Ah, here we go, the concept of creepy.
Creepiness is really funny in a way.
It is funny in that we associate, in popular culture, creepiness with ugliness.
For women, however, creepiness often has nothing to do with looks.
Creepy behaviour manifests in men’s actions towards women.
Women call men creepy who behave in a certain way towards them.
Let’s talk about what these behaviours are…
Part 1 – What Makes A Man Creepy
Creepiness Is A Set of Behaviours And Beliefs Men Have Towards Women
I’m sure you’re wondering what the specific behaviours are that make men creepy to women.
Here is a list:
- Neediness
- Being evasive in your intentions
- Acting like someone you’re not
- Having changeable beliefs
If you embody one or more of these qualities, women are going to be repulsed by you.
Let me explain why…
Neediness
A long time ago, when humanity was still living in caves, women needed the protection of men.
Women were needy.
This meant that women that became attracted to needy men, ended up dying, selected out by the environment.
Over time, women evolved to only select men that were independent. Men that could survive without them and protect them.
Women hate neediness because it is biological.
Men show they are needy when they demonstrate behaviours that imply that they couldn’t live without the girl.
When they beg, and plead, and obey the stupidest commands, they show themselves to be needy.
A man also shows himself to be needy when he’s afraid of losing his girl.
She inevitably catches on and starts to display more and more disrespectful behaviour.
The more shitty behaviour the man tolerates, the more needy he appears.
It is even worse if a man shows this sort of behaviour in his first interactions with a girl.
If he appears to be too interested, and too spineless in the initial interaction, he will be seen as needy, and therefore creepy.
Shit tests are a way for women to determine if the man they are interested in is needy or not.
If he fails the shit tests, he’s done.
She’ll tell her girlfriends he was creepy and move on to less of a loser.
Being Deceptive in Your Intentions
A man who is not clear on what he wants is not an alpha man.
Men want to have sex with multiple women.
It is who we are.
When men deny what they are, they come off as creepy.
They are disingenuous.
A woman will respect a man who implies that he wants to fuck her, and fuck her well.
She will not tolerate a man who lies about not wanting to be sexual and then turns the tables later.
When a man says that he’s not interested in sex, and gets put in the friendzone as a result, the girl never expects that the man will show sexual intention again.
When he does, he is immediately an unsafe creep.
Before, he was simply a spineless, safe, coward.
If you want to have sex with a girl, don’t lie about it.
Make your intentions clear in your behaviours.
What I mean, is that you try and get her phone number, you try and set up a first date and create rapport.
You try and set up a second date where you escalate to sex and you do so proudly.
A woman will respect your effort, even if she isn’t interested in you.
When she knows your genuine intent, it is easy for her to say yes or no.
If she says no, you move on.
There is no need to be a creep.
You don’t have to lie about wanting sex.
Women know it’s what men want!
Acting Like Someone You’re Not
There are a lot of women out there.
Many of them will like you for who you are.
You don’t have to pretend to be someone you’re not in order to get laid.
You do, however, need to avoid needy behaviours.
If you like space, for example, don’t hide it.
If you like martial arts, don’t hide it.
Women are attracted to all kinds of people.
What they aren’t attracted to is bad liars.
If you obviously come off as a nerd with a gut, and you pretend to be a jock because you think jocks get laid, you’re going to fail miserably.
You’re also going to get called a creep.
Be the best version of YOURSELF.
If you need to lose weight and work out, cool!
That doesn’t mean you drop or hide the parts of yourself that make you the way you are for a girl.
Once again, you are perfectly capable of getting laid as a musician, jock, nerd, or even vampire.
Whatever you are, you can be successful at, so long as you pass the minimum standards of entry (in looks and grooming).
Having Changeable Beliefs
If you strongly believe in some things, but the second a girl disagrees, you immediately change your mind, you’re a creep.
You have no frame.
You need to hold true to your beliefs no matter how pretty or opinionated the girl you’re sitting across from is.
Women want strong men.
Strong men are not easily blown by any breeze.
Whatever strong beliefs you have you should hold onto, no matter what anyone says.
Often, when a girl questions your core beliefs, it is a shit test.
She’s testing your resolve, to see if you hold on to yourself.
If you do, she’ll respect you.
If you don’t, she’ll think you’re creepy for slimily trying to weasel your way into her heart.
You can stay true to yourself and still get laid.
You can’t get laid by matching all of the beliefs of the girl you’re with.
She’s going to know that it isn’t who you are, and she’ll ditch you.
Women value strength, not compliance.
Let’s talk about how not to be creepy now…
Part 2 – How to Not Be Creepy
The Qualities One Should Have
To not be creepy, simply embody this list of qualities:
- Be independent
- Be clear in your intent
- Be the best version of yourself
- Hold strong to your beliefs
Notice how all of these are qualities that the typical alpha male possesses.
Let’s talk a bit about each one…
Be Independent
A creepy guy chases women.
An attractive guy does his own thing.
He has a great life that’s full of things that he enjoys.
He has no need to chase, or text every second.
A strong man is independent.
When you truly are independent, you’ll notice that you simply do not have time to text women all the time.
They will imagine all of the amazing things that you’re doing when you’re not spending your time texting them, or talking to them on the phone, or chasing them, or whatever.
Women will then chase you.
Women will want some of your valuable time, just to experience what it’s like to be with a powerful man.
It really is an amazing thing.
Just do your own thing, and watch how much better all of your interactions with women you’re sexually interested in become.
You can’t compare the two worlds at all.
Come to this side of the fence and you’ll see!
Be Clear In Your Intent
When I’m with a girl I’m really interested in fucking, what I do sometimes is the following.
I keep talking, but in my mind, I imagine that she’s naked and I’m ravishing her.
It gives the girl a nonverbal signal of my intent.
Something in my expression or demeanor changes and makes it clear what I’m talking to her for.
Women respect men that are clear in their intentions.
If you’re truly interested in sleeping with a girl, imply it through your actions:
- Break the touch barrier on dates (don’t overdo it).
- Talk about sex (but not you having sex with her specifically).
- Sexually escalate when the opportunity is right, starting on the 2nd date (it is quite clear that she’s interested in you).
If the girl isn’t interested, she will make it clear, and you can move on to better options.
She will not have wasted your time, and you maximize your ability to get laid in the long term.
Be the Best Version of Yourself
Society always tells you to be yourself.
It is a nice platitude, but it’s wrong.
What they actually mean is for you to be the best version of yourself.
Don’t compromise yourself for anyone, but make sure to maximize your looks and grooming.
When you look good and you hold onto yourself despite pushback and shit tests, you will be respected and also well sexed.
There will be many women who are interested in exactly the kind of guy that you are.
Of course, you have to meet the bar for appearance.
I don’t mean you can be a tub of lard, sitting on the couch eating chips all day and still get laid.
I mean you can be a starving artist, a metrosexual, a fighter, or a student of philosophy and get laid.
All of those types of guys, despite being very different are all capable of getting laid.
It is important that you acknowledge yourself and work hard to be the best version of you that you can be!
Hold Strong to Your Beliefs
As I keep mentioning, alpha males hold their opinions strongly.
They are not easily swayed by anyone.
Everyone has beliefs about what the world is really like and how things should be.
You should hold onto your beliefs, despite opposition.
Your opinions and mind have value.
Don’t throw your beliefs away because you think you’re going to miss out on sex because of it.
Ironically, holding true to yourself and your beliefs will get you laid much more than the opposite, it simply is not what society teaches.
Society teaches you to obey.
The truth is that the only reward that society gives to those that obey is gilded chains.
You need to break free of the limiting belief that your opinions and beliefs are weaker than those around you.
Hold true to who you are and be rewarded.
Conclusion
Many men struggle with being called creepy.
This is especially true in the early phase of our life, where we are sexually inexperienced and don’t understand the world very well.
We have to avoid the behaviors that label us as creepy:
- Neediness
- Being evasive in your intentions
- Acting like someone we’re not
- Having changeable beliefs
And accent our alpha side with the following:
- Being independent
- Being clear in our intent
- Being the best version of ourselves
- Holding strong to our beliefs
You’ll see that by keeping these things in mind, you’ll improve your life tremendously!
Good luck.
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions:
What Is Neediness?
Neediness is when you feel like a girl is so good that you can’t do without her.
If you even so much as imply something like this early on, you’re bound for the creep zone!
Are All Creepy Men Ugly?
Nope!
All creepy men are losers in the eyes of women, however.
It doesn’t matter if you’re short or tall, ugly or handsome.
If you’re labelled as a creep by women you’re an undesirable.
Will Agreeing With Everything She Says Get Me Laid?
Haha! No.
Hold strong to yourself.
Women fuck men with strong frames and worldview.
If she says something you don’t agree with, disagree!
Don’t fight (unless you’ve already fucked her twice and enjoy drama), but disagree!
So, Should I Tell A Girl I Want to Fuck Her?
Nope!
You should imply it though with your actions.
Over-verbalizing is the road to getting rejected because of societal programming.
Just do the things that guys do to get laid, and it will send the message loud and clear (create rapport and comfort on the first date then break it off after 1 hour, invite her to your place for the second date, sexually escalate when the time is right, etc.)
Can I Really Do My Own Thing And Get Laid?
Yeah!
You don’t have to text her all the time, or even talk to her, really, outside of when you meet in person.
Being independent is really attractive.
She’s also going to think that you’re going after other girls too, which makes you even more desirable.
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