Many (dare I say all) men have encountered these common female tactics that aim to make men wait for sex.
Many men wonder what they did wrong in order to receive these, while many women are frustrated at the horniness of men who need sex more often than they do.
Many men wonder how they can prevent women from using these tactics on them.
This is going to get a bit involved, I hope you’re ready…
Some Facts About Biological Sex Drives
First, I need to explain some things.
It is a biological FACT that men have higher testosterone (12 to 17x more than the average woman).
This means that on average, men are going to be WAY hornier than women.
A way for a woman to experience just how horny a guy actually is would be for her to inject herself with the equivalent of 12-17x as much testosterone as they currently have.
This has been done before!
Women report an INTENSE surge of horniness and desperation for sexual activity nearly immediately after taking the same amount of testosterone as the average man.
In the specific study I am describing, women went so far as to say they wanted to “make it stop”.
THAT is what men have to contend with from the age of 14 to about the age of 40, lowering to about 80% of that level by the age of 60, and we CAN’T turn it off.
It is only natural, as a result, that men would want sex more often than women. This is NORMAL.
For women to state that they get just as horny as men is PATENTLY false.
No “right guy” will make them as horny as men are in the LONG TERM.
Women are cyclical in their sex drive.
They are more horny at certain phases of their ovulation (where they seek out alpha men) and less horny at others (where they’re more ok with beta men).
They are also more horny at different points in their life (more horny in their rockstar phase than in their lady phase).
If She Makes You Wait for Sex, It’s Not Worth the Wait
Now it’s time for some sad truth.
Some women will not be interested in you no matter what you do.
Sometimes, women that are not interested in you will PRETEND they are because they like things about you that are not related to your sexual attractiveness to her.
Examples include:
- She likes your money
- She likes your apartment
- She likes your friends
- She likes your humour
- She likes your style
In that case, she will actively try to keep you around, while denying you sex for whatever reason.
If she EVER denies you sex in this way, it is NEVER worth the wait.
In the case of women denying you sex in this way, your reaction should ALWAYS be to walk away.
Your time is too precious and your happiness is too important to entertain someone who is not interested in reciprocating your affection.
She is perfectly allowed to not be interested in you, but you are also perfectly allowed to not be alright with that and to LEAVE.
Women’s Sexual Frame
Many men have no idea the game that is being played around them.
As a result, they often fall into women’s default sexual frame, which is dictated by our current culture.
Women’s default frame is often this:
- Women are the prize
- Women should be worked for
- Women should be fought for
- Women should be listened to
- Women should have nice things bought for them
- Women deserve attention for free
- Women should be allowed to date and sleep with any partner they desire
Women imply, with their cultural frame that if they don’t receive these things, you won’t get laid.
In fact, these things are a LIE.
If you buy into and truly believe these things, you label yourself as a beta and will LOSE MANY sexual opportunities with women.
You need to have YOUR OWN sexual frame and hold strong to that.
Simply flip the script on it’s head and you have an alpha male’s sexual frame.
Here, I’ve done it for you:
- I am the prize
- I should be worked for
- I should be fought for
- I should be listened to
- I should have nice things bought (done) for me
- I deserve attention
- I am allowed to date and sleep with any partner I desire
When you see women behaving in a manner that runs counter to your frame, DO NOT point it out.
Simply soft next them! (Leave for a week, go no contact, then contact them as though nothing happened.)
They will get the message that you’re not some kind of beta who is easily trifled with.
You don’t have to get into shouting contests or arguments for this to be your frame.
You simply withdraw your attention if you aren’t being treated according to your standards.
You NEVER have to force the issue.
If someone doesn’t comply, you simply LEAVE.
Move on to prospects who are willing to do the things that you need to be happy.
Try reversing society’s frame, you’ll see it works like magic!
Common Sexual Filibuster Techniques for Women
Many women use filibuster (stalling) techniques in order to fool betas/NPCs into thinking that they might, at some point in the future, be sexually interested in them.
Women never are.
They simply string these betas along for as long as the attention and gift train runs for, and fuck alphas as soon as the opportunity presents itself.
Here are some examples (you may have heard some of these yourself in your life):
- I love you but I’m not in love with you
- We’re just friends
- I need a stronger connection before we can have sex
- I’m a good girl and don’t do that
- I’m saving myself for marriage
- Let’s try a long distance relationship
The sad part is if you’ve heard these while in an LTR with a woman.
She’s simply stringing you along until she finds a better guy than you, don’t let this be you!
This is especially true, by the way, if you’ve agreed to be in a long distance relationship.
Those aren’t relationships. You’re being used, dude.
Let’s Just Be Friends
This is a classic!
I wanted to take the time to devote one section to this one since it is so common.
If she says she just wants to be friends, you have NO sexual chance with her, now or in the future.
You would have to become an entirely different person for there to be any chance of sex.
She’s wasting your time and using you for the other benefits that you provide.
She will NEVER give sexual intimacy.
You have been warned.
Women that LJBF you, no matter how wonderful, are TIMEWASTERS.
My heart aches thinking about how many sexual opportunities men have lost by wasting their time with women that treat them as literal time ho’s and taxis.
It really kills me…
Online Penpals
Here is another amazing one.
This is for those of you who use online dating.
I’m sure you’ve been talking to a girl online, and had everything go well only for her to say something like:
“I need to get to know someone better usually before I meet them in person.”
Women like this NEVER meet up (ask me how I know).
When a girl suggests that you become online penpals in this manner, you should promptly ghost her.
She deserves not ONE IOTA of attention from you.
Once a girl has labelled herself as a timewaster who is not willing to put in the effort to meet you in person, your valuable time should instantly be moved elsewhere.
NEVER talk incessantly with a girl online, it invariably leads to a ghost down the line when a better man (in her opinion) comes along.
Never allow women to string you along like this.
Every Date Should Have Sexual Progression
Some guys go on date after date after date, and nothing sexual ever happens.
There are several causes to this:
- The man is a beta/NPC who has no idea how to escalate sexually
- The man is not attractive to the girl
- The girl is in her lady phase (29 years old +)
As a man, after the first date (which should be one hour long and for rapport only!), you should be escalating to sex every date.
If she declines, but does something sexual every date, you can consider things to be going well.
You should expect more and more sexual things each date in this case, culminating in sex at around the 4th date.
I would say that this sort of progression will happen about 10% of the time (4th date sex).
Usually, using this model, you will be having sex by the second date.
Some women will absolutely not ever have sex, no matter what you do.
They will kiss you, grope you, etc, but every time you try to actually have sex, they will decline.
In that case, you’re going to have to have a mature conversation with her that states that sex is an absolute need of yours, and if she isn’t willing to provide it, she can find someone else who she is willing to have sex with.
You are not required to blue-ball yourself sexually, or spend your time with women that aren’t interested in sex with you.
She is totally allowed to decline sex, but you are also totally allowed to not accept a relationship with a girl who would deny your needs.
If You Don’t Really Like Me GTFO
This should be one of your frames as an alpha.
If women don’t really like you, they can fuck off.
The best women in your life are going to be those that are really into you.
There are many women like that for all of us. Women that specifically like our style, or our personality, or whatever, and they fuck us passionately as a result.
You should focus on those.
If a woman doesn’t like you all that much, you should be totally alright with her leaving.
Your goal as a man who wants to maximize his happiness is to find women that are “fuck yes” about you, and not just girls who tolerate you because they don’t have anyone else.
You’ll be much happier following this rule.
Conclusion
As you can see, there are many tactics that women use to make men wait for sex.
If they use these on you, the sex is never worth the wait.
You should only accept women into your life that contribute positively, and not those who make you wait, or simply tolerate you because they have no-one else.
Remember these rules and maximise your happiness!
Godspeed.
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions:
Me and My Girl Have Marathon Sex Every Day, She Seems Every Bit as Horny as Me, Helios!
Yeah, she is.
Temporarily.
Watch her long term behaviour and see if she can keep that up. (past 3 months to 3 years)
I bet you can.
Sex drives are biologically different between men and women, and this is clearly shown in long-term trends.
I’ve Kissed This Girl At A Party Once or Twice, But Every Time We Spend Time Together She Doesn’t Want to Have Sex, What Gives?
She’s stringing you along dude.
She’s just not that into you.
Stop wasting your time with her and move on to prospects that actually want to fuck you passionately.
Me and My Girl Are Trying to Make A Long-Distance Relationship Work, So Far So Good!
You sure bro?
She’s not your girl if you’re not fucking.
You’re now her time ho.
Congrats.
I’ve Gotten to First Base, Second Base and Now Third Base With My Girl, But She Just Won’t Have Sex! I Want It So Bad, What Do I Do?
You’re going to have to have a mature conversation with her about your needs.
Sex is a need for men like vision is.
If she can’t accept that you have needs just as she does, then she shouldn’t be with you.
You should not accept blue balls every time you try sex just because she’s not acknowledging your needs.
If that ends the relationship, oh well.
She would never have had sex anyway, and you would have been tortured constantly.
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