctuating greatly).
The sad implication of this is that every relationship a woman is in is doomed from the beginning.
They are doomed to either break up, or tire and endure the relationship only to finally cheat out of boredom.
Here are the two ways that women’s cyclical nature applies to relationships:
Option 1:
Women will often be sexually attracted to an alpha man at first.
They will lose their virginity to him, or if they are already sexually active, leave their partner for him.
They will be sexually exclusive to him and promptly shit test him to try and change him.
If he bends to all of her shit testing over time, he is molded into a beta.
She is happy with the beta for a while, after all, beta men kiss her ass and tell her she’s perfect.
Nothing lasts forever.
She tires of the beta she’s created and leaves, replacing him with another alpha, often one who was EXACTLY like the one she just left when their relationship first started.
She then repeats the cycle.
Option 2:
Women are initially sexually attracted to an alpha man and sleep with him.
She becomes sexually exclusive and shit tests him to try and change him (nothing different so far).
He absolutely refuses to bend to her will.
Her attraction skyrockets, and she doubles her efforts to tame him.
He still refuses.
Finally, after a certain amount of time, she tires of his stubbornness.
She finds the closest beta and leaves the alpha for him.
She spends some time with the beta, and tires of him.
She then remembers the alpha that refused to bend and returns to him, repeating the pattern.
This cycle continues for years.
Unfortunately, you only have the choice to be one of the men in these two scenarios (the tamed alpha or the stubborn alpha).
Notice how neither of them end up with her being with you forever, but in scenario two, she keeps coming back to you over and over.
I recommend you try and be the man in option 2 (the stubborn alpha), for your own long-term happiness.
Marriage Doesn’t Work
Obviously, as you can see implied from the two above scenarios, marriage doesn’t work.
The girl will inevitably tire of you (whether you’re a good-for-women (beta) husband or an asshole-for-women (alpha) husband).
She then explodes your life (for different reasons of course).
DON’T GET MARRIED!
There’s a reason why people in marriages (especially men) are miserable in divorce.
It is entirely because of human nature!
The man is often at fault as well, but I’m showing you why women tire of men due to their nature in this article.
Funnily, once the man is out of the marriage, he experiences a happiness unlike what he has felt in his whole life, and often comes out better emotionally, often catapulting him to alpha status in the eyes of his ex-wife who then wants him back.
Of course, at this point, the man is usually with a woman he considers “better” than his ex-wife (simply a woman who hasn’t denied him sex yet), and so he denies his ex-wife.
I’m sure you’ve seen “successful” marriages.
Marriages than in your eyes are working because the couple hasn’t broken up yet.
What you’ll find, however, is that behind closed doors, outside of the public eye, they are often miserable, experiencing the problems I have pointed out above.
It is rarely a “happy” marriage after the three year (honeymoon) mark.
Oh, and another thing…
Incentives for Divorce
Not only do most women tire of marriage, they are INCENTIVIZED to do so!
Divorce gives alimony!
Alimony is money paid to the ex-wife to maintain her in the lifestyle she had before divorce.
It is payment for the privilege of having been married to the woman. It is ridiculous, frankly.
Obviously the man suffers as a result.
Child support is a different story, it does make sense for the man to pay money for the children he has made.
Since women are incentivized to divorce, they do so, and often!
The rate of divorce has increased from 50%, and 50% is already nuts.
It just goes to show, paying people to leave other people is probably not the best way to promote them staying together in the long term.
It in fact promotes women only to stay as long as they are HAPPY in a marriage (1-3 years), or maybe if you’re lucky 7 years.
But what about children Helios? Isn’t marriage the best way to have children? You need a stable, two parent household!
If you want to have children, have them!
Live with the woman in a serious relationship (in a place where common-law marriage is not a thing) and have children with her in a house/apartment where the property is in your name.
Before the children, have a parenting plan already in place signed by a notary.
Do not share finances and do not get married to her!
When the inevitable split happens, you pay child support (but NO ALIMONY) and go your separate ways, each taking the things you owned before being together.
Much more clean and less of a hassle for both of you.
NO marriage. You also HAVE a stable, two-parent household for as long as you both want it.
You should be non-monogamous in this arrangement, and so should your partner.
Non-monogamy
It is extremely important for a man to keep his balls in any relationship.
He does this by never being monogamous.
NEVER commit to only one girl.
I recommend that you always have a roster of at least three women that you’re sleeping with regularly.
This way, if one leaves for whatever reason (usually because you refuse to bend to her will), you are STILL non-monogamous.
This does not mean that each of these women is a non-monogamous girlfriend (NMG).
In fact, I recommend that you have either all FWBs (friend with benefits), or you have one NMG and two FWBs.
You could have multiple NMGs, but I find it hard to split my love between women.
Generally, I really like or love one girl, and the others I sleep with because I require sexual variety.
Generally, the women I’m sleeping with are also non-monogamous and it doesn’t bother me at all!
You obviously can’t force women to be monogamous with you if you’re seeing multiple women.
I have tried and found that the maximum they will stay with you if you try this is about 1 year.
After that, they inevitably leave or get a boyfriend anyway, since you’re not providing them with the ass-kissing they want.
Alternate Relationship Strategies
The point I’m trying to get across is that traditional relationships don’t work, especially for men.
There are relationship strategies that do, however.
I have mentioned two already:
- FWB (friends with benefits)
- NMG (non-monogamous girlfriend)
There are two other ones that also work, and they’re for you guys that are interested in more serious relationships:
- SNMG (serious non-monogamous girlfriend)
- OM (open marriage)
These relationship strategies work because they allow you, the man, to not ever be monogamous.
It creates an inherent cycle in the girl’s life as she is happy with you and wonders what you’re doing when you’re not around, mixed with a little jealousy.
As a result of this, you increase the relationship length by quite a long time.
Basically, you can see women for years in an on-again, off-again pattern as they go through beta loser boyfriends, then leave them for you and return.
They then get frustrated with your non-monogamy and leave, only to return again later.
Ironically, these relationship strategies lead to LONGER RELATIONSHIPS, if you add up the times of each one (also, since you’re having concurrent relationships, you actually spend much more time with women than the average beta man).
The only difference is the time you spend with each girl is not back to back.
Your roster will constantly rotate as women come in and out of your life, with many returning over the years.
Conclusion
As you can see, women cheat not because they’re evil, but because it is a stupid decision to put them into relationships that don’t account for human nature.
You should understand that women are cyclical and will tire of any man eventually.
You shouldn’t hate them for this, instead, you should embrace it in your overall life relationship strategy.
Once you understand how women work, it is hard to hate them.
You should actively choose relationships where women leaving doesn’t cause you great emotional pain or loss of financial resources.
It only makes sense.
Good luck!
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions:
I Was the Perfect Boyfriend, Why Did She Leave?
Women, just like men, are NOT monogamous.
She left because she got bored of your beta ass kissing.
Don’t worry, there are always other women whose asses you can kiss.
I Was Alpha and Held Frame, Yet She Still Cheated on Me, Is She a Bitch?
You’re a loser for being monogamous.
Sorry, I said it.
She’s not a bitch.
She just got tired of you refusing to bend to her demands.
She needs to be with a beta right now.
She’ll come back, as long as you don’t chase her.
Message her in 4 months, and invite her to your place.
You won’t be disappointed!
I Love this Girl and She’s Not Like the Rest, I Want to Marry Her and Have Kids, She Couldn’t Possibly Screw Me, Could She?
Is she human?
Then she WILL either get bored and leave, or fuck someone else eventually.
Get into a relationship where neither of these things hurt you, and sure, you can have kids, and even live with her.
Man, You’re So Wrong About Everything You’re Saying, Me and My Wife Have Been Going Strong and Fucking Like Rabbits. You’re So Full of Shit!
Honeymoon phase.
Honeymoon phase.
Honeymoon phase.
Wait ten years, then tell me you’re still having dick-breaking sex with your monogamous wife.
Give me a fucking break.
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