Tag: traits of an alpha male

Here comes another tough article.

This one might hurt to read for some of you, but the red pill is a bitter one, unfortunately.

Some of you need to hear this, as you will live lives of quiet desperation without this information.

Listen and learn.

This is but a small fraction of the information a real man needs to know to have a successful life.

Fail to acknowledge this information at your peril.

Here are some truths of the world…

No One is Coming to Save Us

No-one gives a shit about men.

We were raised from a young age to be disposable pawns in the game of life.

Our ability to work and our ability to produce was meant to be harnessed from birth, much in the way that humanity harnesses livestock.

Our work ability was not meant to be harnessed for our benefit, no.

Our work ability was to be harnessed for the benefit of society (a corporatist oligarchy currently).

Such was our fate from birth, to be pawns in a grand game we didn’t even know we were playing.

If we fail to break free, we will be churned in the meatgrinder of history, as most have before us.

We will die as we lived, mindless and abused by the system.

No one is coming to save us.

The only thing we have is our wits, and our wisdom.

Our knowledge can guide us to freedom, but only that.

Ignorance is folly in the modern world, as it has always been.

Our Mom/Parents/Family/Teachers Lied to Us

Today, information seems to exist purely for the obfuscation of the truth of the world.

Our parents, family and teachers lied to us.

They told us that the world is fair and just, and that people get what they deserve.

Most people get nothing.

Most people are farmed as cattle and discarded when their usefulness exceeds their value.

We were told that we are free when really we are chained from birth.

We were born into a mental prison.

There does exist a way to escape, but the key is hidden on purpose.

We were told that women were wonderful angels.

Women are human, like the rest of us.

All lies, serving one common purpose.

Slavery and control.

Society Actively Teaches Men How to be Good Slaves Who Supplicate to Women

Society teaches men to worship women.

The current cultural trends all point to this.

When men worship women, they give them everything, much as a corporate drone gives his life to a company.

In the same manner, when the drone has outlived his value, he is discarded, a useless husk.

Such is the treatment of the average man nowadays by women.

The average beta male is a drone in the corporation that is the feminine ideal.

When the drone outlives his usefulness, he is discarded, and replaced by another.

Round and round this carousel goes, men abused at every step.

No-one is coming to save them.

We Have Been Brainwashed NPCs

Most men have spent their formative years as brainwashed NPCs. 

We had no idea what the real world was like, and simply regurgitated what society told us was correct.

Worship women, be a corporate slave.

Sacrifice your life for others and be rewarded.

These rewards never came.

Instead, we were rewarded with pain for our obedience.

We deserve better.

We deserve the truth of the world, unvarnished by societal programming which aims to control and manipulate.

We are worth more than that.

That is why the redpill exists.

Take it and be free.

Suffer no more.

Christian Religion in the West Has Been Co-opted

Christian religion no longer worships God.

Controversial, I know.

It worships something else entirely.

While claiming to worship God, what modern christian religion currently worships is women.

Men in modern christian religious groups are expected to live their life virtuously, as cattle, to feed their female masters.

Men are to obey women in all things and follow their life plan (marriage and monogamy).

Men are to sacrifice everything for their perfect, angelic, one.

They are not to follow God’s plan, no, they are to follow women’s plan, disguised as God’s plan.

The tragedy of this is that religious people are being manipulated.

They believe that they are worshipping god and being virtuous, when really, they are dooming themselves to a life of misery and needless sacrifice (as a result of the current state of divorce in the west).

God would not approve of this idolatry.

Women Are Likely Attracted to the Opposite of What You’ve Been Taught

Men are taught from a young age that women respect men that sacrifice for them.

Men are taught that women love and give sex to “good men” (men who worship women and do everything they want).

Men are taught that they should wear their emotions on their sleeve and be more feminine in demeanor to be attractive to women.

Men are taught that women appreciate men who take things slow sexually.

Men are taught that they should be emotionally vulnerable to be attractive.

Men are taught that they should buy women gifts and take them on expensive dates.

Men are taught that the shape of their body is unimportant, but “personality” matters above all.

Men are taught that they should have only one monogamous girlfriend.

Men are taught that they should get married.

These are ALL LIES.

ALL of these things will repulse women sexually.

EVERYTHING you have been taught from your formative years regarding attracting women sexually have been LIES.

They have been told to you in order to maintain feminine cultural supremacy, and POWER over men in relationships.

If you even follow ONE of the precepts that you were taught in your formative years, you will GREATLY reduce your chances of being successful sexually.

This is done on purpose, to control you.

Wake up!

Your Looks Matter

As I mentioned in the previous section, men are taught that the shape of their body doesn’t matter.

That is a lie.

Your appearance is extremely important in order to get your foot in the door with women.

You will have a MUCH harder time getting laid if you don’t look good.

You MUST exercise regularly in order to be attractive and remain at least in the healthy BMI range (although, nowadays, even men in the healthy BMI range are considered below average to attractive women).

Long Term Divorce Rates Are Around 80% Now

This means that if you enter into a traditional, monogamous marriage, as most men do in the west, you are 80% likely to get divorced within ten years.

Many people don’t believe this statistic.

If you google current marriage statistics, they say that the rate is around 50%, or even slightly below, but this does not account for long marriages.

It only accounts for short term marriages.

Of course, most marriages that don’t split are also miserable (just ask any man in a traditional marriage if he’s happy, or take a glance at his face.).

Taking such a risk with your finances is utter lunacy, and I cannot understand why the NPC does it.

My guess is that societal programming is so strong that it overrides any sense of self-preservation.

Some men believe that you’re fine if you sign a prenup.

Prenups often get discarded in court.

There goes your life, bucko!

Let me state this, in case it wasn’t clear:

DON’T GET MARRIED.

Why?

You shackle your sex drive and your happiness to the changing emotions of another person, who can change their mind at any time about you, tearing your life in half in the process (while suffering much less pain than you due to the structure of society).

The West is In Decline

The west is dying on the vine.

You can see it in the street, and in the stores, and especially in how youth are unable to afford a house.

The next 50 years are bound for some interesting times in the west as the ship slowly sinks.

The ship sinking is going to drag us all into the waves.

Intelligent people should create an exit plan as soon as they can.

The American Empire will not be so for much longer, mark my words.

Move to a place in the world that isn’t on the decline, or watch your life be upended as the world changes from under your feet.

We live in interesting times indeed.

Women Are the Way They Are and Not How You Want Them to Be

Ultimately, and I hope this is obvious by now, women are not as you want them to be.

Nobody is perfect and expecting any human to live up to some perfect ideal is asinine.

This is what angers me most about our societal programming.

If it just taught us that women were human, as men are, then we could come to our own conclusions.

Instead, we are biased from the beginning and have to unlearn a great deal before we can even begin to imagine taking control of our own destiny.

Ridiculous.

Most men are stuck in their NPC loop of doom simply because they will not trust outside sources over their family (who have been feeding them lies since birth), who in turn are just repeating the programming that their parents told them, and so on.

You have to want to break free!

Conclusion

As you can see, the red pill is a bitter one.

There are several lies that you are told from a young age which are used to control you and keep you as a beta NPC.

It is up to you to recognize what is happening, break free and unburden yourself from the chains of society.

I know it’s hard, but ultimately it’s your choice to make:

Be a free deviant, or a praised slave.

I have already made my choice.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

What If I Just Want to Live A Quiet Life?

You can, but not here.

Things are about to get real crazy, real soon in the west.

Are There Really No Life Paths That Are Perfect for a Man?

In my opinion being a free deviant is perfect.

Your parents and your beta friends won’t approve though.

My Religion Isn’t Like the Rest, Mine Does What it Says on the Tin!

Does it promote marriage?

Then unfortunately, it promotes the worship of women.

It isn’t the religion’s fault, it had the best of intentions, but I’m afraid the old adage applies:

“The road to hell is paved with good intentions.”

Where Should I Move to Avoid the Collapse?

Asia is on the rise for the most part.

Hope you like asian women!

A lot of men suffer greatly due to our culture.

Since our culture teaches us the myth of “the one”, many men suffer at the end of a relationship.

Oftentimes, it feels like our whole world is ending when a relationship ends, since the way that many men are taught is to worship women.

When the object of mens’ affection is removed (and the only source of sex), men become miserable.

Luckily for you, I’m here to help.

Here is what to do once your “perfect” relationship ends.

Understand that More and Better Exists Out There

Because of the false teachings of modern culture, many men lament over the loss of that one perfect girl for them.

The truth is, however, that there is NO ONE.

There are MANY women out there that would make you very happy.

There are literally thousands of women right now that would be exceptionally happy to be with a man like you, with your specific talents and personality.

You do not have to fixate on THAT ONE.

Rest easy, more women will come.

What people in your life try to hide from you is this fact:

Where there is one, there is more than one.

I’m sure many of you have noticed that when you’re with a girl, she assumes that other women are into you.

That is because it is TRUE!

She fears her competition, and tries to convince you that she is special (as do all of your beta friends, and relatives).

This could not be further from the truth.

Delete Everything of Hers

In that vein, once your relationship is over, it is time to DELETE everything.

You want NO REMINDERS of her at all.

You’re trying to start fresh, and you don’t need beta reminders of her everywhere.

All those pictures of her on your phone? Delete them.

All of your beautiful, perfect couple pictures? Delete them.

Things that she has given you as gifts which have sentimental value?

Get rid of them.

She’s GONE.

Good riddance.

Once you have removed the mental reminders, it’s time for the next step.

Go No-Contact

NEVER contact her again.

Block her everywhere, and delete her number.

You want no chance of her messing with your head, or of you being tempted to go for her again.

Absolutely NO CONTACT, especially if it was a bad breakup.

She has proven that she is low value, why would you ever entertain her in your life again?

DO NOT EVER message her again.

As far as you’re concerned, she’s on Mars now.

Spend your time focusing on yourself instead, and pursuing other women.

Establish Yourself as the Centre Point of Your Own Life

Many men, especially those that have had a bad breakup, have ended up in that place because they were no longer the centre of their own lives.

They made the girl they were with the most important thing in their life and supplicated to her endlessly.

That needs to end now.

Even if it feels selfish, you have to establish YOURSELF as the centre of your own life and no-one else.

No-one deserves to be given higher priority in your life than you.

You need to focus on yourself and your own development.

Once you are self-centred in this way, you will feel the pressure of the old relationship relax.

Hit the Gym

A lot of men, especially those coming out of bad relationships let everything fall off.

They stop exercising and being the badass they were before the relationship.

This of course, eases your partner’s competition anxiety, but also makes you a total beta slob.

We are not aiming for being a slob, we are aiming for greatness.

Start going to a gym (to lift weights), or a martial arts/boxing gym.

You need a regular routine established of working out at least four times a week.

The workouts need to be so intense that you can barely move afterwards.

With a nice, more healthy body, you will find that you relax, and your confidence increases.

This will help a lot in the future, when you’re going to begin your journey of establishing multiple FWBs/NMGs.

Re-establish Contact With the Friends You May Have Been Ignoring

A lot of men, in their relationships, allow the other people in their life who are important to them to fall off.

They stop contacting their friends and stop spending quality time with anyone except their girlfriend.

This cuts off any support you might have had, which would have prevented you from sinking this low.

You need to re-contact the people who you have allowed to drop off, as you need a network of people who care about you.

Having a support system helps to establish the secure base from which you can take risks.

Risk taking is an extremely important trait of alpha males.

You will see that once you cut the girl off, work out regularly, and re-establish contact with your friends, you’ll begin to feel much better, though you may be suffering from lack of sex.

This brings us to our next point.

Learn Some Game

Many men coming off of bad relationships got into a bad relationship in the first place because they were NPCs.

They followed the societal script of what they were supposed to do and got burnt because of it.

If that is you, the problem is that you had no knowledge of game.

You’re lucky.

This blog has that information.

You’re going to have to learn the basics of game in order to be competitive and have the skills needed in order to establish a roster of women with which you’re having regular sex.

This likely means a change of personality, life outlook, appearance and other life-changing events are on the horizon.

It also means more pain and struggle.

I know, I’m sorry.

Ultimately, making the changes in your life that you need to make after the pain of a breakup are going to take even more pain and struggle.

You’ll see though, that once you come out the other side, you’ll never be the same again.

Work on yourself and the results WILL come.

I at least will not lie to you.

Decide to Not Be Monogamous Again

Time for a paradigm shift.

The whole reason that many men enter into shitty relationships in the first place is that they allow women to grab them by the balls.

A woman has the most control over you when she has control of your sex drive.

Because men on average need more sex than woman, women can employ the tactic of sexual denial to control your behaviour.

Many women do once the honeymoon phase of your relationship is over (6 months – 3 years).

If you never allow yourself to be monogamous, no girl will ever hold that power over you again.

Both of you will know that you can immediately leave at any point towards your other options if you aren’t happy.

Thus, it puts the ball in your court.

Women have to respect you and treat you well and if they don’t, you can easily, without loss of sex, move on to other women and simply replace the woman who was disrespecting you.

A lot of bad relationships could simply be prevented through the strategy of non-monogamy.

It is hard to do for many men, however, because it goes against their programming.

You have to resist the brainwashing in order to be free of your shackles I’m afraid.

Cultivate Three Concurrent FWB/NMG’s

Once you have decided in earnest that you won’t be monogamous, you need to establish THREE concurrent women that you’re seeing.

These women should be in FWB (friend with benefits) or NMG (non-monogamous relationship) arrangements with you.

With three concurrent women, if one leaves for whatever reason, you’re still not monogamous.

It buys you time to replace the girl you’ve lost as well.

The level of happiness you’ll feel once you have established three concurrent women is hard to describe.

Just having the freedom to know that no girl has you by the balls is amazing!

Any time a girl tries to get you to fall into her frame, you hold the nuclear option of simply walking away, while not losing access to sex.

Having multiple women concurrently is an extremely effective tactic that will save you YEARS of suffering.

Something cool is that the women who leave you often boomerang back (after 4 months or so) since you were the only guy who didn’t bend.

Once you have a network of several women who are in on-again, off-again non-monogamous relationships with you, the sex part of your life will be handled.

You never have to worry about it again!

Amazing, right?

Live Happily Ever After

Once you have a roster of women, that one bad breakup will mean NOTHING to you.

You can rest on your laurels, knowing that that bad relationship was the push you needed in order to change yourself and your life for the better.

Thoughts of “the one” will be non-existent in your mind as you realize that there are many women that you could be happy with.

You will feel a sense of freedom that you’ve probably never felt before.

Options are power.

Conclusion

In this article, we talked about how to get over a bad breakup.

There are several things to do, and they will all build towards that goal.

Mostly, the strategies here will help you to put yourself at the centre of your life, as well as to decouple your access to sex from one woman.

Here is a review of the list again:

1. Understand that more and better exists out there
2. Delete everything of hers
3. Go no-contact
4. Establish yourself as the centre of your own life
5. Hit the gym
6. Re-establish contact with friends you had before
7. Learn some game
8. Decide to not be monogamous again
9. Develop a roster of three concurrent FWB/NMGs
10. Live happily ever after

Once you have done these things, you can truly be free!

Work hard!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

She Gave Me A Really Nice Vacuum, I Don’t Want to Toss It!

It’s your life.

I’m telling you that the objects that you associate with her should be discarded so that your mind has as few reminders as possible.

What you do with that knowledge is up to you.

Do I Really Have to Work Out?

Yes!

No fat slobs have harems of women, come on!

What If the Girl I Was With Was Just A Bitch, and I Haven’t Found the Right One Yet?

Women aren’t bitches for taking advantage.

Men are losers for allowing themselves to be taken advantage of.

If it wasn’t her, it would have been another girl who would have used you, since YOU were the problem.

You need to change yourself on some fundamental level to prevent those problems from occurring again.

Try non-monogamy. 

I promise it will help!

I Don’t Have Time For Three Girlfriends, What the Hell, Helios?

Neither do I!

That’s why I recommend 1 NMG and 2 FWBs. You could also do 3 FWBs.

Usually I have 3 FWBs, since I’m more detached as a person.

That choice is up to you!

I’m sure you’ve heard this term before.

NPC stands for non-player character.

These are men that go through life as seemingly programmed robots.

They never think once for themselves and just plainly do everything culture and societal programming tells them to do.

They are praised to the heavens for their good decisions, but on closer inspection, we see that they end up miserable, lonely, and often destitute, as a result of cultural trends that take advantage of them wholesale.

Obviously, you want to avoid being an NPC.

If you have noticed yourself doing any of these things in your life, you just might be an NPC yourself.

Take control of your own destiny!

Resist!

1 – NPCs Believe That Sucking Up to Women is Effective

An NPC listens to what his mom and his TV tells him.

He believes entirely that women are little perfect angels who need to be supported and supplicated to on every occasion.

He will miss no opportunity to treat every girl (that he’s interested in) that he meets like the queen she is.

He will listen to all of their problems, genuinely believe all of the words they say and excuse all of their actions, no matter how foul.

He supplicates to women on every occasion and wouldn’t dare express his sexual wants or needs to her.

Women are virginal beauties who don’t show that side to just anyone, they think.

He constantly experiences rejection by every woman that he meets and believes he simply has not found the right ONE.

2 – He Enters Into Covert Contracts with Women

An NPC does things for women, which often are highly annoying or time-consuming, all in exchange for assumed intimacy in the future.

Here’s a list:

1. He drives them around on command
2. He orders them food
3. He cuddles with them
4. He listens to all of their problems
5. He helps them to move their furniture
6. He takes care of their pets

He assumes that by being nice and supportive and helpful that he’ll receive her beautiful, perfect love in the future.

This never transpires.

Often, women use the NPC for these favours with no intention of EVER giving any kind of intimacy.

They often then complain to the NPC about their problems with real men and wish that the real men they were fucking were more like the NPC.

Women string NPCs along because it is so easy.

NPCs will do anything for just a few words, or a hug!

3 – NPCs Believe that Being A Martyr Is Attractive

NPCs believe that the more they sacrifice, the more they will be appreciated.

They believe that the more they supplicate, the more attractive they are.

NPCs have no idea that it accomplishes the exact opposite.

The more devotion and supplication an NPC shows, the less attractive he is.

An NPC would sacrifice anything for that one beautiful angel of his dreams, even his life.

He believes that that places him above all the other men in her life she’s fucking.

In fact, this puts the NPC below even a dog in terms of attractiveness to a woman.

It doesn’t deter the NPC though, as he often doubles down and supplicates even more when he notices this.

4 – NPCs Believe That Women Actually Want Friendship Before Intimacy When They Say “Let’s Just Be Friends” 

NPCs believe that if they stay in a friendship with a girl that has told them LJBF, they will eventually receive her love and sex in the future.

This could not be further from the truth.

They do not understand that when a girl says LJBF, it is a hard rejection.

Women simply want the NPCs time, affection and devotion without giving anything in return.

NPCs become women’s “time ho’s” as a result.

5 – NPCs Believe In Third Wave Feminist Doctrine

NPCs believe that because in the past women were treated as cattle (they weren’t), they should now be treated as angels, to make up for the sins of the past.

NPCs sacrifice their own lives and happiness in order to facilitate this false reality.

All that this accomplishes is to make themselves lower than a dog in women’s eyes.

Women use NPCs shamelessly and discard them when they’re no longer useful.

Even as women rise far above men in status and treatment (the current social norm), NPCs still shout about how unfair the world is for women.

Women gleefully exploit these robots for their own gain.

NPCs have proven, after all, that they don’t even respect themselves enough to see themselves as equals to women.

If they don’t respect themselves, why should any woman?

6 – NPCs Rely On Dating Advice Given to them From Mommy/Early Adolescence

NPCs still believe in Disney fantasy dating.

They believe in “one-true-love” dating.

They believe that things like fancy dinners and flowers are what women like.

They believe that if they spill all their feelings to a girl and explain how the woman is wonderful that she will reciprocate and love him forever.

He believes that a diamond ring is necessary for marriage (and all the money that that ring should be worth).

NPCs believe that you should only be with one girl at a time and that you should remain fiercely loyal to her despite her behaviours.

NPCs believe that all women that reject them are bitches, but out there lies a perfect flower just for them.

NPCs do everything mommy tells them regarding dating.

According to NPCs, women are the best advice givers when it comes to dating.

7 – NPCs Believe that Women Know Exactly What They Want, and Will Communicate this Information to Them Precisely

NPCs believe that when they ask a woman, that like a man, she will tell him exactly what he needs to do in order to seduce her.

NPCs take every word a woman says at face value.

NPCs believe that if you do everything women say they want, you will get laid much more than “those douchebags”.

NPCs will not listen to a woman’s actions (they will instead rationalize those) and listen ONLY to her words.

All of the honeyed words women use to misdirect the NPC, he believes.

Women are wonderful, and so they cannot lie or be confused about what they want, the NPC believes.

NPCs believe that women are absolutely rational in their decisions and will make every decision based on logic, rather than emotions.

8 – NPCs Rely Heavily on Things to Keep Them From Being Rejected

NPCs do not take risks.

They will watch porn instead of inviting girls to their place.

They will stay friends when they’re friendzoned by their sexual interest and wait for another opportunity (one that never comes).

They will focus on one girl and avoid all others, until they’re friendzoned, then they’ll never move on.

NPCs will remain in long-distance relationships and be utterly loyal to their penpal, even when she’s fucking other men.

NPCs will use only online dating and say it “doesn’t work”.

NPCs are never direct in their sexual interest in a girl, instead they keep talking “as a friend” with her.

9 – NPCs Believe that They’re “Not Like Other Guys”

NPCs act in a supplicative manner in order to show women that they’re not like other guys.

They believe that being entirely non-sexual, like a teddy bear, will get them laid.

NPCs do everything a woman says, and are a total doormat in order to show her how different they are.

NPCs allow themselves to be treated like common trash to prove their devotion to a woman.

They follow a false idea of chivalry that relies on worship of the feminine.

10 – NPC’s Believe in the Madonna-Whore Fallacy

NPCs believe that all women that are interested in them are virginal perfect angels, and all women who aren’t are whores who slut around.

NPCs justify all their failures with women through rationalizations such as these.

NPCs have no idea that women are human, as they are.

Because the women that NPCs are interested in are perfect virginal angels, NPCs treat them as such (only to be promptly rejected).

NPCs never try to understand that women are HUMAN.

Conclusion

If you see yourself thinking or doing any of the things on the list above, you’re doing it WRONG!

You are literally mutilating yourself on the altar of women.

You don’t have to sacrifice yourself to be attractive to women!

Read this blog and be enlightened!

Fix it!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

My Best Friend (A Girl) Always Gives Me Such Good Advice About Relationships, You’re Full of Shit Helios!

Bullshit.

I’ll bet you 1000$ that your best friend is giving you advice that is SABOTAGE.

Unless she’s giving you information like that of this site (in which case, you’re lucky indeed), SHE’S PLAYING FOR TEAM GIRL.

If you listen to her, you’ll help all the future WOMEN you’ll date, and NOT yourself.

What A Misogynist, Third/Fourth/Fifth Wave Feminism Is A Necessity in Our Unfair Glass Ceiling Society!

Look up apex fallacy.

Read some history and ACTUAL statistics (not from feminist journals, but ACTUAL scientific journals).

Then come back and tell me that.

How hard are you trying to bury your head in the sand here?

DON’T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU READ.

You think feminist papers are going to tell you the truth, or push their own agenda?

Goddamn, just use some reasoning.

I Do Everything for this One Girl, Why Won’t She Fuck Me?

She won’t fuck you because you’re a loser beta NPC.

No woman will ever fuck that.

In her eyes, you’re lower than her dog.

Think about that.

Please read all of the articles on this site twice, then come back and answer your own question.

I Have a Lot of Female Friends, and They’re Awesome! Helios, You’re a Misogynist!

Are your female friends hot?

Do you want to fuck them?

Goddamn, you’re castrating yourself by wasting your time with women that won’t fuck you.

Stop giving yourself blue balls, ditch them and go after your own goals!

Make friends with some men.

You’ll find that men love and are companions in a way that women can never be.

You may even find some brothers you never had.

I’m about to tell you something that you may have never heard before.

Two life paths lie ahead of you.

These paths are very different, and will lead to entirely different outcomes.

One will lead to your happiness and freedom, and the other will lead to your destruction.

I’ll bet I have you curious now.

Let me enlighten you then…

What Are the Two Life Paths Available to Men in the West?

There are only two currently available sexual life paths for men.

They could not be more different from each other.

You are likely already on one of these paths (and not the good one).

Here they are:

1. Be a cog in the system for women and miserable
2. Be a social deviant and be free

Notice how neither of these looks good on the surface.

I’m going to explain both of these points in much greater detail and you’ll see how being a cog will never make you happy.

In fact, it will very likely lead to your misery and eventual destruction.

Let’s move on, shall we…

Part 1 – Being a Cog in the System for Women

In this section I’m going to tell you a story to explain what being a cog means and also how it relates to your sexual satisfaction and eventual life path with women.

You’ll see that being a cog will make you miserable eventually.

1 – What We Are Taught As Small Children

As small children, we are taught to obey.

Who are we taught to obey by?

Usually an overbearing mother and a beta father.

Our role models growing up are those that encourage beta-ness in every fashion.

Here are some messages you must have heard growing up:

1. Don’t hit a girl
2. She’s a girl, don’t say that to her
3. Can’t you see that she’s sensitive?
4. Respect your elders
5. Can’t you see she’s a lady?
6. Buy her flowers
7. Don’t forget to tell her you love her
8. Make time for the girls you care about
9. Tell her how you feel
10. Take her out on a nice date

We have these messages repeated to us from a young age up until we leave home for whatever reason.

These messages all repeat the same message, effectively.

They all repeat this fact:

“Men should defer to and respect women in all situations”.

Phrased differently:

“Women are superior to men and should be treated that way”.

As impressionable young men, we listen and internalize.

We hear that we should defer to women, and so we do!

2 – How Young Men Are Treated By Young Women As A Result of the Lessons From Home

We were good boys growing up and so we internalized the lessons of deference to women.

When we treated young women at school with this deference, they were really nice to us!

So far, so good!

We were happy.

Everything that our parents taught us worked!

The world worked as we believed it did!

Everything changed after puberty though.

Once we kids reached puberty, and wanted sex with women, all the these lessons that we were taught failed us!

We treated the girls that we liked with deference and respect and got rejected!

So we asked our parents for help…

3 – The Lies Our Parents Tell Us When We’re Rejected As Kids

When we boys get rejected as kids by girls we like, we then receive false advice to further indoctrinate us.

Here is who it comes from:

1. Our dad, who is clueless with women, and has been a beta for at least 10+ years at this point
2. Our mom, who knows, but gives us advice to help team girl, and not us

We receive the advice that the girl was wrong for us.

We must have made a bad selection and that was the problem.

No problem lies in our deferential behaviour towards women.

The problem lies with the choice of woman.

All women are angels, but THAT ONE you chose just happened to not be the right one for you.

The cycle repeats, and repeats, and repeats.

4 – The Lies We Are Told By Our Female Friends in Young Adulthood

Eventually, we reach young adulthood.

Women are still rejecting us, and for the same reason.

At this point, we are a little smarter, and so we no longer ask our parents for advice on how to get girls.

Instead, we ask the source!

One of our friends, who is a girl. 

She’s always been nice to us, so we believe that she’ll give us good advice on how to get that girl of our dreams.

And she gives us EXACTLY the same advice that our parents did!

She says something like:

“That girl was a bitch. Find one who isn’t a bitch.” 

And we believe her!

We keep failing with women, however, though we might have kissed a girl at this point.

5 – The Lies We Are Told At University

We get to university, and we’re STILL doing terribly with women.

We see women having a fuckfest with all the douchebags and we think that those women must be bitches and not right for us.

We still haven’t learned anything about the real world at this point.

We now don’t believe our parents, or other women (even if they’re our friends), as their advice has never led to us getting results with the women we want.

So we ask our male friends, who seem to have had some success with women!

They tell us that they have no idea how they got the girl they got, they were just lucky and found the one.

Notice how insidious all of this programming is.

By the time you’ve reached university, NOT ONE PERSON has told you the truth.

All the women in your life have lied, and all the betas are too indoctrinated to know better.

If you don’t unplug now, you’re in for the next stage of being a cog in the female system.

6 – The Lies We Are Told About Monogamous Relationships

After much struggle, and maybe the acquiring of a new lucrative job, we FINALLY get a girlfriend.

She’s not as pretty as we would have liked, but the pretty girls were bitches anyway, right? (We don’t understand at this point that women are women, and none are actually bitches).

FINALLY, after YEARS of failure, we are finally having sex, and it’s amazing!

Everyone around us tells us that this girl is the one!

We’re so lucky to have finally found her.

Nobody will tell you that in three years the sex is gonna dry up and you’re going to be miserable.

Everyone, including our girlfriend tells us that our decisions are justified and that they love that we’ve finally “gotten” it.

Everyone around us who is also in a monogamous relationship keeps up the lie that they’re so happy (when behind closed doors, most of those guys are not fucking at all, or are fucking at a third of the rate that they would actually want).

7 – The Lies We Are Told About Monogamous Marriage

We are told from a young age that out there lies one special girl for us.

One special person who will love us and be with us forever and give us all the happiness in the world.

We see our parents as being relatively happy and are tricked into believing.

We have no idea what happens in our parent’s bedroom, or how happy they actually are.

We only see what they show us.

We FINALLY get MARRIED!

Everyone in our family praises us!

We feel like we’re on top of the world!

We did it!

We found THE ONE!

One year goes by, and we’re happy, two years go by and we’re happy.

At this point, we have a kid, and everything feels fantastic!

We feel so justified in all the struggle and pain that we suffered as young men up to this point.

Everyone was right!

We just hadn’t found the one yet.

But then, disaster strikes…

8 – The Truth Hits Us

Three years pass, and something strange happens.

Our wife, who was very sexual and happy before, suddenly starts to deny us sex.

First it reduces to three times a week, then two, then one.

Finally, we’re only having sex once a month, and even then, it isn’t passionate or wild, like it used to be.

We wonder what we did wrong.

So we ask her!

She says:

1. She’s too tired
2. She’s achy
3. She has a long day tomorrow
4. She hasn’t showered
5. She needs to watch her show, etc.

The truth is never uttered (She’s sexually bored of you because humans are not monogamous).

One sexless year passes, then two, then three.

We realize what is happening, but at this point, we’re stuck.

What about the children?

What about the house?

Oh god, what about us?

We sink into despair and utter beta-hood.

And now, finally, the coup de grace…

9 – Cheating and Divorce

Our wife, our beautiful, gorgeous wife, who was the only one for us in this whole world, who now denies us sex has found another man.

She starts to become emotionally unavailable and we can feel it.

She pulls away at first, and then starts disappearing at weird times (having to work late at the office, or some other excuse).

She blindsides us.

She wants a divorce.

“But, honey, what about us?”

“There is no us anymore”

We then have to leave our matrimonial house and move out to an apartment.

We have to pay alimony, child support and basically be destitute.

We see our kids once a week, and we don’t feel good talking to our ex-wife, as we had a really nasty divorce.

We feel bitter and sad.

10 – Endgame of Being A Cog

This is the story of the average beta male.

This is the life that the average beta male lives.

Rejection after rejection after rejection, praise for a stupid decision, and finally ending in divorce.

All of the work that a beta has put into his life is now siphoned into the account of his ex-wife, who never loved him, and was never the one.

It was all a lie told from the beginning to facilitate this endgame.

Do not let this be you!

You have been warned.

Part 2 – Being a Free Social Deviant

I hope that just by reading these words you are inspired.

There is a better path out there for you.

Let’s talk about what COULD HAVE happened if we instead chose from university to become a social deviant (and learned the truth then).

Alternate 6 – Discovering the Truth

In this path, we simply got lucky.

We sucked up our pride, and went up to one of the jocks and asked him:

“How are you so good with women?”

He then actually told us something truthful for once (remember, nobody up to this point has told us anything true).

He said:

“I’m just hot, dude. Girls love a hot guy. I also don’t give a shit about them.”.

And rather than rejecting what he says outright, we actually listen to the wisdom in those words and try to improve ourselves.

We ask him about how he got a body like that and he explains his crazy training regimen.

We ask him if we can join.

We become friends with this natural alpha and follow him, changing our body and our mind to be more like his.

Suddenly, the world isn’t like what it used to be!

Alternate 7 – All of Your Friends and Family Shame You

Once we start our path to improvement and go home for the first time, everyone around is making fun of us.

“Look at Mr. Sweaty over there, working out so much.” 

“Why can’t you have a nice girlfriend like your brother?”

The crabs in our life are trying to pull us back into the bucket.

But we’re lucky and resist, despite their attempts.

In fact, we feel some serious contempt for them, since we’ve been lied to our whole lives.

We leave in a rage, but we are determined to not be like them.

Alternate 8 – Despite Massive Rejection, We Finally Figure It Out

Our alpha friend tells us to stick it out even though we’re getting rejected.

We have sex not once, but a FEW times without any commitment at all.

We look better than we’ve ever looked and we even have one friend with benefits!

A girl who wants to fuck us regularly just because she likes how we fuck!

It’s amazing.

Alternate 9 – We Get Older and Keep Following Our Strategies While Everyone Around Us Gets Married 

We get better and better at seduction, getting to the point where we can always have a roster of three girls that we’re sleeping with.

We decide to never get married at this point.

Our family shames us into oblivion, mentioning every time we see them what a failure we are for not following the societal script.

We try to explain why our system is better.

Our family won’t hear it.

They think we are a failure, and mention it several times.

ALL of our friends get married, including that natural alpha that taught us how to be this way.

We remain.

Alternate 10 – All of Our Married Friends Become Too Busy to Talk to Us Anymore, But We Make New Ones

Because we have labelled ourselves as a social deviant, all of our friends who used to be so close to us leave.

We make new friends in unexpected places.

We are the pariah of our family, but we are happy and free.

We eventually have a serious relationship with a woman, but we never become exclusive with her.

Our parents try to shame us into marrying her, but even they know at this point that it’s futile.

We have children with her while still sleeping with women on the side.

She knows, and accepts that that is who we are.

She remains passionate for the 10 years that we are together, and when we split, it is amicable.

Because we understand how women work, we never share financial accounts or possessions, and so, no splitting of assets occurs when we decide to go our separate ways.

Because we have a parenting plan in place that accounts for splitting, we already know how our children would be treated in the case of a split.

There was no confusion or serious argument.

We remain on good terms to this day.

Conclusion

As you can see, there are two paths you can go by.

In the long term, only one of the paths will make you happy.

You will likely have to sacrifice your friends and familial approval to attain this happiness, however.

That is life, there are no perfect options.

Choose to be a cog and miserable, or a free deviant.

I know which one I’ve chosen.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

My Wife Would Never Cheat On Me, She Loves Me!

Wait three years then tell me she still loves you when she has you by the balls in a marriage and denies you sex.

I’m waiting.

Are There Really No Life Paths That Are Perfect for a Man?

In my opinion being a free deviant is perfect.

Your parents and your beta friends won’t approve though.

My Mom Loves Me, She Would Never Lie to Me!

I thought so too, as a young man.

As the saying goes: “The road to hell is paved with good intentions”.

Women, as a rule of thumb, don’t give advice to help men, only women. 

This is even true if the person asking for advice from the woman is a man.

This Shit is Stupid, No Way Boys Are Indoctrinated From A Young Age to Defer to Women!

Ever opened the door for a girl walking into a store?

That’s all I have to say.

Some of these things are so insidious, you have no idea they’re even happening to you!

Alphas come in many different forms.

What you’ll find after you’ve unplugged from society’s programming and carve yourself into an alpha, is that you’ll tend towards one of these directions.

All of these are effective for seducing women, though not all are considered societally acceptable.

Read the following, and think about which one of these you might be.

Here we go!

1 – The Air Alpha

The air alpha is characterized by a sheer lack of committing to anything.

Commitment is simply not for them.

Drifters, hobos and starving artists would all fall into this category.

They usually have difficulty with money, but they don’t care, because they don’t need it.

They are extremely attractive to women because they are so detached from everything.

It is extremely hard for anyone to pull them back to earth and many women spend their whole lives trying.

Air alphas literally have their heads in the clouds.

Russell Brand is an example of an air alpha.

He never stays with anyone or anything for very long and he’s extremely detached from everything.

You can feel it in his style and mannerisms. 

He simply does not need or want anyone or anything for very long.

People that are extremely freedom seeking tend towards being this kind of alpha.

2 – The Water Alpha

The water alpha is characterized by their life philosophy: Live and let live.

They do things their own way and allow others to do things their own way as well.

They very rarely do things like everyone else, preferring to carve their own path.

Water alphas are often entrepreneurs or people that don’t see life the way that others do.

Some artists fall into this category as well, as do some scientists.

They tend to go their own way, and women find this very attractive.

They have a clear direction which is different to those around them.

Women often chase that.

Women are also surprised how little pressure the water alpha puts on them.

Water alphas often allow the women in their lives to do as they please when they’re not near them.

Women feel an extreme sense of freedom while being with them and thus are usually very relaxed and comfortable around them.

Water alphas have lots of sex as a reusult, but have difficulty with traditional relationships.

Keanu Reeves would be an example of a water alpha.

Even though he’s an actor, he has remained relatively normal and not ostentatious like the average actor.

He’s very chill and lets people do their own thing, despite his own position in life.

3 – The Earth Alpha

Earth alphas are extremely sturdy and dependable. They absolutely will not budge on who they are or what they believe in no matter what anyone says.

They are stubborn to a fault and unbending in will.

Women find men like this attractive because none of their feminine wiles work on them.

Earth alphas are simply too stubborn to ever bend to the will of another person.

Women test, and test and finally fail, as they realize that nothing they will ever try will bend a boulder to her will.

Women tend to submit to his frame or leave annoyed.

Earth alphas like to get their own way, and need the people around them to do exactly as they want.

Often, these types get into traditional relationships and have constant arguments with their partner where they refuse to budge.

Clint Eastwood would be an example of an earth alpha.

He is unashamedly himself and stands by his own opinions regardless of what other people think, believe or want.

He is a crotchety, unbending, old alpha male.

Many women still see him as extremely attractive, despite his very old age.

4 – The Fire Alpha

Fire alphas are what they sound like: explosive. They are either very happy and bombastic, or angry and destructive.

They are often the centre of attention.

Fire alphas get into fights often and are easily annoyed, causing them to explode.

Women love them because they’re never boring.

Even if they’re abusive physically, the constant highs and lows are cocaine to many women.

Women love men like this.

Many drug taking men are fire alphas, who use drugs to make themselves even more happy/excitable.

I’m sure you’ve seen men like this, who on the surface appear like total douchebags or just angry bulls, but women flock to them like moths to a flame.

They are certainly polarizing.

Women either love them, or hate them, and often, they both love and hate them.

Mike Tyson is an example of a fire alpha.

His temper and explosive rages are legendary.

He went so far as to bite the ear off an opponent in a boxing match once.

He beat many of his women too.

You think that stops Iron Mike from getting laid?

You’re dreaming.

5 – The Light Alpha

The light alpha is usually a religious fanatic. He is so devoted to religion that he sometimes inspires others around him to believe it too.

He is never about himself, and always about god (or whatever his version of god is).

Women are attracted to men like this because they feel like there is something greater to him.

How is he not selfish, or arrogant?

How is he an angel, while being as attractive as he is?

The light alpha confuses women, as their default programming tells them that this man should be beta.

He is so sexy to them and they can’t understand why.

It is because he always defers his successes and failures to a higher power, women can never pin anything on him.

Shit tests and other attacks don’t stick, as his fanatical aura repels them.

He is so devoted to this higher power that it seems to women that he is impenetrable physically and emotionally.

In a way, his frame is that of his god.

Tim Tebow is an example of a light alpha.

Obviously the reason he has the success he has is due to his years of practice, genetics and iron will, but HE doesn’t think so.

He thinks god did it for him, and so, his zealotry makes him impenetrable to attack.

If anyone criticizes him or tries to put him down, he’ll reference god smiting them, or not approving, and he goes on with his day.

He deflects the shit tests of the world with his religious armour, and that makes him attractive.

6 – The Shadow Alpha

The shadow alpha is known to all of us.

Prisons are full of them.

Shadow alphas don’t give a damn about anyone or anything.

They hurt and destroy and don’t care.

The shadow alpha does everything for his own aims and has no thought for who he hurts along the way.

Many CEOs are also shadow alphas.

Shadow alphas blatantly break the law or disrespect authority to their faces.

They are ridiculously attractive to women.

They are so attractive because the rules don’t seem to apply to them.

Women get horny thinking about the things that this guy shouldn’t be doing as he’ll get into so much trouble.

He does them anyway.

Many women also feel that if they can control a man like this, they can wield crazy power, and often they can.

Imagine what it would be like to be Pablo Escobar’s wife?

By the way, Escobar is an amazing example of a shadow alpha.

He killed and burned and destroyed many lives all for his own aims.

Many women found Escobar extremely attractive.

The way that many shadow alphas shamelessly live and destroy others is a huge turn on.

Conclusion

There are many different types of alphas out there.

You will probably tend towards one of these types, if not two.

All of the types of alpha are successful with women, for different reasons.

Understanding the type of alpha you are, or want to be will help you guide your decisions in the future.

If you don’t associate with any of these, you’re probably a water alpha!

Good luck out there!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

Helios, Which Type of Alpha Are You?

I would say I’m a mix between a water alpha and an earth alpha.

I probably lean more towards water though.

I am a very “live and let live” kinda guy, though I would NEVER bend to the will of someone else who wanted power over me.

I’m Not Sure Which Type of Alpha I Should Be, Which Do You Recommend?

I recommend water or earth.

The others have too many downsides in my opinion.

It’s your life, however.

You choose whichever you like!

There’s This One Girl, Which Kind of Alpha Should I Be to Get Her?

If you’re thinking in terms of which ONE GIRL you want, you’re doing it wrong dude.

You shouldn’t change your whole personality for one girl.

Instead, you should think about which kind of alpha you want to be, and work towards being that for your future success in life and with women.

No individual girl matters for your seduction goals, you need to get out of that mindset!

That Air Alpha Stuff Sounds Like Bullshit, No Way A Guy Without Money Can Get Laid!

Are you kidding me?

You think Kurt Kobain of Nirvana couldn’t get laid pre-fame?

He was a fucking hobo before.

You’re dreaming if you think air alphas can’t get laid.

In psychology, there’s a term called rationalization.

When people are faced with failure or rejection, in order to preserve their egos, many people will resort to these.

These rationalizations are sometimes the very things that hold us back from success.

We lie to ourselves in order to make ourselves feel better, dooming ourselves to a life of desperation and failure.

I would much rather face the lies I tell myself, deal with them and experience a life worth living than wallow in them and die a slow death of quiet desperation.

Wouldn’t you?

If you’re willing to experience discomfort in order to live an actual good life read on.

Here are some of the lies people tell themselves that prevent them from living a good life…

1 – I’m Not Good Enough

Many men just tell themselves this self defeating lie and leave it at that.

Obviously this is idiotic and a total waste of everyone’s time.

Just be honest with yourself.

You are good enough, you’re just taking the easy road.

It’s easy to say that you have no value and instantly stop working and struggling, falling into a depression.

You would be good enough if you fought for it.

What you’re saying with this statement is actually that you’re unwilling to put in the effort required in order to succeed.

If you would stop lying to yourself, and put in the effort, you’d be fine!

2 – I’m “Insert Race Here”

Many guys excuse their failures with women and life in general by their race.

They say that they were born a certain way and therefore, they’re not able to succeed as others have.

That is utterly ridiculous.

If you look at history, it is full of great men from all races.

They have one thing in common however.

They’re not little bitches.

They worked and struggled and overcame their problems in order to succeed.

You’re lying to yourself when you say your race is the problem.

Your race is NOT the problem, YOU are.

YOU are not willing to struggle and fight for what you want and so you get NOTHING.

When you don’t fight for yourself, no-one else will either.

Why should they care if you don’t give a shit about yourself?

3 – I Don’t Have Enough Money

Some people are born with a rich daddy.

Most are not.

Blaming your lack of success with women on lack of money is ridiculous as a result.

How do hobos or starving artists get laid then?

They have no money either!

Your attitude is what is keeping you from getting laid, not your money.

You should develop all aspects of yourself so that you are an attractive person to the core.

Once you are, you’ll see that money isn’t that important.

Money should be for yourself, and not for your women anyway.

4 – I Don’t Have Enough Time

You don’t have enough time to invest in one of the things that will make you actually happy?

Remain miserable then.

You deserve it.

It’s such a bullshit excuse, that you don’t have enough time.

If you have enough time to smoke a blunt once a week, you have enough time to go out and meet women.

If you don’t even have time to smoke a blunt once a week, I’m afraid you have much bigger problems than women.

Get your poverty situation sorted first so that you have some semblance of free time, THEN go and pursue your dreams.

You do not deserve to live in such squalid conditions.

5 – I’m Too Lazy

This is the root of all the problems.

At least you’re self aware enough to know it if this is the lie you tell yourself.

Solve your laziness problem!

Actually do something other than lay on your ass.

If you want to be a success in this life, you’re unfortunately going to need to struggle and bleed for it.

I cannot do that for you. 

And neither can anyone else.

I’m telling you that if you remain lazy you’re going to be a failure for the rest of your life. 

Guaranteed.

You cannot get something from nothing.

If you put zero effort into this life, you will receive nothing in return.

When you receive nothing as a result of your own laziness, do not complain and cry to anyone.

It is YOUR fault.

Die miserable, loser.

6 – I’m Too Short

This one unfortunately does hurt you quite a lot with women, I’m afraid.

Those of you unfortunate enough to be born short got the shit end of the stick.

You have to work twice as hard as anyone else in order to succeed.

It is possible, however, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

A silver lining to being short is that you get jacked much quicker.

For a short guy to get jacked like a male model, it takes around 3 years.

For a tall guy, it takes 10.

This means that you can have an instagram worthy body as a short guy quite fast.

Get cracking on that beautiful body and watch your results soar!

7 – I’m Too Fat

This one also hurts you with women, but not as much as you think.

If you can get your body weight to the upper end of normal, you can get laid like a warlord.

Some women specifically like this body type, especially if you have muscles (the lumberjack build).

You CAN’T BE OBESE though.

If you are obese, you’re going to have to make some major changes to your lifestyle in order to become attractive to women.

You need to learn how to eat and how much you can afford to eat in order to create that beautiful body you need in order to attract women.

Also, do some exercise fatty!

You can’t sit on the couch all day and expect women to come sit on your dick, come on!

A person who invests in himself is a person worth investing in!

Invest in yourself before you expect anything from anyone.

8 – I’m Too Skinny

This is the opposite problem with the fat guys.

Fat guys eat too much and skinny guys eat too little!

Even if it’s painful for you, you’re going to have to up your calorie intake.

By a lot!

Count your calories.

In the case of some of you, you might even have to double how much you eat.

If you increase your calorie intake and don’t work out, you’re going to have a bad time.

Make sure that you combine increasing your calorie intake with regular intense exercise that puts your muscles into hypertrophy.

This will grow your muscles over time and you’ll create a nice body for yourself!

Problem solved!

9 – I’m Depressed

If you have clinical depression then your CBT likely tells you that exercise is good for depression.

Also, breaking out of the negative spirals in your life needs to happen.

You can start by fixing just one aspect of yourself.

Afterwards, fix another.

As you build yourself up, you’ll find that your confidence increases and your depression lessens.

Eventually, you’ll start to get laid and this will even further boost how you feel about yourself.

Depression gone!

If you have deep, dark, extreme depression, I’m afraid only serious psychiatric help will do the trick, and you’re going to have to consult them for advice.

If you have beta male depression (the shitty way you feel about yourself when you’re not getting laid), then my advice on this blog will help you to solve this problem.

Read EVERYTHING ON THIS SITE and try to internalize it.

You’ll be surprised how well it works at fixing the major things in your life!

10 – I Live In *Insert City Here*

A lot of people blame their lack of success on their city.

“I live in Tokyo, therefore I can’t get laid”.

It’s total bullshit.

Unless you live in a 150 people small town (in which case you should MOVE AWAY), you CAN get laid there.

You simply need to learn and practice.

The city is NOT the problem, YOU are.

Once you acknowledge that you are the problem, you can work to fix it.

Once you’ve fixed the problems within you, you’ll feel an extreme sense of confidence and control as you realize that the power was in you to change the whole time!

Conclusion

There are many self defeating excuses out there that people use to rationalize why they aren’t getting laid or why they’re a failure in the world.

Here’s the list, to recap:

1. I’m not good enough
2. I’m “insert race here”
3. I don’t have enough money
4. I don’t have enough time
5. I’m too lazy
6. I’m too short
7. I’m too fat
8. I’m too skinny
9. I’m depressed
10. I live in *insert city here*

The majority of these things can be boiled down to this point:

I am simply too lazy to fix my own problems.

If more people would put in the effort to fix themselves, we would have a world full of alpha males!

We would have a world where guys could get laid and wouldn’t complain so much.

Work on fixing yourself and you’ll very quickly see yourself rise above the pack!

Good luck!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

My Problems Are So Much Bigger than Everyone Else’s, You Don’t Understand!

Bullshit.

Liar.

Work on yourself and STOP MAKING EXCUSES.

I’m *Insert Race Here*, You Couldn’t Possibly Understand How Hard it is to Get Laid!

Work hard and you’ll get laid.

Make excuses and suffer in perpetuity.

Your choice!

Dude, I’m 5’5. I Was Fucked from Birth, What Advice Could You Possibly Give Me?

Instead of giving you advice, I’m going to give you a picture of a guy who’s 5’5.

You tell me if he gets laid or not:

There’s your goal.

Go get it cowboy!

I’m 400 Pounds, I’m Ugly as Shit!

You’re right!

The 400 pound version of you is ugly.

But the 220 pound version of you is fine, I’m sure.

Get to that point and you’ll be alright.

Don’t forget to work out along the way!

This is a question which is frequently asked of me, and so I will do my best to answer.

There are several skills that are required in order to create a roster of women that you sleep with.

These skills cannot be acquired instantly, but are certainly worth the effort.

Once you have these skills mastered, you will be able to generate and maintain new options with relative ease!

Once that has happened, the seduction aspect of your life will be handled.

Onwards…

1 – Outcome independence

To create a roster of women, outcome independence is an absolute requirement.

You need to not fear rejection in order to create a roster of women.

To do that, you must focus on the end goal and not on the rejections along the way.

Inevitably, when you desire something that is hard to achieve, you will stumble along the way.

That is not a reason to stop.

Obviously some women will not be interested in you, but that should not deter you from continuing along your path to creating your roster.

You need to understand that no individual girl rejecting you actually stops you from achieving your final goal.

In fact, you should embrace that rejection is part of the process and not fear when it happens.

2 – Abundance Mentality

As you go through your journey seeking to become a man that has multiple options, abundance will come naturally after a while.

At the beginning however, it is hard to understand the concept of abundance.

Abundance implies that there is no ONE.

There is no individual girl who can give you everything you want.

There are many women out there who are great for you!

You need to understand that when a girl is not interested in you, or when a breakup occurs, that there are 100 more women waiting.

Relationships ending are a normal thing, letting them wreck you is not.

Once you have several women on rotation, you’ll see that you will have internalized this concept of many women being great options for you.

You will not fear rejection or pain as you understand that you simply have to put in the time and effort in order to cultivate more options.

It also helps that a man who has abundance will be pursued by women.

Even after they leave, there is a good chance they’ll come back eventually. 

3 – Assume the Sale

Assuming the sale implies that you believe in your abilities as a seducer of women.

You don’t approach new women with the attitude of assuming you’re going to be rejected, instead you approach women expecting that they will be into you.

The truth is that many women will respect the confidence that an experienced seducer has and will be attracted just because of that.

Always assume that the girl is into you until you receive information that makes it clear she isn’t.

Women communicate in different ways, do not assume you’re being rejected because of the false ideas in your own head.

4 – Text for Logistics

Texting for logistics implies that you don’t have long phone conversations with women.

Instead, you text only to set up meets, and you do most of your communicating in person.

What this implies is that your time is valuable!

Rather than wasting all of your time communicating with women (whom you can’t sleep with over text anyway), spend your time on worthwhile pursuits, such as seducing new women, or working on your mission.

When you text women for logistics, you’ll find that their behaviour towards you becomes much better, and you become pursued.

Obviously, if your goal is to develop a roster of women, you want to be chased, rather than the chaser.

Through your subcommunication, women will also understand that you’re probably seeing other women.

They will compete to try and become your favourite!

This is obviously a great position to be in.

5 – Confidence

If you’re trying to develop a roster of women, you need to believe in yourself.

A confident man believes he has the ability to be successful and attractive to many women.

He believes that he will succeed in his endeavors.

He assumes the sale and doesn’t balk when he’s receiving a shitty deal from women.

He is willing to cut a girl loose if she’s not behaving in a manner that he deems appropriate to him.

He has healthy boundaries and a strong sense of self.

He does not compromise his goals, dreams or ambitions, even if the girl he wants to seduce is pretty or special to him.

Embody these qualities and watch your results improve tenfold!

6 – Pass Shit Tests

A man who is developing a roster of women has to be a master of passing shit tests.

Shit tests are tests that women pose to men in order to determine if men are alpha or beta.

You must pass in order to be seen as an alpha.

Women would rather share a winner than be saddled to a loser and have that loser all to herself.

A man who passes shit tests shows himself to be in the winner category.

You have to either deflect or agree and amplify shit tests in order to pass them.

As you pass more and more shit tests, you will see that you become a natural and passing them will become second nature.

As you pass more and more, you develop a confident aura that women can sense from a mile away, helping you to attract yet more women.

7 – Be Sexually Skilled

Obviously a man that wants to maintain a roster of women should be good at giving sexual pleasure.

Women come back to men that make them cum.

Do your best to make a woman cum even if the process is annoying to you.

Her pleasure is important, as yours is.

You’ll see that as you sleep with more and more women, you will gain more and more practice. 

This practice will be noticed and appreciated by women, most of whom have never had a sexually satisfying partner.

Combine that with being aloof, mysterious and non-needy and you have a winner!

Women will keep coming back for more!

8 – Be Physically Attractive

Physical attractiveness helps you to get your foot in the door.

A man who is physically attractive needs to put in way less work in order to develop a roster than a less attractive one.

Physical attractiveness does not excuse you from having game, however.

If you’re physically attractive but have not internalized the other messages on this site, you’ll be taken for a ride by every girl you’ll be with for the rest of your life.

You MUST have game and a great internalized sense of abundance and confidence in order to have a roster of women that you maintain and continue to add to over time.

9 – Put in the Numbers

A lot of people won’t tell you this, but I will.

You cannot create a roster of women without effort.

If you expect to have a roster of women having only talked to 10 girls in your life you’re dreaming.

The process of creating multiple sexual partners takes a lot of time, practice and dedication to master.

You will ONLY succeed by putting in the numbers.

No expert, such as myself, became that way without the blood sweat and tears that that entails.

You HAVE to go and approach, and do so like crazy in order to master this skill.

AFTER you have mastered it, you can relax somewhat.

You’re probably going to have to do something like 10 000 approaches before you have a good enough conversion rate to never have to worry about seduction again.

You’re also going to have to be self-critical in this process and improve on your mistakes throughout.

Does that sound like something just anyone can do?

No, it doesn’t.

If you have the will and dedication however, the world will open up to you and you will have success beyond your wildest dreams.

I do, and believe me when I say that I started from zero.

I put in the effort, you can too!

10 – Be Time Efficient

Your goal is to establish a roster of women that you’re sleeping with concurrently.

You can’t do that if you’re constantly wasting time.

This is why I recommend the following time saving measures:

1. Stop messaging any girl that says she needs a deeper connection before she will meet you in person
2. Stop messaging any girl who ghosts you
3. Message multiple women at once
4. Date multiple women at once
5. Text only for logistics
6. Stop seeing any woman who refuses to progress with you sexually starting from the second date (the first date is for rapport only)

The less time you waste, the more time in your life you have for the things you actually want to do.

Your goal is not to have three concurrent penpals, it’s to have three concurrent FWB’s.

You can’t do that over text.

It can only be done in person.

Stop wasting time!

Conclusion

Clearly, there are several skills that you must develop in order to create your own roster of women.

Here are the skills you need to build your roster of women:

1. Outcome independence
2. Abundance Mentality
3. Assume the Sale
4. Text for Logistics
5. Confidence
6. Pass Shit Tests
7. Be Sexually Skilled
8. Be Physically Attractive
9. Put in the Numbers
10. Be Time Efficient

Try to start with one of these, and when you feel you have it handled, move on to the next.

Once you have even 6 of these, you will start to see your success with women soar!

Work hard.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

There’s This One Girl…

Oneitis!

There is no ONE.

Stop focusing your attention on one girl and go after multiple women concurrently.

That girl might be your favourite and that’s ok!

Having a favourite is alright. You can’t, however, focus on one option to the detriment of all potential others.

Ridiculous.

I Have the Most Amazing Text Conversations With My Girl, She Loves Me!

Wow.

That you believe that means you’re deeper in the hole than I thought.

ONLY text for logistics.

Can you sleep with a girl through text?

Then why the hell are you sending her a novel?

Work on yourself with the time you’re wasting on this girl.

Idiot.

I’ll Never Be Good With Women, I’m Afraid of Rejection…

You ultimately have to push through your fears if you want to succeed at anything in life.

This is no different.

You think Eric Clapton was good at playing the guitar when he first picked it up?

Of course he wasn’t.

You are also going to suck at the beginning.

Luckily for you, if you persevere, you will eventually succeed.

Don’t give up on yourself just because you’re scared!

Everyone is scared at the beginning!

It’s scary because it’s new!

I Get So Mad When Women Insult Me On Dates, We Always End Up Arguing and I Never Get Laid, Should I Just Agree?

No!

Don’t argue if you disagree!

Deflect or agree and amplify are the correct responses.

Both of those will raise attraction!

Want to be that mysterious guy that women are always wondering and talking about?

Mysterious men are very successful with women.

I’m here to explain to you how you can make yourself more mysterious!

You simply need to implement these 5 easy things!

Here we go…

1 – Talk Very Little On the First Date

As I have said before in previous posts, on your first date, you should aim to talk only 15 minutes out of 60.

You should direct the conversation and the speaking should be mostly done by her.

This leads to two positive effects.

The first is that it gives the girl the opportunity to open up to you, making her feel more comfortable in the process.

Women will only sleep with men they’re comfortable with.

It also has the advantage of making you mysterious.

The girl will be thinking about the date and realize that while she really likes you, she doesn’t know much about you.

She will want to know more about you, and will want to go on a second date with you as a result.

You can then continue the trend of not talking much, while also sleeping with her, and you’ll maintain an attractive, mysterious aura forever.

It is a very effective strategy that you set up from the beginning of the first date.

Being mysterious is an exercise in self control and limiting the amount of information that the girl receives from you.

She then has to work to learn the information others would have given freely from the scraps of information she has given.

If all of the scraps that you give are full of high-value cool things that you do, it will lead to amazing results.

Try it!

2 – Text Only for Logistics

It is very easy to maintain a mysterious aura when you’re not texting her all the time.

Because you’re not in constant communication, she wonders what you’re up to when you’re not together.

This leads to amazing outcomes for you.

She wonders what you’re doing when you’re not around, and so, she is constantly thinking about you.

This longing to know who you are maintains her attraction for you as she tries to figure out the mystery behind you.

Of course, she never gets all the information, and so she comes up with her own theories.

The more she fantasizes and theorizes about you, the more attracted she becomes.

The more attracted to you she is, the more she wants to have sex.

Isn’t it amazing how by limiting something as simple as communication through text, you can increase attraction and mystery?

It really is that simple.

If she texts you, leave her on read for 3 days, then reply to her text in a short way, and message her to meet up.

You never want to text her other than the times that you want to meet up.

All the beta losers in her life will be texting her, trying to get her attention and affection. The only exception is you, who doesn’t seem to care one way or another.

She’ll wonder why!

3 – Be Emotionally Unavailable

A man who guards his emotions is mysterious.

Why won’t he love me?

Why won’t he commit to me?

She wonders what it is that she lacks for you to be emotionally unavailable and unbending.

You create an aura of mystery as she wonders what it was in your past that made you that way.

Again, by keeping a cold wall between your deepest emotional self and her, you maintain a very attractive, mysterious aura.

She feels that there is a barrier that she can never cross and she will fight to try and cross it.

She will try more and more to please you in order to cross the barrier which you have decided can never be crossed.

This mysterious, cold aura is extremely attractive to women.

She will experiment, trying all kinds of things to break down your walls.

She, in this way, falls ever more into your aura and frame.

The more she fights to get to know you, the more she falls for you.

As you can see, a mysterious aura is amazing!

An easy way to be emotionally unavailable is to have multiple women.

When you spread your heart out over several women as it were, each knows that they can never have you fully.

As a result, they work harder to please you and figure out what you like, in order to beat their competition.

4 – Respond Evasively to Any Interview Questions

Early on in your interactions, she’s going to ask you the classic questions:

1. What do you work as
2. How old are you
3. What do you do
4. Where do you live, etc.

If you want to maintain a mysterious aura, simply reply evasively to these questions.

My favourite way to reply is to give joke answers to these questions.

Example:

Her: Where do you live?

Me: Narnia

Her: No, really

Me: I’m serious!

This creates a dynamic where she’s frustrated because every other guy answers her questions directly, but not you.

Now she really wants to know.

As you keep denying and redirecting, she falls into your frustrating, mysterious aura.

Her attraction spikes as her frustration increases.

It is amazing for you!-

You then keep holding frame and never answer those questions.

As your relationship goes on past the 6 month or even 9 month point and she still doesn’t know, eventually, she’ll cave and stop asking you.

At that point, she has internalized the fact that you are mysterious and she has to accept that she’ll never get direct answers regarding those questions.

She only has her suspicions and the little things you give away casually.

Want to have a girl hanging on your every word?

Dodge the common questions and watch as she works, trying to deduce what you do from the scraps of information you give her.

As she deduces more and more, she feels like she’s figuring you out with her feminine intuition.

This process of figuring you out is extremely rewarded to many women.

Don’t spare them this pleasure by answering the interview questions in the beginning!

5 – Do Not Reveal All of Your Hobbies or Skills All at Once

If a girl asks you what you can do, don’t give her a list.

Reveal one thing one day, and save the other stuff you have.

Later on, still don’t tell her.

Maybe three months later, you can reveal something else about yourself.

You allow the girl to discover you slowly.

In this way, she feels as though she’s peeling away the layers to the mystery that is you.

It is much more rewarding for her to feel like she is discovering you slowly, than for her to get to know you all at once.

By controlling the flow of information this way, you increase attraction like crazy.

You appear to always be growing in value as she learns more about you.

To her it will appear as though there is no limit to the height of value that you can achieve.

You will beat your competition just by controlling how much information you give away.

This slow-burn style of revealing information will increase your attractiveness hugely!

Imagine:

You’ve been with a girl for 6 months and she has no idea that you play the guitar. 

Suddenly a situation arises where you can showcase your ability and you’re amazing.

To her, it seems almost magical.

You created a skill out of nothing.

She had no idea you were this cool, and she already thought you were cool.

Her attraction will spike like crazy.

Conclusion

As you can see, there are several strategies that you can use in order to be more mysterious.

Being mysterious and controlling the flow of information leads to much greater attraction.

With increased attraction comes increased sex and better behaviour from the women in your life.

Here’s the list of things again you can do to improve your ability to be mysterious:

1. Don’t talk much on the first date
2. Text only for logistics
3. Be emotionally unavailable
4. Respond evasively to her interview questions
5. Do not reveal all your hobbies or skills at once

Using these strategies will make you much more attractive to women in the long term.

Godspeed!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

Should I Tell My Girl How Much Money I Make?

Never.

Dodge this interview question!

Tell her you make 2 dollars a year.

When she pushes, hold strong to your ridiculous answer.

Watch her squirm and her attraction grow!

I Was On the First Date and I Told Her Everything About Myself. The Date Went Amazing!

Yeah, no it didn’t.

You told her everything about you and now you’re not mysterious or a challenge.

You’re already pretty close to being boring and you’ve barely begun!

Better luck next time.

She Keeps Texting Me, Should I Reply?

You should only text for logistics.

Three days before your first date, you should message to establish some comfort, so she comes out.

On the day of your first date, you should send a confirmation text.

You should always text her the day after the first and second times you have had sex and be nice.

Other than those situations, you’re only texting for logistics (to meet up again)!

She Asked Me About My Hobbies, Should I Mention Each One!

No!

Mention only one and be passionate about it!

If you are really passionate about it, she’ll feel like it’s really cool too!

Afterwards, in three months, you can reveal a new skill.

She’ll be surprised that you’re so good at that one too.

Her attraction will spike, as it appears that you created competence out of nothing.

Repeat again with another ability in three months.

When we first use online dating, we often wonder why we’re not having sex.

I thought tinder was a hookup app?

That’s what many people think.

The issue is that they’re often falling into traps that are preventing them from getting laid.

I have listed a few of the common traps that men fall into, so that you can prevent them and maximize your chances of getting laid!

Off we go…

1 – Complimenting A Girl’s Appearance

This is probably the simplest one to fix.

Many men see a pretty girl online and just HAVE to tell her.

Dude, if she took that picture, she knows exactly what she’s doing.

She’s putting her best foot forward, looks wise.

You don’t have to let her know, she already knows.

If you do tell her that she’s pretty, you’re giving her free validation and not working towards your goals (setting up a meet and getting laid).

As a rule of thumb, you should NEVER compliment a girl’s appearance online.

That will put you in the beta zone.

Obviously, you don’t want to be the guy she associates with free attention and compliments, you want to be the guy she associates with sex.

You can say something like this instead:

“You seem cool 🙂 You should message me! – *your name*”.

When you say that she seems cool, you’re getting her to validate herself to you.

If she does, she’s already chasing and the frame is in your favour.

That is what we’re trying to create.

You are communicating that you’re the kind of guy that women chase, and that women have to qualify themselves to.

You don’t give compliments for free.

2 – Talking Forever Online

Another common mistake men make is that they tend to talk forever online.

Rather than use online dating to get laid, they use online dating like a messenger app.

They keep talking, and talking and talking, giving the girl more and more attention and validation.

They then get beaten by the men that push for her to meet in person.

You have to understand that until you’ve fucked a girl twice, you are nothing to her.

You are low on her list of priorities.

That means that any other guy could snatch her away with relative ease.

The longer you spend messaging and NOT fucking her, the more time another guy has to steal her away.

You have to strike while the iron is hot, as the saying goes.

By the THIRD MESSAGE, you should have pitched a date (with a specific time and place).

If she denies, or ghosts, she had no intention of ever meeting you.

Good riddance.

3 – Reading A Girl’s Profile

Many men make the mistake of reading a girl’s profile online.

They read and internalize all of this information about the girl before they’ve even messaged her.

They spend all this time looking at her pictures and thinking of a future with her as well.

This is entirely the wrong attitude to have.

Until she has agreed to meet up, you are wasting your time reading her stuff.

You should be spending your time messaging girls, instead of reading about them.

Try to feel absolutely nothing for the girl until she has made an effort to invest in you.

You are simply wasting time and emotional energy on people that have no interest in you otherwise.

If they have no interest in you, they are not deserving of any of your value.

You need to be time efficient in the messaging phase. 

Looking at all a girl’s pictures and reading her profile wastes your valuable time.

4 – Continuing the Conversation After She Says She Needs More of A Connection

I’m sure this has happened to many of you.

You’re talking to a girl and it seems to be going well, in that she is replying to your messages.

As soon as you pitch a meetup, she denies, and says she needs more of a connection.

A girl that is doing this never had any intention of meeting you.

She wanted to message and talk in order to receive the attention and validation of an attractive man.

She plans to give nothing in return.

If she does not agree to meet up after the third exchange, she was simply not interested in you in the way you wanted.

She was a timewaster.

In response to her saying that she needs more of a connection, your reply should be to ghost.

Give her no more attention, since she has no intention of actually investing in you.

You are not online to make penpals, you are online to set up dates and get laid.

Only women that are willing to invest in you are worth your time.

5 – Being Overly Sexual in Your Messages

Online dating is there to set up a meet in person.

You should NEVER be overtly sexual in your texts.

If it is clear that a woman is sexually interested in you, DO NOT do ANY sex talk online.

Push to meet in person and actually have sex with her.

If you do have sex talk online, the sexual tension will be diffused and your time will be wasted.

Redirect any invitations for sexting online to a meetup in person.

If she declines meeting in person she was never interested in having sex with you, but was instead, you guessed it, a timewaster.

You should never send messages online that are direct sexual invites.

Women do not communicate directly as men do.

Any direct sexual message to a woman will be instantly rejected.

You’ll immediately be labelled as a creep.

If you do want to have sex, you want to set up a meetup in person.

Do not mention in your texts that you’re going to have sex, instead, have some plausibly deniable excuse.

Mention some kind of activity you’ll be doing together at your place, and actually have that activity set up when she arrives.

Actually do the activity, and when things are going well, you can escalate sexually, if her body language is positive.

You should be aiming for sex on the second date, with a first date that establishes rapport, by the way.

First date lays usually end up as ONS, where the girl doesn’t want to see you again.

6 – Texting What Everyone Else is Texting

Every guy online texts the same thing.

They’ll text something like: “hey” or “what’s up”.

If you text those, your response rates will be abysmal!

You need to text something with a call to action, and sign your name at the end.

“Nice pictures you got there, you should message me! – Your name”

“You seem cool, you should message me! – Your name”

Something like that.

When you text just like everyone else, all the girl can decide to reply based on is your appearance.

If you don’t look like a character from baywatch, you’re going to get no responses using that method.

Since most guys don’t look like characters from baywatch, most guys get no responses online if they text just like everyone else.

7 – Continuing to Message After She Has Stopped Responding

If she ghosts you for whatever reason, DO NOT keep messaging.

It is a TOTAL waste of your time.

She will not reply if you send ten more texts.

You’re just pushing the creep button.

If she ghosts, she’s gone.

Message women that are interested in you.

Some girls will ghost in response to your first message, while others will ghost when you pitch the meetup.

Either way, it is not worth the expended effort to keep messaging a girl who’s not interested.

Spend your time on new prospects.

8 – Asking for Her Phone Number Before You Set Up A Meet

A lot of guys think that online dating is like meeting a girl in person.

It is true that in person you would ask for her number and pitch the date later.

Online, however, you do it the other way around.

You pitch the meet, and when she agrees, then you ask for her number.

For whatever reason, it is less of a risk for her to meet up with a stranger than to give that stranger her number initially.

Once she has agreed to meet up, do ask for her number.

Text her 2-3 days before the meet and have a conversation where you build comfort, then send a reminder text the day of the meet.

You don’t have to do this after you’ve slept with her twice, but before that, you must make these moves.

Obviously, if you ask for the number first, she’ll feel creeped out and will often ghost.

Don’t chase if she does, simply move on to a new girl.

Conclusion

As you can see, there are many traps that men fall into online.

Understanding and avoiding these traps will increase the likelihood that you get laid.

Here is the list again of things to avoid:

1. Complimenting a girl’s appearance
2. Talking forever online
3. Reading a girl’s profile
4. Continuing conversation after she says she needs more of a connection
5. Being overly sexual in your messages
6. Texting what everyone else is texting
7. Continuing to message her when she’s stopped responding
8. Asking for her phone number before you’ve set up a meet

Good luck out there!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions

This Girl Online Says She Wants to Know How Big My Dick Is, What Do I Do?

DO NOT tell her.

Instead, steer the conversation towards meeting up.

If she does not agree to meet up, she was not interested in ever sleeping with you, but rather in wasting your time.

The Conversation Was Going Really Well Online, Then I Asked for Her Number and She Ghosted, What Gives?

You freaked her out.

Pitch the meet first, and then when she agrees, ask for her number.

Your results will be better that way.

I Really Like This Girl, and Our Conversations Are Amazing. We’ve Been Talking for Three Weeks Online and I Think She’s the One. How Do I Ask Her Out?

Jesus, there’s so much wrong with this…

She is VERY unlikely to want to meet considering the frame you have.

Currently, you’re giving the girl everything she wants (attention and validation) without ever having to meet up.

You think she’s gonna come out?

Fuck no!

You’ve ruined it by talking forever online.

Congrats.

I Keep Messaging “Hey” And No Girl Responds, Online Dating Doesn’t Work!

Are you Adonis?

Then you can’t message that and get responses.

Message something more interesting that has a call to action and sign your name.

That will work better.

Try these:

“I’ve got a pet cheetah, you should message me! – Your name”

Or

“That book you’re into seems cool! You should message me! – your name”

They should do better.

Another tough topic, I must be on a roll!

This is one that many men need to hear.

You cannot negotiate or bargain for desire.

Many men spend months, or even years doing it!

It leads to extreme misery in men, sadly.

Let’s explain why…

1 – Desire Cannot Be Negotiated

You cannot give a girl something to make her desire you.

If she doesn’t like you and puts you in the friendzone, there is little you can do to flip things (other than leave, and change yourself into another guy).

Let me explain a simple concept to help you understand.

A man’s sexual attraction is like a river.

It never stops flowing as long as we live.

We are always on, and we are especially on if we’re with a woman we really like. 

Our river surges in that case.

Women are not like this.

They’re more like an electrical circuit.

If she likes you, the light is on.

If anything should happen to break her fuse, the light goes off and there’s nothing you can do to turn the light back on.

The only thing that will turn the light back on is to use a different fuse (a new guy).

Many men, in response to the fuse breaking and the light going off, try all kinds of things to get their girl to start being attracted to them again.

They try gifts, they try dates, they try doing more chores.

NOTHING will work, since the fuse is broken.

The ONLY thing that will get her going again is a new guy.

If you’ve ever seen this, and I’m sure many of you have, it is like night and day.

One second, you’re having a good time and she really likes you, the next second, the light is off, and you’re done.

No negotiation will help you past that point.

My suggestion for you is to SIMPLY MOVE ON.

If you were non-monogamous at this point, it’s a little annoying, but not overly so.

You didn’t have all your eggs in one basket, and so, even if it takes you a little bit of time to replace the girl, your access to sex has not been reduced in any serious way.

2 – Alpha vs. Beta

It keeps coming back to this, I know.

The truth is going to be hard to hear, but here it is.

Some women will NOT see you as alpha, no matter what you do.

No amount of grovelling or showing off will make her want you.

You should not try to negotiate attraction with women that aren’t interested in you.

It is foolish.

Even if you’re an outcome independent, fit rich guy, there will STILL be women who simply are not interested in you no matter what you do.

That should not bother you.

In the same way that you probably don’t like certain kinds of music and certain kinds of food, women simply don’t like certain kinds of men, even though other women enjoy them a lot.

Your job is NOT to try and seduce every girl in the world.

Your job is to find your niche and learn how to seduce women in that niche effectively.

This will give you abundance beyond your wildest dreams.

You simply have to put in the work and understand that you’re not going to be alpha to every girl you meet.

That’s ok.

Don’t try and negotiate with women who aren’t interested or try and convince them that you’re good enough.

Move on.

You will be ok without the women that don’t see your value.

3 – Attraction Isn’t A Choice

Attraction is not a choice.

I’m sure you’ve experienced this in your life.

You look at a girl which on paper maybe you wouldn’t consider attractive, but there’s just something about her that turns you on.

That is a demonstration of this concept.

The same applies for women.

Many women don’t get to choose who they are attracted to, it just happens.

What that means is that you should not be upset if she’s not interested in you.

It’s not her fault, blame her biology, which she had no control over.

If you want to maximize how many women are interested in you, you should optimize your physical appearance and your game.

No matter how much you optimize, however, it will NOT change the fact that attraction isn’t a choice.

Some women will simply not be interested regardless of what you do.

This relates to the previous point.

Don’t waste your time on women who aren’t interested.

Spend your time wisely and you will be rewarded.

This also means that you’ll be surprised sometimes at which women are attracted to you.

Many men doubt themselves, but sometimes, the girl is just attracted to them because of her biology and who he happens to be.

The sword cuts both ways sometimes.

4 – Doing More Chores Will Not Solve Your Problem

In marriage, a common problem men have is that their wife doesn’t have sex with them.

When they ask their partner why, she answers with something along the lines of being overwhelmed by chores.

That is NOT the problem.

It is simply an excuse, so as to not tell you the truth.

The truth is that humans are not monogamous, and she’s sexually bored of you.

She’s giving you the run around now with these bullshit excuses in order to get you to stay in the relationship thinking you’ll get sex in the future.

You won’t, you’ll just be beta-izing yourself.

The only way to get sex from your partner after the “choreplay” point in the relationship is to make some serious changes.

You’re going to have to become non-monogamous, first of all (which means converting your relationship).

Likely, the attempt at converting your marriage to an open one will lead to divorce, but there really is no other way to re-establish a frame where you could get laid again.

You’re also going to have to start working out and practising talking to other women.

Having no game or sexual competence will not make your wife want to fuck you.

It will just shut that light switch off.

5 – Humans Are Not Monogamous

Let me just hammer this point a little further.

Humans are not monogamous.

Neither men nor women are made to spend their whole lives with one partner.

Men are made to be polygamous (to want multiple women at once).

Women are made to be serially monogamous (to want one guy, then move to the next guy, then the next, etc.)

You should never get into a relationship expecting that the relationship structure will make your woman want you forever.

It won’t.

Desire can’t be negotiated, remember?

Just because you’re married and IN THEORY your wife should be sexually monogamous with you, does not mean that IN PRACTICE that is what will actually happen.

Because humans are not monogamous, those relationships where you’re forced to be that way inevitably end in drama or disappointment.

Monogamous relationships end in drama, in the case of a breakup, or disappointment, in the case of sexual starvation (which as I have explained before, is akin to a man slowly agreeing to never open his eyes again, even though he can still see).

Do not fall into the trap of believing that some agreement said with words is going to override thousands of years of biological history.

It won’t and will lead to pain.

Conclusion

Desire cannot be negotiated.

It doesn’t matter what you wish the world was like, the world will be what it is.

As a result, you should wisely choose your course of action to account for the truths of the world, and not for what you wish.

Failing to do so will lead to your long term misery, and we don’t want that.

Good luck out there!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

I Keep Doing More and More Chores, But My Wife Still Won’t Fuck Me, What Gives?

Your wife is sexually bored of you.

No amount of chores will fix that.

Sorry.

You should never have been monogamous in the first place.

That Girl I Really Like Isn’t Interested In Me, I’m Going to Try and Convince Her Through Text!

You can’t.

If she doesn’t like you, nothing you do to try and convince her will work.

Just move on to a girl that might like you instead.

My Man Is Cheating On Me, I Hate Him!

You hate him for being human?

He loves you, but he NEEDS sexual variety (and so do you for that matter).

Rather than denying this fact and hating him for it, accept it and be non-monogamous.

You’ll both be better for it.

What’s Wrong With Me, All the Girls I’ve Ever Been With Have Left Me!

There is nothing wrong with you.

Humans are not monogamous.

Don’t worry about any girl leaving you.

Set up your life such that if any girl does leave you, your access to sex will not be greatly reduced.

You can then account for actual biology with your actions.