The number one priority for a man who wants success in our feminized society is to kill his inner beta.
There are several important points to keep in mind in order to do this.
I have them here, listed, to help you in your journey as your transition from a beta to the alpha you’ve always wanted to be!
Here we go…
1 – Do Not Ask For People’s Approval Before You Do Things
Asking for people’s approval is extremely beta.
It implies that you need permission in order to do things.
If you want to do something, you have full agency to do it, you must just accept the consequences of your actions.
Take ownership of wanting to do things that others around you might not, and you’ll see very quickly that you’ll have much greater success!
You do not need permission to start to live the life that you want.
Go out and live it, and if the people around you don’t approve, just keep on trucking.
“The wolf does not worry about the thoughts of the sheep.”
2 – Stop Apologizing
Too many men apologize as a matter of course.
They are so worried about offending the people around them.
Apologizing for every little thing and every little thought keeps you in a mental prison.
When you’re constantly worried about what other people think of you, you fail to develop yourself as a person outside of the opinions of those people.
Your goal in life is not to be like everyone else (unless you want to experience the follies of being like everyone else).
Your goal is to do what it is that you desire unapologetically.
Even if you feel you did something wrong, it is often not correct to apologize.
This is especially true in your relationships with women.
Often, they will get mad at some nonsensical thing you did.
If you apologize in that case, you put yourself in a position of supplication.
You want to avoid making moves that make you appear as weak.
It is prudent to stop apologizing as a result.
3 – Don’t Be Monogamous
NPCs believe what cultural norms and women in general tell them.
They feel they are doing something wrong if they follow their normal biological drive to be non-monogamous.
This is folly.
You are an alpha male who has a biological imperative just as women do.
Your biological imperative as a man is to be sexually intimate with as many women as possible, not to be monogamous.
When you deny that aspect of yourself, it is akin to castration.
You are weakening your masculine essence in favour of women’s sexual strategy.
That automatically labels you as a beta.
Any woman that knows that you seek monogamy and exclusivity knows what you are giving up and that you are weak as a result.
Any man that would give up his freedom to choose for one woman is not a man worth having in the long term.
He is instead a man worth using and discarding later.
If you would like to see the most feral aspects of female nature, get into a long term monogamous, live in relationship with a woman.
Record what happens over time with regards to her sexual behaviour and level of respect towards you.
If you see anything other than a sharp reduction in both respect and sexuality after the honeymoon phase of that relationship ends, please email me, you’ve found a unicorn (or you’re an extreme alpha in her eyes for some reason, and I’d like to talk to you to find out why).
4 – Don’t DEER
Do NOT do any of these four things with women:
- Defend
- Explain
- Excuse
- Rationalize
These are defensive behaviours that you would only do with someone that you felt was in a position of power over you.
You should never have to feel like you have to defend, explain, excuse or rationalize any of your actions to anyone.
Since you are not an approval seeker, you don’t care if they disapprove of your actions.
Ultimately, you’re going to do what you want anyway.
In defending, explaining, excusing or rationalizing your actions, you are putting yourself in a position of subservience.
Ideally, in your life, you never want to be in a position where you’re forced to do these things.
An example of a place where you might be forced to do these things is your workplace.
This is the reason why many alphas chafe at 9-5 jobs. They hate to be put into a position of subservience, even for money.
5 – Unplug
Unplugging refers to learning about how the world really works and the lies that you have been raised on regarding women.
Unplugging refers to understanding that listening to women’s words (including those of your mother) will lead to utter lack of sex and intimacy from women.
You must watch women’s actions and behaviours to determine what they want and not do what they say they want.
Unplugging refers to learning that the world we live in right now is a matriarchy, a world that favours women in all things.
You have to embrace your masculinity, and what it means to be a real man, and not be a man that lives as a tool for the feminine reality you were raised in.
You have to unlearn much of what you have been taught up to this point, and re-learn a new paradigm, one that makes you free.
This is extremely difficult thing to do, but an absolute necessity in this world.
6 – Be Stoic
Rather than wear your emotions on your sleeve, so that you are easily manipulated (a common theme among betas/NPCs), you should be reserved in your emotional display.
Do NOT reveal how you truly feel.
You must be stoic and calm in your everyday life, especially with women.
You must be emotionally unreactive and utterly centred.
Even if your girl is behaving erratically, you cannot allow her changing emotions to rock your world.
You need to stay on your course no matter what the world or women do to try and throw you off.
You must control the things you can control, and let go of everything else.
Make the right decisions, even if your feelings are trying to lead you astray.
You are not in control of this world, but as a stoic, you believe that you are in control of yourself.
You can control how you react to what the world gives you.
Be wise in your reactions.
7 – Do What Is Correct, Regardless of Your Feelings
An alpha male is not led around by his feelings.
Even if he feels he has met the absolute best woman he will ever meet, he does not change his behaviours.
If she behaves in a way that the alpha is not ok with, he still withdraws attention.
Even if he has extreme feelings for the girl he’s with, he will still remain stoic and calm.
You must control yourself, despite your feelings.
Your feelings will try to lead you astray, into beta behaviours.
Use your rational mind to control yourself in order to gain the upper hand in these situations.
You are allowed to feel as you like, but your actions cannot EVER reflect neediness, desperation, or beta-hood.
An alpha understands that emotional actions do not lead to the best long term outcomes.
As a result, he makes rational actions instead.
8 – Live on the Edge of Your Fear
To kill your inner beta, you must live on the edge of your fear.
You must actively try to step out of your comfort zone, until stepping out of your comfort zone is comfortable.
You then step again.
You incrementally increase how well you can do things that make you uncomfortable.
This is the way to increase your willpower and escape your feminine social conditioning.
Do things that scare you, or that you’ve never done before, then do them again.
If you fear rejection, you’re going to have to face that.
You need to face your fears until they are not so scary anymore.
Remember this:
“The monster in your head is always greater than the monster in reality.”
Betas/NPCs are extremely self-defeating.
You need to live on the edge of your fear in order to break the cycle of self-destruction.
Talking to women is scary at first, I get it.
Don’t let that stop you.
Starting your own business is scary as well.
Don’t let that stop you.
The things you learn along the way will give you extreme success in life.
Your goal is not to be an NPC like everyone else, but to be free.
Fear and risk are natural aspects of that process.
You’re going to have to choose whether you want a safe, comfortable life of misery, or a risk-taking adventurous life or joy.
9 – Do What Makes YOU Happy
Every man has something that makes them happy.
Do not allow our cultural conditioning to take that from you.
You must fiercely hold on to the things that you hold dear, regardless of what the people around you are telling you.
It is extremely beta to just do the things that people around you say that you should be doing.
“Keeping up with the Joneses” is probably the most destructive thing you could do with your life.
Living your life constantly comparing yourself to others and asking yourself why you can’t be someone else will lead to extreme misery.
If you want to kill your inner beta, you’re going to have to discard this cancerous destructive ideology.
Do what makes YOU happy, and not what the people around you tell you you should be doing.
They don’t know you.
You know you.
How dare they think that they know better!
10 – Do Intense Exercise Regularly
To kill your inner beta requires blood, sweat and tears.
In this case, I mean that literally.
You must put in regular, intense effort into your body.
Betas/NPCs neglect their physical presence in the world.
After all, cultural conditioning has told them that only their personality matters.
Cultural conditioning is wrong.
You must have enough respect for yourself to work on your physical body and presence in this world.
It affects every aspect of your life, from your ability to sleep to your ability to concentrate and persevere.
You would be an idiot to neglect your physical body.
Did I mention that women find a sexy body very attractive?
Conclusion
You must do many things in order to kill your inner beta.
Here is the list again, as a summary:
- Do not ask for people’s approval before you do things
- Stop apologizing
- Don’t be monogamous
- Don’t DEER
- Unplug
- Be stoic
- Do what is correct, regardless of your feelings
- Live on the edge of your fear
- Do what makes you happy
- Do intense exercise regularly
By following this list of behaviours, you will train yourself to be more alpha day by day.
I recommend starting with two of these, and once you feel you have them handled, doing two more.
Trying to do all of these at once will be very difficult and awkward for you, as you try to change every aspect of yourself at once.
You can do it!
-Helios
Frequently Asked Questions:
I Always Ask My Best Friend (Who’s A Girl) Before I Try Anything With New Girls I’m Talking To, It Helps Me A Lot!
Umm.
Why do you need this girl’s permission to do stuff?
This is going about things backwards and probably ruining your results with women.
Women give advice for team girl.
She won’t be helping you with her advice, she’ll be helping any girl you’re with.
You don’t need her permission and she’s advising you wrong!
Stop!
Women Say They Like Men Who Are In Touch With Their Feminine Side, You’re Full of Shit Helios!
Yeah, and then women get wet for Khal Drogo from Game of Thrones, or Captain America.
Are those archetypal men beta?
Women don’t like feminine men, they just wish they did.
My Mom Says That Good Girls Don’t Go For Players, I Want A Good Girl! Your Methods Will Only Attract Sluts!
Read up on the concept of “madonna/whore”.
Women are neither!
Your mom is trying to fool you into believing that there are “good girls” and “bad girls” and that “good girls” like beta shit.
It is a LIE.
Women are women.
They ALL want to fuck alphas and recieve gifts/attention/affection from betas.
A woman’s ideal man (who doesn’t exist) has both aspects (alpha and beta) to his personality.
You can only choose to be ONE of the two archetypes.
One of them gets sex and love (alphas), the other gets used (betas).
You choose which one you want to be.
I Always Explain Who I Am and What I Want With Women, Yet I Never Get Laid, Why?
Women don’t speak as men do.
They speak indirectly.
By telling them directly who you are from the beginning, women think you are posing or being fake.
You are much better off implying the kind of man you are, and letting her figure it out on her own.
Once she wants to define the relationship (3 months in or so), you can explain the kind of man you are.
Do not go into extreme detail.
If she leaves after that discussion, don’t worry, she’ll be back (in 4 months or so)! Simply go no-contact and re-initiate conversation in 4 months.
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