Many men struggle with talking to women.
This is especially true if you’re new to seduction or are a virgin.
Not to worry!
Talking to women becomes much easier once you understand some key principles!
Here we go…
What Makes Women Reject Men?
Women generally reject men because they came off as needy or desperate (beta).
The irony is that the more women you have, the easier it is to get more.
If you make it too obvious that you’re interested in a girl, she won’t want to be with you.
She will see you as undesirable because wanting her so much implies you don’t get that much attention from women.
Even if you don’t have other women, you want to imply with your actions that you do.
Neediness manifests in the following ways:
- Texting her all the time
- Spending too many days of the week with her
- Complimenting her constantly (especially her appearance)
Here is a famous rap line from my favourite rapper, Mac Miller:
“I don’t need nobody, I would love somebody though.”
This line embodies what your attitude should be towards getting girls.
You don’t NEED her for sex. You WANT her, however.
If she rejects you, your response should be “ok” and a quick switch to pursuing another girl.
Women are allowed to be uninterested in you, and it’s not your first rodeo.
Here is how you should behave towards the women in your life:
- Don’t text all the time (max 1-2 times per WEEK, for logistics!)
- Spend 1 day per week with her MAX, 2 days if she’s your non-monogamous girlfriend (NMG)
- NEVER compliment her, except very occasionally (1x every 3 weeks or so). Try to compliment something that is NOT her appearance. Only compliment AFTER you’ve slept with her a minimum of 2x.
This behaviour communicates to women that you are a busy guy with better things to do than be with her.
When she’s there, you appreciate her, but ultimately you have bigger things on your plate.
What Makes Talking To Women Easier?
What makes talking to women easier is experience with women.
You gain experience through practice.
Here are the things that you should practice when you’re talking to and dating new girls in your life:
- Being true to yourself
- Aloofness
- Confidence
Each of these things are alpha traits which will skyrocket your success once internalized.
Let me explain a bit about each one, and give some examples.
Without further ado…
The Things That Make Talking to Women Easier
1 – Being True to Yourself
I know this sounds like a platitude, but this one is actually true.
When I say you should be true to yourself I mean that you NEVER compromise who you are for a woman.
When you talk, if she’s interested in you, she’s going to challenge some of the things you hold dear.
She’s going to test your mettle to see if you bend.
If you bend, you’re a beta and she’ll put you in the provider zone (or friendzone).
NEVER bend on the things you care about.
Here’s an example:
You’re talking to a girl and you bring up that you like martial arts.
She then talks about how people that do martial arts are violent thugs that care too much about fighting.
If you agree and talk about how fighting is bad, she’ll see you as weak.
You’re better off talking about the virtues of fighting.
For example:
Fighting teaches men discipline and power. It is a noble art that elevates the mind, body and spirit.
You refused to bend to her frame, while also not getting into an argument.
You could also redirect her shit test.
If she talks about martial artists being thugs, you could say something like:
“I didn’t choose the thug life, the thug life chose me”.
You turn her attack into a joke.
She’ll laugh and you also haven’t bent to her shit test.
No matter what it is, if you’re passionate and care about it and refuse to bend, no matter what she says, she’ll find your passion attractive.
You have to stand strong and true to yourself despite opposition.
In many ways, women are exactly how the real world is.
If you let the world dictate how you should live your life and how you should be, you’ll simply be a pawn, never having will or happiness.
It is up to you whether you want to be a strong man, or a weak mouse.
No-one else can choose for you.
2 – Aloofness
If you do the aloofness thing right, women will call you mysterious.
Basically, an aloof guy does his own thing, not caring about the approval of others.
He does not commit to one girl, and instead chooses to be independent.
The opinions of others do not affect you very much as an aloof guy, you’re content being yourself.
You have a full, amazing life and don’t have the time to text a girl every second.
You don’t have time for the drama and bullshit the average person throws.
You’re a busy guy, full of dreams.
You don’t change your opinions and beliefs just because another person disagrees with you.
You’re independent.
Independent men are extremely attractive because many women want attention and validation.
It is built into them biologically.
When you refuse to give them attention and validation because you’re busy doing your own thing, they crave it even more.
They appreciate your attention and validation so much more when you do give it to them because your time is so valuable.
Women prefer attention from a guy who’s attention is valuable than a guy who gives it away for free.
Does that sound familiar to you?
It kind of parallels how many men feel about sex doesn’t it?
You, however, shouldn’t look down on women that love to have sex.
They are amazingly congruent with your non-monogamous lifestyle!
Be who you are and want to be.
It is extremely powerful and will get you laid!
3 – Confidence
I don’t know how many times I’ve mentioned on this blog that women love confident men.
Women love men who believe in themselves and are leaders.
Confidence starts with believing that you’re good enough.
The idea that you’re not good enough is a limiting belief that many men hold.
It is a terrible belief that stops you from achieving your true potential.
A man who doesn’t believe in himself is not believed in by anyone.
Women want a man who they can look up to, but how can they look up to you when you won’t even look up to yourself?
If you feel like you don’t deserve it, put a little more effort into your life.
Try to create something of yourself and do things for the people around you that add value.
They’ll appreciate the great things you add to their life!
This includes women.
Be a man of value who works on himself and watch your confidence and success with women soar!
Examples of Talking to Women
Here are a few places where I have taken women that have led to good results.
Try some for yourself!
- At the beach at night
Some background:
First, I set up the date in such a way as for us to be isolated.
I selected a spot that I knew would be relatively empty at night, and I drove her there.
I knew that if things went well, the logistics for car sex were in place.
Me: This place is amazing huh! Check out those lights! This is a spot very few people know about, and frankly, I’m happy they don’t. Sometimes I come here to think and walk by the beach.
Her: Yeah, it’s beautiful! What do you think about?
Me: The way the world is, and how I’m lucky to know the things I do.
Her: Yeah, sometimes I’m happy that I know the things I know too.
Me: Come here
Her: ?
Me: *Kisses her* Sorry, you were too distracting
Her: *laughs* I have that effect sometimes
Later on, I took her to the car.
Me: It’s cold out, let’s warm up!
Her: Yeah, good idea
Me: *sits in the backseat* I have a sick song, wanna hear it?
Her: sure!
*We listen to music*
Me: You know, this song was written by *artist*. He was only 22 when he made this. His talent is absurd
Her: It has to come from some deep place.
Me: Sometimes I wonder if there’s a place where this creativity comes from, some other dimension
Her: *pensive*
*I kiss her. Biology did the rest.*
Notice how the sex we had wasn’t really about the conversation specifically.
It was more about the logistics and the venue I selected.
Try doing the same thing!
- In a forested area, at night
Her: This place is totally creepy huh, very horror movie.
Me: Here come the zombies!
He: * laughs*
Me: You know, forests are super cool. * Explains some fact about the forest*
Her: You know a lot about forests huh
Me: That’s not all I know *pushes her into a tree gently, kisses her, biology does the rest*.
Again, notice that it isn’t really about what you say.
You can do the same.
Conclusion
Talking to women is easy if you have the underlying important things needed to talk to women covered.
Here is a list:
- Being true to yourself
- Aloofness
- Confidence
When you embody these concepts, women will naturally gravitate to you.
You will have an aura that is very attractive and interesting.
Also, the attention you do give women will be seen as valuable since you really don’t have all that much time for her.
Practice makes perfect!
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions:
Why Do I Keep Getting Rejected?
You’re likely being too needy or desperate.
Stop texting her so much and work more on yourself.
Take some time to do the things you like and don’t kiss her ass.
I Want to Get Better At Talking to Women, How?
Practice, practice, practice.
To make it easier, practice with these 3 things in mind:
- Be true to yourself
- Be aloof
- Be confident
When you fail, and you will, don’t fret.
That is normal.
Keep getting rejected by different women.
Build your skillset and roster!
You’ll be glad you did.
I Can’t Get Laid On My Dates, Why?
You likely haven’t set up good logistics to do so.
Your second date should be at your place, or at some place where you can easily isolate to sex without people around.
If there are too many people around, she’s not going to want to do anything.
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