This is a necessary article.
It is necessary because some men are just too modest!
They self-deprecate and destroy the game for themselves before it has even begun!
Let me explain why self-deprecation is bad…
When Men Date, They Qualify, When Women Date, They Disqualify
Men and women date differently.
When men date, they look to qualify.
They look for reasons why they might like the person they’re with.
Women look to disqualify!
This means that they look for a reason to say “ew, no.”, and when they find it, they leave.
This means that you should limit how many things a girl could say no to, especially early in the interaction.
This is why on first dates, I recommend you talk 15 minutes out of the 60.
When you do this, you give women as little opportunity as possible to disqualify you and thus, you increase your chances of getting laid astronomically.
Self Deprecation Is Beta
Self deprecation is beta because it invites the girl to disqualify you.
You give her ammunition to use in order to determine that you’re not a good sexual partner for her.
You’re going about the process backwards.
You should NOT talk about why you’re bad or weak.
Instead, you should talk about why you’re awesome (indirectly, of course).
Putting yourself down puts women above you.
Since women are hypergamous, they are not interested in a man that’s below them.
Don’t self deprecate!
Do Not Explain Your Weaknesses
Nobody wants to know your weaknesses.
The only people that say they want to know those are those who want ammunition to use against you later (women in LTR’s anyone?).
You need to actively hide your weaknesses and project your strengths.
Ultimately, life is about selling yourself.
You cannot sell yourself short by admitting only your weaknesses and displaying none of your strengths.
People believe what you show and tell them.
If all you’re ever talking about and showing is weakness, people will believe you to be weak, even if you aren’t.
If women who you are interested in sleeping with see you as weak, they will friend zone you.
Sympathy does NOT get sex.
If you have slept with her twice, you might consider revealing one weakness you have, in passing.
This will make you seem more human and will likely work well.
You do not however want to always be talking about your weaknesses.
Identification With Women Decreases Attraction
The modern cultural narrative says that men should embrace their feminine emotional side and that women find this attractive.
This is a lie and beta bait.
If you demonstrate all of the qualities of women as a man, then the masculine-feminine polarity needed for seduction disappears.
Women are NOT attracted to feminine men (unless those men are feminine in appearance, but masculine in demeanor).
You need to firmly hold on to the things that make you a man in order for women to be attracted to you.
Here are some qualities of the alpha male to demonstrate:
- Frame
- Physical attractiveness
- Emotional unavailability
- Non-monogamy
- Confidence
Identification with the feminine will unfortunately label you as a beta and have the opposite (anti-seductive) effect to what you want.
Stoicism
Some very attractive qualities that men can show are those of stoicism.
Try these instead of talking about your weaknesses:
- Low emotional expression
- Logical demeanor
- Rational mind
- Resilient emotional state
- Strong body
All of these qualities are STRONGLY masculine.
They will naturally have the effect you want on women.
You’ll notice that by adopting these behaviours women will treat you very differently than before.
They are reacting to the masculine polarity put out by you.
Sucking up to women by showing all of your emotions and kissing her ass while talking about how bad you are at certain things will NOT be a successful seduction strategy.
Try stoicism instead!
Romanticism
Many men fall into the trap of romanticism.
Romanticism talks about how women love emotional men, who sacrifice everything for them in chivalrous displays.
Women in fact DO NOT find romantic behaviours attractive in men.
Supplicational behaviour (which romantic behaviours are) has led to the rise of NPCs in our society.
It is in fact a societal ill that men kiss women’s asses in an effort to be “romantic”.
Women find these behaviours to be weak (even though many women say that they like, or even NEED these behaviours in a relationship).
It is sad that society raises men to be beta NPCs.
The destruction of information regarding what makes men men is one of the reasons why the west is in decline.
You need to break out of the idiotic notion of romanticism and embrace stoicism and realism instead.
You Cannot Relax In A Relationship
Many men feel that when they’re in a relationship with an awesome girl, they can share everything with her.
This could not be further from the truth.
Sharing everything with any sexual partner will lead to a rapid loss of sexual attraction.
This is especially true if you are talking about all of your fears and weaknesses with your sexual partner.
Your sexual partners are for sex and sometimes companionship.
They are not for sharing your problems or burdens.
You cannot relax.
Relaxation of your masculinity leads to rapid beta-ization and loss of attraction from your girl.
Remember, women are hypergamous.
Lowering yourself in her eyes makes her want to instantly look for a replacement.
It is extremely unwise to disclose everything.
You disqualify yourself this way.
Let Them Decide What To Dislike About You, Do Not Give Them Ammunition
Do NOT share your deepest darkest fears with women.
They will then know exactly where to attack you in the future, should they want to.
Let THEM decide what they dislike about you.
They may dislike something completely nonsensical to you, which will make you immune to jabs directed at that aspect of yourself.
When you tell women your deepest fears or what you dislike about yourself, you’ve given them a powerful tool which they can then use to manipulate your emotions with.
You think they won’t use it?
“Those with power, use that power.”
In many ways, telling women your deepest fears is disqualification.
It invites destruction.
A strong man would want to protect his partner from the ills of the world, not share how he feels the world may destroy him.
Conclusion
It is idiotic to disqualify yourself to women.
You are moving backwards in the seduction process if you do this.
Do not give women the tools to friendzone you with.
Let them decide not to like you.
Don’t tell them why they shouldn’t.
Godspeed!
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions:
I Make Fun of Myself Casually All the Time, And I Keep Fucking Up With Women, What Gives?
You’re giving women the impression that you’re weak.
They instantly disqualify you for sex, since you don’t seem confident in yourself.
Mention things that are awesome about you instead, there are many!
My Girl Is Perfect, I Want To Tell Her Everything!
If you do, beta-ization and the end of the relationship will soon follow.
Women do not respect weak men who share their deepest fears and weaknesses with them.
Reserve that for your closest (male) friends.
This Girl Is Amazing, I Want to Give Her the World!
Sucking up to women is antithetical to attraction.
By kissing her ass and revealing your weaknesses, she sees you as a provider and not as a sex partner.
She will likely friendzone/reject you.
Focus on who you are and the value that that provides to women passively.
Buying women shit and sucking up is disqualification.
I Wear My Heart On My Sleeve, Is That Good?
Women tend to not be attracted to emotional men (unless those men are extremely physically attractive, or abusive).
As a result, I recommend you follow the principles of stoicism:
- Low emotional expression
- Logical demeanor
- Rational mind
- Resilient emotional state
- Strong body
Through these actions, you behave in a way that is very different from women.
You create a masculine-feminine polarity easily through this method and can get laid more easily as a result.
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