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It is a terrible time in all of our lives when a girl we trust betrays us.

We thought she would be our one and only, that special girl to beat all others, and she turned out to be just like the rest.

We vow to never let it happen to us again.

Then we get with a new girl and EXACTLY the same thing happens.

Most men just blame it on the girl and repeat the same mistakes for the rest of their lives.

What if I told you that the problem lies not with the women cheating on you, but with you?

That’s right.

It’s your fault.

Here’s why…

Why Did She Cheat on Me?

Women cheat on men for many reasons.

They’re bored. They’re frustrated.

They’ve been with a man for too long.

The man was a total doormat and let the girl walk all over him.

The guy was an alpha and absolutely refused to budge on anything.

She saw a hot guy on tinder and just wanted to try a no-strings thing.

I have a secret for you.

There is no special girl who isn’t like this.

Women are human.

Allow me to explain… 

Don’t Think of It As Cheating, Think of It As Human

Humans want sex with multiple partners in the long term.

Women are human.

This means that if a woman stays with you for long enough, they will want sex with someone other than you.

It is exactly the same thing for men.

If you leave men for long enough, no MATTER HOW GOOD their partner is, they STILL want to sleep with other women.

What this means is that fundamentally, humans are not monogamous.

This means that the issue was not the person, but the nature of the promises made that were the problem.

You expected her to be monogamous with you because she promised. Then, she turned out to be human.

You shouldn’t blame her, you should blame your expectations that she would be perfect.

Let me explain a bit about female nature to you now…

Hypergamy

In general, women are hypergamous.

This means that they want the best partner.

The problem is that “the best” is subjective to them.

Who “the best” person is changes over time, and with a woman’s mood.

What this leads to is serial monogamy in women.

They stay with one partner for a while (up to 3 years), and then some problem comes up that leads them to not believe that their partner is the best anymore. 

They will then see another as the best, and want to move on.

This does not mean that they necessarily move on instantly after the 3 year period has passed, simply that the honeymoon period is over.

Men usually report an increase in bad behaviour from women at this point in the relationship, and sex is usually denied, if not rarely, then occasionally.

The problem is further exascerbated until the man and woman are having no sex at all.

This is less of a problem for the woman than for the man, as men usually have higher sex drives than women.

As a result, men tend to suffer in long monogamous relationships.

Monogamy

Monogamy does tend to work for women in the short term (and sometimes for men as well, in rare beta cases).

Monogamy is defined as being with only one partner exclusively.

Often monogamy manifests in women as sleeping with only one partner and keeping a few others on the backburner.

It does NOT, however, work in the long term.

It doesn’t matter if you’re the “best boyfriend in the world” (which usually to women just means you’re an amazing doormat-beta to them), or if you’re “the worst” (which usually to women means that you’re a hot alpha who refuses to bend).

They will inevitably want to fuck another partner.

Some women, then just cheat on their partner while staying in the relationship (for the other benefits). 

Others break up with their man and immediately try fucking another man, a guy who they already had on the backburner.

This is why being her beta bitch boyfriend (or her “yes, dear” husband) doesn’t work in the long term.

It is ALSO why being “alpha” and “holding frame” as they say in the manosphere doesn’t work either.

You WILL INEVITABLY be cheated on or left if you’re with a woman monogamously for long enough.

It is simply human nature and NOT your fault.

What IS your fault is agreeing to be monogamous.

Once you know a certain relationship strategy doesn’t work, you shouldn’t use it.

Women’s Cyclical Nature

Women have a cyclical nature. Men do not, they have a more linear nature.

Just read literature or do your own observations if you want proof of this.

As a result, women’s emotions change over time and they enjoy this (whereas men generally hate it when their emotions are fluctuating greatly).

The sad implication of this is that every relationship a woman is in is doomed from the beginning.

They are doomed to either break up, or tire and endure the relationship only to finally cheat out of boredom.

Here are the two ways that women’s cyclical nature applies to relationships:

Option 1:

Women will often be sexually attracted to an alpha man at first. 

They will lose their virginity to him, or if they are already sexually active, leave their partner for him.

They will be sexually exclusive to him and promptly shit test him to try and change him.

If he bends to all of her shit testing over time, he is molded into a beta. 

She is happy with the beta for a while, after all, beta men kiss her ass and tell her she’s perfect.

Nothing lasts forever.

She tires of the beta she’s created and leaves, replacing him with another alpha, often one who was EXACTLY like the one she just left when their relationship first started.

She then repeats the cycle.

Option 2:

Women are initially sexually attracted to an alpha man and sleep with him.

She becomes sexually exclusive and shit tests him to try and change him (nothing different so far).

He absolutely refuses to bend to her will.

Her attraction skyrockets, and she doubles her efforts to tame him.

He still refuses.

Finally, after a certain amount of time, she tires of his stubbornness.

She finds the closest beta and leaves the alpha for him.

She spends some time with the beta, and tires of him.

She then remembers the alpha that refused to bend and returns to him, repeating the pattern.

This cycle continues for years.

Unfortunately, you only have the choice to be one of the men in these two scenarios (the tamed alpha or the stubborn alpha).

Notice how neither of them end up with her being with you forever, but in scenario two, she keeps coming back to you over and over.

I recommend you try and be the man in option 2 (the stubborn alpha), for your own long-term happiness.

Marriage Doesn’t Work

Obviously, as you can see implied from the two above scenarios, marriage doesn’t work.

The girl will inevitably tire of you (whether you’re a good-for-women (beta) husband or an asshole-for-women (alpha) husband).

She then explodes your life (for different reasons of course).

DON’T GET MARRIED!

There’s a reason why people in marriages (especially men) are miserable in divorce.

It is entirely because of human nature!

The man is often at fault as well, but I’m showing you why women tire of men due to their nature in this article. 

Funnily, once the man is out of the marriage, he experiences a happiness unlike what he has felt in his whole life, and often comes out better emotionally, often catapulting him to alpha status in the eyes of his ex-wife who then wants him back.

Of course, at this point, the man is usually with a woman he considers “better” than his ex-wife (simply a woman who hasn’t denied him sex yet), and so he denies his ex-wife.

I’m sure you’ve seen “successful” marriages. 

Marriages than in your eyes are working because the couple hasn’t broken up yet.

What you’ll find, however, is that behind closed doors, outside of the public eye, they are often miserable, experiencing the problems I have pointed out above.

It is rarely a “happy” marriage after the three year (honeymoon) mark.

Oh, and another thing…

Incentives for Divorce

Not only do most women tire of marriage, they are INCENTIVIZED to do so!

Divorce gives alimony! 

Alimony is money paid to the ex-wife to maintain her in the lifestyle she had before divorce.

It is payment for the privilege of having been married to the woman. It is ridiculous, frankly.

Obviously the man suffers as a result.

Child support is a different story, it does make sense for the man to pay money for the children he has made.

Since women are incentivized to divorce, they do so, and often!

The rate of divorce has increased from 50%, and 50% is already nuts.

It just goes to show, paying people to leave other people is probably not the best way to promote them staying together in the long term.

It in fact promotes women only to stay as long as they are HAPPY in a marriage (1-3 years), or maybe if you’re lucky 7 years.

But what about children Helios? Isn’t marriage the best way to have children? You need a stable, two parent household!

If you want to have children, have them! 

Live with the woman in a serious relationship (in a place where common-law marriage is not a thing) and have children with her in a house/apartment where the property is in your name. 

Before the children, have a parenting plan already in place signed by a notary. 

Do not share finances and do not get married to her! 

When the inevitable split happens, you pay child support (but NO ALIMONY) and go your separate ways, each taking the things you owned before being together.

Much more clean and less of a hassle for both of you.

NO marriage. You also HAVE a stable, two-parent household for as long as you both want it.

You should be non-monogamous in this arrangement, and so should your partner.

Non-monogamy

It is extremely important for a man to keep his balls in any relationship.

He does this by never being monogamous.

NEVER commit to only one girl.

I recommend that you always have a roster of at least three women that you’re sleeping with regularly.

This way, if one leaves for whatever reason (usually because you refuse to bend to her will), you are STILL non-monogamous.

This does not mean that each of these women is a non-monogamous girlfriend (NMG).

In fact, I recommend that you have either all FWBs (friend with benefits), or you have one NMG and two FWBs.

You could have multiple NMGs, but I find it hard to split my love between women.

Generally, I really like or love one girl, and the others I sleep with because I require sexual variety. 

Generally, the women I’m sleeping with are also non-monogamous and it doesn’t bother me at all!

You obviously can’t force women to be monogamous with you if you’re seeing multiple women.

I have tried and found that the maximum they will stay with you if you try this is about 1 year.

After that, they inevitably leave or get a boyfriend anyway, since you’re not providing them with the ass-kissing they want.

Alternate Relationship Strategies

The point I’m trying to get across is that traditional relationships don’t work, especially for men.

There are relationship strategies that do, however.

I have mentioned two already:

1. FWB (friends with benefits)
2. NMG (non-monogamous girlfriend)

There are two other ones that also work, and they’re for you guys that are interested in more serious relationships:

1. SNMG (serious non-monogamous girlfriend)
2. OM (open marriage)

These relationship strategies work because they allow you, the man, to not ever be monogamous.

It creates an inherent cycle in the girl’s life as she is happy with you and wonders what you’re doing when you’re not around, mixed with a little jealousy.

As a result of this, you increase the relationship length by quite a long time.

Basically, you can see women for years in an on-again, off-again pattern as they go through beta loser boyfriends, then leave them for you and return. 

They then get frustrated with your non-monogamy and leave, only to return again later.

Ironically, these relationship strategies lead to LONGER RELATIONSHIPS, if you add up the times of each one (also, since you’re having concurrent relationships, you actually spend much more time with women than the average beta man).

The only difference is the time you spend with each girl is not back to back.

Your roster will constantly rotate as women come in and out of your life, with many returning over the years.

Conclusion

As you can see, women cheat not because they’re evil, but because it is a stupid decision to put them into relationships that don’t account for human nature.

You should understand that women are cyclical and will tire of any man eventually.

You shouldn’t hate them for this, instead, you should embrace it in your overall life relationship strategy.

Once you understand how women work, it is hard to hate them.

You should actively choose relationships where women leaving doesn’t cause you great emotional pain or loss of financial resources.

It only makes sense.

Good luck!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

I Was the Perfect Boyfriend, Why Did She Leave?

Women, just like men, are NOT monogamous.

She left because she got bored of your beta ass kissing.

Don’t worry, there are always other women whose asses you can kiss.

I Was Alpha and Held Frame, Yet She Still Cheated on Me, Is She a Bitch?

You’re a loser for being monogamous.

Sorry, I said it.

She’s not a bitch.

She just got tired of you refusing to bend to her demands.

She needs to be with a beta right now.

She’ll come back, as long as you don’t chase her.

Message her in 4 months, and invite her to your place. 

You won’t be disappointed!

I Love this Girl and She’s Not Like the Rest, I Want to Marry Her and Have Kids, She Couldn’t Possibly Screw Me, Could She?

Is she human?

Then she WILL either get bored and leave, or fuck someone else eventually.

Get into a relationship where neither of these things hurt you, and sure, you can have kids, and even live with her.

Man, You’re So Wrong About Everything You’re Saying, Me and My Wife Have Been Going Strong and Fucking Like Rabbits. You’re So Full of Shit!

Honeymoon phase.

Honeymoon phase.

Honeymoon phase.

Wait ten years, then tell me you’re still having dick-breaking sex with your monogamous wife.

Give me a fucking break.

Many men struggle with talking to women.

This is especially true if you’re new to seduction or are a virgin.

Not to worry!

Talking to women becomes much easier once you understand some key principles!

Here we go…

What Makes Women Reject Men?

Women generally reject men because they came off as needy or desperate (beta).

The irony is that the more women you have, the easier it is to get more.

If you make it too obvious that you’re interested in a girl, she won’t want to be with you.

She will see you as undesirable because wanting her so much implies you don’t get that much attention from women.

Even if you don’t have other women, you want to imply with your actions that you do.

Neediness manifests in the following ways:

1. Texting her all the time
2. Spending too many days of the week with her
3. Complimenting her constantly (especially her appearance)

Here is a famous rap line from my favourite rapper, Mac Miller:

“I don’t need nobody, I would love somebody though.”

This line embodies what your attitude should be towards getting girls.

You don’t NEED her for sex. You WANT her, however.

If she rejects you, your response should be “ok” and a quick switch to pursuing another girl.

Women are allowed to be uninterested in you, and it’s not your first rodeo.

Here is how you should behave towards the women in your life:

1. Don’t text all the time (max 1-2 times per WEEK, for logistics!)
2. Spend 1 day per week with her MAX, 2 days if she’s your non-monogamous girlfriend (NMG)
3. NEVER compliment her, except very occasionally (1x every 3 weeks or so). Try to compliment something that is NOT her appearance. Only compliment AFTER you’ve slept with her a minimum of 2x.

This behaviour communicates to women that you are a busy guy with better things to do than be with her.

When she’s there, you appreciate her, but ultimately you have bigger things on your plate.

What Makes Talking To Women Easier?

What makes talking to women easier is experience with women.

You gain experience through practice.

Here are the things that you should practice when you’re talking to and dating new girls in your life:

1. Being true to yourself
2. Aloofness
3. Confidence

Each of these things are alpha traits which will skyrocket your success once internalized.

Let me explain a bit about each one, and give some examples.

Without further ado…

The Things That Make Talking to Women Easier

1 – Being True to Yourself

I know this sounds like a platitude, but this one is actually true.

When I say you should be true to yourself I mean that you NEVER compromise who you are for a woman.

When you talk, if she’s interested in you, she’s going to challenge some of the things you hold dear.

She’s going to test your mettle to see if you bend.

If you bend, you’re a beta and she’ll put you in the provider zone (or friendzone).

NEVER bend on the things you care about.

Here’s an example:

You’re talking to a girl and you bring up that you like martial arts.

She then talks about how people that do martial arts are violent thugs that care too much about fighting.

If you agree and talk about how fighting is bad, she’ll see you as weak.

You’re better off talking about the virtues of fighting.

For example:

Fighting teaches men discipline and power. It is a noble art that elevates the mind, body and spirit.

You refused to bend to her frame, while also not getting into an argument.

You could also redirect her shit test.

If she talks about martial artists being thugs, you could say something like:

“I didn’t choose the thug life, the thug life chose me”.

You turn her attack into a joke.

She’ll laugh and you also haven’t bent to her shit test.

No matter what it is, if you’re passionate and care about it and refuse to bend, no matter what she says, she’ll find your passion attractive.

You have to stand strong and true to yourself despite opposition.

In many ways, women are exactly how the real world is.

If you let the world dictate how you should live your life and how you should be, you’ll simply be a pawn, never having will or happiness.

It is up to you whether you want to be a strong man, or a weak mouse.

No-one else can choose for you.

2 – Aloofness

If you do the aloofness thing right, women will call you mysterious.

Basically, an aloof guy does his own thing, not caring about the approval of others.

He does not commit to one girl, and instead chooses to be independent.

The opinions of others do not affect you very much as an aloof guy, you’re content being yourself.

You have a full, amazing life and don’t have the time to text a girl every second.

You don’t have time for the drama and bullshit the average person throws.

You’re a busy guy, full of dreams.

You don’t change your opinions and beliefs just because another person disagrees with you.

You’re independent.

Independent men are extremely attractive because many women want attention and validation.

It is built into them biologically.

When you refuse to give them attention and validation because you’re busy doing your own thing, they crave it even more.

They appreciate your attention and validation so much more when you do give it to them because your time is so valuable.

Women prefer attention from a guy who’s attention is valuable than a guy who gives it away for free.

Does that sound familiar to you?

It kind of parallels how many men feel about sex doesn’t it?

You, however, shouldn’t look down on women that love to have sex. 

They are amazingly congruent with your non-monogamous lifestyle!

Be who you are and want to be.

It is extremely powerful and will get you laid!

3 – Confidence

I don’t know how many times I’ve mentioned on this blog that women love confident men.

Women love men who believe in themselves and are leaders.

Confidence starts with believing that you’re good enough.

The idea that you’re not good enough is a limiting belief that many men hold.

It is a terrible belief that stops you from achieving your true potential.

A man who doesn’t believe in himself is not believed in by anyone.

Women want a man who they can look up to, but how can they look up to you when you won’t even look up to yourself?

If you feel like you don’t deserve it, put a little more effort into your life.

Try to create something of yourself and do things for the people around you that add value.

They’ll appreciate the great things you add to their life!

This includes women.

Be a man of value who works on himself and watch your confidence and success with women soar!

Examples of Talking to Women

Here are a few places where I have taken women that have led to good results. 

Try some for yourself!

1. At the beach at night

Some background:

First, I set up the date in such a way as for us to be isolated.

I selected a spot that I knew would be relatively empty at night, and I drove her there.

I knew that if things went well, the logistics for car sex were in place.

Me: This place is amazing huh! Check out those lights! This is a spot very few people know about, and frankly, I’m happy they don’t. Sometimes I come here to think and walk by the beach.

Her: Yeah, it’s beautiful! What do you think about?

Me: The way the world is, and how I’m lucky to know the things I do.

Her: Yeah, sometimes I’m happy that I know the things I know too.

Me: Come here

Her: ?

Me: *Kisses her* Sorry, you were too distracting

Her: *laughs* I have that effect sometimes 

Later on, I took her to the car.

Me: It’s cold out, let’s warm up!

Her: Yeah, good idea

Me: *sits in the backseat* I have a sick song, wanna hear it?

Her: sure!

*We listen to music* 

Me: You know, this song was written by *artist*. He was only 22 when he made this. His talent is absurd

Her: It has to come from some deep place.

Me: Sometimes I wonder if there’s a place where this creativity comes from, some other dimension

Her: *pensive*

 *I kiss her. Biology did the rest.*

Notice how the sex we had wasn’t really about the conversation specifically.

It was more about the logistics and the venue I selected. 

Try doing the same thing!

2. In a forested area, at night

Her: This place is totally creepy huh, very horror movie.

Me: Here come the zombies!

He: * laughs* 

Me: You know, forests are super cool. * Explains some fact about the forest*

Her: You know a lot about forests huh

Me: That’s not all I know *pushes her into a tree gently, kisses her, biology does the rest*.

Again, notice that it isn’t really about what you say. 

You can do the same.

Conclusion

Talking to women is easy if you have the underlying important things needed to talk to women covered.

Here is a list:

1. Being true to yourself
2. Aloofness
3. Confidence

When you embody these concepts, women will naturally gravitate to you.

You will have an aura that is very attractive and interesting.

Also, the attention you do give women will be seen as valuable since you really don’t have all that much time for her.

Practice makes perfect!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

Why Do I Keep Getting Rejected?

You’re likely being too needy or desperate.

Stop texting her so much and work more on yourself.

Take some time to do the things you like and don’t kiss her ass.

I Want to Get Better At Talking to Women, How?

Practice, practice, practice.

To make it easier, practice with these 3 things in mind:

1. Be true to yourself
2. Be aloof
3. Be confident

When you fail, and you will, don’t fret.

That is normal.

Keep getting rejected by different women.

Build your skillset and roster!

You’ll be glad you did.

I Can’t Get Laid On My Dates, Why?

You likely haven’t set up good logistics to do so.

Your second date should be at your place, or at some place where you can easily isolate to sex without people around.

If there are too many people around, she’s not going to want to do anything.

I’m sure many of you that visit this blog have this question in mind:

You wonder what the hell it is that women want and why the hell they’re so confusing.

I suffered the same way you did.

It took me years of practice to figure it out.

You’re lucky that you have the internet, where people like me are here to help you out.

Women aren’t actually that complicated, but when you analyze a woman’s mind logically, they seem totally alien.

One thing is certain, women are NOT men.

They want different things.

Let’s dive right in, shall we?

What the Hell Do Women Want?

Women want many things, some of which are totally unimportant to men, and some of which will make total sense.

Here’s a list of what women want in general:

1. Attention
2. Validation
3. A high place in the female hierarchy
4. Herd approval
5. Resources
6. Sex
7. Emotional highs and lows

As you can see reading this list, unless you are a narcissistic man, some of these don’t matter at all to you.

We can probably understand the resources one for sure, and the sex one. I get the herd approval one and the hierarchy one.

But what the hell is it with emotional highs and lows being a requirement? 

Personally, I HATE my emotions fluctuating like that. I prefer my life to be a calm pond. I don’t like waves.

Women do.

Attention and validation being important? For me, these are things I don’t really care about.

If the girl never texts me but we fuck often, I won’t be upset.

I’m getting sex, but barely any attention or validation.

I also don’t really give a damn about compliments others give me (though I guess they’re nice when they do happen). 

I don’t go into a tizzy if I’m not being validated.

I understand inherently that men are replaceable.

Weird stuff, man.

Anyway, here’s a list of what women want from MEN (those they have SEX with):

1. Attractive body
2. Dominant sexual style
3. Good frame
4. Confidence

These are pretty understandable, they’re the qualities of the alpha male.

If you’ve been reading my blog, they’re nothing new.

In this article, I’m going to go into more detail about each of the things women want.

Hopefully these insights help you on your own seduction journey!

What Women Want in General

1 – Attention

This one is obvious.

Women want to be noticed. 

They want to be admired.

They want people to know that they’re there.

This is why many women adopt attention seeking hobbies (such as singing, dancing, art, etc.).

These hobbies help them to get attention.

A woman who has the attention of many men is then able to select the man that she wants.

She wants the best man, and so she needs a big pool.

The reason why social media is a multi-billion dollar industry is because it taps into the female need for attention (and validation, we’ll talk about that next).

Online, women can access the attention of thousands of men, something not even imaginable in the past.

The competition for men nowadays is fierce!

Some might say it is harder than it has ever been (lucky for you, most men have given up, or have no idea the game is even being played, so it makes it easy to win).

Online, women have the attention of thousands of men, and so, they can pick the best of the best to be with.

Online dating has also exacerbated this problem.

Women have access to so many men that they inevitably see the best men in their region.

They reject a huge quantity of men (calling them “below average”), and only see those at the apex as attractive.

Many men are thus left without a girl while a small group of men have harems of women.

It really is a difficult life for a beta.

That is why you need to work on being an alpha!

2 – Validation

Unlike most men, many women desire validation.

Many women want to be told that they’re pretty and perfect and amazing and that all their choices are correct.

They want to feel like they fit in.

Women get validation in a variety of ways.

I’m sure you’ve noticed at parties the fake way some girls talk to each other.

It is merely exchanging validation.

It is a pleasantry that acknowledges an inherent feminine need.

An extremely common way that women receive validation is through beta (or loser or NPC) men.

Beta men shower women with compliments, attention and validation in the hope that these women will sleep with them.

What these men don’t realize is that they’re tapping into a primordial feminine need, and that in so doing, they are wrecking their chances at sex.

A woman that gets validation and attention from a man sees him as far more valuable than a guy that she is getting sex from.

He is a tap of good feelings.

Why introduce drama into the equation by fucking him?

She wants the validation train to continue.

You wanna know the official title of a guy who’s being used for validation?

He’s a friendzoned guy.

Patrice O’Neal would call him a “Time Ho”.

He’s being used as a validation generator and nothing more.

Don’t be that guy.

Of course, social media and online dating are both HUGE sources of validation for women.

Imagine pressing a button and having 300 messages show up of how you’re pretty, perfect, amazing, lovely, gorgeous, etc.

That is the life of the AVERAGE woman online.

If she’s truly beautiful, you can add the offers of trips around the world, private yachts, free money, and other things too.

Many women nowadays are absolutely addicted to the attention they receive online.

It is the modern epidemic nobody talks about.

It simply means that many, if not all women are incapable of being monogamous for the long term, but honestly, men are also not capable of it, so this is nothing new or weird, really.

Women will always have that panic button in their pocket they can press when times get tough, or they get annoyed with a man.

It is a luxury most men can only dream of, the luxury of abundance.

3 – A High Place in the Female Hierarchy

Women rank themselves on the female hierarchy based on how much control/power they have over the man that they’re seeing.

The more control/power a woman has over her man in her relationship arrangement, the higher she is seen on the female hierarchy.

Here are the rungs of the female hierarchy (from lowest to highest):

1. Little kid
2. Single mom
3. Single
4. “Seeing someone”
5. Divorced
6. Dating someone
7. In a serious relationship
8. In a marriage

Many women lord their place on the female hierarchy over other women, provoking feelings of jealousy.

These feelings, in turn, cause other women to want to climb higher on the female hierarchy.

What it means for you is that as your girl’s friends start to get into more serious relationships and start to get married, your girl is going to feel the need to pressure you to do the same.

She otherwise has a lower status than her friends and gets bullied as a result.

This is why many women tend to pressure the guys they’re with into more and more serious relationships.

They want to lord their status and rank over other women, or they at least want to remain at parity with them.

Obviously, once they’re attained the highest rank, many women compare themselves based on possessions and other stupid things.

This is where the expression “keeping up with the Joneses” comes from.

Here are some examples:

1. What their husband does for a living
2. The type of car they drive
3. The size of their house
4. How their lawn is mowed
5. How many extra-curricular activities their kids do
6. What their kids work as or where they went to university
7. How their house is decorated
8. What trips they go on

Obviously, these are things that many men don’t care about. They tend to care about things like sex and their hobbies.

They simply do the above to please their wives, who are in turn doing it to lord their status over other women.

In this way, the man basically becomes a purse or another possession, a tool to be used to compare to other people in her social group.

Don’t let this fate befall you!

As the doctor says: “the best cure is prevention”.

4 – Herd Approval

Whereas men tend to be more individualistic, women tend to be more collectivistic.

This means that women in general, like to do what is “in fashion”.

Many women change their behaviour and beliefs as the times change, to fit in with “team girl” as it were.

It was very dangerous for a woman to be expelled from her social group historically, and thus, many women have an inbuilt biological drive to fit in.

No matter how crazy or stupid current cultural trends are, many women will follow them, out of fear of being expelled from the group.

This is why many women follow the idiotic cultural trends of today, without much thought as to their stupidity.

They are simply following the cultural script.

Here are some examples of stupid cultural scripts many women follow:

1. Changing their hair or clothes to match what is in fashion currently, even if it’s ugly
2. Changing their political ideology to follow what is in fashion
3. Pushing for traditional, monogamous relationships when these don’t make them happy
4. Doing what other girls are doing on social media, even if it’s stupid
5. Acting as the culture tells them to act, even if it hurts their relationships with men and their children (extreme feminism/left-wing views)

Mark my words, when the world changes and becomes more extreme and right wing, many women will shift ideology and follow, following their innate biological script to fit in.

Even when the culture is asking for us to do really stupid and bizarre things.

It’s gonna happen, mark my words.

5 – Resources

When I say this, I don’t mean all women are gold diggers!

The truth is though, that many women have resource seeking as one of their primary strategies.

They either work to get a good job, so that they don’t rely on a man to raise their children, or they will actively choose a man to have kids with who has money.

Women will often test for resources at the beginning of your interactions with them.

They’ll ask you what you work as.

This is a fairly innocuous question, which in my experience is alright to answer.

NEVER answer a girl’s question about your salary however.

She’s testing you to see if you’re a beta.

If she tries to make the conversation about how much money you make, you’re done.

She sees you as a wallet and not as a person.

Avoid women like this.

Obviously the reason women see resources as important is because they need them in order to raise children.

This is not something bad.

It is simply bad when she sees you as only a wallet, with nothing to provide her but money.

This is why divorce is so evil.

The woman provides nothing (and often takes the children too) and keeps getting money off of you in the form of alimony.

It’s almost like you have to pay her for the privilege of having married her.

This is utterly ridiculous (though child support isn’t, in my opinion).

Until divorce laws change (and they won’t, not in our lifetimes anyway), it is an utterly ludicrous idea to get married.

Those that do have no sense of self-preservation. 

They certainly lack wisdom.

6 – Sex

Women want sex!

I would argue that women are more sexual than men.

Since women are responsible for the creation of new humans, one could argue that their whole lives are about sex.

Women do want sex, for sure.

They simply don’t want sex with the same man for very long.

Women tend to be quite devoted for about 1-3 years to the same partner.

After that, their eyes start to wander.

This is called serial monogamy.

Women want to be with one partner, and one partner only, until they don’t. They then switch to a new partner and repeat the pattern.

Don’t get me wrong, men are worse in this regard.

Often, it doesn’t take two weeks before a man wants sexual variety, even if he loves and enjoys the woman he’s with.

Men are polygamous, they want to have sex with multiple women at the same time.

Women are serially monogamous. They want one man, and one man only for a relatively short burst and then to move on to the next.

Ariana Grande’s famous song sums it up amazingly:

“Thank you, next.”

I’m sure you’ve experienced the dick-breaking sex that the first few years of monogamy offer, followed by a gradual reduction of the sex to nothing.

Men can avoid that by being polygamous. Once the sex dries up, you simply replace the girl in the roster with no hard feelings.

She’ll often return later, wanting to have sex with you again, once her hormones have reset with regards to you.

7 – Emotional Highs and Lows

Men are linear, women are cyclical.

Women experience shifting feelings regularly and enjoy it!

A girl doesn’t want to live life in a still pond. She wants a raging ocean for her emotions.

Men who are polygamous players do an amazing job of stirring the waters. 

This is because non-monogamy creates constant angst in the girl as she thinks about other women the man is with.

While they’re together, however, the feelings are amazing!

She gets both positive and negative feelings in a cyclical pattern.

A total win-win!

Women are also cyclical when it comes to their interactions with men.

Women spend some months to years with an alpha, finally become frustrated (with his non-compliance to her will), leave him for a beta, stay with the beta until they get bored (of his compliance to her will), then return to the alpha.

On and on it goes in a cyclical pattern of emotions.

You as a man avoid the cyclical nature of a woman’s emotions by being non-monogamous.

When you refuse to commit to one girl, you don’t rely on her emotional whims for sex.

When you don’t rely on her emotional whims for sex, you free yourself from the stormy waters of her ocean and can sail on a gentle pond.

You can relax, knowing that your sexual needs are going to be provided for, regardless of any individual girl’s feelings.

Conclusion

As you can see, women want many things, some of which we can relate to as men, and some of which we can’t really.

Here’s a list to remind you of what women want:

1. Attention
2. Validation
3. A high place in the female hierarchy
4. Herd approval
5. Resources
6. Sex
7. Emotional highs and lows

We can overcome the difficulties of women’s cyclical natures by being non-monogamous.

Ultimately, it is up to us to understand, adapt and overcome.

Don’t get sucked into the life strategy of a woman just because you enjoy the sex!

Monogamy will destroy both of you in the long term. 

Don’t give in!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

You Must Hate Women, Helios, to Describe Them All As Gold Diggers!

I love women.

They are not all gold diggers.

Trying to understand what lies beneath the surface of women is the opposite of hate.

I try to understand that which I love.

Women want resources, there is nothing bad about that, except if they see a man as nothing more than a wallet.

Not All Women Want Attention and Validation, You’re An Asshole!

I speak in the general sense.

Of course it is true that there are exceptions to the rule.

I would say that I am an exception in the way that I think.

It would be stupid of me to say that there are no women that are also exceptions to the rule.

I Don’t Want Attention Like Some Common Peacock, You’re A Dick Helios!

Maybe you don’t.

Many women do, however.

Are you honestly going to tell me that that girl showing her ass on instagram doesn’t like attention?

Kim Kardashian doesn’t like it?

Give me a break.

I Love My Husband, I Don’t See Him As A Purse!

I’m sure you do.

How many times have you talked about your husband’s personality, and not about what he does or owns?

See?

You’re treating him as a status object to show off to your friends.

Don’t feel bad, you can change.

Fuck your husband like you did when you first met to show him your appreciation.

I’ll bet that’s hard for you at this point in your marriage.

Humans aren’t monogamous.

Ever been jealous of guitar-guy?

That guy that pulls out his guitar and suddenly has a bunch of girls around him?

I imagine you thought that that wouldn’t be a bad idea for yourself!

You’re right!

Hobbies demonstrate that you’re a well rounded person.

They make you stand out from the crowd!

Some hobbies are much better at getting you laid than others.

Let’s talk about a few…

A Word of Advice

I hope that you’re not picking up hobbies just to get laid.

That’s lame.

You should do what you enjoy doing.

People love people that enjoy living life!

If you’re passionate about something, people will be drawn to you for your passion.

Alphas don’t compromise themselves for others.

We hold onto our self image strongly and are powerful.

Not being a slave involves enjoying the great things that life has to offer, and these hobbies are some of them!

While I don’t recommend you pick up a hobby just to get laid, I do recommend that you have hobbies. You need to do something besides wake up, work, sleep and repeat.

What kind of life is that, even?

What If the Hobby That I Love Isn’t On This List?

It doesn’t matter!

People in general love those that are passionate about life.

If you have something you really love to do and are hardcore passionate about it, people cannot help but be drawn in!

Check out Joe Manganello!

That guy’s a total D&D nerd. You think he doesn’t get laid?

He’s the best version of himself living his best life.

You do the same with whatever it is that you love.

That passion is extremely attractive!

Ok, onto the hobbies that are conventionally attractive…

1 – Playing the Guitar

I know what you’re thinking.

Lame!

You want me to be a guitar guy just to get laid?

No!

I believe that as part of your masculine development, you should learn how to play music.

Why not learn an instrument that’s portable, and that will also get you laid?

Guitar is a great hobby, but if you want it to get you laid, you’re gonna have to be a little better than a beginner.

Getting good at guitar is the same as getting good at seduction.

It takes practice.

There are also youtube videos, luckily, to help you learn.

Hilariously, you’ll find after a while that most songs need very few chords to actually be played.

You can play a bunch of songs just by learning a few chords and singing along.

Amazing!

It’s also a great way to relax if you’ve been working a bunch. I usually play guitar as a relaxation method, or piano!

Don’t worry about pain in your fingers, that goes away after about two weeks!

Start out with some easy songs, and then learn some scales and basic solos.

It doesn’t take much to impress people, most people do not have the time or patience to devote to an instrument.

You can wow them once you’re at a medium, or even low-medium level of guitar skill.

You don’t need to be BB King to impress a beginner 🙂

Listen to music that you like, and learn to play that on guitar!

You’ll find that many classic rock songs are pretty approachable, even for a beginner!

2 – Yoga/Dancing

There are a ton of women that do yoga/dance.

You would be amazed at the amount of hot women you can find in these places.

Your goal when going to one of these classes isn’t to get laid directly, instead, you’re going to have a different strategy.

You should go into those classes with the genuine intention to learn that skill.

Me, for example, I do martial arts, and so I want to become more flexible so that I can do better in my martial arts class.

I joined a yoga class for that reason.

Once there, passionately try to do the activity.

You won’t be able to prevent making friends in your yoga class.

Guess what?

These happen to be pretty girls that you’re making friends with!

You know what pretty girls have?

Other good looking friends!

When you’re invited to one of their parties, that is your chance to get the phone numbers of a bunch of gorgeous women!

Now you have a bunch of hot yoga girl prospects. Amazing!

The same could apply to a salsa dance class, or whatever you decide to join.

See the girls in your yoga class as a social circle source.

If you fuck up with one yoga group, you can always change classes and try again with another.

No problem!

3 – Cooking

Cooking is an amazing hobby to have as a guy.

Women become sexually aroused when they see men cook, I’m not kidding!

Also, it will help you to control the kind of food you eat, since you’re trying to get a nice body.

It’s a total win-win.

By the way, you can also save money over pre-made food.

Having cooking as a hobby gives you plausible deniability.

You can invite a girl to your place and make food together for a near guaranteed lay.

Learn a bunch of basic recipes, and use the internet as a source to help you.

There are many excellent, well-reviewed recipes online that you can follow.

If you decide to join a cooking class, there will always be a bunch of beautiful women there.

Guess who can slay with a little game?

That’s right, you!

An alternative is to build a social circle from your cooking class too, which is likely to lead to a bunch of pretty girls again!

The fun never stops.

4 – Travelling

Travelling, of course is an excellent source of getting laid if you stay in youth hostels.

Also, by travelling to different places in the world, you become cultured.

Women love cultured men.

When you have the experience of having been to many places in the world, it changes you.

You’ll be much more able to connect to people of all kinds of cultures and understand them.

This of course, applies to women as well.

If you’re white, you’ll have an easy time sleeping with asian women.

Travelling makes you worldly, it gives you more experience than the average man.

This makes you have much better conversations, and makes you much more relatable.

Women want a man who they can look up to. It is pretty easy to look up to a man with multiple hobbies who has travelled around the world.

Women of all stripes will love to hear the stories of when you were out exploring the world.

To say that travelling improves your prospects as a man goes without saying.

You will be better able to relate to multiple kinds of people and sleep with girls from all over the globe as a result.

You will also develop a respect for many cultures and an appreciation for humanity that you never thought possible.

Travelling allows you to seduce higher quality girls since it elevates you.

Not bad, huh?

Conclusion

Many men have hobbies.

Hobbies make us a more complete person and therefore, more attractive to women.

When we improve ourselves and have full lives, we become much more attractive.

There are several hobbies that are particularly sexy. Here they are:

1. Guitar
2. Yoga/Dancing
3. Cooking
4. Travelling

This does not mean that other hobbies aren’t attractive, you simply need to be passionate about whatever it is that you do, and you’ll do great!

Try some of these hobbies out for yourself and see what I mean 🙂

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

Do I Need to Do One of These Hobbies to Get Laid?

No!

Passion and excitement for what you do will also be attractive.

If you’re not sure what hobbies are attractive to women though, you can’t go wrong with the above (guitar, yoga/dancing, cooking, travelling).

I Don’t Know How to Cook, Am I Screwed?

Nope!

Follow the recipes online, or buy a recipe book.

It’s no big deal!

Just practice, and you’ll do totally fine.

I Don’t Have the Money to Travel, How Do I Bang Exotic Women?

You could always talk about where you would like to go!

When you’re talking to an exotic woman, ask her about her country.

Ask her about how her country is different from the one you’re currently in, you’ll do fine!

I’ll Embarrass Myself In Yoga Class, I Don’t Want to Do It!

If you’re handsome and doing terribly, that may work in your favour, hilariously.

You’ll draw lots of attention.

When they make fun of you, deflect in cute, non-needy ways and you’re set.

You’ll make the friends you need to get laid from the yoga social circle!

Amazing.

I Don’t Want to Play Guitar, I Want to Play the Trombone!

Do what you want man.

If you’re passionate about it and thoroughly enjoy it, I’m sure that can get you laid too.

There’s some mean blues trombone out there!

Ah, here we go, the concept of creepy.

Creepiness is really funny in a way.

It is funny in that we associate, in popular culture, creepiness with ugliness.

For women, however, creepiness often has nothing to do with looks.

Creepy behaviour manifests in men’s actions towards women.

Women call men creepy who behave in a certain way towards them.

Let’s talk about what these behaviours are…

Part 1 – What Makes A Man Creepy

Creepiness Is A Set of Behaviours And Beliefs Men Have Towards Women

I’m sure you’re wondering what the specific behaviours are that make men creepy to women.

Here is a list:

1. Neediness
2. Being evasive in your intentions
3. Acting like someone you’re not
4. Having changeable beliefs

If you embody one or more of these qualities, women are going to be repulsed by you.

Let me explain why…

Neediness

A long time ago, when humanity was still living in caves, women needed the protection of men.

Women were needy.

This meant that women that became attracted to needy men, ended up dying, selected out by the environment.

Over time, women evolved to only select men that were independent. Men that could survive without them and protect them.

Women hate neediness because it is biological.

Men show they are needy when they demonstrate behaviours that imply that they couldn’t live without the girl.

When they beg, and plead, and obey the stupidest commands, they show themselves to be needy.

A man also shows himself to be needy when he’s afraid of losing his girl.

She inevitably catches on and starts to display more and more disrespectful behaviour.

The more shitty behaviour the man tolerates, the more needy he appears.

It is even worse if a man shows this sort of behaviour in his first interactions with a girl.

If he appears to be too interested, and too spineless in the initial interaction, he will be seen as needy, and therefore creepy.

Shit tests are a way for women to determine if the man they are interested in is needy or not.

If he fails the shit tests, he’s done.

She’ll tell her girlfriends he was creepy and move on to less of a loser.

Being Deceptive in Your Intentions

A man who is not clear on what he wants is not an alpha man.

Men want to have sex with multiple women.

It is who we are.

When men deny what they are, they come off as creepy.

They are disingenuous.

A woman will respect a man who implies that he wants to fuck her, and fuck her well.

She will not tolerate a man who lies about not wanting to be sexual and then turns the tables later.

When a man says that he’s not interested in sex, and gets put in the friendzone as a result, the girl never expects that the man will show sexual intention again.

When he does, he is immediately an unsafe creep.

Before, he was simply a spineless, safe, coward.

If you want to have sex with a girl, don’t lie about it.

Make your intentions clear in your behaviours.

What I mean, is that you try and get her phone number, you try and set up a first date and create rapport.

You try and set up a second date where you escalate to sex and you do so proudly.

A woman will respect your effort, even if she isn’t interested in you.

When she knows your genuine intent, it is easy for her to say yes or no.

If she says no, you move on.

There is no need to be a creep.

You don’t have to lie about wanting sex.

Women know it’s what men want!

Acting Like Someone You’re Not

There are a lot of women out there.

Many of them will like you for who you are.

You don’t have to pretend to be someone you’re not in order to get laid.

You do, however, need to avoid needy behaviours.

If you like space, for example, don’t hide it.

If you like martial arts, don’t hide it.

Women are attracted to all kinds of people.

What they aren’t attracted to is bad liars.

If you obviously come off as a nerd with a gut, and you pretend to be a jock because you think jocks get laid, you’re going to fail miserably.

You’re also going to get called a creep.

Be the best version of YOURSELF.

If you need to lose weight and work out, cool!

That doesn’t mean you drop or hide the parts of yourself that make you the way you are for a girl.

Once again, you are perfectly capable of getting laid as a musician, jock, nerd, or even vampire.

Whatever you are, you can be successful at, so long as you pass the minimum standards of entry (in looks and grooming).

Having Changeable Beliefs

If you strongly believe in some things, but the second a girl disagrees, you immediately change your mind, you’re a creep.

You have no frame.

You need to hold true to your beliefs no matter how pretty or opinionated the girl you’re sitting across from is.

Women want strong men.

Strong men are not easily blown by any breeze.

Whatever strong beliefs you have you should hold onto, no matter what anyone says.

Often, when a girl questions your core beliefs, it is a shit test.

She’s testing your resolve, to see if you hold on to yourself.

If you do, she’ll respect you.

If you don’t, she’ll think you’re creepy for slimily trying to weasel your way into her heart.

You can stay true to yourself and still get laid.

You can’t get laid by matching all of the beliefs of the girl you’re with.

She’s going to know that it isn’t who you are, and she’ll ditch you.

Women value strength, not compliance.

Let’s talk about how not to be creepy now…

Part 2 – How to Not Be Creepy

The Qualities One Should Have

To not be creepy, simply embody this list of qualities: 

1. Be independent
2. Be clear in your intent
3. Be the best version of yourself
4. Hold strong to your beliefs

Notice how all of these are qualities that the typical alpha male possesses.

Let’s talk a bit about each one…

Be Independent

A creepy guy chases women.

An attractive guy does his own thing.

He has a great life that’s full of things that he enjoys.

He has no need to chase, or text every second.

A strong man is independent.

When you truly are independent, you’ll notice that you simply do not have time to text women all the time.

They will imagine all of the amazing things that you’re doing when you’re not spending your time texting them, or talking to them on the phone, or chasing them, or whatever.

Women will then chase you.

Women will want some of your valuable time, just to experience what it’s like to be with a powerful man.

It really is an amazing thing.

Just do your own thing, and watch how much better all of your interactions with women you’re sexually interested in become.

You can’t compare the two worlds at all.

Come to this side of the fence and you’ll see!

Be Clear In Your Intent

When I’m with a girl I’m really interested in fucking, what I do sometimes is the following.

I keep talking, but in my mind, I imagine that she’s naked and I’m ravishing her.

It gives the girl a nonverbal signal of my intent.

Something in my expression or demeanor changes and makes it clear what I’m talking to her for.

Women respect men that are clear in their intentions.

If you’re truly interested in sleeping with a girl, imply it through your actions:

1. Break the touch barrier on dates (don’t overdo it).
2. Talk about sex (but not you having sex with her specifically).
3. Sexually escalate when the opportunity is right, starting on the 2nd date (it is quite clear that she’s interested in you).

If the girl isn’t interested, she will make it clear, and you can move on to better options.

She will not have wasted your time, and you maximize your ability to get laid in the long term.

Be the Best Version of Yourself

Society always tells you to be yourself.

It is a nice platitude, but it’s wrong.

What they actually mean is for you to be the best version of yourself.

Don’t compromise yourself for anyone, but make sure to maximize your looks and grooming.

When you look good and you hold onto yourself despite pushback and shit tests, you will be respected and also well sexed.

There will be many women who are interested in exactly the kind of guy that you are.

Of course, you have to meet the bar for appearance.

I don’t mean you can be a tub of lard, sitting on the couch eating chips all day and still get laid.

I mean you can be a starving artist, a metrosexual, a fighter, or a student of philosophy and get laid.

All of those types of guys, despite being very different are all capable of getting laid.

It is important that you acknowledge yourself and work hard to be the best version of you that you can be!

Hold Strong to Your Beliefs

As I keep mentioning, alpha males hold their opinions strongly.

They are not easily swayed by anyone.

Everyone has beliefs about what the world is really like and how things should be.

You should hold onto your beliefs, despite opposition.

Your opinions and mind have value.

Don’t throw your beliefs away because you think you’re going to miss out on sex because of it.

Ironically, holding true to yourself and your beliefs will get you laid much more than the opposite, it simply is not what society teaches.

Society teaches you to obey.

The truth is that the only reward that society gives to those that obey is gilded chains.

You need to break free of the limiting belief that your opinions and beliefs are weaker than those around you.

Hold true to who you are and be rewarded.

Conclusion

Many men struggle with being called creepy.

This is especially true in the early phase of our life, where we are sexually inexperienced and don’t understand the world very well.

We have to avoid the behaviors that label us as creepy:

1. Neediness
2. Being evasive in your intentions
3. Acting like someone we’re not
4. Having changeable beliefs

And accent our alpha side with the following:

1. Being independent
2. Being clear in our intent
3. Being the best version of ourselves
4. Holding strong to our beliefs

You’ll see that by keeping these things in mind, you’ll improve your life tremendously!

Good luck.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

What Is Neediness?

Neediness is when you feel like a girl is so good that you can’t do without her.

If you even so much as imply something like this early on, you’re bound for the creep zone!

Are All Creepy Men Ugly?

Nope!

All creepy men are losers in the eyes of women, however.

It doesn’t matter if you’re short or tall, ugly or handsome.

If you’re labelled as a creep by women you’re an undesirable.

Will Agreeing With Everything She Says Get Me Laid?

Haha! No.

Hold strong to yourself.

Women fuck men with strong frames and worldview.

If she says something you don’t agree with, disagree!

Don’t fight (unless you’ve already fucked her twice and enjoy drama), but disagree!

So, Should I Tell A Girl I Want to Fuck Her?

Nope!

You should imply it though with your actions.

Over-verbalizing is the road to getting rejected because of societal programming.

Just do the things that guys do to get laid, and it will send the message loud and clear (create rapport and comfort on the first date then break it off after 1 hour, invite her to your place for the second date, sexually escalate when the time is right, etc.)

Can I Really Do My Own Thing And Get Laid?

Yeah!

You don’t have to text her all the time, or even talk to her, really, outside of when you meet in person.

Being independent is really attractive.

She’s also going to think that you’re going after other girls too, which makes you even more desirable.

I’m warning you guys, this is going to be a tough one to read.

It’s not easy reading that you’ve been lied to your whole life.

The following things are lies that everyone tells us from a young age.

They’re used to brainwash us into becoming beta slaves.

You have certainly heard at least one of these, though I’m sure most of you have heard all of them.

These are the insidious beliefs that will ruin any chance you have at long term happiness.

You are one of the lucky ones, you have a chance to escape.

Most men are not so lucky.

Here we go…

1 – If It’s Meant to Be, It Will Just Happen

This is such a crock of shit I’m amazed it even works!

There is no such thing as determinism.

Therefore, nothing is “meant to be”.

What that means is that nothing is going to magically appear to solve your girl problems, or frankly, any of your other problems.

If you want to make something happen, you have to make it happen.

The problem is that you can’t just make it happen instantly.

Anything that you want to do in life takes struggle, dedication, and very often, pain.

There is no one girl out there who’s going to solve your girl problems, and there is no magical job out there that’s going to solve your drone problems.

If you don’t make a life for yourself that solves these problems, no-one will for you.

This garbage determinism belief leads many men down the road of serial monogamy.

Here is a classic belief of men who have just broken up:

“That last girl was a bitch, I’ll do better next time.”

What they don’t realize, is that the fundamental problem wasn’t the girl, but the nature of the relationship with the girl.

She was a bitch BECAUSE you were monogamous. 

Let me say this another way.

She was a bitch BECAUSE YOU were a bitch.

The same applies to any jobs you may have had.

The boss was an ass to you because they could. They could because you let them.

You chose a job where you assumed the position of a replaceable drone, and then were surprised when you were treated like one?

You have to create a good life for yourself.

Don’t expect good things to fall into your lap by luck.

What an idiotic notion.

2 – You’re Special

This one is gonna be tough to hear.

Luckily for you, daddy’s here to say it.

You’re NOT special.

Neither you, nor anyone else is special.

If you look at history, the people that we laud as superhuman are really just people that were lucky enough to be in the right place, at the right time, with the right training.

Does that sound like a divine person to you?

Nope!

Let this be a motivator for you!

You are just as able to be “special” as they.

All you need to do is this one little thing.

Wanna know what it is?

It’s something nobody wants to do.

Still wanna hear it?

YOU HAVE TO WORK.

YOU have to create the reality you want for yourself.

Otherwise, you’re just another NPC, born into a world of NPC’s.

You’re NOT special.

Nobody is coming to save you.

No magical thing will break your chains.

YOU have to break them.

YOU have to structure your reality in such a way as to be free of the chains society puts on you.

If you do as everyone else does, you will NEVER be free.

This is BECAUSE you’re NOT special.

The thing that distinguishes the strong from the weak in this world is work ethic and discipline.

Do you have what it takes to struggle, grind, and bleed for what you want?

If you don’t you are and will always be NOTHING.

3 – Put Women On A Pedestal

This is another ridiculous lie that men are taught from a young age.

Men are taught to worship women, as though they are gods.

It’s really funny.

The truth is that the world’s earliest religions were fertility religions.

People have been worshipping women for as long as there have been people.

I find it hilarious, and somewhat comforting.

It is a lie though.

To believe that women are somehow divine because they weren’t born men is utterly ridiculous.

Women are human just as men are.

They are flawed, completely mundane creatures.

Our poetic minds elevate women when they fuck us well, but that doesn’t make their divinity a reality.

Putting women on a pedestal is one the worst things you could do for your long term happiness and financial stability.

Humans do not deserve to be venerated as divine beings, man or woman.

Do not EVER treat a woman as above you.

She is a flawed human, just like you.

She doesn’t deserve it.

Also, if you treat a woman as better than you, she will NEVER fuck you.

Thanks hypergamy!

This makes my advice really easy:

Never see a woman as a perfect little angel, and you’ll do ok.

4 – The World Cares About You

This is an extremely sad truth, and it makes some people very upset.

We are taught from a young age that the world cares about us.

The truth is this:

The world doesn’t give a shit about you individually.

You are a pawn in a large game.

You are to be used, abused and discarded by the system.

That is your role in life.

Sound fun?

That’s your life if you live according to society’s cultural rules.

People around you will shower you with praise, and you’ll be promptly drained, like some common fruit

When you’re a shell of your former self, who has given everything he has to a company, a cause, or a marriage, what happens?

You are thrown away.

A useless, drained husk.

The essence of masculinity that you had, that was needed by the system, is no longer present, so you’re useless.

Once you’re useless to them, you’re no better than garbage, so of course they throw you away.

Obviously you should break free of this system.

Ultimately, only you can care for you properly.

Men are seen as disposable pawns in our society.

Follow a different set of rules, or be drained and discarded.

The choice is yours.

5 – Everyone Is Equal

Are you equal to someone born in the royal family of England?

How about to the son of a rich billionaire?

People are not born equal, that’s a fact.

A sad, and true, fact.

Most people are born as nothing. Mere pawns.

Some people are born as less than nothing. It’s sad that they never had a chance.

If you are like me, the son of nothing, then you have nothing.

From the day you were born, if you’re like me, your fate was predestined.

Work some shit drone job, have a family, have kids, pay child support in divorce, and die.

Some people, like me, a son of nothing, were born with something else.

We were born with a brain.

Not just any brain, a brain capable of deduction. Of true reasoning.

Even though I am a son of nothing, I have made something of myself.

Something outside of this garbage that we call our system.

I will not work a drone job, you mark my words.

Neither should you.

You, if you’re like me, are made of better stuff than that.

I will not be churned in the meatgrinder of history.

I refuse.

And you should too.

Join me in the quest of becoming a chainbreaker.

We will live as we like, free from the unfairness that plagues the world we didn’t choose to be born into.

Conclusion

People are fed pretty lies growing up.

Here is a list of the lies once again:

1. If it’s meant to be, it will just happen
2. You’re special
3. Put women on a pedestal
4. The world cares about you
5. Everyone is equal

These lies, while making you feel good, are not reality.

They in fact pull you into slavery.

The irony is that the people who tell you these lies often have the best of intentions.

Our parents, or other loved ones who tell us these things.

As the saying goes:

“The road to hell is paved with good intentions”

If we listen, we’re doomed to repeat the patterns of the past.

If we listen, we are enslaved. Trapped in a mental prison from which there is no escape.

Break free!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

You’re A Jaded Asshole Who’s Full Of Shit!

For telling you the truth?

I would prefer you know what reality is really like. 

You will suffer much less in the long term, trust me.

You Must Be A Misogynist, You Say That Women Aren’t Special!

No-one is special.

No-one should be put on a pedestal because of their gender; men or women.

Equality.

Everyone Deserves to Be Treated Equally! It Is A Basic Human Right!

Please read the book “Animal Farm” by George Orwell and then come back.

Just because we want a thing to be true, doesn’t mean that that is how it happens in practice.

The Queen of England is not and never will be treated as a commoner, and never will be.

It is fundamentally unfair, and will remain so forever, unfortunately.

Only the people that are treated unfairly will rotate over time.

Read some history.

People Keep Telling Me That the Way I Want to Live WIll Make Me Miserable In the Future, What Gives?

They’re trying to drag you down into beta hell.

Misery loves company.

Do you want to join them, or do you want to be great?

Ultimately, the choice is yours.

The bottom line is betas don’t get laid like I do.

Can It Really Be True That the World Doesn’t Care About Me?

Unfortunately, yes.

Especially if you are a man, you are only worth what you provide.

If you give nothing to the world, you will get nothing back.

You’re not special, remember?

Today, I’m going to give you the truth.

You may not like it, but it is how it is.

Our modern society does not teach men how to be men.

It teaches men to be beta losers who enslave themselves to common cultural trends.

If you live exactly as society dictates to you, not only will you be miserable, but you will be a slave, forever.

You need to break free of society’s programming.

It is one of the hardest things to do.

Being a strong man in the times we live in is totally against the grain.

In fact, you’ll see, that as you pursue a life of freedom, independence, happiness and pleasure, the people around you will actively try to drag you down.

Don’t let them.

Instead, embrace your masculinity and be the man that you were always destined to be.

Here are the qualities a REAL man embodies!

I want you to pay close attention to how different these qualities are from what society teaches you.

Part 1 – Qualities of A Strong Man

1 – Courage

A strong man embodies the concept of courage.

He is strong where others are weak.

He perseveres, where others give in.

He believes in himself, despite all opposition.

A real man stands in the face of the world and yells.

He refuses to bow just because he is told.

He knows that he can deal with the challenges that life puts in front of him.

He trusts that although he may stumble, he will never surrender.

He will stay true to himself and his mission, regardless of the difficulties in his path.

A strong man has the courage to do what others will not.

He has faith in himself and his abilities, despite doubt.

He tries, and fails, and tries again.

Once again, a strong man is courageous.

He pushes through fear, his own and the fears of those around him.

He has a mission to accomplish, after all.

2 – Discipline

A strong man is disciplined.

He works hard, even when it hurts.

He struggles, when others won’t.

He goes in day in, day out, pursuing his dreams.

Where others doubt, he sees the final goal.

He understands that nothing in life comes easy and is willing to put in the work to achieve greatness.

A strong man embodies the idea of getting up again after being knocked down.

He pursues his mission, even if he’s having a bad day. Even if he doesn’t “feel” like it.

A strong man drives towards his goals, unflinchingly.

He walks against the storm step by step, if need be.

When others tire, he works.

A strong man understands that nothing in life that is worth having comes easily, and puts in the work to get it.

Discipline is not an easy skill to learn, but a strong man puts his will to the task.

A strong man understands that it isn’t over until he wins.

3 – Frame

A strong man is not easily persuaded to change.

He stays true to himself despite what others want for him.

When women want him to behave as they want, he rejects them, following his path instead.

No matter the environment or obstacle, a strong man remains himself.

He isn’t changeable like the wind, instead, he is a rock.

People look to him for guidance and he holds true to what he believes in.

If he is shit tested, he doesn’t bend.

If he is strong-armed, he doesn’t bend.

If he is threatened, he doesn’t bend.

A strong man remains a strong man, regardless of what those around him say or do.

A strong man understands that his worldview is not for everyone. 

He doesn’t force people to be like him.

He simply remains true to who he is and allows those that want to follow to do so.

Those that doubt or annoy are ignored by the strong man. 

He has better things to deal with.

4 – Physical Fitness

A strong man is not only strong emotionally.

He is also strong physically.

A strong man works on himself, training every week.

He works to gain the body of one who is worthy to wear the crown of superiority.

He understands that a strong body and strong mind are linked.

A strong man bears the pain of hard work.

He bears it, understanding that it accompanies the path to greatness.

He has the discipline to train rigorously and regularly, to obtain the body that few men on earth ever attain.

He has higher aims for his body than the average man.

He wants to join the ranks of the great ones, the ones that put in the time and the work to be that way.

He embodies qualities of the ancient Greeks, strong in body and mind.

After all, a glorious body is one way to show his respect for what humanity can accomplish.

5 – Non-monogamy

A strong man does not commit to one woman.

He understands that humankind is not monogamous.

He leans into this, and allows himself to be free.

He does not force anyone to be monogamous.

Instead, he puts the focus on himself and his own happiness.

A strong man does not try to control those around him, preferring to control himself.

After all, a strong man understands his role as a model to others.

Once a strong man has acquired freedom, he can then achieve the pinnacle of human existence.

He understands that chaining himself to one woman, chains his feelings to the feelings of one who is much more cyclical.

A man who desires a stable emotional life cannot achieve it from one sole woman.

He doesn’t hate that the world is this way, he accepts it and creates a stable emotional environment for himself from the companionship of multiple women.

Part 2 – Results of Being A Strong Man

1 – You Can Be Whoever You Want

When you embody the qualities of a strong man, the world becomes your oyster.

You can do and achieve anything you want.

You simply have to understand the sacrifice it entails.

Nothing in this world comes easily.

You have to struggle, work and bleed for every good thing you want.

The world is not made to make you happy, it is made to keep itself going.

It is your job to create happiness out of the cards you were dealt.

You cannot do this under the current societal model of being a beta male.

You must fight against societal programming and be your own man.

Once you understand that you have the power to change, everything opens up as a possibility.

Life is tough, but you are tougher.

When you persevere, while others give in, you show the world what you’re made of.

When you show the world that you’re made of stronger stuff than the average, the world gives in to you.

It accepts you as one of the people that deserve to stand at the pinnacle.

Congratulations, you are now free.

2 – You Can Have the Relationships You Want

If you’ve ever wanted to have a threesome, or sleep with multiple women, or simply get a pretty girl to want to have sex with you, you can, using the methods above.

You have to internalize and become the kind of person that women want to sleep with, and then you’re done.

You achieve abundance.

The life that you’re living now of quiet desperation will melt away as you realize that you’re capable of so much more than you ever thought.

You can become the kind of person that you read about in books, or you see in the stories.

They just don’t mention how hard it is to do so in those stories.

Those people you look up to have struggled and fought harder than you can imagine.

You can join them with the same effort.

That is the secret.

They succeed where you fail, not because you don’t have it in you, buit because you’ve never tried to summon the energy needed for the time it’s needed to get there.

You have to bust your ass to achieve greatness. 

There is no other way.

3 – You Can Live the Life You Want

Only strong men can live the lives they want.

Weak men do and achieve nothing.

They live and die as sheep.

You should aspire to more than sheephood in this life.

The way to do that is through hard work, sacrifice, perseverance and discipline.

You also cannot achieve this if you listen to the betas around you.

They will drag you down, with the best of intentions.

They have no idea how to achieve anything in this life, why are you listening to them?

You can be the writer of your own story, but you have to write it.

You’ll never write your own story by laying down and giving up.

The strong accept the strong, and the weak complain.

Which are you?

Conclusion

Being a strong man is difficult.

It takes courage, perseverance and discipline.

It takes vision, and understanding that the world does not bend easily.

Here is a list of the qualities of strong men:

1. Courage
2. Discipline
3. Frame
4. Physical fitness
5. Non-monogamy

Once you work on yourself to embody these qualities, you’ll notice that the world opens up to you.

You will achieve things that you never thought possible.

You will soar, while others sink.

You will be the powerful leader and example that the world needs.

It is your time. Seize it!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

How Can I Be More Courageous?

Try doing things that scare you, and persevering anyway.

You’ll see that the monster in your head is always greater than the real monster that exists.

Once you’ve internalized that, watch out!

You’ll never be the same.

You Say All These Awesome Things, But I Just Don’t Have the Motivation, How Do I Get It?

You’ll never be motivated enough to do the difficult tasks in your life.

Motivation dries up after a few weeks.

It takes grit to succeed, not motivation.

Grit is the idea that even though you hate it, you do it anyway.

Even if you don’t feel like it, you do it anyway.

Make the correct play, despite your feelings.

Or don’t, and stay an NPC.

I don’t give a shit.

I Want to Be More Physically Fit But There’s So Much Conflicting Information, How Do I Know What to Choose?

Ultimately, if you’re doing compound lifts (squat, bench press, deadlift, row), or if you’re doing martial arts at a good gym (filipino martial arts, muay thai, western boxing, rugby), you’ll do fantastic.

Just control how many calories you eat in a day until you get the body you want.

It is simple, but not easy.

Life is such that many of the foods that make you feel best are not the best for you.

What are you going to do about it?

Here’s a hint – grit!

People Keep Telling Me That the Way I Want to Live WIll Make Me Miserable In the Future, What Gives?

They’re trying to drag you down into beta hell.

Misery loves company.

Do you want to join them, or do you want to be great?

Ultimately, the choice is yours.

The bottom line is betas don’t get laid like I do.

There’s This One Girl…

If you get hung up on one girl, your emotions are being held in a vice by her whims.

It is a terrible way to live.

You need to free yourself from monogamy if you want to live a stable, emotionally happy life.

Women are cyclical, men are linear.

You cannot linear behaviour out of one girl.

A group of girls though? That’s different.

Many men struggle with getting laid.

Some men have it so bad that they can barely get laid at all, let alone fast.

There are some strategies you can use, however, to get yourself laid.

These strategies are great, and they really can help you.

It is all a matter of actually applying them correctly and practising.

You would be surprised how well and how quickly many of these strategies work!

Off we go…

Part 1 – Strategies to Use to Get Laid Quickly

1 – Look for IOI’s

Rather than trying to seduce just anyone, try to seduce a girl that is showing you IOI’s.

Warm approaches are easier than cold ones.

To clarify the terms:

1. Cold approach: talking to a girl you’ve never met before
2. Warm approach: talking to a girl you’ve never met before, but she’s showing you IOI’s

Look around the venue you’re in for a girl showing you any of these signs:

1. When you look at her, she starts to play with her hair
2. When you look at her, she smiles big
3. She quickly darts her look away from you when she notices you looking at her

Approach her from the front, and mention something about the venue you’re in to start the conversation.

Once you’re talking to her, here are some IOI’s:

1. She giggles at everything you say
2. She touches you
3. She’s constantly playing with her hair
4. She’s crossing and uncrossing her legs
5. She crosses her legs towards you

All of these are great signs. 

If you want to get laid immediately, you should talk for about 30 minutes, and then you can try and bounce her to your place.

Say something plausibly deniable like: “I’d like to play some guitar for you.” or “I have an awesome TV at my place, you wanna watch something?”

If she agrees, you’re good to go!

If she doesn’t agree, you could ask for her number, and meet up later!

2 – Tease Her Playfully

During the conversation you’re having with the girl you’re interested in, you should try and fit in some playful teasing.

The stuff that worked in grade 6 works great here!

You could, in response to something she says, talk about how girls have cooties and so you don’t like what she was talking about.

You could also call her a weirdo if she talks about something weird.

Say this stuff with a smile or a smirk. 

If she starts to laugh in response to what you’re saying, you know you’re doing a good job!

Basically, you’re trying to create the warm feelings of rapport.

A girl will only sleep with a guy she’s comfortable with. 

If she’s too comfortable, however, you’re in for the friend zone!

3 – When It’s Clear She’s Interested, Isolate!

When you think a girl might be into you (the conversation is going well, she’s laughing, giving you IOI’s, etc.), it’s time to get 1 on 1!

Just ask her to do one of these things:

1. Dance with you
2. Go outside for air
3. Come to your place to watch a movie/play music, etc.

If she complies, it’s a great sign!

Ideally, since you’re trying to get laid tonight, you would ask her to come to your place.

Just make sure you give her some plausibly deniable excuse!

If she doesn’t agree to these things, you could ask for her number anyway, and leave!

The problem is that if she doesn’t comply with the things you’re asking it implies that she’s not interested. That number will likely go nowhere.

You’re better off pursuing a different girl than going on a wild goose chase!

Part 2 – How to Increase Your Chances of Getting Laid

There are several ways to increase your chances of getting laid in one night.

Here’s a list:

1. Improve your looks
2. Improve your logistics
3. Use online dating
4. Get better at sex

Let’s explain a bit about each one!

1 – Improving Your Looks

Women want to sleep with attractive men, especially if we’re talking about an ONS.

This means that you have to maximize your looks!

You can do this by the following:

1. Becoming more muscular (work out at the gym/train a martial art 3-4 times a week minimum)
2. Having a well developed sense of style (dressing with an athletic look, or a preppy look, or a hipster look, whatever works for you and being congruent in that)
3. Smelling good (use a cologne that works well with your natural odor)
4. Being well groomed (having hair, including facial hair, that looks good with your face)

Improving your looks helps you to get your foot in the door. It makes everything in the seduction process easier.

Looking good also makes the people around you respond more favourably. People will literally like you more because of how you look. It is called the halo effect.

2 – Improve Your Logistics

It is much easier to get laid when you have the logistics handled.

Big cities are much easier to get laid in than small towns.

If you have an apartment close to the place you’re talking to women, it helps a lot, for example.

Having an apartment close by means you can easily bounce the girl to your place.

It is easier if you don’t live with your parents and also if you don’t have roommates.

Logistics are extremely important to getting laid!

Think not only about where you’re going to meet women, but how easy it is to go from there to your place!

3 – Use Online Dating

Online dating gives you access to a lot of girls.

This is especially true if you have great pictures!

See my guide on how to get a FWB off of online dating!

It is quite possible to get the first night lay off of online dating, you just have to invite the girl to your place or be invited to hers.

Keep in mind that first date lays and ONSs are unlikely to lead to FWBs. 

It is awesome if you like sexual variety though!

Obviously online dating requires a different skillset than regular dating and requires quite a bit of practice.

I recommend practising getting laid both in person and online, though if you’re a beginner, it is probably better if you start off with only one.

You also have to put in the numbers to succeed online! Don’t expect to swipe three times and get instantly laid!

4 – Get Better At Sex

You goal every time you have sex should be to make your girl come.

She will keep coming back for more if you’re the best sex she’s ever had.

Take all the time you need and make sure she cums!

Most women cum through clitoral stimulation.

Use whatever you need to use in order to accomplish this task.

Some women like it when you use your tongue, other women like your fingers. Some will even come just by penetration.

It’s always fun figuring out which kind of girl you’re dealing with, but whatever you do, make sure you do discover what makes her cum!

Women will definitely keep coming back to you if you’re giving them the best sex of their lives.

Ask me how I know.

Conclusion

Getting laid fast is the goal of many seducers.

In this article, we talked about what it takes to get laid the first night you go out!

Here is the list of helpful things once again:

1. Look for IOI’s
2. Tease her playfully
3. When you’re sure she’s interested, isolate

These are all proven strategies that are going to help you to get laid on the first night you do out.

If you want to improve your chances even further, do the following:

1. Improve your looks
2. Improve your logistics
3. Use online dating
4. Get better at sex

Obviously maximizing the above is going to make your life way easier!

The most important thing however is to go out and actually practise!

You’re never going to have success without work!

Good luck.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

What is an IOI?

An IOI is an indicator of interest.

It is a girl’s signal that she’s interested in you.

You should actively look for IOI’s when you go out so that you can determine which girl is into you specifically!

Here’s a short list to help you (for when you’re actually talking to her):

1. She giggles at everything you say
2. She touches you
3. She’s constantly playing with her hair
4. She’s crossing and uncrossing her legs
5. She crosses her legs towards you

How Am I Supposed to Be Good At Sex When I’ve Never Had It?

You’re not.

Don’t lie about being experienced.

Just show a girl you’re interested, and when she wants to sleep with you, tell her it’s your first time.

She’ll likely not believe you (since you just seduced her).

Biology will take care of the rest.

Your job is to improve over time, not to be Casanova from the get go!

Don’t worry, you’ll do better than you think!

Do These Techniques Work If I Live In A Small Town?

They will, but you’ll run out of girls pretty quick.

Then you’re shit out of luck.

Your best bet is to move to a bigger city for sure.

I Want to Improve My Looks, But Don’t Know Whether to Lift Weights or Do Martial Arts, Which Do I Choose?

If you wanna learn to fight, it’s an easy choice.

Personally I did both.

You can try both and see which you like better!

The Girls Aren’t Responding Online, What Gives?

Many girls online are timewasters.

That’s life.

Make sure you have 3 great pictures you’re using, and that your opener is better than just

“Hey”.

Try: “You seem cool *her name* 🙂 You should message me! – *Your name*” 

You’ll do just fine!

Many men struggle with dating.

The reason is because we just do the things we were taught by our parents, or we do the things our friends, who are incomptetent at seduction, tell us to do.

Obviously, it is better to listen to an expert!

If you want to get better at seduction, you have to cultivate the side of you that is attractive to women.

It should come as no surprise that the side of you that women want to fuck is your alpha side!

Let me give you a list of ways to become the kind of man that is attractive to women…

Practising these 10 things, or working on improving them will make you more alpha, and definitely more attractive to women.

1 – Be Confident

Alphas are confident.

They believe in themselves and their abilities.

Alphas know that they will succeed in any endeavors they undertake, and even if they don’t succeed, that they aren’t defeated.

Alphas go get what they want out of life and even if they’re nervous, take it on the chin, understanding that that is part of the process.

Alphas lead because they have the confidence to know that they can surmount the obstacles that appear along the way.

Life throws challenges at all of us. 

It is only we who have the courage to face them that stand out from the crowd.

Ultimately, you have to decide whether you’re a man or a mouse.

When women see that you believe in yourself and that you’re breaking down the obstacles that life naturally puts in front of you, they can’t help but be attracted.

A confident man radiates an irresistible aura. He believes in himself!

Be that man!

2 – Take No Shit

Alphas don’t allow people to walk all over them.

You are not a doormat.

If a person says something you don’t believe, you’re not forced to agree.

If you’re in an environment where you believe that you are forced to agree (such as when you’re a common business drone), you might want to consider working hard in order to break free of those chains.

An alpha cannot be chained, and if you’re secretly an alpha in the body of a beta, you’ll certainly feel the pain of those chains on you.

Understand that feeling that way is normal for an alpha. It is simply the feeling of wanting to be free from slavery.

Do not let anyone impose upon you their worldview if you don’t believe in it.

You are allowed and in fact, should be, the man that lives life the way that he wants.

If anyone questions your life or your decisions they can go fuck themselves.

They’re with you, or against you.

You are your own man.

Act like it!

A man with this attitude is attractive to everyone. He has his own unique personality and aura.

You can do it!

3 – Work On Yourself

An alpha works on himself.

This applies to everything.

You should always be thinking about your life in terms of sex, money, friendships, health, family and hobbies.

Each of these categories should be worked on and improved.

You should live the sex life that you want.

You should make as much money as you desire.

You should have amazing friends that care for you.

You should have the body you’ve always wanted.

Your relationship with your family should be close and harmonious.

You should also have hobbies that fulfill you that you enjoy.

The problem is you can only work on two of these seriously at a time. Your goal should be to have two of these things as your focus at every point in your life, with the others in a holding pattern. 

Aim to improve them all to a point you’re happy with!

When you have a full life that is amazing, it is inevitable that you will be treated and seen as an alpha!

4 – Never Commit

Alphas do not commit to monogamous relationships.

They are simply too attractive to be tied down to the emotions of one woman.

It is idiotic to be so high value and then to not benefit from the beautiful abundance it creates.

When you’re alpha, you will have access to many women.

You don’t need to cheat on any of them, just don’t promise monogamy!

This way you can have a fantastic roster of women, all of which love you. 

You can benefit from, and date a roster of women for the rest of your days.

You may not have the same roster forever, but you’ll certainly have a rotating roster of women, all of whom are a great time!

Committing to one girl basically guarantees drama in the long term.

Refusing to commit to a monogamous relationship does not mean you don’t have serious relationships (non-monogamous girlfriends). 

It just means you don’t have serious monogamous relationships (GF’s or a TMM – Traditional Monogamous Marriage).

Through this strategy, you will experience a level of happiness that most men never have long term.

Living a life that gives you consistent, long term happiness is of course alpha.

Something else important is the fact that women who know they can’t have you want you more. 

They tend to chase!

Want to know what a man who is chased by women is called? An alpha.

5 – Have A Life

As I said before, having a full life is alpha.

You are experiencing the full range of things that life can offer you.

You aren’t just one man, but a man of many hats.

You do many things and have many environments that you enjoy being in.

You are not reliant on any one environment or on any one person.

Having a life means that you are happy, whether or not women are present.

Women want to join a man who is on an amazing journey.

A man who has a life and things he enjoys doing outside of women is incredibly enjoyable to be around!

It is extremely alpha to have a life outside of seduction. 

6 – Work Out Regularly

All alpha men are physically dominant.

There are several ways to do this:

1. You could be on a sports team (such as rugby, football, soccer, hockey, etc.)
2. You could work out at the gym regularly 
3. You could do a martial art at a good gym regularly 

All of these are great methods to become physically attractive.

Combine this with controlling your calories and you’ll become quite physically fit.

You don’t have to be The Rock, but you certainly have to be physically fit in order to be alpha.

It is a requirement of our creed.

Work out and join us!

I recommend working out at least 3-4 times per week. The workout should be so intense you can barely move when you’re done.

Obviously women love to be with men who are stronger than them.

Working out reinforces the natural dichotomy between men and women. 

Working out makes you more masculine and alpha!

7 – Be Unavailable

Men who are unavailable are much more attractive to women.

Make a habit of not texting a girl regularly, even if you really like her. Especially if you really like her.

When you’re not together with a girl and you don’t text her, she wonders what you’re doing when you’re not around.

She imagines all the amazing things you’re doing and becomes more attracted to you as a result.

Obviously, if you have a full life, it’s much easier to be unavailable.

You’ll just naturally be that way, as you have better things to do than text a girl.

“Absence makes the heart grow fonder” is the famous adage.

Use it to your advantage and see the results for yourself!

Women want what they can’t have…

8 – Be Non-Monogamous

As I said before, having a non-monogamous frame or a polyamorous one will do amazing things for you!

Many alphas are non-monogamous.

Alphas do not commit to one girl and therefore, women chase them.

It flips the script.

Rather than the man seeking a relationship with the girl, the girl chases the man in order to get the relationship, never fully succeeding.

The man then holds the non-monogamous frame and the woman chases him forever (though she might leave out of frustration).

You might find yourself naturally gravitating towards non-monogamy when you improve yourself to the point that you have many options.

Alphas have options, and an alpha that is non-monogamous has embraced that side of himself.

Obviously you’ll be more alpha if you’re non-monogamous.

9 – Hold Frame

An alpha stays true to himself, whoever that is.

Women tend to shit test alphas at the beginning.

She’s trying to figure out if you’re the real deal or not.

You need to hold true to yourself, regardless of what she says or tries to do to you.

Many women will attack your non-monogamous frame. They’ll want you to commit to them exclusively.

Deny them, nicely of course.

Many women will want you to kiss their ass or buy nice things for them.

Deny them, nicely of course.

Many women will want you to take them on expensive dates and woo them.

Deny them, nicely of course.

An alpha does what he wants, and holds true to who he is, regardless of who is challenging him.

Women are super attracted to a man that can hold onto himself, no matter the storm.

10 – Put Yourself First

An alpha is about himself first.

You cannot put the proverbial oxygen mask on anyone before you’ve put it on yourself.

Focus on improving yourself and your own life.

When the losers in your life try to pull you down, deny them and continue.

You’re on the path to greatness and greatness cannot be denied.

Once you’ve achieved great things in your life, people will naturally gravitate to you.

As the saying goes: “ Build it, and they will come”.

Once you’ve built up your beautiful life in every way, it is impossible not to radiate a positive, confident, happy aura.

People will want to be around that, especially women!

Work on yourself, then give others advice.

Conclusion

Many men want to be the kind of guy many women want.

They have no idea how to get there, however, since their parents and friends have no clue either.

By applying these things to your life, you can be more alpha, and attract women as a result:

1. Be confident
2. Take no shit
3. Work on yourself
4. Never commit
5. Have a life
6. Work out regularly
7. Be unavailable
8. Be non-monogamous
9. Hold frame
10. Put yourself first

Work on these things!

Practice makes perfect.

It’s your time to join us!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

Do Assholes Get Laid?

Yes!

Doormats don’t.

Assholes aren’t as happy as alphas, however.

Assholes and alphas share many traits though!

What Should I Start With?

You should start by working out regularly.

That will give you a great return on investment.

It will give you a ton of confidence too!

How Do I Get A Life?

Start with two of the major life areas (sex, friends, hobbies, family, money, working out).

Improve them to a point you’re happy with. 

Then move on to two others, keeping the ones you’ve already improved in a holding pattern.

Continue until you’re happy with everything!

There’s This One Girl…

That attitude is fundamentally flawed from the beginning.

You should never be focused on one girl.

Watch out for oneitis!

I’m Sleeping With This One Girl And She Keeps Wanting Me to Be Her Boyfriend, Should I?

Never promise monogamy.

It’s probably time for the talk.

You have to tell her that you like her very much, but would never commit to only one girl.

If she leaves, so be it. Go to your other options.

Women can be difficult.

This is especially true if you’re new to seduction, or quite a young man.

One of the worst things for you to be in relation to a girl is her beta orbiter.

Sometimes, men have no idea they’re even in her orbit!

Luckily for you, I’m here to help!

First, let me tell you what a beta orbiter is…

What Is A Beta Orbiter?

A beta orbiter is a man who is spending lots of time with a girl, but is not sleeping with her.

In the words of the famous Patrice O’Neal, he’s her “time ho”.

A beta orbiter does whatever a girl wants because he wants to get laid.

He gets into a so-called “covert contract”.

Usually, the covert contract goes something like this:

“I’m going to kiss her ass, because that’s what will get me laid.”

Here’s the sad part: 

Many women catch on to the fact that that is what some men do, and they use them, never intending to sleep with them, ever.

Some women ONLY go for men who do this. 

Sad, I know. 

These kinds of women are usually referred to as “gold diggers” or “users”.

The worst part of all this is sometimes, the man has no idea he’s even doing it.

He’s just doing what his parents told him to do with women, and it keeps messing him up!

Here is a list of signs that you’re her beta orbiter.

I don’t want you to live a life where people use you, so let me help!

Once again, these are signs that you’re her beta orbiter, something you DON’T WANT…

1 – You Text Her All The Time

You never want to text a girl all the time.

Texting her all the time ruins the mystery of who you are.

Women want to uncover layers of your personality slowly, and feel like they’re the only ones to do it.

Texting her all the time signals that you’re not busy.

You’re signalling that you clearly have nothing better to do.

Texting all the time is horrible and kills attraction.

If you’re texting a girl all the time, it is very likely that you’re friendzoned, or her orbiter.

Awful.

Also, texting gives you no opportunity to sleep with a girl. She’s far away, hidden behind a screen.

Don’t ever text a girl all the time. 

This is triply true if you haven’t slept with her twice.

2 – You Go Out On Fancy Dates With Her

A lot of guys get put in the orbiter zone because they go on fancy dates unprompted and too early.

You’re sending the wrong signal if you go on a fancy date with a girl right away!

You’re telling her that you’re willing to drop money on anyone, even near strangers.

It’s a very bad sign.

If you push that provider button hard enough, she’ll never want to sleep with you.

Instead, she’ll keep you on a close shelf, and pick you up only in case of emergency (she’s 35 and has literally no other options for sex than you).

Don’t let it be you!

A good rule of thumb is to avoid pressing any of the provider buttons too early in the interaction.

You want to send the right message (you’re an attractive stud that gets how seduction and women work).

You cannot possibly send this message if you’re constantly pushing the provider button!

3 – You Drive Her Around Everywhere

I don’t understand how a guy with any self respect could ever put everything down just to drive a girl around whenever she wants.

Are you a taxi?

It seems utterly ridiculous to me, and yet, there are men who do this.

Don’t ever let this man be you.

You are a busy man with things to do.

You don’t have the time to drop everything just because a girl told you to.

You think that’s gonna get you laid? 

Hell no!

Of course doing something as lame as this makes you an orbiter.

You shouldn’t even be surprised you’re not getting laid if you do stuff like this.

Driving her around whenever she wants signals an utter lack of self respect.

No woman wants to fuck that.

If she’s calling, asking you to do stuff like this for her, you’re not even close to the fuckzone.

You’re in the vermin zone at that point. You’re no greater to her than a rat that does things for her.

Have some goddamn self respect and never do this.

4 – She’s Had the “Lets Just Be Friends” Talk With You and You’ve Stuck Around

If she says LJBF, and you stick around, you’re definitely an orbiter.

The correct reaction to LJBF is: “Cool, I have enough friends” and you leave immediately.

If you’re doing things right, you’ll never hear LJBF.

Understand that if you stick around, there is not a snowball’s chance in hell that you’re gonna lay that girl.

You’re done.

She’s telling you in a nice way that you have no sexual chance with her.

Understand that phrase for what it’s worth and leave!

If you don’t, she’s going to milk you for as many favours and as much attention as she can get.

By the way, she’ll never fuck you.

Did I mention that?

LJBF is a guillotine to sex.

5 – You Have Long Phone Conversations

Are you her girlfriend?

Then don’t have long phone conversations with her.

They’re useless.

The only time you should have a long conversation is after you’ve slept with her twice (and this conversation should be in person, never over the phone).

Before that, she should be doing most of the talking, and you should be reflecting emotions back at her. In person.

Phone conversations give no lay opportunities. They are simply a waste of your time.

This is triply true if you’ve never had sex.

If you haven’t fucked a girl yet, and even after you have, texting and calling should be kept to a minimum. 

Logistics ONLY, until you’ve fucked twice.

Long phone conversations signal that you have infinite time to waste.

Are you a time ho?

Spend your time getting new women on your roster, not waxing poetic about how her previous boyfriend was a shitter.

It’s useless.

6 – You Talk to Her About Her Relationship Problems

This one is a never.

It is so common that it is a Hollywood trope.

The loser guy wants a girl and they end up talking about how her previous boyfriend was a trashcan.

The loser guy then magically gets the girl, somehow.

The reality is that a woman will only talk about her relationship problems with a guy she’ll never fuck, or one of her girlfriends.

If you haven’t fucked her twice and she’s talking about her previous relationship problems to you, it is a VERY bad sign.

It means that she has no sexual attraction for you.

It is even worse if she’s talking about her current relationship problems with you.

She has such low attraction for you, she doesn’t care about airing her dirty laundry in front of you.

She would hide that information from a guy she wants to fuck until later, for fear of losing him or giving him the wrong impression.

It’s an incredible red flag that you’re in orbiter land.

7 – You Follow Her Orders

If she barks, and you obey, you’re an orbiter.

If she acts like your mom to you, you’re her orbiter.

Women don’t give alphas commands.

They only give orbiters commands.

She sees you as so low that she thinks an insult like this is ok.

No alpha would be alright with receiving orders like this. 

She would know, and would avoid ordering an alpha like the plague.

If she’s ordering you around, you’re a worm to her.

Women don’t fuck worms.

Don’t just do everything a woman says! 

Have a backbone and opinions! 

You are a man, not a mouse!

8 – She Says You’re Such A Nice Guy

This is a classic.

This is something women tell men that they are sexually disinterested in, so as to not make them feel bad.

If a girl calls you a nice guy, it is a red flag that she sees you as her orbiter!

It probably means that you pushed too many provider buttons, and now she has no sexual interest in you.

To avoid being a “nice guy”, simply avoid pushing all the provider buttons!

Nice guy qualities that push the provider button:

1. Getting stuck on one specific girl
2. Being timid
3. Being overly available
4. Kissing up to women
5. Doing whatever a woman tells them
6. Texting the girl he likes all the time
7. Spending too much non-sexual time with women they like
8. Talking to women about their guy troubles
9. Doing no exercise
10. Being overly emotional
11. Having no life or real hobbies

Just avoid these, and no girl will call you a “nice guy”. 

9 – She Asks Why Other Men Can’t Be Like You

This is something some women do and I think it is a unique form of torture.

They fuck a guy, and hate that he won’t bend, so they tell one of their orbiters all about it.

They then tell the orbiter: “Why can’t all men be as good as you?”.

This is womanese for: “Why can’t the alphas I enjoy fucking kiss my ass like the guys I would never fuck.”

It is torture because the orbiter never had a chance to fuck in the first place, but the girl is saying that he’s a good guy. She’s rewarding his stupid behaviour with a compliment.

She’s dooming him to continue to repeat the mistakes that he’s making, all for her, and womankind’s benefit.

Torturous, for sure.

I hate that some women lead men down the path of misery like this.

It is one of the reasons I made this blog.

I wanted to do something good for the world, goddamnit!

Why not make the world a happier place, one fuck at a time?

10 – You Spend A Lot of Non-Sexual Time Together

The more non-sexual time you spend with a girl before you’ve had sex, the further you sink into the orbiter category.

If you go past 2 hours or so (spread out over 2 dates) and haven’t even made a hint at being sexually interested in a girl, she’s going to think one of two things:

1. You’re not interested in women
2. You’re an orbiter

These are not things that you want to subcommunicate as a person who’s trying to get laid.

NEVER spend non-sexual time with women.

Do that with your friends, not girls you’re trying to fuck.

Every meetup you have with a girl should contain some element of sex.

If it doesn’t, it’s your fault.

You need to logistically plan for dates, such that you can fuck the girl (after the first date, of course).

This means that you need some kind of venue to fuck in, and you need to be isolated 1 on 1.

If you’re not doing this, she sure as hell won’t. 

It is YOUR job to get you laid, not hers.

So lead!

If you don’t lead the girl and fuck her you’re only going to one place, orbiter land!

Conclusion

Many men, especially those new to seduction, or very young men, struggle with being put in the friendzone.

Look out for these signs so as to prevent them from causing problems in your life.

Keep in mind, these are things that you should never do pre-sex, and should limit even after you’ve fucked her twice.

To recap, here they are:

1. Texting her all the time
2. Going on fancy dates
3. Driving her around everywhere
4. Being LJBF’d and sticking around
5. Having long phone conversations
6. Talking to her about her relationship problems (past or current)
7. Following her orders
8. Her telling you you’re such a nice guy
9. Her asking you why other men can’t be like you
10. You spending a lot of non-sexual time together

These are all things that you should aim to reduce.

You want to fuck, not be someone’s time ho.

Peace!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

She Tells Me That She Wishes All Guys Were As Good As Me, Am I In?

You’re fucked.

She sees you as her orbiter.

Move on to a woman you haven’t royally fucked up.

We’re Always Texting And She Says I’m Awesome, Should I Ask Her On A Date?

You can certainly try.

She’s going to LJBF you though, mark my words.

DON’T text her all the time.

Goddamn…

My Best Friend Says Her Boyfriend Is A Dick, Can I Fuck Her?

Why oh why are you best friends with a girl you want to fuck?

Do you like being tortured?

You’re not even close to fucking her.

You’re the loser she goes to when she needs to vent about her hot, asshole boyfriend.

Congrats bro, you’re her time ho!

I’m Always There When My Friend Rachel Needs Me, I Drive Her Everywhere and Have Even Helped Her Move. When Do We Get to Fucking?

Never.

You’re the loser she asks for free favours.

You’re done bro.

Go after a different girl, she’s using you.

I Always Do What Emily Wants, Do You Think She Likes Me?

Most women like having their asses kissed.

Do they fuck the men who do it?

Nope!

Where’s your backbone dude?

Are you a man, or a mouse?