This is a seduction blog.
Of course we’re going to talk about texting strategies!
In the modern era, texting is one of the cornerstones of seduction.
I’m sure you want what I wanted when I started, some strategies you can use to text, and some specific messages to send to girls to get on dates.
Look no further!
I’ll show you the way…
Alpha Mindset When Texting
There are several fundamentals to keep in mind when texting, but here is the iron rule:
Alphas only text for logistics.
An alpha male is simply too busy to spend his time texting women.
He only has time to text in order to set up a meet with a woman (where he ideally has sex with her).
This means that, lucky you, you don’t actually have to put in that much work to be good at texting.
In fact, texting is an exercise in self-control!
How to Text as an Alpha Male
As I said before, texting as an alpha is an exercise in self-control.
With a girl’s phone number you can literally message her at any time, and she knows that.
When you don’t message her, she wonders why.
Here is something people don’t tell you:
Women who are interested in you think about you more than you know!
They simply don’t tell you because they don’t want to lose the upper hand in a relationship!
The key is, through non-messaging, you want to gain this upper hand for yourself.
Once again, as an alpha, we only text for logistics!
This means that you only text to set up a meet!
Otherwise, you’re doing your own thing.
Want to be called aloof and mysterious by women? Don’t text them.
When they don’t know what you’re doing specifically, they fantasize about all the cool things you’re doing and the cool people you’re meeting (including women) who aren’t them.
This is amazing for you!
Once again:
The way an alpha wins the text game is by not playing.
Actual Messages to Send as an Alpha Male
“Helios, I thought you said that the way we win the text game is by not playing!”
“Why are you giving me texting examples then?”
“My son, I’m giving you texting examples because I want to show you how to be minimalist in your texting.“
You win by using the least effort possible in order to get laid. The time you save you can then use to improve yourself in other ways.
Also, you want to get laid, not get yourself a new penpal, right?
There are four types of women you can be texting:
- Women you met at a bar/club/party
- Women you met through your social circle (friends of friends, etc.)
- Women you met through cold approach (just talking to that pretty girl at the bookstore, for example)
- Women you met through online dating (Tinder, Bumble, etc.)
You’ll need to change your initial approach depending on where you met them initially!
1 – Texting Women You Met at a Club/Bar/Party
For club/bar women, you initiate the text through something you talked about or some common experience you had when you met them.
Text her the next day after you got her number.
Maybe you went to a jazz club, here is an example text exchange if that is the case:
You: Hey, it’s that amazing guy you met at the jazz club. Wasn’t *insert musician here* amazing? – *Sign your name*
Her: Yeah! He was 🙂
You: Man, it was so good! You doing anything else fun this week?
Her: Nah, not really.
You: Tragedy. We should totally meet up! I’ll turn that frown upside down 🙂 How about we meet at *insert place here* at *insert time here*? We’ll go for a coffee/walk/whatever
Her: Sure!
In this example, I set up the date really fast, in the span of three exchanges. You want to do the same!
An alpha doesn’t have time to waste talking all day with a woman, he has work/other fun things to do.
You want to not text her until the day of the meet, sending a confirmation text to make sure she shows up.
Send her something at 9am the day of the meet that goes like…
”Hey, see you at *place* at *time* -Helios”
Let’s see how it goes if the girl is in your social circle…
2 – Texting Women You Met Through Your Social Circle
For social circle women, you want to reference the friend who introduced you in your first text, or the situation that brought you together.
This way, it adds a touch of familiarity that puts you a bit further ahead than random strangers she’s met.
Here’s an example of what you could text her.
Text her the next day after you got her number.
Maybe you met at a house party:
You: Hey *Girl’s name*, it’s Helios, that stunner from Becky’s party! We won like 40 rounds of beer pong together 🙂 What’s up?
Her: Oh hey! Yeah, we were amazing together weren’t we?
You: We crushed all the competition! Got anything else fun going on this week?
Her: Yeah! I’m going golfing this weekend with Becky actually!
You: Sounds fun! We should totally meet up 🙂 How about we meet on *insert day here* at *insert time here* at *insert place here*. We’ll go for a coffee/walk/adventure, etc.
Her: I can’t do Thursday but I can do Friday. Is that ok?
You: Sure! See you then 🙂
Notice how I said we? You want to establish an “us” frame. She’ll be more comfortable with you from the beginning if you do this!
Something else:
If she can’t make the time you’ve given her, but she tells you a time that works for her, that is a huge indicator of interest! It’s a great sign when she’s giving you logistics! It means she really likes you 🙂
You want to not text her until the day of the meet, sending a confirmation text to make sure she shows up.
Send her something at 9am the day of the meet that goes like…
”Hey, see you at *place* at *time* -Helios”
Alright, let’s move on to cold approach texting…
3 – Texting a Woman You Met Through Cold Approach
If you met a girl through cold approach, you want to reference something you talked about in the conversation when you met her.
Hopefully you made some kind of joke, or talked about something you both enjoy.
This way, she’ll feel like you’re more familiar and she’ll be more likely to respond!
Text her the next day after you got her number.
Example conversation:
You: Hey *Girl’s name*, it’s Helios, that hot guy you met at the book store! I still think that Eragon has a better love story than Twilight 🙂 What’s up?
Her: No! Twilight has the best love story! I’m just chillin 🙂
You: Nope. Eragon is the best of all time! What you got going on this week that’s fun?
Her: Umm…Probably gonna re-read Twilight.
You: Got a thing for vampires huh 😉 We should totally meet up! How about we meet on *insert day here* at *insert time here* at *insert place here*. We’ll go for a coffee/walk/adventure, etc.
Her: Sure!
Notice how all of the first dates I’m asking girls on are very chill! You should do the same.
This is because you don’t want to put too much pressure on the girl on the first date!
You also don’t want to spend any money initially.
You don’t know if you really like this girl yet, so why commit resources to her?
You want to not text her until the day of the meet, sending a confirmation text to make sure she shows up.
Send her something at 9am the day of the meet that goes like…
”Hey, see you at *place* at *time* -Helios”
Time for online game, it’s also slightly different…
4 – Texting a Woman You Met Through Online Dating
On dating apps, every dude texts the same thing!
This means that unless you’re incredibly attractive, she won’t even see your message…
We fix this by changing up our initial message and our secondary message too. We want to have a call to action as well, and sign our name.
This is important because many women online have no intention of ever meeting you. We want to weed out the ones that are time wasters.
Example texts:
You: “Hey ______, you seem fun 🙂 You should message me! – Your Name
Her: This is me messaging you 🙂
You: Fantastic! If you could be any character from a book, which would you be and why? Don’t answer based on appearance 🙂
Her: I would be Bella from Twilight because she’s innocent, and kinda wild at the same time 🙂
You: Nice! We should totally meet up 🙂 How about we meet at *insert place here* at *insert time here*. We’ll go for a chill walk/drink/hangout.
Her: Sure! See you then!
You: Great! Text me at (111) 222 3333
Her: Sure
Notice how I asked for her number after setting up the meet!
Women prefer you pitch the meet first and then ask for their number later online.
Giving you their phone number right away is too personal too quickly.
You want to not text her until the day of the meet, sending a confirmation text to make sure she shows up.
Send her something at 9am the day of the meet that goes like…
”Hey, see you at *place* at *time* -Helios”
Key Alpha Texting Strategies
Notice how regardless of how I met the girl, I pitched the first date within three exchanges!
You want to weed out any time wasting women.
An alpha only has time for women who want to meet in person.
You do not want to establish a penpals relationship but some kind of sexual relationship.
Make your intentions to meet clear and quick!
IMPORTANT REMINDER: On the day of your meetup, at 9am or so, message the girl and repeat where you’re meeting and at what time. If she confirms, excellent!
If she doesn’t, it means that she’s flaking and you can make other plans. Don’t be upset if she flakes.
Some women are terrible planners.
Just wait a day or two and try to set up a meet again the same way you did before.
If she flakes again, cut your losses and move on to a new girl.
Alpha Responses to Common Female Text Signals
Women have several signals they send while texting.
You can get this information not by the content of the text, but by the WAY the text is sent and formatted.
Here are things to look for:
- Timeframe of responses (instant or takes a long time)
- One message or several (double text, triple?)
- Length of responses (one word text, or sentences?)
- Grammar (bad grammar or good grammar?)
- Capitalization of your name (non-capital or capital?)
Once you have this information, you can reply accordingly.
Female texting indicators of interest:
- Instant replies to your texts
- Double, triple, quadruple!! texting in response to your message
- Her responses are long, while yours are short
- Her grammar is perfect in her texts
- She capitalizes your name
Female texting indicators of disinterest:
- Taking a long time to respond (days, a week)
- One single message to respond to your messages
- Her responses to your texts are one word
- Her grammar is terrible
- She does not capitalize your name
Here’s what to do, depending on if she’s signalling interest or disinterest…
How to Respond if the Girl is Showing You Interest Through Her Texts
If the girl is showing interest through her texts, you MUST be cool.
You must be chill and NOT match her level of enthusiasm.
Calmly steer the texting conversation towards your goal, which is MEETING IN PERSON.
Matching her interest is needy. Don’t do it!
How to Respond if the Girl is Showing You Disinterest Through Her Texts
If a girl is showing disinterest through her texts, you respond by showing EVEN MORE disinterest in hers.
Simply do all the things in the list of disinterested texts. She’ll get the message.
The only thing you can’t do is screw up your grammar. Your grammar must always be impeccable in your texts.
If she takes a week to respond to a text, I take two weeks.
If she replies with a short sentence, I reply with an even shorter sentence.
The key is that you want to subcommunicate not giving a shit.
You should also couple this with instantly pursuing other women.
A girl that is showing you disinterest isn’t worth your time anyway, but through the subcommunication of not giving a damn, you might make her want to chase you.
This means you leave the girl who’s being a dick to you on read.
Sweet, sweet revenge.
If a girl texts you something you really don’t like, leave her on read for a minimum of two weeks.
She’ll sort herself out usually. Women know when they’re being dicks.
Conclusion
There are several ways you can meet women and you need to change up the texts depending on how you met the girl.
As an alpha, you don’t have time to text all day and so you want to get to a meet as soon as possible.
A woman’s texts actually contain a lot of information, if you look at the context of how the messages are being sent.
Use these strategies and get dates!
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions:
She’s Triple Texting Me, Is That A Good Sign?
Oh yeah! She must really like you!
Why is She Not Replying to My Texts?
She’s either super busy, or doesn’t like you all that much. Either way, pursue other women. Show even more disinterest in her if you want to get her to chase you.
I Really Like Her and She’s Not Like the Rest, Can I Text Her Every Day?
If you want her to see you as a beta and start denying you sex within three weeks then yes!
What Do I Text Online, No-One is Responding?
You’re probably just texting “hey”. Try something like: “You seem cool 🙂 You should text me! -*Your Name*”. That may work better!
If you’re still getting nothing you need better pictures. See my guide on how to get a FWB online.
This Girl is Super Into Me and I’m Super Into Her, Can I Have a Text Conversation?
You’re free to do what you want but that doesn’t mean it will get you laid. You want her to excitedly think about you when you’re not around. It’s hard to do that when you’re distracting her with your real self.
Distract her with your real self in person and you may just get laid.
You decide.
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