Many men make the mistake of bragging about how many sex partners they’ve had to new women, only to be met with disgust and instant rejection.
Don’t do it!
It is a very common way to shoot yourself in the foot, and I’m here to explain how this problem can be prevented.
Don’t let your ego go to your head and ruin your opportunities with women!
First, some background…
Some Background
There are two kinds of men out there, alphas and betas.
Betas tend to be more supplicative and alphas tend to be more confrontational.
Women tend to find alphas attractive and betas repulsive.
As a result, they string betas along and fuck alphas.
You ideally want to be an alpha, and that is achievable through work and dedication.
Often, as a result of becoming more alpha, you acquire more sexual partners.
You then run into this shit test (the one where a woman asks you about the number of partners we’ve been with).
Covert vs. Overt Communication
Men communicate overtly (directly), women communicate covertly (indirectly).
You telling a girl how many girls you’ve been with is like slapping her in the face!
It is too direct and hard hitting!
Women want to know that they’re with a stud, but not EXACTLY why.
Men want to know things like exact figures. For the most part, women don’t.
Women live in the world of indirect communication. A girl will only resort to direct communication as an absolute last resort.
You’re much better off signalling covertly that you’re a stud.
Here’s how…
Don’t State, Imply
Don’t state, imply.
Rather than say you’ve been with 50 girls, talk about the fun times you’ve had with your “friends”. Don’t mention the gender of these friends.
If you’re confident and have good frame, she’s going to assume that a bunch of those “friends” were not really friends at all, but girls you were seeing.
You’ve signalled covertly that you’re a stud, good job!
When you don’t text her, she assumes that you’re seeing lots of other people and that you aren’t that interested in her.
Great! You want her to chase!
Of course, if she thinks you’re talking to a bunch of other girls, this competition anxiety will make your life much easier.
Women want to know that they’re with a man who is desired by other women.
Notice how through these strategies, you’re communicating without communicating.
There is an expression for that:
“The medium is the message”.
The way in which you’re talking and texting is telling of the kind of person you are.
We want to use strategies like this to our advantage as much as possible!
What Kind of Man Do Women Want?
Women SAY they want a beta.
Women’s actions, however, imply they want alphas.
It is your choice whether you want to follow what they say they want, or what they actually want.
When you reveal the number of girls you’ve been with, you automatically place yourself in one of the two categories.
The problem is that if you’ve had a number of partners that the girl’s friends don’t approve of, the conversations your girl will have with her friends will ruin her relationship with you.
Her girlfriends will not approve of you and this will cause all kinds of drama, which you could have avoided by not telling her the number.
It also makes her much more likely to flake on you, or boomerang if you tell her.
This is something you want to avoid, even if you’re an alpha with lots of sexual partners.
Deflect!
If a girl ever asks you directly for how many women you’ve slept with, you need to deflect!
Something witty is often a good response.
Her: “How many sexual partners have you had?”
You: “Today?”
Also you: “Actually, you’re my first, did I do that well?”
These both dodge answering the question and turn it into a joke, a very good proposition for you!
Once again, your goal is NOT to answer the question directly, as it is death to your interactions with that girl.
She wants to know she’s with a stud, but not EXACTLY how studly you really are.
Her imagination is a powerful thing indeed!
Open Communication As the Secret to a Good Relationship is a Lie
The secret to a good relationship is not open communication.
The secret to a good relationship is the maintenance of the proper male-female dynamic.
The man, in a relationship, needs to be a man and hold on to himself despite the world trying to change him.
Men should not be communicating openly about everything.
Men need to retain some kind of mystique.
Women say that the key to a good relationship is open communication because having all of the information gives them all the ammunition they need in order to win arguments and beta-ize the man.
When the man holds his cards close to his chest and is emotionally reserved, there are much less points of attack.
These allow men to have much more comfortable relationships with women.
Women NEVER want the full truth, they just SAY they do.
Humans hide all kinds of things from each other in order to protect the other person’s feelings, I’m saying that you do the same in order to preserve her attraction for you.
She doesn’t need to hear your every thought or belief and in fact, that will only serve to hurt you.
Responses to Common Shit Tests
Here are some responses to common phrasings of the question of how many women you’ve slept with:
| Shit test | Response |
| “How many girls have you been with?” | “Today?”“Actually, you’re my first, did I do that well?” |
| “You look like a fuckboy” | “Everyone seems to think I’m just a sausage with legs, I’m so much more…” |
| “You must say that to all the girls” | “Only the ones I like!” |
| “To be that good in bed, you must have slept with a thousand girls!” | “Or maybe aphrodite just likes me?” |
Try these answers out and be amazed at their ability to help!
Not answering the question is also a valid answer, after all.
Why Do Women Want to Know How Many Partners You’ve Had?
Women want to know how many partners you’ve had
in order to ease their competition anxiety.
If they know that you’ve been with no, or very few girls before her, their need to impress you lessens significantly, as they know they have barely any competition.
When women know they have no competition, they take their liberties with you, knowing that you don’t know any better.
A lot of men have no idea how much power they actually have, and let it go so easily.
Obviously, giving away your power like this is a terrible position to be in for any man, and you should avoid it.
Simply don’t tell her your N-count and you prevent all the associated problems!
Deflect instead!
Conclusion
As you can see, revealing how many women you’ve been with is a bad idea that will just lead to super drama and give the girl ammunition she can use against you in the future.
Rather than state directly that you’re a stud, imply it through your actions.
This behaviour will allow for much better outcomes on your end.
Go out and try it!
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions:
I’m Proud of the 20 Girls I’ve Been With Previously And Want To Tell My Current Girls About It!
If you want to make them feel cheap, tell them!
Women want to feel like they’re special.
Stating that they’re just “number 23” does nothing good for you!
Don’t do it!
Why Can’t Girls Just Tell Me What They Like So I Can Do It?
Most people have no idea what they want.
As a result, most people can’t verbalize exactly what they need.
Instead, they verbalize what they have been taught they should want based on societal programming, which favours women.
If you follow that, you are lost.
My Girl Asked Me How Many Women I’ve Been With, Help!
Deflect!
This is not the time to tell her exact numbers!
She doesn’t really want to know the truth, trust me.
Either way, it will be used against you.
My Relationship Counsellor Says That Open Communication is the Key to A Happy Relationship, You’re Wrong!
If what you’re interested in creating is a relationship that heavily favours women and disempowers the guy, then yeah, you’re right!
Unfortunately, this makes neither partner happy in the long term, so I’m going to have to go with the counsellor being wrong on this one.
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