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This article is going to be a doozy.

Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

The following points are things that all men should learn.

Men that deny these realities are doomed to be destroyed in their relationships.

Read these and be enlightened.

Only though enlightenment can you truly reach peace…

1 – The Person Who Needs the Other the Least Has the Most Power

This is the canon that all relationships go by.

The person that needs the other the least has the most power.

Want to know who that usually is in a relationship?

It is WOMEN.

Here’s why.

Men have a higher sex drive than women. 

This means that men chase multiple women at a time, usually.

As a result, the average woman has more attention than the average man.

Because of this, the average woman has MORE OPTIONS than the average man.

She knows instinctively from a young age that she can replace any man she wants.

THEREFORE, she needs her partner less than he needs her, and so she has more power in a relationship.

Women also have lower sex drive than men usually.

What this means is that the man needs something from his partner, which she doesn’t need as often.

This also exacerbates this power dynamic even further.

There is a solution to this power imbalance for men.

If you’ve been reading this blog for long enough you already know!

NON-MONOGAMY.

If you never commit to any individual woman, they cannot hold power over you in this manner.

You can then flip the power dynamic and not care if she stays or leaves.

By gaining some semblance of power in your relationships, you can stop being treated as a beta male in your relationships.

Awesome, right?

2 – Sex Is Extremely Important for Men

This one needs to be said.

A lot of women think that men have the same sex drive that they do.

For men, their sex drive is more akin to vision.

Sure, you can go without it and keep your eyes closed, but it is extremely unpleasant and even torturous to go without it when you know you could see.

Do you understand now why so many men choose to open their eyes (cheat) while in relationships?

Their desire for sex is simply not being acknoledged, or is being downplayed.

Of course, it never starts out this way.

Often, in monogamous relationships, they start with dick-breaking sex.

The sex then slowly tapers off, leaving the man wondering what he did wrong.

Often, he did nothing wrong.

I mean, that isn’t strictly true.

What he did wrong was choose to be in a monogamous relationship in the first place, the type of relationship that doesn’t account for the biological reality of differences between the male and female sex drive.

The other choice, of course, is the man can choose to go without sex, hurt himself permanently and become beta-ized, but it is an extremely painful, torturous process.

Now you understand how most husbands feel in marriages that last for longer than three years.

It is the slow torture of having your sex drive deleted while knowing deep down that if you leave, your life will be ripped to pieces.

It is akin to having your vision slowly ripped away, knowing that if you weren’t with the current person you’re with it would come right back.

It is an awful way to live, and I wouldn’t wish that fate on anyone.

Once again, the best cure is prevention.

Do not get monogamous and these problems will largely not exist. 

3 – Many Women Use Sexual Starvation As A Control Strategy

As many comedians have alluded to, in a marriage, or even a monogamous LTR, some women use sexual denial to control their men.

They’ll order their man to take out the trash for example, and if he doesn’t comply she’ll imply that he’s not getting laid that night.

He then complies, so as to get laid later.

Obviously, allowing yourself to be controlled in this way is extremely weak and is a key in the beta-ization process.

Once a man allows himself to be controlled like this multiple times, the power dynamics of the relationship shift hugely in the woman’s favour and leads to misery for the man, and a HUGE decline in sexual attraction for the woman.

The reason that these women feel they can get away with this is because they know they have the man in a bind.

He is only sleeping with her, and he prizes sex very highly.

She therefore has him by the balls.

She can then swing him in whatever direction she wants, as he’ll fear losing her if he doesn’t comply.

Obviously, it is even WORSE in a marriage, as he not only loses access to sex if he leaves, but half of his resources as well.

Slowly, cut by cut, any man is reduced to a whimpering beta through this process.

This problem has to be prevented from the outset.

As I’ve said twice before, NEVER get monogamous.

Being monogamous is the whole reason why these women feel that they can control their men.

They hold the man’s sexual access at threatpoint, and as I’ve said before, sex to men is like vision.

It is very important to them, though they could close their eyes forever if they wanted. 

Do NOT let women control you by being your sole sex partner!

4 – Women Are NOT Monogamous In the Long Term

This is an extremely important point to make.

Men get into relationships thinking that their girl will be loyal forever, and the truth is that many women are not.

They are simply SERIALLY MONOGAMOUS.

What this means is that they are monogamous with one partner, then they change to another partner, and so on.

Each relationship lasts anywhere from 3 months to 3 years.

After that time period, the feelings start to fade, and the woman could stay for other reasons, but they will NOT stay because of attraction.

Here are some reasons women might stay (and be miserable) in a longer than three year relationship:

1. Parental pressure
2. Societal pressure
3. Peer pressure
4. Money
5. Lifestyle
6. Children

Usually these types of relationships manifest as roommate relationships. The man and woman are living together, but they act more as roommates taking care of children than people in a relationship.

I’m sure many of your parents were this way for you growing up (including mine).

It is possible to have a longer relationship with a woman than three years, and for her to be attracted to you the whole time.

The way to do this is to be with a girl in a FWB (friend with benefits), NMG (non-monogamous girlfriend), SNMG (serious non-monogamous girlfriend), or OM (open marriage) arrangement.

In these arrangements, neither partner is taken for granted.

The woman knows the man has other options and has to keep him sexually satisfied, but the arrangement works in the other direction as well.

The man cannot take the woman for granted, knowing that she is sleeping with other men as well.

But Helios, I thought you said that Women are serially monogamous? How would they be happy in a non-monogamous arrangement?

They would be happy in a non-monogamous arrangement because they wouldn’t feel the societal shackles of a traditional relationship. 

They can also rest easy in these types of arrangements, knowing that they’re with a stud who is attractive to multiple women.

Of course, sometimes, in non-monogamous arrangements, the woman will leave the man to go pursue a monogamous relationship with another man.

It will inevitably implode, however, and she will return to the non-monogamous man.

In this way, it extends the relationship length for the non-monogamous man as well, and the woman has satisfied her need for serial monogamy.

It is often the case that non-monogamous relationships with women are longer lasting, but more spread out (4 months here, 8 months there).

5 – Women Treat Alphas and Betas Differently In Relationships

An important point to make about relationships is the distinction between alphas and betas.

An alpha is generally treated well in a relationship.

This is because he refuses to bend to the will of his partner and so, her attraction for him remains high.

He enjoys regular sex (for up to 3 years), and has drama, like any man has in a monogamous relationship, but he can handle it.

A beta is usually treated terribly in a relationship.

He is walked all over because he constantly bends to the will of his partner.

As a result, women’s attraction for betas generally drops like a stone rather quickly.

Betas find themselves sexually starved in numerous ways in their relationships, but due to their false programming, believe that they will never find a better partner. 

They stay, hurting themselves even further as they sink ever lower into loser territory.

If you want to prevent drama in your relationships with women, there is a simple solution.

It is the defining point of this post and has been repeated multiple times.

DO NOT get monogamous.

Once you get monogamous, whether you’re alpha or beta, many women will feel as though they have you by the balls.

They then slowly start to weaken you through constant shit tests and demands.

If you meet those demands, you lose and are beta-ized.

Slowly, your masculinity is crushed.

Don’t let that be you!

Have other options, and you’ll prevent this problem entirely.

You’ll always hold the power to walk away by having multiple options and you’ll be treated well as a result.

Conclusion

As you can see, there are many important points regarding relationships.

The most important takeaway from this post is for you to NEVER BE MONOGAMOUS.

Allowing yourself to only have one sexual option is the direct cause of many of the problems that men suffer in relationships.

You need to prevent this problem from the beginning.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

You’re A Misogynist For Implying That Women Maliciously Control Men Through Sex!

The sad part is I know that many women don’t even do this on purpose.

They just feel as they feel and men have to suffer for it.

Making men aware of what SOME WOMEN (not all) do, is NOT misogynistic.

I am trying to help men to NOT be miserable.

That is a noble goal, and shame on you for attacking me for it.

My Boyfriend is Such a Dick, He Wants Sex Three Times Per Week!

Men and women have different sex drives.

He wants the amount of sex that he needs in order to satiate his sex drive.

You don’t need that much or even want that much. 

This problem could be easily solved if you both weren’t monogamous.

He would pressure you less to fuck.

I Love My Husband and I Will Be With Him Forever. You’re A Cynical Prick Helios!

Honeymoon phase.

Let’s see how you feel in 3 years.

By the way, if you EVER stop having dick-breaking sex with him I will be right.

Keep that in mind.

You’re welcome, husband 🙂

My Wife Says She Won’t Fuck Me Because I Don’t Do Enough Chores, What Do I Do?

Never get into a monogamous relationship.

She knows she has you by the balls and is increasing her demands.

You think that will ever stop?

You’re dreaming.

Smile, tomorrow will be worse 🙂

Many men wonder what is wrong with them regarding women.

Here is a compiled list of a few things that women complain about regarding men.

Something interesting of note is that some of these complaints are actually beta-bait.

They are things that women complain about in relationships in order to beta-ize their partner.

In other words, some of these complaints are actually shit tests in disguise.

If you bend to them, you become beta and she’ll lose sexual attraction for you.

Some of these are genuine complaints that men could work on in order to improve their relationships.

Let’s separate the wheat from the chaff, shall we?

Complaint 1 – Men Are Too Distant

This complaint is actually beta bait.

Men who are “distant” are actually attractive to women, especially if a woman sees that man as emotionally distant.

A distant man communicates subtly that he doesn’t have time for the girl and so she chases him, hoping to gain his attention, which he never fully gives.

He’s too busy for that.

When she complains about this, what she’s really complaining about is the fact that the man doesn’t put her above the other things in his life.

Ironically, it is this very fact that makes her so attracted to him.

It is one of the behaviours you should never change.

You should actively maintain a cold wall, a part of you that women can never touch.

This makes them want to get to know you more deeply, and they lose themselves in the chase of getting to know everything about you.

Being distant is actually wonderful for maintaining attraction.

Do not allow yourself to become beta-ized by listening to this one!

2 – Men Aren’t Sensitive to Women’s Emotional Needs

This one is quite similar to the first one.

What this means in womanese is: “he doesn’t agree with my drama enough”.

Again, an alpha should never put himself in the frame of talking to women about their emotional problems or their problems with other men.

That is for the losers in her life, and not for you.

If you start to “deep-dive” into her feelings, you can expect her attraction for you to decrease.

Men are, in general, supposed to be more stoic and less emotional.

You do not want to change this aspect of yourself just because she complains about it.

Men and women are different, and this complaint is basically saying that the man isn’t comparable to one of her girlfriends in emotional depth.

The average man is entirely incapable of matching the average woman’s emotional depth due to our innate biological differences.

It is not something to complain about, rather, it simply is how it is.

3 – Men Aren’t Affectionate Enough

This one is interesting in that it holds an inherent contradiction.

A huge mistake many men make is being too affectionate too early.

This signals neediness.

Of course, if you show no affection at all, it also hurts you.

You have to be balanced in the way that you show affection in your relationships, not too much, and not too little.

Women complain that men show too little affection, but what they are referring to is how affection drops off from men after 1-2 years.

Again, it seems to me that women are expecting men to be as emotionally understanding as women, an unlikely scenario.

My recommendation to you is to do your best to control how much affection you show in relationships.

In general, too much affection signals that you’re a provider.

4 – Men Skip Sexual Foreplay

This one is a huge problem.

Many men are terrible in bed.

They don’t know how to please their women and so women complain.

This problem is one of the reasons that women cheat!

Obviously you want to improve your sexual prowess so that women don’t leave you for a guy that actually knows what he’s doing.

If you’re new to seduction or haven’t had many sexual partners yet, you need to practice making women come.

It doesn’t matter if the process annoys you or if you think it’s tedious, their pleasure is just as important as yours!

Practice! Listen to your partner and pay attention to her reactions!

You need to learn what she likes in bed, and reliably deliver it!

Women come back to men that make them come.

Do not skip this!

Obviously a man who wants to be good at seduction needs to be skilled at making women come.

5 – Men Don’t Communicate Enough

This complaint is again ridiculous.

Another beta-bait strategy that women use.

Many women say that relationships are about communication.

It is true that relationships are about communication, but NOT for men. 

It is true for women that relationships are about communication.

Alpha men do not over-verbalize everything in a relationship.

Obviously you’re going to talk, and I hope that you’re with women that provide decent conversation, but that’s not what I’m referring to.

When women say that men don’t communicate enough, what they mean is that men don’t communicate enough about the relationship!

You as the man want to communicate about the relationship as little as possible.

You want to have “the talk” with her after 3 months, to tell her that you’re not monogamous and another “talk”, if you’re really enjoying her company and want to make the relationship more serious (turning it from a NMG to an SNMG relationship).

Other than that, you want NO TALK about the relationship at all, if possible.

A man who is talking about the relationship all the time is beta-izing himself.

Avoid!

6 – Men Don’t Spend Enough Time At Home With Their Children

This one is true for many men.

My opinion is that if you want children then you should be present in their lives.

If you don’t want to be present in their lives, don’t have them!

This complaint by women is definitely one that should be considered.

It is very important for men to be present in the lives of their children as a two-parent household leads to the best outcomes for children.

You want to raise children that are respectful, successful adults in the real world.

It is obviously easier to raise children to be this way with a stable family that has both a mother and father.

I believe in having a stable family if you’re interested in children, I simply don’t believe that it should be a traditional one.

Traditional monogamous relationships do not consider actual biological realities, and therefore lead to misery.

Miserable parents do not make good parents.

7 – Men Do Not Help With Order and Cleanliness in the Home

Order and cleanliness should be egalitarian in the case of the man and woman having similar salaries.

If the man works and the woman doesn’t, or vice versa, then the chores should be done by the person who doesn’t work.

One person provides the lifestyle, and the other supports, in that case.

Either way is fine.

What is NOT fine is one partner demanding that the other partner split the chores 50/50 if only one partner works.

That places a much heavier burden on one partner than the other.

That is clearly unfair.

If we want fairness and an enjoyable experience for both partners, we can’t put a greater burden on one partner over the other.

8 – Men Don’t Take Care of Women Enough, Financially

Oh look, more beta bait!

When a girl says she wants to be “taken care of”, what she means is that she wants you to buy her nice things and take her out to nice dinners.

She wants to be wined and dined.

You know what kind of man wines and dines a woman from an early point in the relationship?

You guessed it, betas.

You should NEVER be that guy.

Let the losers in her life treat her like a special little angel, while you treat her as she actually is, a human with flaws.

She’ll respect you for being real.

Guess which man she’ll fuck?

If you guessed not the beta, you’d be correct.

9 – Men Want Sex With Their Partner Too Often

This is also a ridiculous complaint.

You need to understand where it’s coming from though.

From a biological standpoint, women want sex less than men. 

It makes total sense for women to complain that their man’s sex drive is too high.

It creates huge problems for men, though.

It means that inevitably, men will feel sexually starved in monogamous relationships.

This is why it makes sense for men to be non-monogamous.

As a non-monogamous man, your sex drive is always satisfied.

Women that say you’re too horny or that say they’re not your whore are simply trying to establish a frame of not having sex with you.

Obviously that’s a terrible frame to have.

You can avoid this by having multiple partners that you’re having sex with.

When the girl complains that you want too much sex or denies you sex, you don’t get mad or force the issue, you simply stop talking to her for a week and pursue your other options.

She’ll get the message that denying you sex is a no-no.

A girl that doesn’t want to sleep with you is not attracted to you, she’s using you for other things.

10 – Men Create Extramarital Relationships

 This is obviously a problem.

The problem isn’t, however, that men cheat.

The problem is in the nature of the relationship itself.

Traditional marriage does not account for biological realities.

As a result, many men end up cheating, as they feel sexually starved.

They could have prevented the problem by never entering into such an arrangement in the first place, but they never thought of that at the time.

They were having dick-breaking sex and didn’t think that that would ever end.

Men cheat, and so do women.

The way to prevent this problem is to acknowledge that neither men nor women are monogamous.

By never entering into monogamous relationships, neither men nor women ever have to cheat on each other.

Rather, they accept the biological reality that they’re going to want some variety here and there, and don’t let it destroy them.

Conclusion

Women have several complaints about men.

Some of them are valid and some of them are ploys used to beta-ize their partners.

It is important to understand what women complain about in men to have better relationship dynamics in the future.

Keep these in mind on your journey to mastering seduction!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

I Wish My Man Were Closer to Me Emotionally, It Always Feels Like There is This Wall Between Us!

Women want what they can’t have.

That cold wall means that you can never fully get into the man’s heart.

You don’t want him to break down his walls, you simply say you do.

Stop confusing men!

My Boyfriend is Such a Dick, He Wants Sex Three Times Per Week!

Men and women have different sex drives.

He wants the amount of sex that he needs in order to satiate his sex drive.

You don’t need that much or even want that much. 

This problem could be easily solved if you both weren’t monogamous.

He would pressure you less to fuck.

My Man Is Cheating On Me, I Hate Him!

You hate him for being human?

He loves you, but he NEEDS sexual variety (and so do you for that matter).

Rather than denying this fact and hating him for it, accept it and be non-monogamous.

You’ll both be better for it.

My Man Just Goes Straight to Penetration, No Foreplay, What a Dick!

Yeah.

He’s one of those idiots who doesn’t know how to lay a woman.

Such a shame.

Men, listen up!

Make your girl cum whenever you have sex!

Do some foreplay goddamn it!

Ah, marriage, a famous topic for any seduction blog.

Today, I’m going to talk about some of the reasons why men get married.

I hope that this article gives you some insight into why getting married in the west is a terrible idea.

It worked in the past, but it does no longer as old concepts have been perverted into a new reality, one used to control and subdue.

Here are ten reasons why men get married. 

You’ll see that these reasons aren’t necessarily good ones. 

Off we go…

Reason 1 – Men “Love” Their Partner

Many men get married because they “love” their partner.

Many men mistake love for the honeymoon phase (that phase of a relationship where everything is going awesome since everything is new).

Most of the time, for most men, what they’re feeling for their partner isn’t love, but infatuation.

Infatuation is a terrible reason to get into a legally binding contract with a person!

Those feelings will dim, and when they do, destruction looms.

What you should do instead, is enjoy your partner, enjoy the feelings, sleep with your partner and treat them amazing. 

Don’t enter into a legally binding agreement that screws over your future, however!

You should not trust your feelings with this, but rather your reasoning and logic!

Reason 2 – Oneitis

Another reason that many men get married is oneitis.

Oneitis is believing that the girl that you’re with is special and beautiful and perfect.

People with oneitis believe that their girl is “the one”.

“That girl” is not like the rest and therefore it’s totally fine to give her a loaded gun to point at your head which she can shoot whenever she likes.

No matter how beautiful, special or amazing your partner is, you should never give them the ammunition to destroy your life.

Just because they definitely won’t use it now, or wouldn’t use it in five years doesn’t mean that they should have the ability to wield such power over you.

Those that enter into marriages knowing the risks have no sense of self preservation.

They are letting their feelings get in the way of actual reality, which heavily disfavours men in marriages.

She is a flawed human like everyone else and should not be allowed to wield the life destroying power that divorce has over men.

You should absolutely avoid this outcome for yourself.

Reason 3 – Their Girlfriend Is Pressuring Them Into Marriage

You would be surprised how many times men simply cave into their girlfriend wanting to marry them.

This is what happens when you allow your sexual access to be held in the hands of one woman.

She wields power over you and can use it to pressure you into doing things you don’t want to do.

Many men simply get married because they’re afraid that if they refuse to agree with their girlfriend, she will leave them and the sex that they have will dry up.

Men then get into marriage, and within three years the sex has dried up completely (due to boredom and beta-ization) and now they can’t leave!

That is an awful fate to befall any man.

Instead, the man should cultivate multiple options so that his access to sex is safe.

Once he has that, no girl has the power to pressure him into anything and if he wants to make a decision as stupid as marriage, he can choose to do so on his own terms and not on hers.

Do NOT let your girlfriend pressure you into marriage! (Honestly, if you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you know a girlfriend in the traditional sense is a terrible idea and you wouldn’t even have one, but this is for you men that haven’t gotten the memo)

Marriage is a terrible deal, you shouldn’t be strongarmed into it!

Reason 4 – Lack of Sexual Options

This reason ties directly into the previous reason.

Many men get married because it implies that they will have a woman sexually forever.

This is NOT the case in modern society, and in fact, was NEVER the case.

Women in long relationships with men taper off the sex after the three year mark.

They become sexually bored at that point and want a different sexual partner.

It is not your fault, that is how women are wired (for serial monogamy).

Men are wired to want multiple women from the start.

If you, as a man, get married because you think it will buy you access to sex for the rest of your life, think again.

You will simply be financially trapped, while still having no sex and having to deal with the drama of a live-in partner who is constantly haranguing you.

A much better bet is to have a serious non-monogamous girlfriend who you live with and have kids with (with a parenting plan and finances already sorted), while also going and sleeping with other women on the side.

She, in this arrangement, would also be allowed to sleep with other men if she chooses.

In this way, your relationship can account for actual biological realities.

Instead of burying your head in the sand about the realities of the world, you’re much better off just understanding what the real world is like and adapting to it.

You will actually achieve long term happiness this way, and not have sexual starvation coupled with misery, a common fate for men in traditional marriages.

Reason 5 – Societal Programming

Many men get married because it’s what people do!

They have seen it on TV, in movies, and all of their friends and loved ones have done it.

Naturally, it is the only option.

It’s time for you to hear this message:

If you act as a sheep, you will be slaughtered as one.

Just because everyone else is jumping off a bridge, does not mean that you should do it too.

Weren’t you taught that as a kid?

Society is wrong about marriage, and that’s why the divorce rate is so high.

If you want to be miserable like the rest of society, do as they do.

You’ll be praised for your amazing decision making, while quietly living a life of desperation as you realize you made the wrong choice.

Most people (80% plus) are miserable in marriage for one reason or another.

Do not be so arrogant as to assume that you’ll be in the 20% (you won’t be, you’re not boring and low sex drive).

The really sad part is that if you advertise that you’re going your own way, you’re going to be shunned by some of your friends and family.

In my opinion, living an actual good life is much better than living a life that is praised by the masses.

It is your choice, ultimately, which life path you choose. There are negatives to each.

Your choices are the following:

1. Live a life that you enjoy, which makes you happy, but have others scorn you
2. Follow the societal script to the letter and be praised, but be miserable

Neither choice is ideal, but I know which one I would choose any day.

Reason 6 – Their Mom Told Them To

It is terribly sad that many men live a life of misery because they wanted to please their mom.

Their mom said that they should live life a certain way, and for fear of being disliked or criticized by their mother, these men never did anything for themselves.

Your mom is not living your life, you are.

Ultimately you’re going to have to choose whether you’re going to want to live a life your mom praises, but you hate, or a life which you enjoy, but your mom tolerates.

Notice how this parallels almost exactly the societal programming reason for why men get married.

There is a reason for that.

Societal programming teaches people to act in ways that favour women in basically all situations.

It only makes sense that your mom would teach you a way to behave that made you the best man for women (a slave to women’s collective will).

As sad as that sounds, your mom’s goal is not to make you into an alpha male, but the best beta male a woman could get.

If you listen to her advice, you will succeed, and become an amazing slave to women.

Some men are lucky, and have moms that teach them to be alpha, but these are a HUGE minority.

If you’re on this seduction blog, chances are your mom is like mine, and is hellbent on making you into the best beta you can be.

This is the world’s test.

Can you overcome the feeling of guilt that comes with going in a direction that’s better for you?

If you can, you’re an alpha and you win.

If you can’t, you are a beta and women win.

It is a win-win for humanity either way.

You only end up happy in one of these two scenarios, however (hint: it’s not the beta one).

Reason 7 – All Their Friends Are Getting Married

Some men simply get married because all their friends are getting married.

What a ridiculous reason.

If all your friends were shooting heroin, I hope you would make the correct decision and leave them.

You wouldn’t try and fit in and do heroin with them (I mean, some of you would, but I digress).

DO NOT do things just because your friends are doing them.

Your friends are not the experts.

ONLY YOU can decide what is best for you.

Don’t let your friends decide when you should get married.

Since you know that marriage is a stupid idea, I would hope that you have the self control to resist this idiotic decision.

Peer pressure is a terrible reason to do anything, and marriage is no different.

Be your own man, not a follower who bends to the will of the group.

Reason 8 – They Think It’s the Next Step In Life

All men experience a feeling of wanting to settle down eventually.

It’s what happens when your testosterone lowers.

By the way, you should work out, and if necessary do TRT to make sure that your testosterone NEVER drops to a low level, even as you age.

Just because you feel as though you want to settle down, doesn’t mean you should settle into an IDIOTIC arrangement that heavily disfavours you and puts your balls in a girl’s purse.

Just get into a SNMG (serious non-monogamous relationship) or OM (open marriage) with a girl that you really fancy.

These arrangements account for actual biological realities and won’t make you miserable.

You can actually have kids in these arrangements too, and have a stable family.

You allow yourself sexual variety (which you’ll need until you’re old and grey), and you allow her to also sleep with men on the side when she gets sexually bored of you.

This will ironically create a much more stable arrangement as actual biological realities are not getting in the way of your relationship.

You can both ACTUALLY be honest with each other in these arrangements.

Reason 9 – Men Think It’s the Best Way to Raise Children

Many men know the statistics and know that kids have better outcomes if they have both a mother and a father in a stable household.

I agree.

I simply disagree that you need a piece of paper that represents a legal contract with the government in order to have this.

You can have a serious, non-monogamous relationship with a woman where you’re living together and raise the kids in that household.

In that arrangement, you would also have some drama-free way of sleeping with women on the side (like a small apartment for yourself).

You would still be the good father to your children, AND your sexual appetite would be satisfied, allowing you to retain your masculine edge, something that is absolutely needed in order to raise children properly.

Don’t let society tell you what is best, think for yourself and realize that not everything you have been taught is for your benefit.

Reason 10 – False Beliefs About Finances

Some men get married believing they will have so much more money after marriage.

I mean, you get a tax break and you have two people combining their incomes, right?

Wrong.

Two people spend much more money than one.

At best, you’ll remain at parity with how you were before you got married.

At worst (and this is the most common occurrence), you’ll get the situation of “his money is our money and my money is my money”.

This means that your amazing wife will be spending all of her money on herself, and some of your money too.

What that means is that you actually end up in the negative financially in a marriage.

This is why you should ALWAYS keep your finances separate from a woman.

I also haven’t mentioned divorce.

If you do divorce, your finances are wrecked!

You’re going to have to pay alimony and child support!

Good luck, if that is your fate (and it will be, if you marry in the west, around 78% of the time, statistically speaking).

Conclusion

Men marry for many reasons, and many of these reasons are idiotic.

They are either peer pressure reasons, or they’re reasons that are related to societal programming.

These are reasons that exist to control and manipulate you.

Ultimately, it is your choice whether you agree to be used or not!

Make the right choice for your future. It’s your life.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

What If I Want Kids, Shouldn’t I Get Married?

You should be in an SNMG or an OM, NEVER a traditional monogamous marriage.

You will likely get divorced and ruin your finances.

Your children will also get to experience your slow torture in a traditional marriage (as you become a slobbering beta), and no-one wants to see that.

What If She’s Special, Should I Still Not Commit Monogamously?

If you think she’s special, you should DEFINITELY make all the right moves.

You don’t wanna mess it up right?

NEVER be monogamous, especially if you like her!

My Mom Said That If I’m Nice to Girls I’ll Always Be the Guy they Turn To, Is She Right?

Your mom will give you advice on how to be an amazing beta.

She wants to win the game for team girl.

She thinks that this will make you happy, and will stubbornly stick to her beliefs.

It won’t.

Be your own man, or be a miserable beta, your choice.

All of My Friends Are Getting Married, I’m Thinking of Tying the Knot, Should I Do It?

If your friends chopped off their balls, would you do it?

Don’t make a decision just because a friend does it.

You are living your life and you have to make decisions that favour YOU.

Be smart about this.

Many men message me and ask:

“How the hell do I get Martha, that hot girl I’ve been eyeing for 5 years”.

I wrote this post to address questions like this.

We’re going to talk about something that really pisses me off, today.

It’s a lie that many seduction blogs tell you.

The lie goes like this:

“You can seduce ANY girl you want and sleep with her”.

No you fucking can’t, you liars.

I hate that garbage false advertisement so much.

They’re leading betas on a wild goose chase just to get views on their blog.

What fuckbags.

Anyway, I’m going to explain in this post here why wanting Martha is an irrelevant, and destructive question, and what your attitude should be instead.

On we go…

I Want *Insert Girl’s Name Here*, How Do I Get Her?

This is the wrong question to ask.

Your question shouldn’t ever be “How can I get Martha”, but rather this one:

“How do I get women LIKE Martha?”

Your goal in seduction should NEVER be one individual girl.

You should be focused on your success regarding groups of women, or womankind in general, rather than one individual girl.

Take your focus off of the individual and onto the group.

Let me explain why wanting one girl is wrong…

Why Wanting One Specific Girl is the Wrong Mindset to Have

It is the wrong mindset because it implies oneitis from the get go.

It implies that Martha is somehow special and beautiful and angelic and better than other women, and that she should deserve your sole attention as a result of this.

Martha, like all other humans, is a flawed individual who will never succeed in fulfilling your beta fantasy of a perfect angel woman.

Thus, your attitude should NEVER be how you can seduce Martha, but how you can seduce women LIKE Martha.

You don’t want that individual girl, you want that type of girl.

Maybe you like girls with a certain body type, or with a certain personality, or with certain intellect.

These are all great things that you can and should look for, if that’s what you want.

Martha is not the only girl who can provide you with those, however.

Your goal should be to find 3 Marthas and sleep with all of them in FWB (friends with benefits) or NMG (non-monogamous girlfriend) relationships to start.

It doesn’t matter if you fail with Martha, there are a million other women with Martha’s qualities out there who you are able to seduce.

Your failure with Martha is simply a step in the journey towards seducing women LIKE Martha, your final goal.

Oneitis

The reason why wanting Martha is bad, instead of girls like Martha, is that it slows your development as a man.

Oneitis is extremely damaging to men’s sexual and social development.

It stalls men’s ability to become alpha.

It doesn’t help that women tend to try and beta-ize men and get them into monogamous relationships, either.

Martha is not a perfect little angel, whether you’re attracted to her or not.

She’s a human, like all of us.

Don’t let Martha prevent you from sleeping with women like Martha.

She’ll try if you let her!

Monogamy

Women want you to be monogamous, and so does society in general.

They will reward you for it, in fact.

Society does it because it wants you to be enslaved.

Women do it because they want power over you.

Do you want either of these outcomes?

Let’s say you did get Martha.

By being monogamous to her, you’d let her destroy all of the things about you that allowed you to seduce girls like Martha in the first place.

She would ruin your long term chances with women by holding your balls in a purse through a monogamous relationship.

Don’t be that guy.

Instead, be the guy that girls like Martha fantasize about when they’re alone.

Seduction is A Skillset

Ultimately, you need to understand that in order to get girls like Martha, you have to develop your skills as a seducer.

You do that through practice, failure and rejection.

If Martha herself has to pay the price and reject you, so be it.

It is her loss, not yours.

You are developing your skills in order to have the ability to sleep with women like Martha regularly.

Martha herself is simply the representation of the type of woman you like.

She could be with you, or she could not, either way is fine when you understand that many women like Martha exist.

Funnily enough, when Martha knows that you’re good at getting girls like her, she’s much more likely to be attracted to you.

I hope you’re beginning to understand why the question of wanting to seduce Martha specifically is the wrong one.

By the way, you should never be with only one girl…

Be Non-Monogamous

A non-monogamous man is never with only one girl.

As I’ve said in previous articles, I believe the minimum number of women you should see at a time is three.

This is because even if one of them leaves you (because you refuse to bend to their will and be monogamous, oftentimes), you are still non-monogamous.

You never give any girl sole sexual control of your body.

If you do give a girl sole sexual control of your body, she’s going to begin demanding more and more things from you while simultaneously rejecting sex.

She will take away the things you like while adding more and more demands.

I know it’s absurd, but that’s what happens when you allow a woman to hold your balls in a vice.

Being with multiple women helps you to maintain a smooth emotional pond, as your access to sex is safely distributed over multiple women.

If she starts drama or demands, you simply let her go, and move on to better women.

When you refuse to be monogamous, you are best able to seduce multiple women and imply abundance, a quality which women find extremely attractive.

Abundance is when you have multiple women you’re sleeping with and aren’t afraid of losing your access to sex.

Women in general can sense when you have it.

It always amazes me how well women pick up on the fact that I’m seeing multiple women without me ever saying anything.

Being non-monogamous and having abundance makes getting women like Martha MUCH easier.

Develop A Roster of Women

As I said before, your goal should be to develop a roster of three women at minimum, all of which you’re sleeping with.

You can be in multiple different relationship arrangements with them.

I personally recommend starting out as FWB’s (friends with benefits) or NMG’s (non-monogamous girlfriends).

Don’t get any more serious than that.

You then continue these relationships as long as they last, replacing women as they leave with others and accepting those women who want to return back into your life.

If a girl ghosts you or stops talking to you for whatever reason, don’t be upset, simply wait a minimum of 4 months with no-contact and then message them again, inviting them to your place.

They’ll come and resume the relationship as though nothing happened.

If they don’t return, go no contact again, wait another 4 months and try again.

You Won’t Care Once You Have Three Girls That Love You

Once you have a roster of three women who love you and are sleeping with you regularly, your worries about Martha wanting you or not will vanish.

You’ll project an aura of extreme confidence and competence with women.

Work on your ability to make them all cum when you have sex so that when you get new women, they see you as extremely sexually skilled.

This will make them keep coming back for more.

You really won’t care about any woman rejecting you once you have a working roster, trust me.

It will make you happy in ways you can’t currently imagine.

You’ll see what I mean when you get here!

Conclusion

You will NEVER be able to seduce ALL the women that you’re interested in. 

Many will simply not be interested in you.

Do not get hung up on any one individual girl (Martha in this article).

Your goal should be to develop your skills as a seducer in order to be able to establish a roster of a minimum of three women.

Once you have this abundance in your life, you can use it to add even more women to your roster, as girls get frustrated and leave.

Don’t worry, they’ll return in a few months, just invite them to your place.

Practice, practice, practice and you’ll get all the women LIKE Martha you desire.

Go get ‘em!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

Why Do I Keep Getting Rejected?

You’re likely being too needy or desperate.

Stop texting her so much and work more on yourself.

Take some time to do the things you like and don’t kiss her ass.

What If She’s Special, Should I Still Not Commit Monogamously?

If you think she’s special, you should DEFINITELY make all the right moves.

You don’t wanna mess it up right?

NEVER be monogamous, especially if you like her!

Should I Tell the Girls I’m With That I’m Seeing Multiple Girls?

Yes, eventually.

Wait about three months.

That’s when many women will want to define the relationship.

That’s when you have “the talk” with her explaining that you’ll never be monogamous and that she can be with another guy if she wants, though you really do like her.

Why Should I Have A Minimum Roster of Three Women?

You should have a minimum roster of three women because you’re trying to be non-monogamous.

If you only have two girls, and one leaves for whatever reason, now you’re forced to be monogamous.

That’s a bad proposition and will hurt your long term frame.

Better to have three, and when one leaves, to replace her as quick as you can.

It is a terrible time in all of our lives when a girl we trust betrays us.

We thought she would be our one and only, that special girl to beat all others, and she turned out to be just like the rest.

We vow to never let it happen to us again.

Then we get with a new girl and EXACTLY the same thing happens.

Most men just blame it on the girl and repeat the same mistakes for the rest of their lives.

What if I told you that the problem lies not with the women cheating on you, but with you?

That’s right.

It’s your fault.

Here’s why…

Why Did She Cheat on Me?

Women cheat on men for many reasons.

They’re bored. They’re frustrated.

They’ve been with a man for too long.

The man was a total doormat and let the girl walk all over him.

The guy was an alpha and absolutely refused to budge on anything.

She saw a hot guy on tinder and just wanted to try a no-strings thing.

I have a secret for you.

There is no special girl who isn’t like this.

Women are human.

Allow me to explain… 

Don’t Think of It As Cheating, Think of It As Human

Humans want sex with multiple partners in the long term.

Women are human.

This means that if a woman stays with you for long enough, they will want sex with someone other than you.

It is exactly the same thing for men.

If you leave men for long enough, no MATTER HOW GOOD their partner is, they STILL want to sleep with other women.

What this means is that fundamentally, humans are not monogamous.

This means that the issue was not the person, but the nature of the promises made that were the problem.

You expected her to be monogamous with you because she promised. Then, she turned out to be human.

You shouldn’t blame her, you should blame your expectations that she would be perfect.

Let me explain a bit about female nature to you now…

Hypergamy

In general, women are hypergamous.

This means that they want the best partner.

The problem is that “the best” is subjective to them.

Who “the best” person is changes over time, and with a woman’s mood.

What this leads to is serial monogamy in women.

They stay with one partner for a while (up to 3 years), and then some problem comes up that leads them to not believe that their partner is the best anymore. 

They will then see another as the best, and want to move on.

This does not mean that they necessarily move on instantly after the 3 year period has passed, simply that the honeymoon period is over.

Men usually report an increase in bad behaviour from women at this point in the relationship, and sex is usually denied, if not rarely, then occasionally.

The problem is further exascerbated until the man and woman are having no sex at all.

This is less of a problem for the woman than for the man, as men usually have higher sex drives than women.

As a result, men tend to suffer in long monogamous relationships.

Monogamy

Monogamy does tend to work for women in the short term (and sometimes for men as well, in rare beta cases).

Monogamy is defined as being with only one partner exclusively.

Often monogamy manifests in women as sleeping with only one partner and keeping a few others on the backburner.

It does NOT, however, work in the long term.

It doesn’t matter if you’re the “best boyfriend in the world” (which usually to women just means you’re an amazing doormat-beta to them), or if you’re “the worst” (which usually to women means that you’re a hot alpha who refuses to bend).

They will inevitably want to fuck another partner.

Some women, then just cheat on their partner while staying in the relationship (for the other benefits). 

Others break up with their man and immediately try fucking another man, a guy who they already had on the backburner.

This is why being her beta bitch boyfriend (or her “yes, dear” husband) doesn’t work in the long term.

It is ALSO why being “alpha” and “holding frame” as they say in the manosphere doesn’t work either.

You WILL INEVITABLY be cheated on or left if you’re with a woman monogamously for long enough.

It is simply human nature and NOT your fault.

What IS your fault is agreeing to be monogamous.

Once you know a certain relationship strategy doesn’t work, you shouldn’t use it.

Women’s Cyclical Nature

Women have a cyclical nature. Men do not, they have a more linear nature.

Just read literature or do your own observations if you want proof of this.

As a result, women’s emotions change over time and they enjoy this (whereas men generally hate it when their emotions are fluctuating greatly).

The sad implication of this is that every relationship a woman is in is doomed from the beginning.

They are doomed to either break up, or tire and endure the relationship only to finally cheat out of boredom.

Here are the two ways that women’s cyclical nature applies to relationships:

Option 1:

Women will often be sexually attracted to an alpha man at first. 

They will lose their virginity to him, or if they are already sexually active, leave their partner for him.

They will be sexually exclusive to him and promptly shit test him to try and change him.

If he bends to all of her shit testing over time, he is molded into a beta. 

She is happy with the beta for a while, after all, beta men kiss her ass and tell her she’s perfect.

Nothing lasts forever.

She tires of the beta she’s created and leaves, replacing him with another alpha, often one who was EXACTLY like the one she just left when their relationship first started.

She then repeats the cycle.

Option 2:

Women are initially sexually attracted to an alpha man and sleep with him.

She becomes sexually exclusive and shit tests him to try and change him (nothing different so far).

He absolutely refuses to bend to her will.

Her attraction skyrockets, and she doubles her efforts to tame him.

He still refuses.

Finally, after a certain amount of time, she tires of his stubbornness.

She finds the closest beta and leaves the alpha for him.

She spends some time with the beta, and tires of him.

She then remembers the alpha that refused to bend and returns to him, repeating the pattern.

This cycle continues for years.

Unfortunately, you only have the choice to be one of the men in these two scenarios (the tamed alpha or the stubborn alpha).

Notice how neither of them end up with her being with you forever, but in scenario two, she keeps coming back to you over and over.

I recommend you try and be the man in option 2 (the stubborn alpha), for your own long-term happiness.

Marriage Doesn’t Work

Obviously, as you can see implied from the two above scenarios, marriage doesn’t work.

The girl will inevitably tire of you (whether you’re a good-for-women (beta) husband or an asshole-for-women (alpha) husband).

She then explodes your life (for different reasons of course).

DON’T GET MARRIED!

There’s a reason why people in marriages (especially men) are miserable in divorce.

It is entirely because of human nature!

The man is often at fault as well, but I’m showing you why women tire of men due to their nature in this article. 

Funnily, once the man is out of the marriage, he experiences a happiness unlike what he has felt in his whole life, and often comes out better emotionally, often catapulting him to alpha status in the eyes of his ex-wife who then wants him back.

Of course, at this point, the man is usually with a woman he considers “better” than his ex-wife (simply a woman who hasn’t denied him sex yet), and so he denies his ex-wife.

I’m sure you’ve seen “successful” marriages. 

Marriages than in your eyes are working because the couple hasn’t broken up yet.

What you’ll find, however, is that behind closed doors, outside of the public eye, they are often miserable, experiencing the problems I have pointed out above.

It is rarely a “happy” marriage after the three year (honeymoon) mark.

Oh, and another thing…

Incentives for Divorce

Not only do most women tire of marriage, they are INCENTIVIZED to do so!

Divorce gives alimony! 

Alimony is money paid to the ex-wife to maintain her in the lifestyle she had before divorce.

It is payment for the privilege of having been married to the woman. It is ridiculous, frankly.

Obviously the man suffers as a result.

Child support is a different story, it does make sense for the man to pay money for the children he has made.

Since women are incentivized to divorce, they do so, and often!

The rate of divorce has increased from 50%, and 50% is already nuts.

It just goes to show, paying people to leave other people is probably not the best way to promote them staying together in the long term.

It in fact promotes women only to stay as long as they are HAPPY in a marriage (1-3 years), or maybe if you’re lucky 7 years.

But what about children Helios? Isn’t marriage the best way to have children? You need a stable, two parent household!

If you want to have children, have them! 

Live with the woman in a serious relationship (in a place where common-law marriage is not a thing) and have children with her in a house/apartment where the property is in your name. 

Before the children, have a parenting plan already in place signed by a notary. 

Do not share finances and do not get married to her! 

When the inevitable split happens, you pay child support (but NO ALIMONY) and go your separate ways, each taking the things you owned before being together.

Much more clean and less of a hassle for both of you.

NO marriage. You also HAVE a stable, two-parent household for as long as you both want it.

You should be non-monogamous in this arrangement, and so should your partner.

Non-monogamy

It is extremely important for a man to keep his balls in any relationship.

He does this by never being monogamous.

NEVER commit to only one girl.

I recommend that you always have a roster of at least three women that you’re sleeping with regularly.

This way, if one leaves for whatever reason (usually because you refuse to bend to her will), you are STILL non-monogamous.

This does not mean that each of these women is a non-monogamous girlfriend (NMG).

In fact, I recommend that you have either all FWBs (friend with benefits), or you have one NMG and two FWBs.

You could have multiple NMGs, but I find it hard to split my love between women.

Generally, I really like or love one girl, and the others I sleep with because I require sexual variety. 

Generally, the women I’m sleeping with are also non-monogamous and it doesn’t bother me at all!

You obviously can’t force women to be monogamous with you if you’re seeing multiple women.

I have tried and found that the maximum they will stay with you if you try this is about 1 year.

After that, they inevitably leave or get a boyfriend anyway, since you’re not providing them with the ass-kissing they want.

Alternate Relationship Strategies

The point I’m trying to get across is that traditional relationships don’t work, especially for men.

There are relationship strategies that do, however.

I have mentioned two already:

1. FWB (friends with benefits)
2. NMG (non-monogamous girlfriend)

There are two other ones that also work, and they’re for you guys that are interested in more serious relationships:

1. SNMG (serious non-monogamous girlfriend)
2. OM (open marriage)

These relationship strategies work because they allow you, the man, to not ever be monogamous.

It creates an inherent cycle in the girl’s life as she is happy with you and wonders what you’re doing when you’re not around, mixed with a little jealousy.

As a result of this, you increase the relationship length by quite a long time.

Basically, you can see women for years in an on-again, off-again pattern as they go through beta loser boyfriends, then leave them for you and return. 

They then get frustrated with your non-monogamy and leave, only to return again later.

Ironically, these relationship strategies lead to LONGER RELATIONSHIPS, if you add up the times of each one (also, since you’re having concurrent relationships, you actually spend much more time with women than the average beta man).

The only difference is the time you spend with each girl is not back to back.

Your roster will constantly rotate as women come in and out of your life, with many returning over the years.

Conclusion

As you can see, women cheat not because they’re evil, but because it is a stupid decision to put them into relationships that don’t account for human nature.

You should understand that women are cyclical and will tire of any man eventually.

You shouldn’t hate them for this, instead, you should embrace it in your overall life relationship strategy.

Once you understand how women work, it is hard to hate them.

You should actively choose relationships where women leaving doesn’t cause you great emotional pain or loss of financial resources.

It only makes sense.

Good luck!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

I Was the Perfect Boyfriend, Why Did She Leave?

Women, just like men, are NOT monogamous.

She left because she got bored of your beta ass kissing.

Don’t worry, there are always other women whose asses you can kiss.

I Was Alpha and Held Frame, Yet She Still Cheated on Me, Is She a Bitch?

You’re a loser for being monogamous.

Sorry, I said it.

She’s not a bitch.

She just got tired of you refusing to bend to her demands.

She needs to be with a beta right now.

She’ll come back, as long as you don’t chase her.

Message her in 4 months, and invite her to your place. 

You won’t be disappointed!

I Love this Girl and She’s Not Like the Rest, I Want to Marry Her and Have Kids, She Couldn’t Possibly Screw Me, Could She?

Is she human?

Then she WILL either get bored and leave, or fuck someone else eventually.

Get into a relationship where neither of these things hurt you, and sure, you can have kids, and even live with her.

Man, You’re So Wrong About Everything You’re Saying, Me and My Wife Have Been Going Strong and Fucking Like Rabbits. You’re So Full of Shit!

Honeymoon phase.

Honeymoon phase.

Honeymoon phase.

Wait ten years, then tell me you’re still having dick-breaking sex with your monogamous wife.

Give me a fucking break.

Many men struggle with talking to women.

This is especially true if you’re new to seduction or are a virgin.

Not to worry!

Talking to women becomes much easier once you understand some key principles!

Here we go…

What Makes Women Reject Men?

Women generally reject men because they came off as needy or desperate (beta).

The irony is that the more women you have, the easier it is to get more.

If you make it too obvious that you’re interested in a girl, she won’t want to be with you.

She will see you as undesirable because wanting her so much implies you don’t get that much attention from women.

Even if you don’t have other women, you want to imply with your actions that you do.

Neediness manifests in the following ways:

1. Texting her all the time
2. Spending too many days of the week with her
3. Complimenting her constantly (especially her appearance)

Here is a famous rap line from my favourite rapper, Mac Miller:

“I don’t need nobody, I would love somebody though.”

This line embodies what your attitude should be towards getting girls.

You don’t NEED her for sex. You WANT her, however.

If she rejects you, your response should be “ok” and a quick switch to pursuing another girl.

Women are allowed to be uninterested in you, and it’s not your first rodeo.

Here is how you should behave towards the women in your life:

1. Don’t text all the time (max 1-2 times per WEEK, for logistics!)
2. Spend 1 day per week with her MAX, 2 days if she’s your non-monogamous girlfriend (NMG)
3. NEVER compliment her, except very occasionally (1x every 3 weeks or so). Try to compliment something that is NOT her appearance. Only compliment AFTER you’ve slept with her a minimum of 2x.

This behaviour communicates to women that you are a busy guy with better things to do than be with her.

When she’s there, you appreciate her, but ultimately you have bigger things on your plate.

What Makes Talking To Women Easier?

What makes talking to women easier is experience with women.

You gain experience through practice.

Here are the things that you should practice when you’re talking to and dating new girls in your life:

1. Being true to yourself
2. Aloofness
3. Confidence

Each of these things are alpha traits which will skyrocket your success once internalized.

Let me explain a bit about each one, and give some examples.

Without further ado…

The Things That Make Talking to Women Easier

1 – Being True to Yourself

I know this sounds like a platitude, but this one is actually true.

When I say you should be true to yourself I mean that you NEVER compromise who you are for a woman.

When you talk, if she’s interested in you, she’s going to challenge some of the things you hold dear.

She’s going to test your mettle to see if you bend.

If you bend, you’re a beta and she’ll put you in the provider zone (or friendzone).

NEVER bend on the things you care about.

Here’s an example:

You’re talking to a girl and you bring up that you like martial arts.

She then talks about how people that do martial arts are violent thugs that care too much about fighting.

If you agree and talk about how fighting is bad, she’ll see you as weak.

You’re better off talking about the virtues of fighting.

For example:

Fighting teaches men discipline and power. It is a noble art that elevates the mind, body and spirit.

You refused to bend to her frame, while also not getting into an argument.

You could also redirect her shit test.

If she talks about martial artists being thugs, you could say something like:

“I didn’t choose the thug life, the thug life chose me”.

You turn her attack into a joke.

She’ll laugh and you also haven’t bent to her shit test.

No matter what it is, if you’re passionate and care about it and refuse to bend, no matter what she says, she’ll find your passion attractive.

You have to stand strong and true to yourself despite opposition.

In many ways, women are exactly how the real world is.

If you let the world dictate how you should live your life and how you should be, you’ll simply be a pawn, never having will or happiness.

It is up to you whether you want to be a strong man, or a weak mouse.

No-one else can choose for you.

2 – Aloofness

If you do the aloofness thing right, women will call you mysterious.

Basically, an aloof guy does his own thing, not caring about the approval of others.

He does not commit to one girl, and instead chooses to be independent.

The opinions of others do not affect you very much as an aloof guy, you’re content being yourself.

You have a full, amazing life and don’t have the time to text a girl every second.

You don’t have time for the drama and bullshit the average person throws.

You’re a busy guy, full of dreams.

You don’t change your opinions and beliefs just because another person disagrees with you.

You’re independent.

Independent men are extremely attractive because many women want attention and validation.

It is built into them biologically.

When you refuse to give them attention and validation because you’re busy doing your own thing, they crave it even more.

They appreciate your attention and validation so much more when you do give it to them because your time is so valuable.

Women prefer attention from a guy who’s attention is valuable than a guy who gives it away for free.

Does that sound familiar to you?

It kind of parallels how many men feel about sex doesn’t it?

You, however, shouldn’t look down on women that love to have sex. 

They are amazingly congruent with your non-monogamous lifestyle!

Be who you are and want to be.

It is extremely powerful and will get you laid!

3 – Confidence

I don’t know how many times I’ve mentioned on this blog that women love confident men.

Women love men who believe in themselves and are leaders.

Confidence starts with believing that you’re good enough.

The idea that you’re not good enough is a limiting belief that many men hold.

It is a terrible belief that stops you from achieving your true potential.

A man who doesn’t believe in himself is not believed in by anyone.

Women want a man who they can look up to, but how can they look up to you when you won’t even look up to yourself?

If you feel like you don’t deserve it, put a little more effort into your life.

Try to create something of yourself and do things for the people around you that add value.

They’ll appreciate the great things you add to their life!

This includes women.

Be a man of value who works on himself and watch your confidence and success with women soar!

Examples of Talking to Women

Here are a few places where I have taken women that have led to good results. 

Try some for yourself!

1. At the beach at night

Some background:

First, I set up the date in such a way as for us to be isolated.

I selected a spot that I knew would be relatively empty at night, and I drove her there.

I knew that if things went well, the logistics for car sex were in place.

Me: This place is amazing huh! Check out those lights! This is a spot very few people know about, and frankly, I’m happy they don’t. Sometimes I come here to think and walk by the beach.

Her: Yeah, it’s beautiful! What do you think about?

Me: The way the world is, and how I’m lucky to know the things I do.

Her: Yeah, sometimes I’m happy that I know the things I know too.

Me: Come here

Her: ?

Me: *Kisses her* Sorry, you were too distracting

Her: *laughs* I have that effect sometimes 

Later on, I took her to the car.

Me: It’s cold out, let’s warm up!

Her: Yeah, good idea

Me: *sits in the backseat* I have a sick song, wanna hear it?

Her: sure!

*We listen to music* 

Me: You know, this song was written by *artist*. He was only 22 when he made this. His talent is absurd

Her: It has to come from some deep place.

Me: Sometimes I wonder if there’s a place where this creativity comes from, some other dimension

Her: *pensive*

 *I kiss her. Biology did the rest.*

Notice how the sex we had wasn’t really about the conversation specifically.

It was more about the logistics and the venue I selected. 

Try doing the same thing!

2. In a forested area, at night

Her: This place is totally creepy huh, very horror movie.

Me: Here come the zombies!

He: * laughs* 

Me: You know, forests are super cool. * Explains some fact about the forest*

Her: You know a lot about forests huh

Me: That’s not all I know *pushes her into a tree gently, kisses her, biology does the rest*.

Again, notice that it isn’t really about what you say. 

You can do the same.

Conclusion

Talking to women is easy if you have the underlying important things needed to talk to women covered.

Here is a list:

1. Being true to yourself
2. Aloofness
3. Confidence

When you embody these concepts, women will naturally gravitate to you.

You will have an aura that is very attractive and interesting.

Also, the attention you do give women will be seen as valuable since you really don’t have all that much time for her.

Practice makes perfect!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

Why Do I Keep Getting Rejected?

You’re likely being too needy or desperate.

Stop texting her so much and work more on yourself.

Take some time to do the things you like and don’t kiss her ass.

I Want to Get Better At Talking to Women, How?

Practice, practice, practice.

To make it easier, practice with these 3 things in mind:

1. Be true to yourself
2. Be aloof
3. Be confident

When you fail, and you will, don’t fret.

That is normal.

Keep getting rejected by different women.

Build your skillset and roster!

You’ll be glad you did.

I Can’t Get Laid On My Dates, Why?

You likely haven’t set up good logistics to do so.

Your second date should be at your place, or at some place where you can easily isolate to sex without people around.

If there are too many people around, she’s not going to want to do anything.

I’m sure many of you that visit this blog have this question in mind:

You wonder what the hell it is that women want and why the hell they’re so confusing.

I suffered the same way you did.

It took me years of practice to figure it out.

You’re lucky that you have the internet, where people like me are here to help you out.

Women aren’t actually that complicated, but when you analyze a woman’s mind logically, they seem totally alien.

One thing is certain, women are NOT men.

They want different things.

Let’s dive right in, shall we?

What the Hell Do Women Want?

Women want many things, some of which are totally unimportant to men, and some of which will make total sense.

Here’s a list of what women want in general:

1. Attention
2. Validation
3. A high place in the female hierarchy
4. Herd approval
5. Resources
6. Sex
7. Emotional highs and lows

As you can see reading this list, unless you are a narcissistic man, some of these don’t matter at all to you.

We can probably understand the resources one for sure, and the sex one. I get the herd approval one and the hierarchy one.

But what the hell is it with emotional highs and lows being a requirement? 

Personally, I HATE my emotions fluctuating like that. I prefer my life to be a calm pond. I don’t like waves.

Women do.

Attention and validation being important? For me, these are things I don’t really care about.

If the girl never texts me but we fuck often, I won’t be upset.

I’m getting sex, but barely any attention or validation.

I also don’t really give a damn about compliments others give me (though I guess they’re nice when they do happen). 

I don’t go into a tizzy if I’m not being validated.

I understand inherently that men are replaceable.

Weird stuff, man.

Anyway, here’s a list of what women want from MEN (those they have SEX with):

1. Attractive body
2. Dominant sexual style
3. Good frame
4. Confidence

These are pretty understandable, they’re the qualities of the alpha male.

If you’ve been reading my blog, they’re nothing new.

In this article, I’m going to go into more detail about each of the things women want.

Hopefully these insights help you on your own seduction journey!

What Women Want in General

1 – Attention

This one is obvious.

Women want to be noticed. 

They want to be admired.

They want people to know that they’re there.

This is why many women adopt attention seeking hobbies (such as singing, dancing, art, etc.).

These hobbies help them to get attention.

A woman who has the attention of many men is then able to select the man that she wants.

She wants the best man, and so she needs a big pool.

The reason why social media is a multi-billion dollar industry is because it taps into the female need for attention (and validation, we’ll talk about that next).

Online, women can access the attention of thousands of men, something not even imaginable in the past.

The competition for men nowadays is fierce!

Some might say it is harder than it has ever been (lucky for you, most men have given up, or have no idea the game is even being played, so it makes it easy to win).

Online, women have the attention of thousands of men, and so, they can pick the best of the best to be with.

Online dating has also exacerbated this problem.

Women have access to so many men that they inevitably see the best men in their region.

They reject a huge quantity of men (calling them “below average”), and only see those at the apex as attractive.

Many men are thus left without a girl while a small group of men have harems of women.

It really is a difficult life for a beta.

That is why you need to work on being an alpha!

2 – Validation

Unlike most men, many women desire validation.

Many women want to be told that they’re pretty and perfect and amazing and that all their choices are correct.

They want to feel like they fit in.

Women get validation in a variety of ways.

I’m sure you’ve noticed at parties the fake way some girls talk to each other.

It is merely exchanging validation.

It is a pleasantry that acknowledges an inherent feminine need.

An extremely common way that women receive validation is through beta (or loser or NPC) men.

Beta men shower women with compliments, attention and validation in the hope that these women will sleep with them.

What these men don’t realize is that they’re tapping into a primordial feminine need, and that in so doing, they are wrecking their chances at sex.

A woman that gets validation and attention from a man sees him as far more valuable than a guy that she is getting sex from.

He is a tap of good feelings.

Why introduce drama into the equation by fucking him?

She wants the validation train to continue.

You wanna know the official title of a guy who’s being used for validation?

He’s a friendzoned guy.

Patrice O’Neal would call him a “Time Ho”.

He’s being used as a validation generator and nothing more.

Don’t be that guy.

Of course, social media and online dating are both HUGE sources of validation for women.

Imagine pressing a button and having 300 messages show up of how you’re pretty, perfect, amazing, lovely, gorgeous, etc.

That is the life of the AVERAGE woman online.

If she’s truly beautiful, you can add the offers of trips around the world, private yachts, free money, and other things too.

Many women nowadays are absolutely addicted to the attention they receive online.

It is the modern epidemic nobody talks about.

It simply means that many, if not all women are incapable of being monogamous for the long term, but honestly, men are also not capable of it, so this is nothing new or weird, really.

Women will always have that panic button in their pocket they can press when times get tough, or they get annoyed with a man.

It is a luxury most men can only dream of, the luxury of abundance.

3 – A High Place in the Female Hierarchy

Women rank themselves on the female hierarchy based on how much control/power they have over the man that they’re seeing.

The more control/power a woman has over her man in her relationship arrangement, the higher she is seen on the female hierarchy.

Here are the rungs of the female hierarchy (from lowest to highest):

1. Little kid
2. Single mom
3. Single
4. “Seeing someone”
5. Divorced
6. Dating someone
7. In a serious relationship
8. In a marriage

Many women lord their place on the female hierarchy over other women, provoking feelings of jealousy.

These feelings, in turn, cause other women to want to climb higher on the female hierarchy.

What it means for you is that as your girl’s friends start to get into more serious relationships and start to get married, your girl is going to feel the need to pressure you to do the same.

She otherwise has a lower status than her friends and gets bullied as a result.

This is why many women tend to pressure the guys they’re with into more and more serious relationships.

They want to lord their status and rank over other women, or they at least want to remain at parity with them.

Obviously, once they’re attained the highest rank, many women compare themselves based on possessions and other stupid things.

This is where the expression “keeping up with the Joneses” comes from.

Here are some examples:

1. What their husband does for a living
2. The type of car they drive
3. The size of their house
4. How their lawn is mowed
5. How many extra-curricular activities their kids do
6. What their kids work as or where they went to university
7. How their house is decorated
8. What trips they go on

Obviously, these are things that many men don’t care about. They tend to care about things like sex and their hobbies.

They simply do the above to please their wives, who are in turn doing it to lord their status over other women.

In this way, the man basically becomes a purse or another possession, a tool to be used to compare to other people in her social group.

Don’t let this fate befall you!

As the doctor says: “the best cure is prevention”.

4 – Herd Approval

Whereas men tend to be more individualistic, women tend to be more collectivistic.

This means that women in general, like to do what is “in fashion”.

Many women change their behaviour and beliefs as the times change, to fit in with “team girl” as it were.

It was very dangerous for a woman to be expelled from her social group historically, and thus, many women have an inbuilt biological drive to fit in.

No matter how crazy or stupid current cultural trends are, many women will follow them, out of fear of being expelled from the group.

This is why many women follow the idiotic cultural trends of today, without much thought as to their stupidity.

They are simply following the cultural script.

Here are some examples of stupid cultural scripts many women follow:

1. Changing their hair or clothes to match what is in fashion currently, even if it’s ugly
2. Changing their political ideology to follow what is in fashion
3. Pushing for traditional, monogamous relationships when these don’t make them happy
4. Doing what other girls are doing on social media, even if it’s stupid
5. Acting as the culture tells them to act, even if it hurts their relationships with men and their children (extreme feminism/left-wing views)

Mark my words, when the world changes and becomes more extreme and right wing, many women will shift ideology and follow, following their innate biological script to fit in.

Even when the culture is asking for us to do really stupid and bizarre things.

It’s gonna happen, mark my words.

5 – Resources

When I say this, I don’t mean all women are gold diggers!

The truth is though, that many women have resource seeking as one of their primary strategies.

They either work to get a good job, so that they don’t rely on a man to raise their children, or they will actively choose a man to have kids with who has money.

Women will often test for resources at the beginning of your interactions with them.

They’ll ask you what you work as.

This is a fairly innocuous question, which in my experience is alright to answer.

NEVER answer a girl’s question about your salary however.

She’s testing you to see if you’re a beta.

If she tries to make the conversation about how much money you make, you’re done.

She sees you as a wallet and not as a person.

Avoid women like this.

Obviously the reason women see resources as important is because they need them in order to raise children.

This is not something bad.

It is simply bad when she sees you as only a wallet, with nothing to provide her but money.

This is why divorce is so evil.

The woman provides nothing (and often takes the children too) and keeps getting money off of you in the form of alimony.

It’s almost like you have to pay her for the privilege of having married her.

This is utterly ridiculous (though child support isn’t, in my opinion).

Until divorce laws change (and they won’t, not in our lifetimes anyway), it is an utterly ludicrous idea to get married.

Those that do have no sense of self-preservation. 

They certainly lack wisdom.

6 – Sex

Women want sex!

I would argue that women are more sexual than men.

Since women are responsible for the creation of new humans, one could argue that their whole lives are about sex.

Women do want sex, for sure.

They simply don’t want sex with the same man for very long.

Women tend to be quite devoted for about 1-3 years to the same partner.

After that, their eyes start to wander.

This is called serial monogamy.

Women want to be with one partner, and one partner only, until they don’t. They then switch to a new partner and repeat the pattern.

Don’t get me wrong, men are worse in this regard.

Often, it doesn’t take two weeks before a man wants sexual variety, even if he loves and enjoys the woman he’s with.

Men are polygamous, they want to have sex with multiple women at the same time.

Women are serially monogamous. They want one man, and one man only for a relatively short burst and then to move on to the next.

Ariana Grande’s famous song sums it up amazingly:

“Thank you, next.”

I’m sure you’ve experienced the dick-breaking sex that the first few years of monogamy offer, followed by a gradual reduction of the sex to nothing.

Men can avoid that by being polygamous. Once the sex dries up, you simply replace the girl in the roster with no hard feelings.

She’ll often return later, wanting to have sex with you again, once her hormones have reset with regards to you.

7 – Emotional Highs and Lows

Men are linear, women are cyclical.

Women experience shifting feelings regularly and enjoy it!

A girl doesn’t want to live life in a still pond. She wants a raging ocean for her emotions.

Men who are polygamous players do an amazing job of stirring the waters. 

This is because non-monogamy creates constant angst in the girl as she thinks about other women the man is with.

While they’re together, however, the feelings are amazing!

She gets both positive and negative feelings in a cyclical pattern.

A total win-win!

Women are also cyclical when it comes to their interactions with men.

Women spend some months to years with an alpha, finally become frustrated (with his non-compliance to her will), leave him for a beta, stay with the beta until they get bored (of his compliance to her will), then return to the alpha.

On and on it goes in a cyclical pattern of emotions.

You as a man avoid the cyclical nature of a woman’s emotions by being non-monogamous.

When you refuse to commit to one girl, you don’t rely on her emotional whims for sex.

When you don’t rely on her emotional whims for sex, you free yourself from the stormy waters of her ocean and can sail on a gentle pond.

You can relax, knowing that your sexual needs are going to be provided for, regardless of any individual girl’s feelings.

Conclusion

As you can see, women want many things, some of which we can relate to as men, and some of which we can’t really.

Here’s a list to remind you of what women want:

1. Attention
2. Validation
3. A high place in the female hierarchy
4. Herd approval
5. Resources
6. Sex
7. Emotional highs and lows

We can overcome the difficulties of women’s cyclical natures by being non-monogamous.

Ultimately, it is up to us to understand, adapt and overcome.

Don’t get sucked into the life strategy of a woman just because you enjoy the sex!

Monogamy will destroy both of you in the long term. 

Don’t give in!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

You Must Hate Women, Helios, to Describe Them All As Gold Diggers!

I love women.

They are not all gold diggers.

Trying to understand what lies beneath the surface of women is the opposite of hate.

I try to understand that which I love.

Women want resources, there is nothing bad about that, except if they see a man as nothing more than a wallet.

Not All Women Want Attention and Validation, You’re An Asshole!

I speak in the general sense.

Of course it is true that there are exceptions to the rule.

I would say that I am an exception in the way that I think.

It would be stupid of me to say that there are no women that are also exceptions to the rule.

I Don’t Want Attention Like Some Common Peacock, You’re A Dick Helios!

Maybe you don’t.

Many women do, however.

Are you honestly going to tell me that that girl showing her ass on instagram doesn’t like attention?

Kim Kardashian doesn’t like it?

Give me a break.

I Love My Husband, I Don’t See Him As A Purse!

I’m sure you do.

How many times have you talked about your husband’s personality, and not about what he does or owns?

See?

You’re treating him as a status object to show off to your friends.

Don’t feel bad, you can change.

Fuck your husband like you did when you first met to show him your appreciation.

I’ll bet that’s hard for you at this point in your marriage.

Humans aren’t monogamous.

Ever been jealous of guitar-guy?

That guy that pulls out his guitar and suddenly has a bunch of girls around him?

I imagine you thought that that wouldn’t be a bad idea for yourself!

You’re right!

Hobbies demonstrate that you’re a well rounded person.

They make you stand out from the crowd!

Some hobbies are much better at getting you laid than others.

Let’s talk about a few…

A Word of Advice

I hope that you’re not picking up hobbies just to get laid.

That’s lame.

You should do what you enjoy doing.

People love people that enjoy living life!

If you’re passionate about something, people will be drawn to you for your passion.

Alphas don’t compromise themselves for others.

We hold onto our self image strongly and are powerful.

Not being a slave involves enjoying the great things that life has to offer, and these hobbies are some of them!

While I don’t recommend you pick up a hobby just to get laid, I do recommend that you have hobbies. You need to do something besides wake up, work, sleep and repeat.

What kind of life is that, even?

What If the Hobby That I Love Isn’t On This List?

It doesn’t matter!

People in general love those that are passionate about life.

If you have something you really love to do and are hardcore passionate about it, people cannot help but be drawn in!

Check out Joe Manganello!

That guy’s a total D&D nerd. You think he doesn’t get laid?

He’s the best version of himself living his best life.

You do the same with whatever it is that you love.

That passion is extremely attractive!

Ok, onto the hobbies that are conventionally attractive…

1 – Playing the Guitar

I know what you’re thinking.

Lame!

You want me to be a guitar guy just to get laid?

No!

I believe that as part of your masculine development, you should learn how to play music.

Why not learn an instrument that’s portable, and that will also get you laid?

Guitar is a great hobby, but if you want it to get you laid, you’re gonna have to be a little better than a beginner.

Getting good at guitar is the same as getting good at seduction.

It takes practice.

There are also youtube videos, luckily, to help you learn.

Hilariously, you’ll find after a while that most songs need very few chords to actually be played.

You can play a bunch of songs just by learning a few chords and singing along.

Amazing!

It’s also a great way to relax if you’ve been working a bunch. I usually play guitar as a relaxation method, or piano!

Don’t worry about pain in your fingers, that goes away after about two weeks!

Start out with some easy songs, and then learn some scales and basic solos.

It doesn’t take much to impress people, most people do not have the time or patience to devote to an instrument.

You can wow them once you’re at a medium, or even low-medium level of guitar skill.

You don’t need to be BB King to impress a beginner 🙂

Listen to music that you like, and learn to play that on guitar!

You’ll find that many classic rock songs are pretty approachable, even for a beginner!

2 – Yoga/Dancing

There are a ton of women that do yoga/dance.

You would be amazed at the amount of hot women you can find in these places.

Your goal when going to one of these classes isn’t to get laid directly, instead, you’re going to have a different strategy.

You should go into those classes with the genuine intention to learn that skill.

Me, for example, I do martial arts, and so I want to become more flexible so that I can do better in my martial arts class.

I joined a yoga class for that reason.

Once there, passionately try to do the activity.

You won’t be able to prevent making friends in your yoga class.

Guess what?

These happen to be pretty girls that you’re making friends with!

You know what pretty girls have?

Other good looking friends!

When you’re invited to one of their parties, that is your chance to get the phone numbers of a bunch of gorgeous women!

Now you have a bunch of hot yoga girl prospects. Amazing!

The same could apply to a salsa dance class, or whatever you decide to join.

See the girls in your yoga class as a social circle source.

If you fuck up with one yoga group, you can always change classes and try again with another.

No problem!

3 – Cooking

Cooking is an amazing hobby to have as a guy.

Women become sexually aroused when they see men cook, I’m not kidding!

Also, it will help you to control the kind of food you eat, since you’re trying to get a nice body.

It’s a total win-win.

By the way, you can also save money over pre-made food.

Having cooking as a hobby gives you plausible deniability.

You can invite a girl to your place and make food together for a near guaranteed lay.

Learn a bunch of basic recipes, and use the internet as a source to help you.

There are many excellent, well-reviewed recipes online that you can follow.

If you decide to join a cooking class, there will always be a bunch of beautiful women there.

Guess who can slay with a little game?

That’s right, you!

An alternative is to build a social circle from your cooking class too, which is likely to lead to a bunch of pretty girls again!

The fun never stops.

4 – Travelling

Travelling, of course is an excellent source of getting laid if you stay in youth hostels.

Also, by travelling to different places in the world, you become cultured.

Women love cultured men.

When you have the experience of having been to many places in the world, it changes you.

You’ll be much more able to connect to people of all kinds of cultures and understand them.

This of course, applies to women as well.

If you’re white, you’ll have an easy time sleeping with asian women.

Travelling makes you worldly, it gives you more experience than the average man.

This makes you have much better conversations, and makes you much more relatable.

Women want a man who they can look up to. It is pretty easy to look up to a man with multiple hobbies who has travelled around the world.

Women of all stripes will love to hear the stories of when you were out exploring the world.

To say that travelling improves your prospects as a man goes without saying.

You will be better able to relate to multiple kinds of people and sleep with girls from all over the globe as a result.

You will also develop a respect for many cultures and an appreciation for humanity that you never thought possible.

Travelling allows you to seduce higher quality girls since it elevates you.

Not bad, huh?

Conclusion

Many men have hobbies.

Hobbies make us a more complete person and therefore, more attractive to women.

When we improve ourselves and have full lives, we become much more attractive.

There are several hobbies that are particularly sexy. Here they are:

1. Guitar
2. Yoga/Dancing
3. Cooking
4. Travelling

This does not mean that other hobbies aren’t attractive, you simply need to be passionate about whatever it is that you do, and you’ll do great!

Try some of these hobbies out for yourself and see what I mean 🙂

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

Do I Need to Do One of These Hobbies to Get Laid?

No!

Passion and excitement for what you do will also be attractive.

If you’re not sure what hobbies are attractive to women though, you can’t go wrong with the above (guitar, yoga/dancing, cooking, travelling).

I Don’t Know How to Cook, Am I Screwed?

Nope!

Follow the recipes online, or buy a recipe book.

It’s no big deal!

Just practice, and you’ll do totally fine.

I Don’t Have the Money to Travel, How Do I Bang Exotic Women?

You could always talk about where you would like to go!

When you’re talking to an exotic woman, ask her about her country.

Ask her about how her country is different from the one you’re currently in, you’ll do fine!

I’ll Embarrass Myself In Yoga Class, I Don’t Want to Do It!

If you’re handsome and doing terribly, that may work in your favour, hilariously.

You’ll draw lots of attention.

When they make fun of you, deflect in cute, non-needy ways and you’re set.

You’ll make the friends you need to get laid from the yoga social circle!

Amazing.

I Don’t Want to Play Guitar, I Want to Play the Trombone!

Do what you want man.

If you’re passionate about it and thoroughly enjoy it, I’m sure that can get you laid too.

There’s some mean blues trombone out there!

Ah, here we go, the concept of creepy.

Creepiness is really funny in a way.

It is funny in that we associate, in popular culture, creepiness with ugliness.

For women, however, creepiness often has nothing to do with looks.

Creepy behaviour manifests in men’s actions towards women.

Women call men creepy who behave in a certain way towards them.

Let’s talk about what these behaviours are…

Part 1 – What Makes A Man Creepy

Creepiness Is A Set of Behaviours And Beliefs Men Have Towards Women

I’m sure you’re wondering what the specific behaviours are that make men creepy to women.

Here is a list:

1. Neediness
2. Being evasive in your intentions
3. Acting like someone you’re not
4. Having changeable beliefs

If you embody one or more of these qualities, women are going to be repulsed by you.

Let me explain why…

Neediness

A long time ago, when humanity was still living in caves, women needed the protection of men.

Women were needy.

This meant that women that became attracted to needy men, ended up dying, selected out by the environment.

Over time, women evolved to only select men that were independent. Men that could survive without them and protect them.

Women hate neediness because it is biological.

Men show they are needy when they demonstrate behaviours that imply that they couldn’t live without the girl.

When they beg, and plead, and obey the stupidest commands, they show themselves to be needy.

A man also shows himself to be needy when he’s afraid of losing his girl.

She inevitably catches on and starts to display more and more disrespectful behaviour.

The more shitty behaviour the man tolerates, the more needy he appears.

It is even worse if a man shows this sort of behaviour in his first interactions with a girl.

If he appears to be too interested, and too spineless in the initial interaction, he will be seen as needy, and therefore creepy.

Shit tests are a way for women to determine if the man they are interested in is needy or not.

If he fails the shit tests, he’s done.

She’ll tell her girlfriends he was creepy and move on to less of a loser.

Being Deceptive in Your Intentions

A man who is not clear on what he wants is not an alpha man.

Men want to have sex with multiple women.

It is who we are.

When men deny what they are, they come off as creepy.

They are disingenuous.

A woman will respect a man who implies that he wants to fuck her, and fuck her well.

She will not tolerate a man who lies about not wanting to be sexual and then turns the tables later.

When a man says that he’s not interested in sex, and gets put in the friendzone as a result, the girl never expects that the man will show sexual intention again.

When he does, he is immediately an unsafe creep.

Before, he was simply a spineless, safe, coward.

If you want to have sex with a girl, don’t lie about it.

Make your intentions clear in your behaviours.

What I mean, is that you try and get her phone number, you try and set up a first date and create rapport.

You try and set up a second date where you escalate to sex and you do so proudly.

A woman will respect your effort, even if she isn’t interested in you.

When she knows your genuine intent, it is easy for her to say yes or no.

If she says no, you move on.

There is no need to be a creep.

You don’t have to lie about wanting sex.

Women know it’s what men want!

Acting Like Someone You’re Not

There are a lot of women out there.

Many of them will like you for who you are.

You don’t have to pretend to be someone you’re not in order to get laid.

You do, however, need to avoid needy behaviours.

If you like space, for example, don’t hide it.

If you like martial arts, don’t hide it.

Women are attracted to all kinds of people.

What they aren’t attracted to is bad liars.

If you obviously come off as a nerd with a gut, and you pretend to be a jock because you think jocks get laid, you’re going to fail miserably.

You’re also going to get called a creep.

Be the best version of YOURSELF.

If you need to lose weight and work out, cool!

That doesn’t mean you drop or hide the parts of yourself that make you the way you are for a girl.

Once again, you are perfectly capable of getting laid as a musician, jock, nerd, or even vampire.

Whatever you are, you can be successful at, so long as you pass the minimum standards of entry (in looks and grooming).

Having Changeable Beliefs

If you strongly believe in some things, but the second a girl disagrees, you immediately change your mind, you’re a creep.

You have no frame.

You need to hold true to your beliefs no matter how pretty or opinionated the girl you’re sitting across from is.

Women want strong men.

Strong men are not easily blown by any breeze.

Whatever strong beliefs you have you should hold onto, no matter what anyone says.

Often, when a girl questions your core beliefs, it is a shit test.

She’s testing your resolve, to see if you hold on to yourself.

If you do, she’ll respect you.

If you don’t, she’ll think you’re creepy for slimily trying to weasel your way into her heart.

You can stay true to yourself and still get laid.

You can’t get laid by matching all of the beliefs of the girl you’re with.

She’s going to know that it isn’t who you are, and she’ll ditch you.

Women value strength, not compliance.

Let’s talk about how not to be creepy now…

Part 2 – How to Not Be Creepy

The Qualities One Should Have

To not be creepy, simply embody this list of qualities: 

1. Be independent
2. Be clear in your intent
3. Be the best version of yourself
4. Hold strong to your beliefs

Notice how all of these are qualities that the typical alpha male possesses.

Let’s talk a bit about each one…

Be Independent

A creepy guy chases women.

An attractive guy does his own thing.

He has a great life that’s full of things that he enjoys.

He has no need to chase, or text every second.

A strong man is independent.

When you truly are independent, you’ll notice that you simply do not have time to text women all the time.

They will imagine all of the amazing things that you’re doing when you’re not spending your time texting them, or talking to them on the phone, or chasing them, or whatever.

Women will then chase you.

Women will want some of your valuable time, just to experience what it’s like to be with a powerful man.

It really is an amazing thing.

Just do your own thing, and watch how much better all of your interactions with women you’re sexually interested in become.

You can’t compare the two worlds at all.

Come to this side of the fence and you’ll see!

Be Clear In Your Intent

When I’m with a girl I’m really interested in fucking, what I do sometimes is the following.

I keep talking, but in my mind, I imagine that she’s naked and I’m ravishing her.

It gives the girl a nonverbal signal of my intent.

Something in my expression or demeanor changes and makes it clear what I’m talking to her for.

Women respect men that are clear in their intentions.

If you’re truly interested in sleeping with a girl, imply it through your actions:

1. Break the touch barrier on dates (don’t overdo it).
2. Talk about sex (but not you having sex with her specifically).
3. Sexually escalate when the opportunity is right, starting on the 2nd date (it is quite clear that she’s interested in you).

If the girl isn’t interested, she will make it clear, and you can move on to better options.

She will not have wasted your time, and you maximize your ability to get laid in the long term.

Be the Best Version of Yourself

Society always tells you to be yourself.

It is a nice platitude, but it’s wrong.

What they actually mean is for you to be the best version of yourself.

Don’t compromise yourself for anyone, but make sure to maximize your looks and grooming.

When you look good and you hold onto yourself despite pushback and shit tests, you will be respected and also well sexed.

There will be many women who are interested in exactly the kind of guy that you are.

Of course, you have to meet the bar for appearance.

I don’t mean you can be a tub of lard, sitting on the couch eating chips all day and still get laid.

I mean you can be a starving artist, a metrosexual, a fighter, or a student of philosophy and get laid.

All of those types of guys, despite being very different are all capable of getting laid.

It is important that you acknowledge yourself and work hard to be the best version of you that you can be!

Hold Strong to Your Beliefs

As I keep mentioning, alpha males hold their opinions strongly.

They are not easily swayed by anyone.

Everyone has beliefs about what the world is really like and how things should be.

You should hold onto your beliefs, despite opposition.

Your opinions and mind have value.

Don’t throw your beliefs away because you think you’re going to miss out on sex because of it.

Ironically, holding true to yourself and your beliefs will get you laid much more than the opposite, it simply is not what society teaches.

Society teaches you to obey.

The truth is that the only reward that society gives to those that obey is gilded chains.

You need to break free of the limiting belief that your opinions and beliefs are weaker than those around you.

Hold true to who you are and be rewarded.

Conclusion

Many men struggle with being called creepy.

This is especially true in the early phase of our life, where we are sexually inexperienced and don’t understand the world very well.

We have to avoid the behaviors that label us as creepy:

1. Neediness
2. Being evasive in your intentions
3. Acting like someone we’re not
4. Having changeable beliefs

And accent our alpha side with the following:

1. Being independent
2. Being clear in our intent
3. Being the best version of ourselves
4. Holding strong to our beliefs

You’ll see that by keeping these things in mind, you’ll improve your life tremendously!

Good luck.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

What Is Neediness?

Neediness is when you feel like a girl is so good that you can’t do without her.

If you even so much as imply something like this early on, you’re bound for the creep zone!

Are All Creepy Men Ugly?

Nope!

All creepy men are losers in the eyes of women, however.

It doesn’t matter if you’re short or tall, ugly or handsome.

If you’re labelled as a creep by women you’re an undesirable.

Will Agreeing With Everything She Says Get Me Laid?

Haha! No.

Hold strong to yourself.

Women fuck men with strong frames and worldview.

If she says something you don’t agree with, disagree!

Don’t fight (unless you’ve already fucked her twice and enjoy drama), but disagree!

So, Should I Tell A Girl I Want to Fuck Her?

Nope!

You should imply it though with your actions.

Over-verbalizing is the road to getting rejected because of societal programming.

Just do the things that guys do to get laid, and it will send the message loud and clear (create rapport and comfort on the first date then break it off after 1 hour, invite her to your place for the second date, sexually escalate when the time is right, etc.)

Can I Really Do My Own Thing And Get Laid?

Yeah!

You don’t have to text her all the time, or even talk to her, really, outside of when you meet in person.

Being independent is really attractive.

She’s also going to think that you’re going after other girls too, which makes you even more desirable.

I’m warning you guys, this is going to be a tough one to read.

It’s not easy reading that you’ve been lied to your whole life.

The following things are lies that everyone tells us from a young age.

They’re used to brainwash us into becoming beta slaves.

You have certainly heard at least one of these, though I’m sure most of you have heard all of them.

These are the insidious beliefs that will ruin any chance you have at long term happiness.

You are one of the lucky ones, you have a chance to escape.

Most men are not so lucky.

Here we go…

1 – If It’s Meant to Be, It Will Just Happen

This is such a crock of shit I’m amazed it even works!

There is no such thing as determinism.

Therefore, nothing is “meant to be”.

What that means is that nothing is going to magically appear to solve your girl problems, or frankly, any of your other problems.

If you want to make something happen, you have to make it happen.

The problem is that you can’t just make it happen instantly.

Anything that you want to do in life takes struggle, dedication, and very often, pain.

There is no one girl out there who’s going to solve your girl problems, and there is no magical job out there that’s going to solve your drone problems.

If you don’t make a life for yourself that solves these problems, no-one will for you.

This garbage determinism belief leads many men down the road of serial monogamy.

Here is a classic belief of men who have just broken up:

“That last girl was a bitch, I’ll do better next time.”

What they don’t realize, is that the fundamental problem wasn’t the girl, but the nature of the relationship with the girl.

She was a bitch BECAUSE you were monogamous. 

Let me say this another way.

She was a bitch BECAUSE YOU were a bitch.

The same applies to any jobs you may have had.

The boss was an ass to you because they could. They could because you let them.

You chose a job where you assumed the position of a replaceable drone, and then were surprised when you were treated like one?

You have to create a good life for yourself.

Don’t expect good things to fall into your lap by luck.

What an idiotic notion.

2 – You’re Special

This one is gonna be tough to hear.

Luckily for you, daddy’s here to say it.

You’re NOT special.

Neither you, nor anyone else is special.

If you look at history, the people that we laud as superhuman are really just people that were lucky enough to be in the right place, at the right time, with the right training.

Does that sound like a divine person to you?

Nope!

Let this be a motivator for you!

You are just as able to be “special” as they.

All you need to do is this one little thing.

Wanna know what it is?

It’s something nobody wants to do.

Still wanna hear it?

YOU HAVE TO WORK.

YOU have to create the reality you want for yourself.

Otherwise, you’re just another NPC, born into a world of NPC’s.

You’re NOT special.

Nobody is coming to save you.

No magical thing will break your chains.

YOU have to break them.

YOU have to structure your reality in such a way as to be free of the chains society puts on you.

If you do as everyone else does, you will NEVER be free.

This is BECAUSE you’re NOT special.

The thing that distinguishes the strong from the weak in this world is work ethic and discipline.

Do you have what it takes to struggle, grind, and bleed for what you want?

If you don’t you are and will always be NOTHING.

3 – Put Women On A Pedestal

This is another ridiculous lie that men are taught from a young age.

Men are taught to worship women, as though they are gods.

It’s really funny.

The truth is that the world’s earliest religions were fertility religions.

People have been worshipping women for as long as there have been people.

I find it hilarious, and somewhat comforting.

It is a lie though.

To believe that women are somehow divine because they weren’t born men is utterly ridiculous.

Women are human just as men are.

They are flawed, completely mundane creatures.

Our poetic minds elevate women when they fuck us well, but that doesn’t make their divinity a reality.

Putting women on a pedestal is one the worst things you could do for your long term happiness and financial stability.

Humans do not deserve to be venerated as divine beings, man or woman.

Do not EVER treat a woman as above you.

She is a flawed human, just like you.

She doesn’t deserve it.

Also, if you treat a woman as better than you, she will NEVER fuck you.

Thanks hypergamy!

This makes my advice really easy:

Never see a woman as a perfect little angel, and you’ll do ok.

4 – The World Cares About You

This is an extremely sad truth, and it makes some people very upset.

We are taught from a young age that the world cares about us.

The truth is this:

The world doesn’t give a shit about you individually.

You are a pawn in a large game.

You are to be used, abused and discarded by the system.

That is your role in life.

Sound fun?

That’s your life if you live according to society’s cultural rules.

People around you will shower you with praise, and you’ll be promptly drained, like some common fruit

When you’re a shell of your former self, who has given everything he has to a company, a cause, or a marriage, what happens?

You are thrown away.

A useless, drained husk.

The essence of masculinity that you had, that was needed by the system, is no longer present, so you’re useless.

Once you’re useless to them, you’re no better than garbage, so of course they throw you away.

Obviously you should break free of this system.

Ultimately, only you can care for you properly.

Men are seen as disposable pawns in our society.

Follow a different set of rules, or be drained and discarded.

The choice is yours.

5 – Everyone Is Equal

Are you equal to someone born in the royal family of England?

How about to the son of a rich billionaire?

People are not born equal, that’s a fact.

A sad, and true, fact.

Most people are born as nothing. Mere pawns.

Some people are born as less than nothing. It’s sad that they never had a chance.

If you are like me, the son of nothing, then you have nothing.

From the day you were born, if you’re like me, your fate was predestined.

Work some shit drone job, have a family, have kids, pay child support in divorce, and die.

Some people, like me, a son of nothing, were born with something else.

We were born with a brain.

Not just any brain, a brain capable of deduction. Of true reasoning.

Even though I am a son of nothing, I have made something of myself.

Something outside of this garbage that we call our system.

I will not work a drone job, you mark my words.

Neither should you.

You, if you’re like me, are made of better stuff than that.

I will not be churned in the meatgrinder of history.

I refuse.

And you should too.

Join me in the quest of becoming a chainbreaker.

We will live as we like, free from the unfairness that plagues the world we didn’t choose to be born into.

Conclusion

People are fed pretty lies growing up.

Here is a list of the lies once again:

1. If it’s meant to be, it will just happen
2. You’re special
3. Put women on a pedestal
4. The world cares about you
5. Everyone is equal

These lies, while making you feel good, are not reality.

They in fact pull you into slavery.

The irony is that the people who tell you these lies often have the best of intentions.

Our parents, or other loved ones who tell us these things.

As the saying goes:

“The road to hell is paved with good intentions”

If we listen, we’re doomed to repeat the patterns of the past.

If we listen, we are enslaved. Trapped in a mental prison from which there is no escape.

Break free!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

You’re A Jaded Asshole Who’s Full Of Shit!

For telling you the truth?

I would prefer you know what reality is really like. 

You will suffer much less in the long term, trust me.

You Must Be A Misogynist, You Say That Women Aren’t Special!

No-one is special.

No-one should be put on a pedestal because of their gender; men or women.

Equality.

Everyone Deserves to Be Treated Equally! It Is A Basic Human Right!

Please read the book “Animal Farm” by George Orwell and then come back.

Just because we want a thing to be true, doesn’t mean that that is how it happens in practice.

The Queen of England is not and never will be treated as a commoner, and never will be.

It is fundamentally unfair, and will remain so forever, unfortunately.

Only the people that are treated unfairly will rotate over time.

Read some history.

People Keep Telling Me That the Way I Want to Live WIll Make Me Miserable In the Future, What Gives?

They’re trying to drag you down into beta hell.

Misery loves company.

Do you want to join them, or do you want to be great?

Ultimately, the choice is yours.

The bottom line is betas don’t get laid like I do.

Can It Really Be True That the World Doesn’t Care About Me?

Unfortunately, yes.

Especially if you are a man, you are only worth what you provide.

If you give nothing to the world, you will get nothing back.

You’re not special, remember?