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Alphas come in many different forms.

What you’ll find after you’ve unplugged from society’s programming and carve yourself into an alpha, is that you’ll tend towards one of these directions.

All of these are effective for seducing women, though not all are considered societally acceptable.

Read the following, and think about which one of these you might be.

Here we go!

1 – The Air Alpha

The air alpha is characterized by a sheer lack of committing to anything.

Commitment is simply not for them.

Drifters, hobos and starving artists would all fall into this category.

They usually have difficulty with money, but they don’t care, because they don’t need it.

They are extremely attractive to women because they are so detached from everything.

It is extremely hard for anyone to pull them back to earth and many women spend their whole lives trying.

Air alphas literally have their heads in the clouds.

Russell Brand is an example of an air alpha.

He never stays with anyone or anything for very long and he’s extremely detached from everything.

You can feel it in his style and mannerisms. 

He simply does not need or want anyone or anything for very long.

People that are extremely freedom seeking tend towards being this kind of alpha.

2 – The Water Alpha

The water alpha is characterized by their life philosophy: Live and let live.

They do things their own way and allow others to do things their own way as well.

They very rarely do things like everyone else, preferring to carve their own path.

Water alphas are often entrepreneurs or people that don’t see life the way that others do.

Some artists fall into this category as well, as do some scientists.

They tend to go their own way, and women find this very attractive.

They have a clear direction which is different to those around them.

Women often chase that.

Women are also surprised how little pressure the water alpha puts on them.

Water alphas often allow the women in their lives to do as they please when they’re not near them.

Women feel an extreme sense of freedom while being with them and thus are usually very relaxed and comfortable around them.

Water alphas have lots of sex as a reusult, but have difficulty with traditional relationships.

Keanu Reeves would be an example of a water alpha.

Even though he’s an actor, he has remained relatively normal and not ostentatious like the average actor.

He’s very chill and lets people do their own thing, despite his own position in life.

3 – The Earth Alpha

Earth alphas are extremely sturdy and dependable. They absolutely will not budge on who they are or what they believe in no matter what anyone says.

They are stubborn to a fault and unbending in will.

Women find men like this attractive because none of their feminine wiles work on them.

Earth alphas are simply too stubborn to ever bend to the will of another person.

Women test, and test and finally fail, as they realize that nothing they will ever try will bend a boulder to her will.

Women tend to submit to his frame or leave annoyed.

Earth alphas like to get their own way, and need the people around them to do exactly as they want.

Often, these types get into traditional relationships and have constant arguments with their partner where they refuse to budge.

Clint Eastwood would be an example of an earth alpha.

He is unashamedly himself and stands by his own opinions regardless of what other people think, believe or want.

He is a crotchety, unbending, old alpha male.

Many women still see him as extremely attractive, despite his very old age.

4 – The Fire Alpha

Fire alphas are what they sound like: explosive. They are either very happy and bombastic, or angry and destructive.

They are often the centre of attention.

Fire alphas get into fights often and are easily annoyed, causing them to explode.

Women love them because they’re never boring.

Even if they’re abusive physically, the constant highs and lows are cocaine to many women.

Women love men like this.

Many drug taking men are fire alphas, who use drugs to make themselves even more happy/excitable.

I’m sure you’ve seen men like this, who on the surface appear like total douchebags or just angry bulls, but women flock to them like moths to a flame.

They are certainly polarizing.

Women either love them, or hate them, and often, they both love and hate them.

Mike Tyson is an example of a fire alpha.

His temper and explosive rages are legendary.

He went so far as to bite the ear off an opponent in a boxing match once.

He beat many of his women too.

You think that stops Iron Mike from getting laid?

You’re dreaming.

5 – The Light Alpha

The light alpha is usually a religious fanatic. He is so devoted to religion that he sometimes inspires others around him to believe it too.

He is never about himself, and always about god (or whatever his version of god is).

Women are attracted to men like this because they feel like there is something greater to him.

How is he not selfish, or arrogant?

How is he an angel, while being as attractive as he is?

The light alpha confuses women, as their default programming tells them that this man should be beta.

He is so sexy to them and they can’t understand why.

It is because he always defers his successes and failures to a higher power, women can never pin anything on him.

Shit tests and other attacks don’t stick, as his fanatical aura repels them.

He is so devoted to this higher power that it seems to women that he is impenetrable physically and emotionally.

In a way, his frame is that of his god.

Tim Tebow is an example of a light alpha.

Obviously the reason he has the success he has is due to his years of practice, genetics and iron will, but HE doesn’t think so.

He thinks god did it for him, and so, his zealotry makes him impenetrable to attack.

If anyone criticizes him or tries to put him down, he’ll reference god smiting them, or not approving, and he goes on with his day.

He deflects the shit tests of the world with his religious armour, and that makes him attractive.

6 – The Shadow Alpha

The shadow alpha is known to all of us.

Prisons are full of them.

Shadow alphas don’t give a damn about anyone or anything.

They hurt and destroy and don’t care.

The shadow alpha does everything for his own aims and has no thought for who he hurts along the way.

Many CEOs are also shadow alphas.

Shadow alphas blatantly break the law or disrespect authority to their faces.

They are ridiculously attractive to women.

They are so attractive because the rules don’t seem to apply to them.

Women get horny thinking about the things that this guy shouldn’t be doing as he’ll get into so much trouble.

He does them anyway.

Many women also feel that if they can control a man like this, they can wield crazy power, and often they can.

Imagine what it would be like to be Pablo Escobar’s wife?

By the way, Escobar is an amazing example of a shadow alpha.

He killed and burned and destroyed many lives all for his own aims.

Many women found Escobar extremely attractive.

The way that many shadow alphas shamelessly live and destroy others is a huge turn on.

Conclusion

There are many different types of alphas out there.

You will probably tend towards one of these types, if not two.

All of the types of alpha are successful with women, for different reasons.

Understanding the type of alpha you are, or want to be will help you guide your decisions in the future.

If you don’t associate with any of these, you’re probably a water alpha!

Good luck out there!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

Helios, Which Type of Alpha Are You?

I would say I’m a mix between a water alpha and an earth alpha.

I probably lean more towards water though.

I am a very “live and let live” kinda guy, though I would NEVER bend to the will of someone else who wanted power over me.

I’m Not Sure Which Type of Alpha I Should Be, Which Do You Recommend?

I recommend water or earth.

The others have too many downsides in my opinion.

It’s your life, however.

You choose whichever you like!

There’s This One Girl, Which Kind of Alpha Should I Be to Get Her?

If you’re thinking in terms of which ONE GIRL you want, you’re doing it wrong dude.

You shouldn’t change your whole personality for one girl.

Instead, you should think about which kind of alpha you want to be, and work towards being that for your future success in life and with women.

No individual girl matters for your seduction goals, you need to get out of that mindset!

That Air Alpha Stuff Sounds Like Bullshit, No Way A Guy Without Money Can Get Laid!

Are you kidding me?

You think Kurt Kobain of Nirvana couldn’t get laid pre-fame?

He was a fucking hobo before.

You’re dreaming if you think air alphas can’t get laid.

In psychology, there’s a term called rationalization.

When people are faced with failure or rejection, in order to preserve their egos, many people will resort to these.

These rationalizations are sometimes the very things that hold us back from success.

We lie to ourselves in order to make ourselves feel better, dooming ourselves to a life of desperation and failure.

I would much rather face the lies I tell myself, deal with them and experience a life worth living than wallow in them and die a slow death of quiet desperation.

Wouldn’t you?

If you’re willing to experience discomfort in order to live an actual good life read on.

Here are some of the lies people tell themselves that prevent them from living a good life…

1 – I’m Not Good Enough

Many men just tell themselves this self defeating lie and leave it at that.

Obviously this is idiotic and a total waste of everyone’s time.

Just be honest with yourself.

You are good enough, you’re just taking the easy road.

It’s easy to say that you have no value and instantly stop working and struggling, falling into a depression.

You would be good enough if you fought for it.

What you’re saying with this statement is actually that you’re unwilling to put in the effort required in order to succeed.

If you would stop lying to yourself, and put in the effort, you’d be fine!

2 – I’m “Insert Race Here”

Many guys excuse their failures with women and life in general by their race.

They say that they were born a certain way and therefore, they’re not able to succeed as others have.

That is utterly ridiculous.

If you look at history, it is full of great men from all races.

They have one thing in common however.

They’re not little bitches.

They worked and struggled and overcame their problems in order to succeed.

You’re lying to yourself when you say your race is the problem.

Your race is NOT the problem, YOU are.

YOU are not willing to struggle and fight for what you want and so you get NOTHING.

When you don’t fight for yourself, no-one else will either.

Why should they care if you don’t give a shit about yourself?

3 – I Don’t Have Enough Money

Some people are born with a rich daddy.

Most are not.

Blaming your lack of success with women on lack of money is ridiculous as a result.

How do hobos or starving artists get laid then?

They have no money either!

Your attitude is what is keeping you from getting laid, not your money.

You should develop all aspects of yourself so that you are an attractive person to the core.

Once you are, you’ll see that money isn’t that important.

Money should be for yourself, and not for your women anyway.

4 – I Don’t Have Enough Time

You don’t have enough time to invest in one of the things that will make you actually happy?

Remain miserable then.

You deserve it.

It’s such a bullshit excuse, that you don’t have enough time.

If you have enough time to smoke a blunt once a week, you have enough time to go out and meet women.

If you don’t even have time to smoke a blunt once a week, I’m afraid you have much bigger problems than women.

Get your poverty situation sorted first so that you have some semblance of free time, THEN go and pursue your dreams.

You do not deserve to live in such squalid conditions.

5 – I’m Too Lazy

This is the root of all the problems.

At least you’re self aware enough to know it if this is the lie you tell yourself.

Solve your laziness problem!

Actually do something other than lay on your ass.

If you want to be a success in this life, you’re unfortunately going to need to struggle and bleed for it.

I cannot do that for you. 

And neither can anyone else.

I’m telling you that if you remain lazy you’re going to be a failure for the rest of your life. 

Guaranteed.

You cannot get something from nothing.

If you put zero effort into this life, you will receive nothing in return.

When you receive nothing as a result of your own laziness, do not complain and cry to anyone.

It is YOUR fault.

Die miserable, loser.

6 – I’m Too Short

This one unfortunately does hurt you quite a lot with women, I’m afraid.

Those of you unfortunate enough to be born short got the shit end of the stick.

You have to work twice as hard as anyone else in order to succeed.

It is possible, however, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

A silver lining to being short is that you get jacked much quicker.

For a short guy to get jacked like a male model, it takes around 3 years.

For a tall guy, it takes 10.

This means that you can have an instagram worthy body as a short guy quite fast.

Get cracking on that beautiful body and watch your results soar!

7 – I’m Too Fat

This one also hurts you with women, but not as much as you think.

If you can get your body weight to the upper end of normal, you can get laid like a warlord.

Some women specifically like this body type, especially if you have muscles (the lumberjack build).

You CAN’T BE OBESE though.

If you are obese, you’re going to have to make some major changes to your lifestyle in order to become attractive to women.

You need to learn how to eat and how much you can afford to eat in order to create that beautiful body you need in order to attract women.

Also, do some exercise fatty!

You can’t sit on the couch all day and expect women to come sit on your dick, come on!

A person who invests in himself is a person worth investing in!

Invest in yourself before you expect anything from anyone.

8 – I’m Too Skinny

This is the opposite problem with the fat guys.

Fat guys eat too much and skinny guys eat too little!

Even if it’s painful for you, you’re going to have to up your calorie intake.

By a lot!

Count your calories.

In the case of some of you, you might even have to double how much you eat.

If you increase your calorie intake and don’t work out, you’re going to have a bad time.

Make sure that you combine increasing your calorie intake with regular intense exercise that puts your muscles into hypertrophy.

This will grow your muscles over time and you’ll create a nice body for yourself!

Problem solved!

9 – I’m Depressed

If you have clinical depression then your CBT likely tells you that exercise is good for depression.

Also, breaking out of the negative spirals in your life needs to happen.

You can start by fixing just one aspect of yourself.

Afterwards, fix another.

As you build yourself up, you’ll find that your confidence increases and your depression lessens.

Eventually, you’ll start to get laid and this will even further boost how you feel about yourself.

Depression gone!

If you have deep, dark, extreme depression, I’m afraid only serious psychiatric help will do the trick, and you’re going to have to consult them for advice.

If you have beta male depression (the shitty way you feel about yourself when you’re not getting laid), then my advice on this blog will help you to solve this problem.

Read EVERYTHING ON THIS SITE and try to internalize it.

You’ll be surprised how well it works at fixing the major things in your life!

10 – I Live In *Insert City Here*

A lot of people blame their lack of success on their city.

“I live in Tokyo, therefore I can’t get laid”.

It’s total bullshit.

Unless you live in a 150 people small town (in which case you should MOVE AWAY), you CAN get laid there.

You simply need to learn and practice.

The city is NOT the problem, YOU are.

Once you acknowledge that you are the problem, you can work to fix it.

Once you’ve fixed the problems within you, you’ll feel an extreme sense of confidence and control as you realize that the power was in you to change the whole time!

Conclusion

There are many self defeating excuses out there that people use to rationalize why they aren’t getting laid or why they’re a failure in the world.

Here’s the list, to recap:

1. I’m not good enough
2. I’m “insert race here”
3. I don’t have enough money
4. I don’t have enough time
5. I’m too lazy
6. I’m too short
7. I’m too fat
8. I’m too skinny
9. I’m depressed
10. I live in *insert city here*

The majority of these things can be boiled down to this point:

I am simply too lazy to fix my own problems.

If more people would put in the effort to fix themselves, we would have a world full of alpha males!

We would have a world where guys could get laid and wouldn’t complain so much.

Work on fixing yourself and you’ll very quickly see yourself rise above the pack!

Good luck!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

My Problems Are So Much Bigger than Everyone Else’s, You Don’t Understand!

Bullshit.

Liar.

Work on yourself and STOP MAKING EXCUSES.

I’m *Insert Race Here*, You Couldn’t Possibly Understand How Hard it is to Get Laid!

Work hard and you’ll get laid.

Make excuses and suffer in perpetuity.

Your choice!

Dude, I’m 5’5. I Was Fucked from Birth, What Advice Could You Possibly Give Me?

Instead of giving you advice, I’m going to give you a picture of a guy who’s 5’5.

You tell me if he gets laid or not:

There’s your goal.

Go get it cowboy!

I’m 400 Pounds, I’m Ugly as Shit!

You’re right!

The 400 pound version of you is ugly.

But the 220 pound version of you is fine, I’m sure.

Get to that point and you’ll be alright.

Don’t forget to work out along the way!

This is a question which is frequently asked of me, and so I will do my best to answer.

There are several skills that are required in order to create a roster of women that you sleep with.

These skills cannot be acquired instantly, but are certainly worth the effort.

Once you have these skills mastered, you will be able to generate and maintain new options with relative ease!

Once that has happened, the seduction aspect of your life will be handled.

Onwards…

1 – Outcome independence

To create a roster of women, outcome independence is an absolute requirement.

You need to not fear rejection in order to create a roster of women.

To do that, you must focus on the end goal and not on the rejections along the way.

Inevitably, when you desire something that is hard to achieve, you will stumble along the way.

That is not a reason to stop.

Obviously some women will not be interested in you, but that should not deter you from continuing along your path to creating your roster.

You need to understand that no individual girl rejecting you actually stops you from achieving your final goal.

In fact, you should embrace that rejection is part of the process and not fear when it happens.

2 – Abundance Mentality

As you go through your journey seeking to become a man that has multiple options, abundance will come naturally after a while.

At the beginning however, it is hard to understand the concept of abundance.

Abundance implies that there is no ONE.

There is no individual girl who can give you everything you want.

There are many women out there who are great for you!

You need to understand that when a girl is not interested in you, or when a breakup occurs, that there are 100 more women waiting.

Relationships ending are a normal thing, letting them wreck you is not.

Once you have several women on rotation, you’ll see that you will have internalized this concept of many women being great options for you.

You will not fear rejection or pain as you understand that you simply have to put in the time and effort in order to cultivate more options.

It also helps that a man who has abundance will be pursued by women.

Even after they leave, there is a good chance they’ll come back eventually. 

3 – Assume the Sale

Assuming the sale implies that you believe in your abilities as a seducer of women.

You don’t approach new women with the attitude of assuming you’re going to be rejected, instead you approach women expecting that they will be into you.

The truth is that many women will respect the confidence that an experienced seducer has and will be attracted just because of that.

Always assume that the girl is into you until you receive information that makes it clear she isn’t.

Women communicate in different ways, do not assume you’re being rejected because of the false ideas in your own head.

4 – Text for Logistics

Texting for logistics implies that you don’t have long phone conversations with women.

Instead, you text only to set up meets, and you do most of your communicating in person.

What this implies is that your time is valuable!

Rather than wasting all of your time communicating with women (whom you can’t sleep with over text anyway), spend your time on worthwhile pursuits, such as seducing new women, or working on your mission.

When you text women for logistics, you’ll find that their behaviour towards you becomes much better, and you become pursued.

Obviously, if your goal is to develop a roster of women, you want to be chased, rather than the chaser.

Through your subcommunication, women will also understand that you’re probably seeing other women.

They will compete to try and become your favourite!

This is obviously a great position to be in.

5 – Confidence

If you’re trying to develop a roster of women, you need to believe in yourself.

A confident man believes he has the ability to be successful and attractive to many women.

He believes that he will succeed in his endeavors.

He assumes the sale and doesn’t balk when he’s receiving a shitty deal from women.

He is willing to cut a girl loose if she’s not behaving in a manner that he deems appropriate to him.

He has healthy boundaries and a strong sense of self.

He does not compromise his goals, dreams or ambitions, even if the girl he wants to seduce is pretty or special to him.

Embody these qualities and watch your results improve tenfold!

6 – Pass Shit Tests

A man who is developing a roster of women has to be a master of passing shit tests.

Shit tests are tests that women pose to men in order to determine if men are alpha or beta.

You must pass in order to be seen as an alpha.

Women would rather share a winner than be saddled to a loser and have that loser all to herself.

A man who passes shit tests shows himself to be in the winner category.

You have to either deflect or agree and amplify shit tests in order to pass them.

As you pass more and more shit tests, you will see that you become a natural and passing them will become second nature.

As you pass more and more, you develop a confident aura that women can sense from a mile away, helping you to attract yet more women.

7 – Be Sexually Skilled

Obviously a man that wants to maintain a roster of women should be good at giving sexual pleasure.

Women come back to men that make them cum.

Do your best to make a woman cum even if the process is annoying to you.

Her pleasure is important, as yours is.

You’ll see that as you sleep with more and more women, you will gain more and more practice. 

This practice will be noticed and appreciated by women, most of whom have never had a sexually satisfying partner.

Combine that with being aloof, mysterious and non-needy and you have a winner!

Women will keep coming back for more!

8 – Be Physically Attractive

Physical attractiveness helps you to get your foot in the door.

A man who is physically attractive needs to put in way less work in order to develop a roster than a less attractive one.

Physical attractiveness does not excuse you from having game, however.

If you’re physically attractive but have not internalized the other messages on this site, you’ll be taken for a ride by every girl you’ll be with for the rest of your life.

You MUST have game and a great internalized sense of abundance and confidence in order to have a roster of women that you maintain and continue to add to over time.

9 – Put in the Numbers

A lot of people won’t tell you this, but I will.

You cannot create a roster of women without effort.

If you expect to have a roster of women having only talked to 10 girls in your life you’re dreaming.

The process of creating multiple sexual partners takes a lot of time, practice and dedication to master.

You will ONLY succeed by putting in the numbers.

No expert, such as myself, became that way without the blood sweat and tears that that entails.

You HAVE to go and approach, and do so like crazy in order to master this skill.

AFTER you have mastered it, you can relax somewhat.

You’re probably going to have to do something like 10 000 approaches before you have a good enough conversion rate to never have to worry about seduction again.

You’re also going to have to be self-critical in this process and improve on your mistakes throughout.

Does that sound like something just anyone can do?

No, it doesn’t.

If you have the will and dedication however, the world will open up to you and you will have success beyond your wildest dreams.

I do, and believe me when I say that I started from zero.

I put in the effort, you can too!

10 – Be Time Efficient

Your goal is to establish a roster of women that you’re sleeping with concurrently.

You can’t do that if you’re constantly wasting time.

This is why I recommend the following time saving measures:

1. Stop messaging any girl that says she needs a deeper connection before she will meet you in person
2. Stop messaging any girl who ghosts you
3. Message multiple women at once
4. Date multiple women at once
5. Text only for logistics
6. Stop seeing any woman who refuses to progress with you sexually starting from the second date (the first date is for rapport only)

The less time you waste, the more time in your life you have for the things you actually want to do.

Your goal is not to have three concurrent penpals, it’s to have three concurrent FWB’s.

You can’t do that over text.

It can only be done in person.

Stop wasting time!

Conclusion

Clearly, there are several skills that you must develop in order to create your own roster of women.

Here are the skills you need to build your roster of women:

1. Outcome independence
2. Abundance Mentality
3. Assume the Sale
4. Text for Logistics
5. Confidence
6. Pass Shit Tests
7. Be Sexually Skilled
8. Be Physically Attractive
9. Put in the Numbers
10. Be Time Efficient

Try to start with one of these, and when you feel you have it handled, move on to the next.

Once you have even 6 of these, you will start to see your success with women soar!

Work hard.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

There’s This One Girl…

Oneitis!

There is no ONE.

Stop focusing your attention on one girl and go after multiple women concurrently.

That girl might be your favourite and that’s ok!

Having a favourite is alright. You can’t, however, focus on one option to the detriment of all potential others.

Ridiculous.

I Have the Most Amazing Text Conversations With My Girl, She Loves Me!

Wow.

That you believe that means you’re deeper in the hole than I thought.

ONLY text for logistics.

Can you sleep with a girl through text?

Then why the hell are you sending her a novel?

Work on yourself with the time you’re wasting on this girl.

Idiot.

I’ll Never Be Good With Women, I’m Afraid of Rejection…

You ultimately have to push through your fears if you want to succeed at anything in life.

This is no different.

You think Eric Clapton was good at playing the guitar when he first picked it up?

Of course he wasn’t.

You are also going to suck at the beginning.

Luckily for you, if you persevere, you will eventually succeed.

Don’t give up on yourself just because you’re scared!

Everyone is scared at the beginning!

It’s scary because it’s new!

I Get So Mad When Women Insult Me On Dates, We Always End Up Arguing and I Never Get Laid, Should I Just Agree?

No!

Don’t argue if you disagree!

Deflect or agree and amplify are the correct responses.

Both of those will raise attraction!

Want to be that mysterious guy that women are always wondering and talking about?

Mysterious men are very successful with women.

I’m here to explain to you how you can make yourself more mysterious!

You simply need to implement these 5 easy things!

Here we go…

1 – Talk Very Little On the First Date

As I have said before in previous posts, on your first date, you should aim to talk only 15 minutes out of 60.

You should direct the conversation and the speaking should be mostly done by her.

This leads to two positive effects.

The first is that it gives the girl the opportunity to open up to you, making her feel more comfortable in the process.

Women will only sleep with men they’re comfortable with.

It also has the advantage of making you mysterious.

The girl will be thinking about the date and realize that while she really likes you, she doesn’t know much about you.

She will want to know more about you, and will want to go on a second date with you as a result.

You can then continue the trend of not talking much, while also sleeping with her, and you’ll maintain an attractive, mysterious aura forever.

It is a very effective strategy that you set up from the beginning of the first date.

Being mysterious is an exercise in self control and limiting the amount of information that the girl receives from you.

She then has to work to learn the information others would have given freely from the scraps of information she has given.

If all of the scraps that you give are full of high-value cool things that you do, it will lead to amazing results.

Try it!

2 – Text Only for Logistics

It is very easy to maintain a mysterious aura when you’re not texting her all the time.

Because you’re not in constant communication, she wonders what you’re up to when you’re not together.

This leads to amazing outcomes for you.

She wonders what you’re doing when you’re not around, and so, she is constantly thinking about you.

This longing to know who you are maintains her attraction for you as she tries to figure out the mystery behind you.

Of course, she never gets all the information, and so she comes up with her own theories.

The more she fantasizes and theorizes about you, the more attracted she becomes.

The more attracted to you she is, the more she wants to have sex.

Isn’t it amazing how by limiting something as simple as communication through text, you can increase attraction and mystery?

It really is that simple.

If she texts you, leave her on read for 3 days, then reply to her text in a short way, and message her to meet up.

You never want to text her other than the times that you want to meet up.

All the beta losers in her life will be texting her, trying to get her attention and affection. The only exception is you, who doesn’t seem to care one way or another.

She’ll wonder why!

3 – Be Emotionally Unavailable

A man who guards his emotions is mysterious.

Why won’t he love me?

Why won’t he commit to me?

She wonders what it is that she lacks for you to be emotionally unavailable and unbending.

You create an aura of mystery as she wonders what it was in your past that made you that way.

Again, by keeping a cold wall between your deepest emotional self and her, you maintain a very attractive, mysterious aura.

She feels that there is a barrier that she can never cross and she will fight to try and cross it.

She will try more and more to please you in order to cross the barrier which you have decided can never be crossed.

This mysterious, cold aura is extremely attractive to women.

She will experiment, trying all kinds of things to break down your walls.

She, in this way, falls ever more into your aura and frame.

The more she fights to get to know you, the more she falls for you.

As you can see, a mysterious aura is amazing!

An easy way to be emotionally unavailable is to have multiple women.

When you spread your heart out over several women as it were, each knows that they can never have you fully.

As a result, they work harder to please you and figure out what you like, in order to beat their competition.

4 – Respond Evasively to Any Interview Questions

Early on in your interactions, she’s going to ask you the classic questions:

1. What do you work as
2. How old are you
3. What do you do
4. Where do you live, etc.

If you want to maintain a mysterious aura, simply reply evasively to these questions.

My favourite way to reply is to give joke answers to these questions.

Example:

Her: Where do you live?

Me: Narnia

Her: No, really

Me: I’m serious!

This creates a dynamic where she’s frustrated because every other guy answers her questions directly, but not you.

Now she really wants to know.

As you keep denying and redirecting, she falls into your frustrating, mysterious aura.

Her attraction spikes as her frustration increases.

It is amazing for you!-

You then keep holding frame and never answer those questions.

As your relationship goes on past the 6 month or even 9 month point and she still doesn’t know, eventually, she’ll cave and stop asking you.

At that point, she has internalized the fact that you are mysterious and she has to accept that she’ll never get direct answers regarding those questions.

She only has her suspicions and the little things you give away casually.

Want to have a girl hanging on your every word?

Dodge the common questions and watch as she works, trying to deduce what you do from the scraps of information you give her.

As she deduces more and more, she feels like she’s figuring you out with her feminine intuition.

This process of figuring you out is extremely rewarded to many women.

Don’t spare them this pleasure by answering the interview questions in the beginning!

5 – Do Not Reveal All of Your Hobbies or Skills All at Once

If a girl asks you what you can do, don’t give her a list.

Reveal one thing one day, and save the other stuff you have.

Later on, still don’t tell her.

Maybe three months later, you can reveal something else about yourself.

You allow the girl to discover you slowly.

In this way, she feels as though she’s peeling away the layers to the mystery that is you.

It is much more rewarding for her to feel like she is discovering you slowly, than for her to get to know you all at once.

By controlling the flow of information this way, you increase attraction like crazy.

You appear to always be growing in value as she learns more about you.

To her it will appear as though there is no limit to the height of value that you can achieve.

You will beat your competition just by controlling how much information you give away.

This slow-burn style of revealing information will increase your attractiveness hugely!

Imagine:

You’ve been with a girl for 6 months and she has no idea that you play the guitar. 

Suddenly a situation arises where you can showcase your ability and you’re amazing.

To her, it seems almost magical.

You created a skill out of nothing.

She had no idea you were this cool, and she already thought you were cool.

Her attraction will spike like crazy.

Conclusion

As you can see, there are several strategies that you can use in order to be more mysterious.

Being mysterious and controlling the flow of information leads to much greater attraction.

With increased attraction comes increased sex and better behaviour from the women in your life.

Here’s the list of things again you can do to improve your ability to be mysterious:

1. Don’t talk much on the first date
2. Text only for logistics
3. Be emotionally unavailable
4. Respond evasively to her interview questions
5. Do not reveal all your hobbies or skills at once

Using these strategies will make you much more attractive to women in the long term.

Godspeed!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

Should I Tell My Girl How Much Money I Make?

Never.

Dodge this interview question!

Tell her you make 2 dollars a year.

When she pushes, hold strong to your ridiculous answer.

Watch her squirm and her attraction grow!

I Was On the First Date and I Told Her Everything About Myself. The Date Went Amazing!

Yeah, no it didn’t.

You told her everything about you and now you’re not mysterious or a challenge.

You’re already pretty close to being boring and you’ve barely begun!

Better luck next time.

She Keeps Texting Me, Should I Reply?

You should only text for logistics.

Three days before your first date, you should message to establish some comfort, so she comes out.

On the day of your first date, you should send a confirmation text.

You should always text her the day after the first and second times you have had sex and be nice.

Other than those situations, you’re only texting for logistics (to meet up again)!

She Asked Me About My Hobbies, Should I Mention Each One!

No!

Mention only one and be passionate about it!

If you are really passionate about it, she’ll feel like it’s really cool too!

Afterwards, in three months, you can reveal a new skill.

She’ll be surprised that you’re so good at that one too.

Her attraction will spike, as it appears that you created competence out of nothing.

Repeat again with another ability in three months.

When we first use online dating, we often wonder why we’re not having sex.

I thought tinder was a hookup app?

That’s what many people think.

The issue is that they’re often falling into traps that are preventing them from getting laid.

I have listed a few of the common traps that men fall into, so that you can prevent them and maximize your chances of getting laid!

Off we go…

1 – Complimenting A Girl’s Appearance

This is probably the simplest one to fix.

Many men see a pretty girl online and just HAVE to tell her.

Dude, if she took that picture, she knows exactly what she’s doing.

She’s putting her best foot forward, looks wise.

You don’t have to let her know, she already knows.

If you do tell her that she’s pretty, you’re giving her free validation and not working towards your goals (setting up a meet and getting laid).

As a rule of thumb, you should NEVER compliment a girl’s appearance online.

That will put you in the beta zone.

Obviously, you don’t want to be the guy she associates with free attention and compliments, you want to be the guy she associates with sex.

You can say something like this instead:

“You seem cool 🙂 You should message me! – *your name*”.

When you say that she seems cool, you’re getting her to validate herself to you.

If she does, she’s already chasing and the frame is in your favour.

That is what we’re trying to create.

You are communicating that you’re the kind of guy that women chase, and that women have to qualify themselves to.

You don’t give compliments for free.

2 – Talking Forever Online

Another common mistake men make is that they tend to talk forever online.

Rather than use online dating to get laid, they use online dating like a messenger app.

They keep talking, and talking and talking, giving the girl more and more attention and validation.

They then get beaten by the men that push for her to meet in person.

You have to understand that until you’ve fucked a girl twice, you are nothing to her.

You are low on her list of priorities.

That means that any other guy could snatch her away with relative ease.

The longer you spend messaging and NOT fucking her, the more time another guy has to steal her away.

You have to strike while the iron is hot, as the saying goes.

By the THIRD MESSAGE, you should have pitched a date (with a specific time and place).

If she denies, or ghosts, she had no intention of ever meeting you.

Good riddance.

3 – Reading A Girl’s Profile

Many men make the mistake of reading a girl’s profile online.

They read and internalize all of this information about the girl before they’ve even messaged her.

They spend all this time looking at her pictures and thinking of a future with her as well.

This is entirely the wrong attitude to have.

Until she has agreed to meet up, you are wasting your time reading her stuff.

You should be spending your time messaging girls, instead of reading about them.

Try to feel absolutely nothing for the girl until she has made an effort to invest in you.

You are simply wasting time and emotional energy on people that have no interest in you otherwise.

If they have no interest in you, they are not deserving of any of your value.

You need to be time efficient in the messaging phase. 

Looking at all a girl’s pictures and reading her profile wastes your valuable time.

4 – Continuing the Conversation After She Says She Needs More of A Connection

I’m sure this has happened to many of you.

You’re talking to a girl and it seems to be going well, in that she is replying to your messages.

As soon as you pitch a meetup, she denies, and says she needs more of a connection.

A girl that is doing this never had any intention of meeting you.

She wanted to message and talk in order to receive the attention and validation of an attractive man.

She plans to give nothing in return.

If she does not agree to meet up after the third exchange, she was simply not interested in you in the way you wanted.

She was a timewaster.

In response to her saying that she needs more of a connection, your reply should be to ghost.

Give her no more attention, since she has no intention of actually investing in you.

You are not online to make penpals, you are online to set up dates and get laid.

Only women that are willing to invest in you are worth your time.

5 – Being Overly Sexual in Your Messages

Online dating is there to set up a meet in person.

You should NEVER be overtly sexual in your texts.

If it is clear that a woman is sexually interested in you, DO NOT do ANY sex talk online.

Push to meet in person and actually have sex with her.

If you do have sex talk online, the sexual tension will be diffused and your time will be wasted.

Redirect any invitations for sexting online to a meetup in person.

If she declines meeting in person she was never interested in having sex with you, but was instead, you guessed it, a timewaster.

You should never send messages online that are direct sexual invites.

Women do not communicate directly as men do.

Any direct sexual message to a woman will be instantly rejected.

You’ll immediately be labelled as a creep.

If you do want to have sex, you want to set up a meetup in person.

Do not mention in your texts that you’re going to have sex, instead, have some plausibly deniable excuse.

Mention some kind of activity you’ll be doing together at your place, and actually have that activity set up when she arrives.

Actually do the activity, and when things are going well, you can escalate sexually, if her body language is positive.

You should be aiming for sex on the second date, with a first date that establishes rapport, by the way.

First date lays usually end up as ONS, where the girl doesn’t want to see you again.

6 – Texting What Everyone Else is Texting

Every guy online texts the same thing.

They’ll text something like: “hey” or “what’s up”.

If you text those, your response rates will be abysmal!

You need to text something with a call to action, and sign your name at the end.

“Nice pictures you got there, you should message me! – Your name”

“You seem cool, you should message me! – Your name”

Something like that.

When you text just like everyone else, all the girl can decide to reply based on is your appearance.

If you don’t look like a character from baywatch, you’re going to get no responses using that method.

Since most guys don’t look like characters from baywatch, most guys get no responses online if they text just like everyone else.

7 – Continuing to Message After She Has Stopped Responding

If she ghosts you for whatever reason, DO NOT keep messaging.

It is a TOTAL waste of your time.

She will not reply if you send ten more texts.

You’re just pushing the creep button.

If she ghosts, she’s gone.

Message women that are interested in you.

Some girls will ghost in response to your first message, while others will ghost when you pitch the meetup.

Either way, it is not worth the expended effort to keep messaging a girl who’s not interested.

Spend your time on new prospects.

8 – Asking for Her Phone Number Before You Set Up A Meet

A lot of guys think that online dating is like meeting a girl in person.

It is true that in person you would ask for her number and pitch the date later.

Online, however, you do it the other way around.

You pitch the meet, and when she agrees, then you ask for her number.

For whatever reason, it is less of a risk for her to meet up with a stranger than to give that stranger her number initially.

Once she has agreed to meet up, do ask for her number.

Text her 2-3 days before the meet and have a conversation where you build comfort, then send a reminder text the day of the meet.

You don’t have to do this after you’ve slept with her twice, but before that, you must make these moves.

Obviously, if you ask for the number first, she’ll feel creeped out and will often ghost.

Don’t chase if she does, simply move on to a new girl.

Conclusion

As you can see, there are many traps that men fall into online.

Understanding and avoiding these traps will increase the likelihood that you get laid.

Here is the list again of things to avoid:

1. Complimenting a girl’s appearance
2. Talking forever online
3. Reading a girl’s profile
4. Continuing conversation after she says she needs more of a connection
5. Being overly sexual in your messages
6. Texting what everyone else is texting
7. Continuing to message her when she’s stopped responding
8. Asking for her phone number before you’ve set up a meet

Good luck out there!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions

This Girl Online Says She Wants to Know How Big My Dick Is, What Do I Do?

DO NOT tell her.

Instead, steer the conversation towards meeting up.

If she does not agree to meet up, she was not interested in ever sleeping with you, but rather in wasting your time.

The Conversation Was Going Really Well Online, Then I Asked for Her Number and She Ghosted, What Gives?

You freaked her out.

Pitch the meet first, and then when she agrees, ask for her number.

Your results will be better that way.

I Really Like This Girl, and Our Conversations Are Amazing. We’ve Been Talking for Three Weeks Online and I Think She’s the One. How Do I Ask Her Out?

Jesus, there’s so much wrong with this…

She is VERY unlikely to want to meet considering the frame you have.

Currently, you’re giving the girl everything she wants (attention and validation) without ever having to meet up.

You think she’s gonna come out?

Fuck no!

You’ve ruined it by talking forever online.

Congrats.

I Keep Messaging “Hey” And No Girl Responds, Online Dating Doesn’t Work!

Are you Adonis?

Then you can’t message that and get responses.

Message something more interesting that has a call to action and sign your name.

That will work better.

Try these:

“I’ve got a pet cheetah, you should message me! – Your name”

Or

“That book you’re into seems cool! You should message me! – your name”

They should do better.

Another tough topic, I must be on a roll!

This is one that many men need to hear.

You cannot negotiate or bargain for desire.

Many men spend months, or even years doing it!

It leads to extreme misery in men, sadly.

Let’s explain why…

1 – Desire Cannot Be Negotiated

You cannot give a girl something to make her desire you.

If she doesn’t like you and puts you in the friendzone, there is little you can do to flip things (other than leave, and change yourself into another guy).

Let me explain a simple concept to help you understand.

A man’s sexual attraction is like a river.

It never stops flowing as long as we live.

We are always on, and we are especially on if we’re with a woman we really like. 

Our river surges in that case.

Women are not like this.

They’re more like an electrical circuit.

If she likes you, the light is on.

If anything should happen to break her fuse, the light goes off and there’s nothing you can do to turn the light back on.

The only thing that will turn the light back on is to use a different fuse (a new guy).

Many men, in response to the fuse breaking and the light going off, try all kinds of things to get their girl to start being attracted to them again.

They try gifts, they try dates, they try doing more chores.

NOTHING will work, since the fuse is broken.

The ONLY thing that will get her going again is a new guy.

If you’ve ever seen this, and I’m sure many of you have, it is like night and day.

One second, you’re having a good time and she really likes you, the next second, the light is off, and you’re done.

No negotiation will help you past that point.

My suggestion for you is to SIMPLY MOVE ON.

If you were non-monogamous at this point, it’s a little annoying, but not overly so.

You didn’t have all your eggs in one basket, and so, even if it takes you a little bit of time to replace the girl, your access to sex has not been reduced in any serious way.

2 – Alpha vs. Beta

It keeps coming back to this, I know.

The truth is going to be hard to hear, but here it is.

Some women will NOT see you as alpha, no matter what you do.

No amount of grovelling or showing off will make her want you.

You should not try to negotiate attraction with women that aren’t interested in you.

It is foolish.

Even if you’re an outcome independent, fit rich guy, there will STILL be women who simply are not interested in you no matter what you do.

That should not bother you.

In the same way that you probably don’t like certain kinds of music and certain kinds of food, women simply don’t like certain kinds of men, even though other women enjoy them a lot.

Your job is NOT to try and seduce every girl in the world.

Your job is to find your niche and learn how to seduce women in that niche effectively.

This will give you abundance beyond your wildest dreams.

You simply have to put in the work and understand that you’re not going to be alpha to every girl you meet.

That’s ok.

Don’t try and negotiate with women who aren’t interested or try and convince them that you’re good enough.

Move on.

You will be ok without the women that don’t see your value.

3 – Attraction Isn’t A Choice

Attraction is not a choice.

I’m sure you’ve experienced this in your life.

You look at a girl which on paper maybe you wouldn’t consider attractive, but there’s just something about her that turns you on.

That is a demonstration of this concept.

The same applies for women.

Many women don’t get to choose who they are attracted to, it just happens.

What that means is that you should not be upset if she’s not interested in you.

It’s not her fault, blame her biology, which she had no control over.

If you want to maximize how many women are interested in you, you should optimize your physical appearance and your game.

No matter how much you optimize, however, it will NOT change the fact that attraction isn’t a choice.

Some women will simply not be interested regardless of what you do.

This relates to the previous point.

Don’t waste your time on women who aren’t interested.

Spend your time wisely and you will be rewarded.

This also means that you’ll be surprised sometimes at which women are attracted to you.

Many men doubt themselves, but sometimes, the girl is just attracted to them because of her biology and who he happens to be.

The sword cuts both ways sometimes.

4 – Doing More Chores Will Not Solve Your Problem

In marriage, a common problem men have is that their wife doesn’t have sex with them.

When they ask their partner why, she answers with something along the lines of being overwhelmed by chores.

That is NOT the problem.

It is simply an excuse, so as to not tell you the truth.

The truth is that humans are not monogamous, and she’s sexually bored of you.

She’s giving you the run around now with these bullshit excuses in order to get you to stay in the relationship thinking you’ll get sex in the future.

You won’t, you’ll just be beta-izing yourself.

The only way to get sex from your partner after the “choreplay” point in the relationship is to make some serious changes.

You’re going to have to become non-monogamous, first of all (which means converting your relationship).

Likely, the attempt at converting your marriage to an open one will lead to divorce, but there really is no other way to re-establish a frame where you could get laid again.

You’re also going to have to start working out and practising talking to other women.

Having no game or sexual competence will not make your wife want to fuck you.

It will just shut that light switch off.

5 – Humans Are Not Monogamous

Let me just hammer this point a little further.

Humans are not monogamous.

Neither men nor women are made to spend their whole lives with one partner.

Men are made to be polygamous (to want multiple women at once).

Women are made to be serially monogamous (to want one guy, then move to the next guy, then the next, etc.)

You should never get into a relationship expecting that the relationship structure will make your woman want you forever.

It won’t.

Desire can’t be negotiated, remember?

Just because you’re married and IN THEORY your wife should be sexually monogamous with you, does not mean that IN PRACTICE that is what will actually happen.

Because humans are not monogamous, those relationships where you’re forced to be that way inevitably end in drama or disappointment.

Monogamous relationships end in drama, in the case of a breakup, or disappointment, in the case of sexual starvation (which as I have explained before, is akin to a man slowly agreeing to never open his eyes again, even though he can still see).

Do not fall into the trap of believing that some agreement said with words is going to override thousands of years of biological history.

It won’t and will lead to pain.

Conclusion

Desire cannot be negotiated.

It doesn’t matter what you wish the world was like, the world will be what it is.

As a result, you should wisely choose your course of action to account for the truths of the world, and not for what you wish.

Failing to do so will lead to your long term misery, and we don’t want that.

Good luck out there!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

I Keep Doing More and More Chores, But My Wife Still Won’t Fuck Me, What Gives?

Your wife is sexually bored of you.

No amount of chores will fix that.

Sorry.

You should never have been monogamous in the first place.

That Girl I Really Like Isn’t Interested In Me, I’m Going to Try and Convince Her Through Text!

You can’t.

If she doesn’t like you, nothing you do to try and convince her will work.

Just move on to a girl that might like you instead.

My Man Is Cheating On Me, I Hate Him!

You hate him for being human?

He loves you, but he NEEDS sexual variety (and so do you for that matter).

Rather than denying this fact and hating him for it, accept it and be non-monogamous.

You’ll both be better for it.

What’s Wrong With Me, All the Girls I’ve Ever Been With Have Left Me!

There is nothing wrong with you.

Humans are not monogamous.

Don’t worry about any girl leaving you.

Set up your life such that if any girl does leave you, your access to sex will not be greatly reduced.

You can then account for actual biology with your actions.

This article is going to be a doozy.

Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

The following points are things that all men should learn.

Men that deny these realities are doomed to be destroyed in their relationships.

Read these and be enlightened.

Only though enlightenment can you truly reach peace…

1 – The Person Who Needs the Other the Least Has the Most Power

This is the canon that all relationships go by.

The person that needs the other the least has the most power.

Want to know who that usually is in a relationship?

It is WOMEN.

Here’s why.

Men have a higher sex drive than women. 

This means that men chase multiple women at a time, usually.

As a result, the average woman has more attention than the average man.

Because of this, the average woman has MORE OPTIONS than the average man.

She knows instinctively from a young age that she can replace any man she wants.

THEREFORE, she needs her partner less than he needs her, and so she has more power in a relationship.

Women also have lower sex drive than men usually.

What this means is that the man needs something from his partner, which she doesn’t need as often.

This also exacerbates this power dynamic even further.

There is a solution to this power imbalance for men.

If you’ve been reading this blog for long enough you already know!

NON-MONOGAMY.

If you never commit to any individual woman, they cannot hold power over you in this manner.

You can then flip the power dynamic and not care if she stays or leaves.

By gaining some semblance of power in your relationships, you can stop being treated as a beta male in your relationships.

Awesome, right?

2 – Sex Is Extremely Important for Men

This one needs to be said.

A lot of women think that men have the same sex drive that they do.

For men, their sex drive is more akin to vision.

Sure, you can go without it and keep your eyes closed, but it is extremely unpleasant and even torturous to go without it when you know you could see.

Do you understand now why so many men choose to open their eyes (cheat) while in relationships?

Their desire for sex is simply not being acknoledged, or is being downplayed.

Of course, it never starts out this way.

Often, in monogamous relationships, they start with dick-breaking sex.

The sex then slowly tapers off, leaving the man wondering what he did wrong.

Often, he did nothing wrong.

I mean, that isn’t strictly true.

What he did wrong was choose to be in a monogamous relationship in the first place, the type of relationship that doesn’t account for the biological reality of differences between the male and female sex drive.

The other choice, of course, is the man can choose to go without sex, hurt himself permanently and become beta-ized, but it is an extremely painful, torturous process.

Now you understand how most husbands feel in marriages that last for longer than three years.

It is the slow torture of having your sex drive deleted while knowing deep down that if you leave, your life will be ripped to pieces.

It is akin to having your vision slowly ripped away, knowing that if you weren’t with the current person you’re with it would come right back.

It is an awful way to live, and I wouldn’t wish that fate on anyone.

Once again, the best cure is prevention.

Do not get monogamous and these problems will largely not exist. 

3 – Many Women Use Sexual Starvation As A Control Strategy

As many comedians have alluded to, in a marriage, or even a monogamous LTR, some women use sexual denial to control their men.

They’ll order their man to take out the trash for example, and if he doesn’t comply she’ll imply that he’s not getting laid that night.

He then complies, so as to get laid later.

Obviously, allowing yourself to be controlled in this way is extremely weak and is a key in the beta-ization process.

Once a man allows himself to be controlled like this multiple times, the power dynamics of the relationship shift hugely in the woman’s favour and leads to misery for the man, and a HUGE decline in sexual attraction for the woman.

The reason that these women feel they can get away with this is because they know they have the man in a bind.

He is only sleeping with her, and he prizes sex very highly.

She therefore has him by the balls.

She can then swing him in whatever direction she wants, as he’ll fear losing her if he doesn’t comply.

Obviously, it is even WORSE in a marriage, as he not only loses access to sex if he leaves, but half of his resources as well.

Slowly, cut by cut, any man is reduced to a whimpering beta through this process.

This problem has to be prevented from the outset.

As I’ve said twice before, NEVER get monogamous.

Being monogamous is the whole reason why these women feel that they can control their men.

They hold the man’s sexual access at threatpoint, and as I’ve said before, sex to men is like vision.

It is very important to them, though they could close their eyes forever if they wanted. 

Do NOT let women control you by being your sole sex partner!

4 – Women Are NOT Monogamous In the Long Term

This is an extremely important point to make.

Men get into relationships thinking that their girl will be loyal forever, and the truth is that many women are not.

They are simply SERIALLY MONOGAMOUS.

What this means is that they are monogamous with one partner, then they change to another partner, and so on.

Each relationship lasts anywhere from 3 months to 3 years.

After that time period, the feelings start to fade, and the woman could stay for other reasons, but they will NOT stay because of attraction.

Here are some reasons women might stay (and be miserable) in a longer than three year relationship:

1. Parental pressure
2. Societal pressure
3. Peer pressure
4. Money
5. Lifestyle
6. Children

Usually these types of relationships manifest as roommate relationships. The man and woman are living together, but they act more as roommates taking care of children than people in a relationship.

I’m sure many of your parents were this way for you growing up (including mine).

It is possible to have a longer relationship with a woman than three years, and for her to be attracted to you the whole time.

The way to do this is to be with a girl in a FWB (friend with benefits), NMG (non-monogamous girlfriend), SNMG (serious non-monogamous girlfriend), or OM (open marriage) arrangement.

In these arrangements, neither partner is taken for granted.

The woman knows the man has other options and has to keep him sexually satisfied, but the arrangement works in the other direction as well.

The man cannot take the woman for granted, knowing that she is sleeping with other men as well.

But Helios, I thought you said that Women are serially monogamous? How would they be happy in a non-monogamous arrangement?

They would be happy in a non-monogamous arrangement because they wouldn’t feel the societal shackles of a traditional relationship. 

They can also rest easy in these types of arrangements, knowing that they’re with a stud who is attractive to multiple women.

Of course, sometimes, in non-monogamous arrangements, the woman will leave the man to go pursue a monogamous relationship with another man.

It will inevitably implode, however, and she will return to the non-monogamous man.

In this way, it extends the relationship length for the non-monogamous man as well, and the woman has satisfied her need for serial monogamy.

It is often the case that non-monogamous relationships with women are longer lasting, but more spread out (4 months here, 8 months there).

5 – Women Treat Alphas and Betas Differently In Relationships

An important point to make about relationships is the distinction between alphas and betas.

An alpha is generally treated well in a relationship.

This is because he refuses to bend to the will of his partner and so, her attraction for him remains high.

He enjoys regular sex (for up to 3 years), and has drama, like any man has in a monogamous relationship, but he can handle it.

A beta is usually treated terribly in a relationship.

He is walked all over because he constantly bends to the will of his partner.

As a result, women’s attraction for betas generally drops like a stone rather quickly.

Betas find themselves sexually starved in numerous ways in their relationships, but due to their false programming, believe that they will never find a better partner. 

They stay, hurting themselves even further as they sink ever lower into loser territory.

If you want to prevent drama in your relationships with women, there is a simple solution.

It is the defining point of this post and has been repeated multiple times.

DO NOT get monogamous.

Once you get monogamous, whether you’re alpha or beta, many women will feel as though they have you by the balls.

They then slowly start to weaken you through constant shit tests and demands.

If you meet those demands, you lose and are beta-ized.

Slowly, your masculinity is crushed.

Don’t let that be you!

Have other options, and you’ll prevent this problem entirely.

You’ll always hold the power to walk away by having multiple options and you’ll be treated well as a result.

Conclusion

As you can see, there are many important points regarding relationships.

The most important takeaway from this post is for you to NEVER BE MONOGAMOUS.

Allowing yourself to only have one sexual option is the direct cause of many of the problems that men suffer in relationships.

You need to prevent this problem from the beginning.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

You’re A Misogynist For Implying That Women Maliciously Control Men Through Sex!

The sad part is I know that many women don’t even do this on purpose.

They just feel as they feel and men have to suffer for it.

Making men aware of what SOME WOMEN (not all) do, is NOT misogynistic.

I am trying to help men to NOT be miserable.

That is a noble goal, and shame on you for attacking me for it.

My Boyfriend is Such a Dick, He Wants Sex Three Times Per Week!

Men and women have different sex drives.

He wants the amount of sex that he needs in order to satiate his sex drive.

You don’t need that much or even want that much. 

This problem could be easily solved if you both weren’t monogamous.

He would pressure you less to fuck.

I Love My Husband and I Will Be With Him Forever. You’re A Cynical Prick Helios!

Honeymoon phase.

Let’s see how you feel in 3 years.

By the way, if you EVER stop having dick-breaking sex with him I will be right.

Keep that in mind.

You’re welcome, husband 🙂

My Wife Says She Won’t Fuck Me Because I Don’t Do Enough Chores, What Do I Do?

Never get into a monogamous relationship.

She knows she has you by the balls and is increasing her demands.

You think that will ever stop?

You’re dreaming.

Smile, tomorrow will be worse 🙂

Many men wonder what is wrong with them regarding women.

Here is a compiled list of a few things that women complain about regarding men.

Something interesting of note is that some of these complaints are actually beta-bait.

They are things that women complain about in relationships in order to beta-ize their partner.

In other words, some of these complaints are actually shit tests in disguise.

If you bend to them, you become beta and she’ll lose sexual attraction for you.

Some of these are genuine complaints that men could work on in order to improve their relationships.

Let’s separate the wheat from the chaff, shall we?

Complaint 1 – Men Are Too Distant

This complaint is actually beta bait.

Men who are “distant” are actually attractive to women, especially if a woman sees that man as emotionally distant.

A distant man communicates subtly that he doesn’t have time for the girl and so she chases him, hoping to gain his attention, which he never fully gives.

He’s too busy for that.

When she complains about this, what she’s really complaining about is the fact that the man doesn’t put her above the other things in his life.

Ironically, it is this very fact that makes her so attracted to him.

It is one of the behaviours you should never change.

You should actively maintain a cold wall, a part of you that women can never touch.

This makes them want to get to know you more deeply, and they lose themselves in the chase of getting to know everything about you.

Being distant is actually wonderful for maintaining attraction.

Do not allow yourself to become beta-ized by listening to this one!

2 – Men Aren’t Sensitive to Women’s Emotional Needs

This one is quite similar to the first one.

What this means in womanese is: “he doesn’t agree with my drama enough”.

Again, an alpha should never put himself in the frame of talking to women about their emotional problems or their problems with other men.

That is for the losers in her life, and not for you.

If you start to “deep-dive” into her feelings, you can expect her attraction for you to decrease.

Men are, in general, supposed to be more stoic and less emotional.

You do not want to change this aspect of yourself just because she complains about it.

Men and women are different, and this complaint is basically saying that the man isn’t comparable to one of her girlfriends in emotional depth.

The average man is entirely incapable of matching the average woman’s emotional depth due to our innate biological differences.

It is not something to complain about, rather, it simply is how it is.

3 – Men Aren’t Affectionate Enough

This one is interesting in that it holds an inherent contradiction.

A huge mistake many men make is being too affectionate too early.

This signals neediness.

Of course, if you show no affection at all, it also hurts you.

You have to be balanced in the way that you show affection in your relationships, not too much, and not too little.

Women complain that men show too little affection, but what they are referring to is how affection drops off from men after 1-2 years.

Again, it seems to me that women are expecting men to be as emotionally understanding as women, an unlikely scenario.

My recommendation to you is to do your best to control how much affection you show in relationships.

In general, too much affection signals that you’re a provider.

4 – Men Skip Sexual Foreplay

This one is a huge problem.

Many men are terrible in bed.

They don’t know how to please their women and so women complain.

This problem is one of the reasons that women cheat!

Obviously you want to improve your sexual prowess so that women don’t leave you for a guy that actually knows what he’s doing.

If you’re new to seduction or haven’t had many sexual partners yet, you need to practice making women come.

It doesn’t matter if the process annoys you or if you think it’s tedious, their pleasure is just as important as yours!

Practice! Listen to your partner and pay attention to her reactions!

You need to learn what she likes in bed, and reliably deliver it!

Women come back to men that make them come.

Do not skip this!

Obviously a man who wants to be good at seduction needs to be skilled at making women come.

5 – Men Don’t Communicate Enough

This complaint is again ridiculous.

Another beta-bait strategy that women use.

Many women say that relationships are about communication.

It is true that relationships are about communication, but NOT for men. 

It is true for women that relationships are about communication.

Alpha men do not over-verbalize everything in a relationship.

Obviously you’re going to talk, and I hope that you’re with women that provide decent conversation, but that’s not what I’m referring to.

When women say that men don’t communicate enough, what they mean is that men don’t communicate enough about the relationship!

You as the man want to communicate about the relationship as little as possible.

You want to have “the talk” with her after 3 months, to tell her that you’re not monogamous and another “talk”, if you’re really enjoying her company and want to make the relationship more serious (turning it from a NMG to an SNMG relationship).

Other than that, you want NO TALK about the relationship at all, if possible.

A man who is talking about the relationship all the time is beta-izing himself.

Avoid!

6 – Men Don’t Spend Enough Time At Home With Their Children

This one is true for many men.

My opinion is that if you want children then you should be present in their lives.

If you don’t want to be present in their lives, don’t have them!

This complaint by women is definitely one that should be considered.

It is very important for men to be present in the lives of their children as a two-parent household leads to the best outcomes for children.

You want to raise children that are respectful, successful adults in the real world.

It is obviously easier to raise children to be this way with a stable family that has both a mother and father.

I believe in having a stable family if you’re interested in children, I simply don’t believe that it should be a traditional one.

Traditional monogamous relationships do not consider actual biological realities, and therefore lead to misery.

Miserable parents do not make good parents.

7 – Men Do Not Help With Order and Cleanliness in the Home

Order and cleanliness should be egalitarian in the case of the man and woman having similar salaries.

If the man works and the woman doesn’t, or vice versa, then the chores should be done by the person who doesn’t work.

One person provides the lifestyle, and the other supports, in that case.

Either way is fine.

What is NOT fine is one partner demanding that the other partner split the chores 50/50 if only one partner works.

That places a much heavier burden on one partner than the other.

That is clearly unfair.

If we want fairness and an enjoyable experience for both partners, we can’t put a greater burden on one partner over the other.

8 – Men Don’t Take Care of Women Enough, Financially

Oh look, more beta bait!

When a girl says she wants to be “taken care of”, what she means is that she wants you to buy her nice things and take her out to nice dinners.

She wants to be wined and dined.

You know what kind of man wines and dines a woman from an early point in the relationship?

You guessed it, betas.

You should NEVER be that guy.

Let the losers in her life treat her like a special little angel, while you treat her as she actually is, a human with flaws.

She’ll respect you for being real.

Guess which man she’ll fuck?

If you guessed not the beta, you’d be correct.

9 – Men Want Sex With Their Partner Too Often

This is also a ridiculous complaint.

You need to understand where it’s coming from though.

From a biological standpoint, women want sex less than men. 

It makes total sense for women to complain that their man’s sex drive is too high.

It creates huge problems for men, though.

It means that inevitably, men will feel sexually starved in monogamous relationships.

This is why it makes sense for men to be non-monogamous.

As a non-monogamous man, your sex drive is always satisfied.

Women that say you’re too horny or that say they’re not your whore are simply trying to establish a frame of not having sex with you.

Obviously that’s a terrible frame to have.

You can avoid this by having multiple partners that you’re having sex with.

When the girl complains that you want too much sex or denies you sex, you don’t get mad or force the issue, you simply stop talking to her for a week and pursue your other options.

She’ll get the message that denying you sex is a no-no.

A girl that doesn’t want to sleep with you is not attracted to you, she’s using you for other things.

10 – Men Create Extramarital Relationships

 This is obviously a problem.

The problem isn’t, however, that men cheat.

The problem is in the nature of the relationship itself.

Traditional marriage does not account for biological realities.

As a result, many men end up cheating, as they feel sexually starved.

They could have prevented the problem by never entering into such an arrangement in the first place, but they never thought of that at the time.

They were having dick-breaking sex and didn’t think that that would ever end.

Men cheat, and so do women.

The way to prevent this problem is to acknowledge that neither men nor women are monogamous.

By never entering into monogamous relationships, neither men nor women ever have to cheat on each other.

Rather, they accept the biological reality that they’re going to want some variety here and there, and don’t let it destroy them.

Conclusion

Women have several complaints about men.

Some of them are valid and some of them are ploys used to beta-ize their partners.

It is important to understand what women complain about in men to have better relationship dynamics in the future.

Keep these in mind on your journey to mastering seduction!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

I Wish My Man Were Closer to Me Emotionally, It Always Feels Like There is This Wall Between Us!

Women want what they can’t have.

That cold wall means that you can never fully get into the man’s heart.

You don’t want him to break down his walls, you simply say you do.

Stop confusing men!

My Boyfriend is Such a Dick, He Wants Sex Three Times Per Week!

Men and women have different sex drives.

He wants the amount of sex that he needs in order to satiate his sex drive.

You don’t need that much or even want that much. 

This problem could be easily solved if you both weren’t monogamous.

He would pressure you less to fuck.

My Man Is Cheating On Me, I Hate Him!

You hate him for being human?

He loves you, but he NEEDS sexual variety (and so do you for that matter).

Rather than denying this fact and hating him for it, accept it and be non-monogamous.

You’ll both be better for it.

My Man Just Goes Straight to Penetration, No Foreplay, What a Dick!

Yeah.

He’s one of those idiots who doesn’t know how to lay a woman.

Such a shame.

Men, listen up!

Make your girl cum whenever you have sex!

Do some foreplay goddamn it!

Ah, marriage, a famous topic for any seduction blog.

Today, I’m going to talk about some of the reasons why men get married.

I hope that this article gives you some insight into why getting married in the west is a terrible idea.

It worked in the past, but it does no longer as old concepts have been perverted into a new reality, one used to control and subdue.

Here are ten reasons why men get married. 

You’ll see that these reasons aren’t necessarily good ones. 

Off we go…

Reason 1 – Men “Love” Their Partner

Many men get married because they “love” their partner.

Many men mistake love for the honeymoon phase (that phase of a relationship where everything is going awesome since everything is new).

Most of the time, for most men, what they’re feeling for their partner isn’t love, but infatuation.

Infatuation is a terrible reason to get into a legally binding contract with a person!

Those feelings will dim, and when they do, destruction looms.

What you should do instead, is enjoy your partner, enjoy the feelings, sleep with your partner and treat them amazing. 

Don’t enter into a legally binding agreement that screws over your future, however!

You should not trust your feelings with this, but rather your reasoning and logic!

Reason 2 – Oneitis

Another reason that many men get married is oneitis.

Oneitis is believing that the girl that you’re with is special and beautiful and perfect.

People with oneitis believe that their girl is “the one”.

“That girl” is not like the rest and therefore it’s totally fine to give her a loaded gun to point at your head which she can shoot whenever she likes.

No matter how beautiful, special or amazing your partner is, you should never give them the ammunition to destroy your life.

Just because they definitely won’t use it now, or wouldn’t use it in five years doesn’t mean that they should have the ability to wield such power over you.

Those that enter into marriages knowing the risks have no sense of self preservation.

They are letting their feelings get in the way of actual reality, which heavily disfavours men in marriages.

She is a flawed human like everyone else and should not be allowed to wield the life destroying power that divorce has over men.

You should absolutely avoid this outcome for yourself.

Reason 3 – Their Girlfriend Is Pressuring Them Into Marriage

You would be surprised how many times men simply cave into their girlfriend wanting to marry them.

This is what happens when you allow your sexual access to be held in the hands of one woman.

She wields power over you and can use it to pressure you into doing things you don’t want to do.

Many men simply get married because they’re afraid that if they refuse to agree with their girlfriend, she will leave them and the sex that they have will dry up.

Men then get into marriage, and within three years the sex has dried up completely (due to boredom and beta-ization) and now they can’t leave!

That is an awful fate to befall any man.

Instead, the man should cultivate multiple options so that his access to sex is safe.

Once he has that, no girl has the power to pressure him into anything and if he wants to make a decision as stupid as marriage, he can choose to do so on his own terms and not on hers.

Do NOT let your girlfriend pressure you into marriage! (Honestly, if you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you know a girlfriend in the traditional sense is a terrible idea and you wouldn’t even have one, but this is for you men that haven’t gotten the memo)

Marriage is a terrible deal, you shouldn’t be strongarmed into it!

Reason 4 – Lack of Sexual Options

This reason ties directly into the previous reason.

Many men get married because it implies that they will have a woman sexually forever.

This is NOT the case in modern society, and in fact, was NEVER the case.

Women in long relationships with men taper off the sex after the three year mark.

They become sexually bored at that point and want a different sexual partner.

It is not your fault, that is how women are wired (for serial monogamy).

Men are wired to want multiple women from the start.

If you, as a man, get married because you think it will buy you access to sex for the rest of your life, think again.

You will simply be financially trapped, while still having no sex and having to deal with the drama of a live-in partner who is constantly haranguing you.

A much better bet is to have a serious non-monogamous girlfriend who you live with and have kids with (with a parenting plan and finances already sorted), while also going and sleeping with other women on the side.

She, in this arrangement, would also be allowed to sleep with other men if she chooses.

In this way, your relationship can account for actual biological realities.

Instead of burying your head in the sand about the realities of the world, you’re much better off just understanding what the real world is like and adapting to it.

You will actually achieve long term happiness this way, and not have sexual starvation coupled with misery, a common fate for men in traditional marriages.

Reason 5 – Societal Programming

Many men get married because it’s what people do!

They have seen it on TV, in movies, and all of their friends and loved ones have done it.

Naturally, it is the only option.

It’s time for you to hear this message:

If you act as a sheep, you will be slaughtered as one.

Just because everyone else is jumping off a bridge, does not mean that you should do it too.

Weren’t you taught that as a kid?

Society is wrong about marriage, and that’s why the divorce rate is so high.

If you want to be miserable like the rest of society, do as they do.

You’ll be praised for your amazing decision making, while quietly living a life of desperation as you realize you made the wrong choice.

Most people (80% plus) are miserable in marriage for one reason or another.

Do not be so arrogant as to assume that you’ll be in the 20% (you won’t be, you’re not boring and low sex drive).

The really sad part is that if you advertise that you’re going your own way, you’re going to be shunned by some of your friends and family.

In my opinion, living an actual good life is much better than living a life that is praised by the masses.

It is your choice, ultimately, which life path you choose. There are negatives to each.

Your choices are the following:

1. Live a life that you enjoy, which makes you happy, but have others scorn you
2. Follow the societal script to the letter and be praised, but be miserable

Neither choice is ideal, but I know which one I would choose any day.

Reason 6 – Their Mom Told Them To

It is terribly sad that many men live a life of misery because they wanted to please their mom.

Their mom said that they should live life a certain way, and for fear of being disliked or criticized by their mother, these men never did anything for themselves.

Your mom is not living your life, you are.

Ultimately you’re going to have to choose whether you’re going to want to live a life your mom praises, but you hate, or a life which you enjoy, but your mom tolerates.

Notice how this parallels almost exactly the societal programming reason for why men get married.

There is a reason for that.

Societal programming teaches people to act in ways that favour women in basically all situations.

It only makes sense that your mom would teach you a way to behave that made you the best man for women (a slave to women’s collective will).

As sad as that sounds, your mom’s goal is not to make you into an alpha male, but the best beta male a woman could get.

If you listen to her advice, you will succeed, and become an amazing slave to women.

Some men are lucky, and have moms that teach them to be alpha, but these are a HUGE minority.

If you’re on this seduction blog, chances are your mom is like mine, and is hellbent on making you into the best beta you can be.

This is the world’s test.

Can you overcome the feeling of guilt that comes with going in a direction that’s better for you?

If you can, you’re an alpha and you win.

If you can’t, you are a beta and women win.

It is a win-win for humanity either way.

You only end up happy in one of these two scenarios, however (hint: it’s not the beta one).

Reason 7 – All Their Friends Are Getting Married

Some men simply get married because all their friends are getting married.

What a ridiculous reason.

If all your friends were shooting heroin, I hope you would make the correct decision and leave them.

You wouldn’t try and fit in and do heroin with them (I mean, some of you would, but I digress).

DO NOT do things just because your friends are doing them.

Your friends are not the experts.

ONLY YOU can decide what is best for you.

Don’t let your friends decide when you should get married.

Since you know that marriage is a stupid idea, I would hope that you have the self control to resist this idiotic decision.

Peer pressure is a terrible reason to do anything, and marriage is no different.

Be your own man, not a follower who bends to the will of the group.

Reason 8 – They Think It’s the Next Step In Life

All men experience a feeling of wanting to settle down eventually.

It’s what happens when your testosterone lowers.

By the way, you should work out, and if necessary do TRT to make sure that your testosterone NEVER drops to a low level, even as you age.

Just because you feel as though you want to settle down, doesn’t mean you should settle into an IDIOTIC arrangement that heavily disfavours you and puts your balls in a girl’s purse.

Just get into a SNMG (serious non-monogamous relationship) or OM (open marriage) with a girl that you really fancy.

These arrangements account for actual biological realities and won’t make you miserable.

You can actually have kids in these arrangements too, and have a stable family.

You allow yourself sexual variety (which you’ll need until you’re old and grey), and you allow her to also sleep with men on the side when she gets sexually bored of you.

This will ironically create a much more stable arrangement as actual biological realities are not getting in the way of your relationship.

You can both ACTUALLY be honest with each other in these arrangements.

Reason 9 – Men Think It’s the Best Way to Raise Children

Many men know the statistics and know that kids have better outcomes if they have both a mother and a father in a stable household.

I agree.

I simply disagree that you need a piece of paper that represents a legal contract with the government in order to have this.

You can have a serious, non-monogamous relationship with a woman where you’re living together and raise the kids in that household.

In that arrangement, you would also have some drama-free way of sleeping with women on the side (like a small apartment for yourself).

You would still be the good father to your children, AND your sexual appetite would be satisfied, allowing you to retain your masculine edge, something that is absolutely needed in order to raise children properly.

Don’t let society tell you what is best, think for yourself and realize that not everything you have been taught is for your benefit.

Reason 10 – False Beliefs About Finances

Some men get married believing they will have so much more money after marriage.

I mean, you get a tax break and you have two people combining their incomes, right?

Wrong.

Two people spend much more money than one.

At best, you’ll remain at parity with how you were before you got married.

At worst (and this is the most common occurrence), you’ll get the situation of “his money is our money and my money is my money”.

This means that your amazing wife will be spending all of her money on herself, and some of your money too.

What that means is that you actually end up in the negative financially in a marriage.

This is why you should ALWAYS keep your finances separate from a woman.

I also haven’t mentioned divorce.

If you do divorce, your finances are wrecked!

You’re going to have to pay alimony and child support!

Good luck, if that is your fate (and it will be, if you marry in the west, around 78% of the time, statistically speaking).

Conclusion

Men marry for many reasons, and many of these reasons are idiotic.

They are either peer pressure reasons, or they’re reasons that are related to societal programming.

These are reasons that exist to control and manipulate you.

Ultimately, it is your choice whether you agree to be used or not!

Make the right choice for your future. It’s your life.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

What If I Want Kids, Shouldn’t I Get Married?

You should be in an SNMG or an OM, NEVER a traditional monogamous marriage.

You will likely get divorced and ruin your finances.

Your children will also get to experience your slow torture in a traditional marriage (as you become a slobbering beta), and no-one wants to see that.

What If She’s Special, Should I Still Not Commit Monogamously?

If you think she’s special, you should DEFINITELY make all the right moves.

You don’t wanna mess it up right?

NEVER be monogamous, especially if you like her!

My Mom Said That If I’m Nice to Girls I’ll Always Be the Guy they Turn To, Is She Right?

Your mom will give you advice on how to be an amazing beta.

She wants to win the game for team girl.

She thinks that this will make you happy, and will stubbornly stick to her beliefs.

It won’t.

Be your own man, or be a miserable beta, your choice.

All of My Friends Are Getting Married, I’m Thinking of Tying the Knot, Should I Do It?

If your friends chopped off their balls, would you do it?

Don’t make a decision just because a friend does it.

You are living your life and you have to make decisions that favour YOU.

Be smart about this.

Many men message me and ask:

“How the hell do I get Martha, that hot girl I’ve been eyeing for 5 years”.

I wrote this post to address questions like this.

We’re going to talk about something that really pisses me off, today.

It’s a lie that many seduction blogs tell you.

The lie goes like this:

“You can seduce ANY girl you want and sleep with her”.

No you fucking can’t, you liars.

I hate that garbage false advertisement so much.

They’re leading betas on a wild goose chase just to get views on their blog.

What fuckbags.

Anyway, I’m going to explain in this post here why wanting Martha is an irrelevant, and destructive question, and what your attitude should be instead.

On we go…

I Want *Insert Girl’s Name Here*, How Do I Get Her?

This is the wrong question to ask.

Your question shouldn’t ever be “How can I get Martha”, but rather this one:

“How do I get women LIKE Martha?”

Your goal in seduction should NEVER be one individual girl.

You should be focused on your success regarding groups of women, or womankind in general, rather than one individual girl.

Take your focus off of the individual and onto the group.

Let me explain why wanting one girl is wrong…

Why Wanting One Specific Girl is the Wrong Mindset to Have

It is the wrong mindset because it implies oneitis from the get go.

It implies that Martha is somehow special and beautiful and angelic and better than other women, and that she should deserve your sole attention as a result of this.

Martha, like all other humans, is a flawed individual who will never succeed in fulfilling your beta fantasy of a perfect angel woman.

Thus, your attitude should NEVER be how you can seduce Martha, but how you can seduce women LIKE Martha.

You don’t want that individual girl, you want that type of girl.

Maybe you like girls with a certain body type, or with a certain personality, or with certain intellect.

These are all great things that you can and should look for, if that’s what you want.

Martha is not the only girl who can provide you with those, however.

Your goal should be to find 3 Marthas and sleep with all of them in FWB (friends with benefits) or NMG (non-monogamous girlfriend) relationships to start.

It doesn’t matter if you fail with Martha, there are a million other women with Martha’s qualities out there who you are able to seduce.

Your failure with Martha is simply a step in the journey towards seducing women LIKE Martha, your final goal.

Oneitis

The reason why wanting Martha is bad, instead of girls like Martha, is that it slows your development as a man.

Oneitis is extremely damaging to men’s sexual and social development.

It stalls men’s ability to become alpha.

It doesn’t help that women tend to try and beta-ize men and get them into monogamous relationships, either.

Martha is not a perfect little angel, whether you’re attracted to her or not.

She’s a human, like all of us.

Don’t let Martha prevent you from sleeping with women like Martha.

She’ll try if you let her!

Monogamy

Women want you to be monogamous, and so does society in general.

They will reward you for it, in fact.

Society does it because it wants you to be enslaved.

Women do it because they want power over you.

Do you want either of these outcomes?

Let’s say you did get Martha.

By being monogamous to her, you’d let her destroy all of the things about you that allowed you to seduce girls like Martha in the first place.

She would ruin your long term chances with women by holding your balls in a purse through a monogamous relationship.

Don’t be that guy.

Instead, be the guy that girls like Martha fantasize about when they’re alone.

Seduction is A Skillset

Ultimately, you need to understand that in order to get girls like Martha, you have to develop your skills as a seducer.

You do that through practice, failure and rejection.

If Martha herself has to pay the price and reject you, so be it.

It is her loss, not yours.

You are developing your skills in order to have the ability to sleep with women like Martha regularly.

Martha herself is simply the representation of the type of woman you like.

She could be with you, or she could not, either way is fine when you understand that many women like Martha exist.

Funnily enough, when Martha knows that you’re good at getting girls like her, she’s much more likely to be attracted to you.

I hope you’re beginning to understand why the question of wanting to seduce Martha specifically is the wrong one.

By the way, you should never be with only one girl…

Be Non-Monogamous

A non-monogamous man is never with only one girl.

As I’ve said in previous articles, I believe the minimum number of women you should see at a time is three.

This is because even if one of them leaves you (because you refuse to bend to their will and be monogamous, oftentimes), you are still non-monogamous.

You never give any girl sole sexual control of your body.

If you do give a girl sole sexual control of your body, she’s going to begin demanding more and more things from you while simultaneously rejecting sex.

She will take away the things you like while adding more and more demands.

I know it’s absurd, but that’s what happens when you allow a woman to hold your balls in a vice.

Being with multiple women helps you to maintain a smooth emotional pond, as your access to sex is safely distributed over multiple women.

If she starts drama or demands, you simply let her go, and move on to better women.

When you refuse to be monogamous, you are best able to seduce multiple women and imply abundance, a quality which women find extremely attractive.

Abundance is when you have multiple women you’re sleeping with and aren’t afraid of losing your access to sex.

Women in general can sense when you have it.

It always amazes me how well women pick up on the fact that I’m seeing multiple women without me ever saying anything.

Being non-monogamous and having abundance makes getting women like Martha MUCH easier.

Develop A Roster of Women

As I said before, your goal should be to develop a roster of three women at minimum, all of which you’re sleeping with.

You can be in multiple different relationship arrangements with them.

I personally recommend starting out as FWB’s (friends with benefits) or NMG’s (non-monogamous girlfriends).

Don’t get any more serious than that.

You then continue these relationships as long as they last, replacing women as they leave with others and accepting those women who want to return back into your life.

If a girl ghosts you or stops talking to you for whatever reason, don’t be upset, simply wait a minimum of 4 months with no-contact and then message them again, inviting them to your place.

They’ll come and resume the relationship as though nothing happened.

If they don’t return, go no contact again, wait another 4 months and try again.

You Won’t Care Once You Have Three Girls That Love You

Once you have a roster of three women who love you and are sleeping with you regularly, your worries about Martha wanting you or not will vanish.

You’ll project an aura of extreme confidence and competence with women.

Work on your ability to make them all cum when you have sex so that when you get new women, they see you as extremely sexually skilled.

This will make them keep coming back for more.

You really won’t care about any woman rejecting you once you have a working roster, trust me.

It will make you happy in ways you can’t currently imagine.

You’ll see what I mean when you get here!

Conclusion

You will NEVER be able to seduce ALL the women that you’re interested in. 

Many will simply not be interested in you.

Do not get hung up on any one individual girl (Martha in this article).

Your goal should be to develop your skills as a seducer in order to be able to establish a roster of a minimum of three women.

Once you have this abundance in your life, you can use it to add even more women to your roster, as girls get frustrated and leave.

Don’t worry, they’ll return in a few months, just invite them to your place.

Practice, practice, practice and you’ll get all the women LIKE Martha you desire.

Go get ‘em!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

Why Do I Keep Getting Rejected?

You’re likely being too needy or desperate.

Stop texting her so much and work more on yourself.

Take some time to do the things you like and don’t kiss her ass.

What If She’s Special, Should I Still Not Commit Monogamously?

If you think she’s special, you should DEFINITELY make all the right moves.

You don’t wanna mess it up right?

NEVER be monogamous, especially if you like her!

Should I Tell the Girls I’m With That I’m Seeing Multiple Girls?

Yes, eventually.

Wait about three months.

That’s when many women will want to define the relationship.

That’s when you have “the talk” with her explaining that you’ll never be monogamous and that she can be with another guy if she wants, though you really do like her.

Why Should I Have A Minimum Roster of Three Women?

You should have a minimum roster of three women because you’re trying to be non-monogamous.

If you only have two girls, and one leaves for whatever reason, now you’re forced to be monogamous.

That’s a bad proposition and will hurt your long term frame.

Better to have three, and when one leaves, to replace her as quick as you can.