Now here’s a topic.
Alpha widows are everywhere, you just didn’t know they were there.
They hide in plain sight, normal seeming women, until you look a little bit behind the veil.
Below the surface, these women hide a huge secret (if you know what I mean)…
What is An Alpha Widow?
An alpha widow is a girl that fell into an alpha’s frame so hard, that even when he left her she remained there!
These women are the MMA fighters, the serious rock climbers, and the adrenaline junkies.
These are the women with many many tattoos, or the hardcore stoners.
These are the women who are the nerdy intellectuals or the hardcore hipsters.
These are the women with so-called “baggage” that betas work so hard to fix (to no avail).
Alpha widows still pine for the alpha that got away, even when he’s dead or gone forever.
How Are Alpha Widows Made?
Alpha widows are made as a result of the idea that women reshape their personalities to fit the person they’re with.
Alphas are a powerful personality influencer.
I’m sure you’ve seen women change for the men they are with, alpha widows simply change more.
Alpha widows are created when an alpha has extreme influence over a woman, usually because he is extremely physically attractive relative to her, coupled with having a very alpha demeanor and good frame.
The woman tries and tries and tries to change him, and it never works (increasing his attractiveness in her eyes even more).
At the peak of her attraction for him, for whatever reason he LEAVES.
This withdrawal of attention creates a severe negative effect in the mind of the woman he’s with, and she chases him desperately, trying to get him back.
If he refuses to return, an alpha widow is born.
Why Being a Beta to an Alpha Widow is Terrible
A beta that gets into a relationship with such a woman had no chance from the beginning.
Nothing the beta ever does will compare emotionally to the “soul rip” that an alpha leaving at peak attraction does to a woman.
He is forever second (or third) best.
As a result, betas with alpha widows are very obviously (and often publicly) mistreated by them.
Ever seen a tortured beta with a girl who seemingly never gave him any slack?
That’s an alpha widow taking out her frustration on her hapless beta.
Most betas have no idea of the situation they’re in, as they believe at face value, everything their partner tells them.
Women often deny that they were ever with such a man (to their beta), as the negative emotions are too strong, and she fears that he will catch on to the fact that she still loves the alpha.
Signs You’re With An Alpha Widow
I’m sure you’re curious about the signs now.
Here’s a list:
- If she mentions how some guy in her past was a total asshole who ruined her
- If she mentions one guy’s name over and over (who she used to date)
- If she’s EXTREMELY into something niche when you meet her (I’m not talking about a casual hobby here)
- If she constantly redirects the topic of conversation to one guy in particular
- If she has a guy’s name tattooed on her (trashy, I know)
- If she dates you, but nothing you ever do seems to make her happy
- If she’s a “sub”
Obviously, if you’re with an alpha widow, she should never be promoted past FWB (friends with benefits).
That ship has sailed, unfortunately.
The funny thing is that by denying her commitment, you’re very likely to make her feel how she felt with the guy that alpha-widowed her, and you’ll probably have a good time.
She’ll only start to resent you when the relationship is more serious.
How You Can Create an Alpha Widow
Here is how you can create your very own alpha widow (proceed with caution)
Meet these criteria:
- Be 2 points of attractiveness higher than her
- For the ENTIRE length of the relationship, pass every single shit test
- Always be aloof
- Text ONLY for logistics
- Fuck her like it’s your last day on earth every time you have sex
- Have a hobby or passion that you mention relatively frequently
- LEAVE when you get bored and DON’T return
If you have all of the above criteria met, I guarantee that you will create an alpha widow.
Signs She’s Becoming Your Alpha Widow
If she ever says any of the following things, beware, there’s a good chance she’s becoming your alpha widow:
- She says that you’ve ruined sex for her with anyone else
- She says that she’s yours and only yours
- She says that she loves you unprompted
- She says that she’d do anything for you
- She says that she’s taken up something that you love as a hobby (to try and impress you)
- She says that she wishes she could be closer to you but knows that that’s not the kind of man you are
Obviously, if she becomes your alpha widow, that means that you’ve ruined her for future relationships with betas (and most other alphas).
It also means that she is EXTREMELY likely to boomerang back to you, pretty much at any point you like.
Alpha widows will be shockingly pleasant with you and assholes to pretty much everyone else.
Are Alpha Widows Good For Society?
I would say that alpha widows unfortunately bring negative energy with them everywhere they go (especially if they’re past the age of 35, with less chance to get another alpha due to their younger competition).
As a result, I believe that they’re not necessarily good for society.
As the myth of Icarus and Daedalus, alpha widows flew too close to the sun and got burnt.
This is the negative consequence of the matriarchy.
By freeing women completely, it has made many women miserable.
If any women out there are reading this, I would advise against pairing up with any man who is “too” attractive, relative to you.
He will not only make you believe that your SMV (sexual market value) is higher than it is, he will also likely make you miserable in the long term as he will never be shackled to any individual woman.
You can go for a man who is 1 point higher than you in attractiveness and probably be OK. 2 or more, and you’re asking for trouble.
Don’t say I didn’t warn you!
Best Type of Game to Use With an Alpha Widow
The best type of game to use with an alpha widow is alpha game.
You have absolutely no chance with beta game.
The sad part is that oftentimes, alpha widows will act as though they want beta game, and punish their beta partners harshly for it.
You’re in for a REALLY bad time if you have a serious relationship with an alpha widow.
Be smart and keep her in the category that she should be in (FWB)!
Can Alpha Widows Ever Recover?
It is possible, but extremely unlikely for an alpha widow to recover.
She had to have been alpha widowed at a young enough age to be able to find an even better alpha than the previous one.
This alpha has to then stay with her until she beta-izes him.
If she can manage this, she can get over being an alpha widow.
It is unlikely because a greater alpha than the first one is even MORE likely to leave than the first one.
A more likely occurrence is that the woman gets alpha widowed even harder!
This is actually what the sex carousel of modern western matriarchy does to women!
It gives them the opportunity to be with as many men as they want, and so they select for the best ones, only to get continually alpha widowed to the point that they are INCAPABLE of happiness in the kind of relationship that they NEED to be in for their long-term stability.
Sadly, going back to the old system doesn’t work either (of women being property).
I believe that a stable system is in fact a middle ground.
In this system, women get into monogamous (temporary) LTRs with non-monogamous men and have children with them.
When they get bored (which is inevitable due to human non-monogamy), they amicably split and continue the process with other partners.
It becomes a pseudo-tribal system through this process and no-one is forced to go against their biology by being monogamous forever.
Conclusion
Alpha widows are common.
The modern cultural climate has allowed more of them to appear.
It is very likely for you, through your journey, to create an alpha widow or two.
Just remember that alpha widows cause misery wherever they go.
Try not to create them on purpose!
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions
I Love Making Alpha Widows, I Feel So Powerful!
Careful!
With great power comes great responsibility.
Remember that it isn’t only you that needs a drink of water from the well.
Don’t poison it, lest you hurt all of us.
If You Don’t Believe in Creating Alpha Widows, Why Tell Us How?
When you know how, you have the CHOICE to do it or not.
I believe in freedom of choice.
A man makes decisions and is responsible for the results of his actions.
This Girl Keeps Mentioning This Other Guy She Used to Be With, What Do I Do?
NEVER promote her past FWB.
She’s not over him.
She will make you miserable in an LTR!
Prevent the problem, for your own sake!
I Keep Seeing Guys Being Mistreated Hard By Their Girlfriends, Why Is That Helios?
They are betas who have put power in the hands of an alpha widow.
They are abusing their power now, since they felt powerless with the alpha they used to be with.
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