Duty Sex

Time for a sad and uncomfortable topic today.

I’m very sorry I have to write this, but betas need to hear it.

You can’t break free without knowing the truth of what happens in committed, monogamous relationships.

I know it’s going to hurt.

Sorry, I’m doing it anyway…

Alpha vs. Beta

Before we talk about duty sex, let me reiterate the concept of alpha vs beta.

Women want to fuck alphas and do so out of instinct.

They cannot control the feelings and give themselves freely.

This is not the case for betas.

When women fuck betas, it is often out of obligation.

Obligation is NOT sexy.

Most men in western society are betas.

This means that it is likely that a large proportion of men have NEVER experienced the truly passionate, animalistic sex that women give alphas freely.

That is a travesty and one of the reasons why I have written this blog.

Why Men Get Married

Men get married (or get into committed monogamous relationships) under the false impression that it will give them access to sex on tap.

Obviously, living with your partner means that they’re around more often, and therefore, there must be greater access to sex.

Unfortunately, this is NOT true.

Familiarity breeds contempt.

When a man agrees to live with a woman, he removes all of the mystery of their previous arrangement.

The anxiety of whether he was seeing other girls disappears.

As a result, the sex actually LESSENS over time, where the man was expecting it to INCREASE.

A long term relationship is simply a honey trap.       

Women lure men into them and then don’t give them at all what they expected.

This is why men become miserable in marriages.

Their expectations for frequency of sex are not met, and in fact, over time decrease to near zero as inevitable beta-ization occurs.

Why Women Get Married

Women get married because once they’re married they are safe!

For the next twenty years, all of their beta provisioning needs are now met!

All of the worries about being able to raise children are gone.

The only sacrifice is the man in the arrangement.

The woman and children benefit at the expense of the man.

Nowadays, more and more women understand exactly the position they have put husbands in by marrying them.

They use the fact that they can divorce him as leverage.

As a result, women hold extreme power in a marriage through use of threat point (the idea that she could leave at any time, ripping his financial and emotional situation in half).

In marriage, men are brought to their knees, forced to worship their new boss, who controls them through the government.

The Thrill is Gone

When a woman knows she has a man by the balls (in a marriage), she no longer has to fuck him to keep him around.

He no longer has the luxury of going to other options when she pisses him off.

He now HAS to tolerate her bad behavior or have his life ripped in half.

Obviously, this change in power dynamics, where the woman reigns supreme, ruins her hypergamic instinct.

She no longer feels she is with a superior man, she knows she is with a loser.

Any man that would prostrate himself before her in such an arrangement must NECESSARILY be a loser.

She stops feeling passion for her husband and instead uses sex as a tool.

She wields sex like a treat, using it to reward more and more submissive behaviours from her man, using his sex drive against him.

This is so-called “duty sex”.

This treatment over time wears down even the strongest of men.

A man’s desire to have sex being locked up through financial threat is the ridiculous result of modern marriage.

It is no surprise that more and more men are checking out of this terrible deal.

If You Have to Convince Her, You’re A Beta

If you have to convince her logically to fuck you more, you’re done.

She no longer has the passion for you that is necessary in order for you to keep her around.

She’ll very likely cheat.

You caused this problem yourself by allowing yourself to be monogamous.

You should NEVER have only one woman as your sole option.

That opens you up to being controlled through your sex drive.

Committed monogamous men are beta BY DESIGN.

DO NOT put yourself in that position.

You are dooming yourself to a life of suffering.

Ignore this warning at your peril!

Monogamy is Anti-Seductive

As I said before, when you get into a monogamous arrangement, she knows she has you.

As a result, she will start to display more and more disrespectful behaviours.

Where before you had the power to walk away to your other options when she showed disrespect, you now have no ability to do anything.

When she knows for SURE that you won’t walk away, she’ll begin to take her liberties.

This is also why you NEVER agree to living with a woman.

She WILL use it against you.

Let her feel love, while you keep the power for yourself.

It is more important to hold the upper hand in a relationship than to feel love.

When you have the ability to wield your options, the sex you receive and it’s passion will always be high.

Women will fuck you just to convince you that they are better than your other options.

They never are.

The sexual benefit you get from having multiple partners far exceeds the amount of sex that one girl could ever give you.

Don’t Get Married

Unless you want to experience how it feels to have your balls in a vice, don’t get married.

NO CONTACTS with the government should exist in your relationships.

She should have NO POWER of law to wield over you.

Do NOT co-habitate, do NOT get married.

Women will wield their power over you shamelessly if you do.

It is absolutely idiotic to enter into such an arrangement.

If your aim is to be a free man who gets to experience all the best of life, you should NOT get married.

Better Relationship Arrangements for Men

As I’ve stated numerous times, the best arrangements for men are non-monogamous ones.

FWBs (friend with benefits), NMGs (non-monogamous girlfriends) and SNMGs (serious non-monogamous girlfriends) are the ONLY relationship arrangements you should enter into.

You should NEVER enter into other ones.

They simply shift the power balance too far in favour of women, and allow them to control you in ways that make it too easy to be beta-ized.

Once you allow the power to shift in her favour, rather than passionate alpha sex, you’re getting once-in-a-while duty sex.

It is a losing proposition.

For those of you lamenting the loss of marriage, don’t.

Non-monogamous arrangements are as good as it gets for men.

Conclusion

Duty sex is the result of being in long-term committed relationships.

Women simply grow bored with their arrangement, understand that they are the leaders in their relationships and take full advantage.

Don’t allow yourself to be the guy who sex is doled out to as a reward for being a “good boy”.

Prevent yourself from entering into these kinds of arrangements and you’ll prevent the problem of duty sex entirely.

You shouldn’t have to suffer in the long term to serve the matriarchy!

Godspeed.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions

I Have Lots of Sex With My Girlfriend, Am I A Beta?

Honeymoon phase.

Wait 3 months to 3 years and then tell me how your girl is treating you.

If she’s even a little bit unpleasant compared to before, she’s taking her liberties and sees you as her beta.

What’s the Real Reason Women Get Married?

Safety.

Safety is NOT sexy.

You want to be the guy she fucks in arduous passion, not her financial safety net.

My Wife At the Beginning of Our Marriage Used to Fuck Like An Animal, What Gives?

Boredom, safety, security and she knows she has you by the balls.

She knows you’re not going anywhere, so why should she put in any effort?

You’re a loser to her who would be willing to chop his own balls off.

Why should she fuck a guy without his balls?

I Bought Lingerie for My Wife for Valentines Day, I Can’t Wait Until She Wears It!

That is obligation!

She should buy lingerie for herself to impress you.

You should not have to try and convince her to wear lingerie.

If you do have to buy her lingerie to try and convince her to wear it for you, she’s just not that into you.

Sorry bro, you’re a beta.