I’m sure many of you that visit this blog have this question in mind:
You wonder what the hell it is that women want and why the hell they’re so confusing.
I suffered the same way you did.
It took me years of practice to figure it out.
You’re lucky that you have the internet, where people like me are here to help you out.
Women aren’t actually that complicated, but when you analyze a woman’s mind logically, they seem totally alien.
One thing is certain, women are NOT men.
They want different things.
Let’s dive right in, shall we?
What the Hell Do Women Want?
Women want many things, some of which are totally unimportant to men, and some of which will make total sense.
Here’s a list of what women want in general:
- Attention
- Validation
- A high place in the female hierarchy
- Herd approval
- Resources
- Sex
- Emotional highs and lows
As you can see reading this list, unless you are a narcissistic man, some of these don’t matter at all to you.
We can probably understand the resources one for sure, and the sex one. I get the herd approval one and the hierarchy one.
But what the hell is it with emotional highs and lows being a requirement?
Personally, I HATE my emotions fluctuating like that. I prefer my life to be a calm pond. I don’t like waves.
Women do.
Attention and validation being important? For me, these are things I don’t really care about.
If the girl never texts me but we fuck often, I won’t be upset.
I’m getting sex, but barely any attention or validation.
I also don’t really give a damn about compliments others give me (though I guess they’re nice when they do happen).
I don’t go into a tizzy if I’m not being validated.
I understand inherently that men are replaceable.
Weird stuff, man.
Anyway, here’s a list of what women want from MEN (those they have SEX with):
- Attractive body
- Dominant sexual style
- Good frame
- Confidence
These are pretty understandable, they’re the qualities of the alpha male.
If you’ve been reading my blog, they’re nothing new.
In this article, I’m going to go into more detail about each of the things women want.
Hopefully these insights help you on your own seduction journey!
What Women Want in General
1 – Attention
This one is obvious.
Women want to be noticed.
They want to be admired.
They want people to know that they’re there.
This is why many women adopt attention seeking hobbies (such as singing, dancing, art, etc.).
These hobbies help them to get attention.
A woman who has the attention of many men is then able to select the man that she wants.
She wants the best man, and so she needs a big pool.
The reason why social media is a multi-billion dollar industry is because it taps into the female need for attention (and validation, we’ll talk about that next).
Online, women can access the attention of thousands of men, something not even imaginable in the past.
The competition for men nowadays is fierce!
Some might say it is harder than it has ever been (lucky for you, most men have given up, or have no idea the game is even being played, so it makes it easy to win).
Online, women have the attention of thousands of men, and so, they can pick the best of the best to be with.
Online dating has also exacerbated this problem.
Women have access to so many men that they inevitably see the best men in their region.
They reject a huge quantity of men (calling them “below average”), and only see those at the apex as attractive.
Many men are thus left without a girl while a small group of men have harems of women.
It really is a difficult life for a beta.
That is why you need to work on being an alpha!
2 – Validation
Unlike most men, many women desire validation.
Many women want to be told that they’re pretty and perfect and amazing and that all their choices are correct.
They want to feel like they fit in.
Women get validation in a variety of ways.
I’m sure you’ve noticed at parties the fake way some girls talk to each other.
It is merely exchanging validation.
It is a pleasantry that acknowledges an inherent feminine need.
An extremely common way that women receive validation is through beta (or loser or NPC) men.
Beta men shower women with compliments, attention and validation in the hope that these women will sleep with them.
What these men don’t realize is that they’re tapping into a primordial feminine need, and that in so doing, they are wrecking their chances at sex.
A woman that gets validation and attention from a man sees him as far more valuable than a guy that she is getting sex from.
He is a tap of good feelings.
Why introduce drama into the equation by fucking him?
She wants the validation train to continue.
You wanna know the official title of a guy who’s being used for validation?
He’s a friendzoned guy.
Patrice O’Neal would call him a “Time Ho”.
He’s being used as a validation generator and nothing more.
Don’t be that guy.
Of course, social media and online dating are both HUGE sources of validation for women.
Imagine pressing a button and having 300 messages show up of how you’re pretty, perfect, amazing, lovely, gorgeous, etc.
That is the life of the AVERAGE woman online.
If she’s truly beautiful, you can add the offers of trips around the world, private yachts, free money, and other things too.
Many women nowadays are absolutely addicted to the attention they receive online.
It is the modern epidemic nobody talks about.
It simply means that many, if not all women are incapable of being monogamous for the long term, but honestly, men are also not capable of it, so this is nothing new or weird, really.
Women will always have that panic button in their pocket they can press when times get tough, or they get annoyed with a man.
It is a luxury most men can only dream of, the luxury of abundance.
3 – A High Place in the Female Hierarchy
Women rank themselves on the female hierarchy based on how much control/power they have over the man that they’re seeing.
The more control/power a woman has over her man in her relationship arrangement, the higher she is seen on the female hierarchy.
Here are the rungs of the female hierarchy (from lowest to highest):
- Little kid
- Single mom
- Single
- “Seeing someone”
- Divorced
- Dating someone
- In a serious relationship
- In a marriage
Many women lord their place on the female hierarchy over other women, provoking feelings of jealousy.
These feelings, in turn, cause other women to want to climb higher on the female hierarchy.
What it means for you is that as your girl’s friends start to get into more serious relationships and start to get married, your girl is going to feel the need to pressure you to do the same.
She otherwise has a lower status than her friends and gets bullied as a result.
This is why many women tend to pressure the guys they’re with into more and more serious relationships.
They want to lord their status and rank over other women, or they at least want to remain at parity with them.
Obviously, once they’re attained the highest rank, many women compare themselves based on possessions and other stupid things.
This is where the expression “keeping up with the Joneses” comes from.
Here are some examples:
- What their husband does for a living
- The type of car they drive
- The size of their house
- How their lawn is mowed
- How many extra-curricular activities their kids do
- What their kids work as or where they went to university
- How their house is decorated
- What trips they go on
Obviously, these are things that many men don’t care about. They tend to care about things like sex and their hobbies.
They simply do the above to please their wives, who are in turn doing it to lord their status over other women.
In this way, the man basically becomes a purse or another possession, a tool to be used to compare to other people in her social group.
Don’t let this fate befall you!
As the doctor says: “the best cure is prevention”.
4 – Herd Approval
Whereas men tend to be more individualistic, women tend to be more collectivistic.
This means that women in general, like to do what is “in fashion”.
Many women change their behaviour and beliefs as the times change, to fit in with “team girl” as it were.
It was very dangerous for a woman to be expelled from her social group historically, and thus, many women have an inbuilt biological drive to fit in.
No matter how crazy or stupid current cultural trends are, many women will follow them, out of fear of being expelled from the group.
This is why many women follow the idiotic cultural trends of today, without much thought as to their stupidity.
They are simply following the cultural script.
Here are some examples of stupid cultural scripts many women follow:
- Changing their hair or clothes to match what is in fashion currently, even if it’s ugly
- Changing their political ideology to follow what is in fashion
- Pushing for traditional, monogamous relationships when these don’t make them happy
- Doing what other girls are doing on social media, even if it’s stupid
- Acting as the culture tells them to act, even if it hurts their relationships with men and their children (extreme feminism/left-wing views)
Mark my words, when the world changes and becomes more extreme and right wing, many women will shift ideology and follow, following their innate biological script to fit in.
Even when the culture is asking for us to do really stupid and bizarre things.
It’s gonna happen, mark my words.
5 – Resources
When I say this, I don’t mean all women are gold diggers!
The truth is though, that many women have resource seeking as one of their primary strategies.
They either work to get a good job, so that they don’t rely on a man to raise their children, or they will actively choose a man to have kids with who has money.
Women will often test for resources at the beginning of your interactions with them.
They’ll ask you what you work as.
This is a fairly innocuous question, which in my experience is alright to answer.
NEVER answer a girl’s question about your salary however.
She’s testing you to see if you’re a beta.
If she tries to make the conversation about how much money you make, you’re done.
She sees you as a wallet and not as a person.
Avoid women like this.
Obviously the reason women see resources as important is because they need them in order to raise children.
This is not something bad.
It is simply bad when she sees you as only a wallet, with nothing to provide her but money.
This is why divorce is so evil.
The woman provides nothing (and often takes the children too) and keeps getting money off of you in the form of alimony.
It’s almost like you have to pay her for the privilege of having married her.
This is utterly ridiculous (though child support isn’t, in my opinion).
Until divorce laws change (and they won’t, not in our lifetimes anyway), it is an utterly ludicrous idea to get married.
Those that do have no sense of self-preservation.
They certainly lack wisdom.
6 – Sex
Women want sex!
I would argue that women are more sexual than men.
Since women are responsible for the creation of new humans, one could argue that their whole lives are about sex.
Women do want sex, for sure.
They simply don’t want sex with the same man for very long.
Women tend to be quite devoted for about 1-3 years to the same partner.
After that, their eyes start to wander.
This is called serial monogamy.
Women want to be with one partner, and one partner only, until they don’t. They then switch to a new partner and repeat the pattern.
Don’t get me wrong, men are worse in this regard.
Often, it doesn’t take two weeks before a man wants sexual variety, even if he loves and enjoys the woman he’s with.
Men are polygamous, they want to have sex with multiple women at the same time.
Women are serially monogamous. They want one man, and one man only for a relatively short burst and then to move on to the next.
Ariana Grande’s famous song sums it up amazingly:
“Thank you, next.”
I’m sure you’ve experienced the dick-breaking sex that the first few years of monogamy offer, followed by a gradual reduction of the sex to nothing.
Men can avoid that by being polygamous. Once the sex dries up, you simply replace the girl in the roster with no hard feelings.
She’ll often return later, wanting to have sex with you again, once her hormones have reset with regards to you.
7 – Emotional Highs and Lows
Men are linear, women are cyclical.
Women experience shifting feelings regularly and enjoy it!
A girl doesn’t want to live life in a still pond. She wants a raging ocean for her emotions.
Men who are polygamous players do an amazing job of stirring the waters.
This is because non-monogamy creates constant angst in the girl as she thinks about other women the man is with.
While they’re together, however, the feelings are amazing!
She gets both positive and negative feelings in a cyclical pattern.
A total win-win!
Women are also cyclical when it comes to their interactions with men.
Women spend some months to years with an alpha, finally become frustrated (with his non-compliance to her will), leave him for a beta, stay with the beta until they get bored (of his compliance to her will), then return to the alpha.
On and on it goes in a cyclical pattern of emotions.
You as a man avoid the cyclical nature of a woman’s emotions by being non-monogamous.
When you refuse to commit to one girl, you don’t rely on her emotional whims for sex.
When you don’t rely on her emotional whims for sex, you free yourself from the stormy waters of her ocean and can sail on a gentle pond.
You can relax, knowing that your sexual needs are going to be provided for, regardless of any individual girl’s feelings.
Conclusion
As you can see, women want many things, some of which we can relate to as men, and some of which we can’t really.
Here’s a list to remind you of what women want:
- Attention
- Validation
- A high place in the female hierarchy
- Herd approval
- Resources
- Sex
- Emotional highs and lows
We can overcome the difficulties of women’s cyclical natures by being non-monogamous.
Ultimately, it is up to us to understand, adapt and overcome.
Don’t get sucked into the life strategy of a woman just because you enjoy the sex!
Monogamy will destroy both of you in the long term.
Don’t give in!
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions:
You Must Hate Women, Helios, to Describe Them All As Gold Diggers!
I love women.
They are not all gold diggers.
Trying to understand what lies beneath the surface of women is the opposite of hate.
I try to understand that which I love.
Women want resources, there is nothing bad about that, except if they see a man as nothing more than a wallet.
Not All Women Want Attention and Validation, You’re An Asshole!
I speak in the general sense.
Of course it is true that there are exceptions to the rule.
I would say that I am an exception in the way that I think.
It would be stupid of me to say that there are no women that are also exceptions to the rule.
I Don’t Want Attention Like Some Common Peacock, You’re A Dick Helios!
Maybe you don’t.
Many women do, however.
Are you honestly going to tell me that that girl showing her ass on instagram doesn’t like attention?
Kim Kardashian doesn’t like it?
Give me a break.
I Love My Husband, I Don’t See Him As A Purse!
I’m sure you do.
How many times have you talked about your husband’s personality, and not about what he does or owns?
See?
You’re treating him as a status object to show off to your friends.
Don’t feel bad, you can change.
Fuck your husband like you did when you first met to show him your appreciation.
I’ll bet that’s hard for you at this point in your marriage.
Humans aren’t monogamous.
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