Let’s talk about a fundamental concept of seduction today.
This concept is called frame.
Frame is extremely important in your interactions with women and it often determines how a relationship is going to turn out.
If you have good frame, often, your relationships will have good outcomes.
Let’s explore this in more detail, shall we?
What is Frame
Your frame is your viewpoint on the world.
It could also be defined as your reality.
In many ways, your frame defines who you are as a person.
Frame is the underlying thing behind all of your actions.
To have a strong frame means to have a strong grasp on the things that you want and who you believe yourself to be.
The goal of your relationships with women is to have them enter your frame.
You want them to believe in and want the same things that you do.
When a girl enters your frame, it will feel like you “have her”.
This means that she is inclined to go with what you want to do, as she wants it for herself as well.
It is not possible to have a 50/50 frame. You are either in her frame, or she is in yours.
Let’s now list a few key things that you should include into your own frame…
Things to Include In Your Frame
Your frame should have some kind of rules on how you expect yourself to behave and how you expect her to behave.
You want to have some kind of sexual frame.
This is basically your expectations for sex.
If your expectations for sex are not met, you need to be willing to walk away!
For example, your frame could be that every time you meet, you expect to be sexual with your partner.
If it doesn’t happen, you need to be prepared to leave the interaction (temporarily, in the case of a soft next, or permanently, in the case of a hard next).
You should also include some kind of expectation for how women should behave around you.
You likely want your frame to include some kind of expectation of pleasant behaviour.
Again, if it isn’t shown, you leave!
Your frame should also include some kind of boundary with relation to texting/other forms of communication.
You will text for logistics only, and if she doesn’t agree, you leave.
All of these things could also be explained through the concept of boundary creation (what you’re ok with and what you’re not ok with).
You need to be able to say no in order to have strong frame, and you need to know what you want for the same reason.
The Default Societal Frame is Women’s Frame
Society teaches us, from a young age, several women’s frames, and these become default beliefs for NPCs.
Here they are:
- Women are better than men
- Women are more important than men
- There are certain things that men can do to each other that they can’t do to women
- Women need to be provided for
- Women need multiple expensive dates before sex
- The proper relationship progression is: dating > serious relationship > marriage, nothing else is considered a good relationship
- Women are the same as men and want the same things
- Men must ask VERBAL permission before sexual activity
- Monogamous relationships are the ONLY relationship that kids can be raised in
If you adopt any or all of these, you are doomed from the beginning.
Following these scripts is antithetical to getting laid.
Your frame should often be the opposite of these, or at least, should resist these common societal scripts.
It’s ironic that doing the opposite of what we were taught as kids is what is correct.
Often, if you do the opposite of what you remember your mom’s advice being, it will be attractive to women.
If You Fall Into A Woman’s Frame, You’re Done
Women’s sexual attraction drops like a rock for anyone who agrees to her in principle.
If you believe in and follow the feminine social script (women’s frame), you ARE a woman to her (or at least a feminized man).
Most women are not sexually attracted to other women.
By following the societal scripts, you lower attraction.
You make it inevitable that she will leave you, or at least sexually tire of you.
Women will try to impose their frame on you through shit tests mostly.
These are tests that are designed to flip the script of your alpha frame, in order to see if you are actually alpha or just a pretender.
If you fail and fall into her frame too many times, the sexual game is lost for you and her light goes out.
You are then better off pursuing other women than continuing with this failed prospect.
Women Want to Fall Into A Man’s Frame
Despite protests and shit tests, the reality is that women want to submit to a man’s frame.
They want the assurance of being with an alpha that will absolutely not bend in his worldview.
Women want to test, and test, and test no more, as they realize that he is unbreakable.
Women want to lose!
The reason they poke at you is to make sure that you can win!
If you can beat them, you can beat others too.
In many ways, shit tests are a ritual.
They are the repetition of the thing that animals have been doing for millions of years.
Shit tests are simply a genetic fitness test.
If you are being tested for your genetic fitness though, it means you are in the running!
It’s a very good sign!
Don’t Get Monogamous
An easy frame to hold that will make you wildly successful with women is the non-monogamous frame.
No matter which girl you’re with, no matter how amazing she is, you will NEVER commit to only one girl.
She will test and test, trying to break that frame and get you into an exclusive relationship.
By denying her pushes to become monogamous, you pass her shit tests with ease.
Your focus on yourself also dispels many of the common societal frames that favour women as well.
Try holding true to your non-monogamous frame and watch your success with women soar to heights you didn’t even know existed!
The “Yes Dear” Frame
Many men get into monogamous relationships with women (despite what I suggest), since they believe that their special angel is not like the rest.
Once in these types of relationships, they immediately adopt the woman’s frame, which is their ultimate downfall.
Her frame is as follows:
“Do everything I say or you don’t get laid.”.
From this, we get the “yes dear” frame.
Another one you may have heard is this one:
“Happy wife, happy life.”.
Both of these are fem-centric garbage frames which will only serve to turn you into a butler.
Butlers don’t get laid, they do work.
Doing more chores and labouring for your wife, doing every little thing she desires will NOT get you laid.
It will cause resentment to grow as she fails to understand why you’re debasing yourself so.
She thought you were a stud and you have reduced yourself to a list-following butler.
You will also be severely unhappy in such a state.
Try this frame instead…
The “I’m Me” Frame
This frame is one held by many rock stars.
It goes something like this:
“I’m me, and if you don’t like it you can go fuck yourself.”.
You hold strong to who you are, even if you are weird, and no matter what anyone says or does to the contrary you remain firmly yourself.
This gives you a powerful aura.
You think Freddy Mercury wasn’t made fun or for his style?
How about the Beatles when they had long grungy hair?
They simply said fuck you to anyone that made fun of them and went on their merry way.
They were themselves, however weird.
Eventually, people envied them, and even copied them!
Such is the power of a strong frame!
You need to have a strong frame, despite doubters.
Conclusion
It is very important to have strong frame, despite what other people, and especially what society has taught you.
You need to be your own man and hold on to yourself.
Ultimately, you are responsible for how you allow other people to treat you!
Don’t accept a raw deal just because society has raised you to be a chump!
You need to rise above all that.
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions:
What is Frame?
Frame is how you view the world.
You are either in someone’s frame, or they are in yours.
You cannot choose to live a frame-less life and so, you must try to hold on to yourself in situations and relationships that would seek to take your power away.
Having poor frame in your interactions with women will lead to rejection or LJBF.
If you’re in a relationship, it will lead to sexlesness and disrespect, ESPECIALLY if you’re monogamous.
Helios, I Could Never Be Non-Monogamous, I Respect My Partner Too Much!
Respect your partner by respecting yourself.
A man with weak frame is not a man worth following.
Women would rather share a strong man than be shackled to a loser monogamously.
By Frame, Do You Mean I Have to Be An Asshole to Women to Get Laid?
Actually, you don’t have to be an asshole, or even rude!
You can be, but it isn’t a requirement.
What you have to be is a NON-DOORMAT.
You have to be able to say NO, however respectfully or kindly you say it.
No matter how nice, or beautiful, or perfect, or amazing the girl is, you STILL have to stay true to yourself and say no when it is the correct play, regardless of your feelings.
I Thought That the Patriarchy Was the Default Way That Society Runs?
Sure!
On the surface.
But look more deeply into the way the world works and uncover the truth for yourself.
Who can you not criticise in today’s world?
Men, or women?
Who is treated as superior?
Men, or women?
I’m not talking about the absolute upper echelons of the world, I’m talking about the average person.
That should yield your answer.
Think for yourself, don’t just blindly accept everything everyone tells you as gospel.
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