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Men are sick and tired of chasing women.

Wouldn’t it be so much easier if you could get them to chase you instead?

But Helios, men are the pursuers!

My son, 

You have never seen the lengths a horny woman will go to chase a man she truly wants.

Once you’ve seen it, you can’t unsee it.

You just need to know how to become a desirable man. 

Once you know how, the chasing begins in earnest!

Lets see if I can’t give you some strategies you can use to become the type of guy women chase…

Strategy 1 – Outcome Independence

Outcome independence is the subtle art of not giving a fuck (Thanks Robert Greene).

What it means is that you don’t care if you fail with any individual girl, your sights are set on creating a roster of women.

Once you have multiple options, you never fear one girl rejecting you or leaving you.

Once you don’t fear rejection, your aura is one of intense confidence.

Women chase that aura!

Cultivate this attitude and you will be chased, I guarantee it:

“I am a valuable man that multiple women want. I don’t care if this specific girl doesn’t want me, there’s another right around the corner.”

Strategy 2 – Don’t Chase, Replace

When a girl does not want to be with you, your response should always be one of nonchalance.

You react to the situation with effortlessness, and immediately turn your sights on another girl.

In the words of the famous Biggie Smalls:

“I don’t chase ‘em, I replace ‘em”

This is related to the idea of having an abundance mentality. Women are everywhere. It doesn’t have to be this one.

When you understand that no individual girl is important, but rather the group of women that you’re interested in, you become irresistible.

Women want what they can’t have. And they can never truly have you when you’re never with only one girl!

Strategy 3 – Never be Monogamous

When I say monogamous, I mean you’re only with one girl.

You should never ever be only with one girl in a relationship. You should have a roster of multiple, concurrent women. 

I don’t mean have 4 girlfriends, no-one with a life has time for that, but maybe you have 1 non-monogamous girlfriend (NMG) and 2 friends with benefits (FWB’s).

If you don’t know how to get those, check out my guide on this very blog!

When your girls know that you’ll never commit to them exclusively they’ll chase you, trying to convince you that they’re better than the rest.

You might even think so, but that shouldn’t stop you from seeing your whole roster.

Having multiple girls is an amazing proposition for a man.

You are now pursued, congrats!

Strategy 4 – Keep Texting to a Minimum

With your whole roster of women, you should only be texting them once a week, and only for logistics (to meet up, and ideally sleep with them).

You should never have long winded text conversations with women, for any reason.

This way, you communicate that you’re a busy guy. You don’t have time for her.

Guess who will try and convince you to make time for her?

If you answered that the girl you’re interested in you will try to convince you to make time, you’d be correct!

Does this sound like the girl chasing you?

Of course it does!

Texting a girl all the time, even if you like her a lot, puts you in the provider(beta) category. 

She knows for sure she has you. She’ll never chase a guy she knows she has for sure.

Strategy 5 – Be Incredible In Bed

Guess how horny the average beta makes a girl?

If you guessed not at all, or barely, you’d be right!

Most guys are terrible in bed. 

Most guys don’t have that much experience sexually. This is because most guys don’t see multiple women at the same time, and so, don’t have practice with many partners.

If you stand out sexually to a woman, she will want to be with you.

Combine this with the other strategies here, and you’ll get chased like crazy. 

Many women want to be with a guy who’s amazing in bed. 

If nothing else, she can brag to their friends about how many orgasms she’s having (preselection for you!).

Practice making your girl cum every time you have sex, even if it’s tedious for you.

Most women cum through clitoral stimulation. 

Whether you have to use your tongue, your fingers, or something else, making her cum should be your goal every time you sleep together.

Girls chase men who make them cum.

With this power you can save the world, one orgasm at a time!

Strategy 6 – Be Confident

Confidence means that you believe in yourself and your abilities.

You believe in your sexual abilities, and your ability to seduce women.

You believe that you’re a stunner and you’re doing women a favour by being with them.

You believe that women are lucky to know you.

You know that you’re a good, hard worker and you deserve the good things you have in your life, including women.

You’ve built yourself to be the best version of yourself you can be (or you’re working on it and you’re proud of yourself)!

Girls chase men who are confident.

Girls chase that.

Strategy 7 – Have a Full Life

You need to have a life that is full of things you enjoy.

You should have a hobby, something you love to do that does not have to do with women.

You should make money, doing something you like that isn’t soul crushing (if you don’t like what you’re doing, look up alternate sources of income).

You should work out at a gym, or do some kind of martial art (in a good class) at least 4 times per week.

When you love your life, your aura of confidence and happiness seeps into everything you do.

Women notice this and are attracted to it.

They will chase you for this!

Ironically, women want you most when you have the least amount of time for them!

A confident man with a full life is incredibly attractive.

Strategy 8 – Be Physically Attractive

Girls don’t chase tubs of lard.

If you’re overweight and lazy, it will translate into your personality and women will be repulsed by it. 

You need to be the best version of yourself and that means working out and improving your body.

You don’t need to be a roided out thug, but you can’t have a dad bod either.

You need to be in the top 20% in terms of physical appearance. 

As I alluded to in another post, that isn’t hard to do, as most people in the west are NPC’s.

Most people are overweight and exercise not at all, or barely exercise.

Believe me when I say that you must work on your appearance if you want women to chase you.

Some people will lie to you and tell you that appearance is not important. I have no such desire.

Work on your body, and see for yourself the results of your hard work in action.

Women chase attractive men. There is no doubt about that.

For women to chase, you must be the best version of yourself, and that includes your body!

Conclusion

So there you have it, 8 easy strategies you can use to instantly become the kind of guy that women chase.

Of course, that they are easy doesn’t mean that they don’t require work.

If you’re coming at this from the starting point of an overweight, valueless beta, you have some work to do.

I’m telling you that you can do it!

Success lies on the other side of the wall. Climb it!

You will love yourself and your life when you do!

-Helios

Many men just want to get laid (I know I do). They don’t want the overhead of having to spend time with a girlfriend.

Our lives are too busy and our dreams are too big at the moment to entertain a GF.

The problem is that many men have no idea how to get a girl into this kind of relationship. 

They only have the advice of their friends, or their mom, who are clueless when it comes to seduction.

Guess what?

Getting a friend with benefits is easy once you know how!

Ask me how I know.

Follow the steps in this guide and you’ll snag yourself an awesome FWB too through online dating!

Here we go, just 9 steps…

Part 1 – Getting Girls on the Date 

Step 1 – Sign Up for Online Dating

I know, I know. Losers everywhere say that online dating doesn’t work. 

Guess what? It does. You just need to do it right!

You need to sign up for every online dating service that works in your area. 

Here is a list of a bunch of online dating sites that have worked well for me in the past:

1. Tinder
2. Bumble
3. Plenty of Fish
4. Coffee Meets Bagel
5. OKCupid
6. Hinge
7. Happn
8. Tagged

Buy the subscription for tinder platinum, bumble and POF, trust me.

Download an auto-swiping app. 

This lets you swipe on all the girls that become available every day, without having to waste time.

Step 2 – Create Your Online Dating Profile

For Tinder, you need some cute joke profile text, something short and funny. You can easily find these online, same with Bumble. 

For POF, OKCupid, Tagged, Hinge and Coffee Meets Bagel you’re going to need a few long paragraphs about yourself that are well written and funny. You can also find these online.

You change them to suit you.

For your pictures:

1. Use only 3 pictures. Each of them must be of you in different environments, ideally not posed and with you being natural. 
2. You should be wearing and doing different things in each picture, but they all must be very high quality. If your pictures are garbage, you’re done. 
3. Get an amateur photographer to take these pictures, pay him if you have to. 

Your pictures are 80% of your success for online dating.

Example amazing tinder picture:

Step 3 – Send Messages to Women You’ve Matched With

The initial message you send online should not be the same one that every other guy sends. 

Don’t just message “hey” or “what’s up”. These will not work.

If you have a call to action and you sign at the end, it will work wonders. Try it!

Example:

“Hey *their name*, you seem fun 🙂 You should message me! – *Your Name*”

It really is as simple as this. You need to put in the numbers, however. You’re not going to set up a meet only messaging 10 girls.

Use the shotgun approach. Send your message to every girl you match with that you find attractive.

Many women will not reply. 

Fear not, this is normal!

Step 4 – Set Up the Meet as Soon as Possible

Many men screw up this step!

They get into a conversation with a girl they find attractive and they keep talking, and talking and talking…

Guess what? 

Talking does not lead to FWB! To get a FWB, you need to meet in person!

You have to pitch the first meet within 3 messages!

If she does not agree to meet with you in person after three messages, she was a timewaster who had no intentions of ever meeting you. 

Congratulations, if a girl stops messaging at this point in the process, you weeded out a girl that would never be your FWB. Rejoice! 

Spend your time on options that are actually interested enough to meet immediately.

Example text exchange:

You: You seem cool ______ 🙂 You should message me! – Your Name

Her: Your Name, you seem cool too!

You: Thanks! If you were stranded on a desert island alone, what would be two things that you would bring with you? I have some good guesses, but I’m sure you know better 🙂

Her: I would bring my dog and a first aid kit.

You: Super cool! We should totally meet up 🙂 How about we meet at *insert place here* at *insert time here*. We’ll go for a chill walk/drink/hangout.

Her: Sure! See you then!

You: Great! Text me at (111) 222 3333

Her: Sure

Notice how I asked for her number after she agreed to meet. This is very important. 

Women prefer you pitch the meet first and then ask for their number later online. 

They’re less freaked out this way, as giving her number is too personal too quickly.

Part 2 – Dating Strategies

Step 5 – Never Get Sexual on the First Date

Guys incorrectly assume that since they got that pretty girl to meet up that they should try to immediately get sexual with her on the first date.

I mean Tinder is a hookup app right?

I’m telling you that unless your first date lasts 9 hours (which it never should), you aren’t getting laid on the first date. 

In fact, trying to get sexual on the first date almost never leads to a FWB!

Counterintuitive right? Often, if you do sleep with a girl on the first date, it will be a one night stand (ONS), and she’ll be gone.

So when Helios, do I get sexual?

Wait a second.

The first step is to do the first date correctly.

Your first date should be no longer than an hour. 

Establishing rapport should be the only goal of your first date.

You want her to feel that warm, tingly feeling she gets when she’s with a new guy she likes. The second she feels it, you end the date.

NO KISSING on the first date either!

Now she wants more!

DO NOT text her the same day of the first date, unless she texts first! Wait until the next morning (9 or 10am is fine).

Step 6 – Finally, We Get to Sex

You text her the next day after you had your first date. Schedule your second date the same way as the first, making sure the second date is scheduled for 1-3 days after the first date.

You should ask her to come to your place for the second date.

Talk about how you’re going to watch a movie together, or cook some food, or play music. Whatever it is that you do at home that’s cool.

Don’t talk about sex through text, ever.

When she gets to your place, don’t be weird. Have good logistics already set up for sex to occur.

You want your apartment or house to be relatively clean and you want the activity you had planned together to be set up.

Once you start your activity and things are going well, you escalate sexually.

Kiss her and then move further, making sure you’re paying attention to her body language. 

If she’s receptive, keep going.

If not, you can slow it down, and try later.

Generally, if she comes to your place, agreeing to be alone together, and you’ve only been on one date, she is signalling interest in sex with you.

Again, watch her body language. If she’s closed and not receptive, obviously, more rapport is required.

If you do have sex, make sure you try and make her orgasm! 

In general, for most women, they achieve orgasm best through clitoral stimulation. 

Your partner may be different. Experiment and see what works. It is very important!

DO NOT let her spend the night. 

That will not lead to a FWB, but a NMG (a non-monogamous girlfriend). You’re looking for a FWB here, right?

Once you’ve slept together once, congratulations, the hardest step to FWB is done. 

It isn’t over yet, however.

Step 7 – Getting to Sex a Second Time

The day after you’ve had sex with a girl the first time, make it extremely clear through text that you had a great time! 

You want to let your girl know that you enjoyed her company and want to see her again.

Do NOT be explicit in your text about you two having sex yesterday. Talk about how you enjoyed your time together.

Once again, you want to schedule a meet at your place. 

Give a different activity that you could do together, and pitch it for 1-3 days from the day you texted her.

Again, it could be cooking something together, playing music, board games, whatever.

Once she comes over to your palace, do exactly what you did the first time you had sex.

Once you’ve had sex a second time, and you’ve made sure that she orgasms, congratulations, only one more step is required!

 Part 3 – Maintaining a FWB Arrangement

Step 8 – Maintaining a FWB frame

Once you have slept with a girl twice, you need to maintain a FWB frame. This means that you cannot do the things that boyfriends (BFs) do. 

The first step to doing this is knowing how to text.

After you have had sex twice, your texts should only be weekly, and only for logistics.

This means you only text to ask her to come to your place to do some activity, with the understanding that it will lead to sex.

Always ask her to come over to do some activity, and never ask her directly to come for sex.

Once you have had sex, she cannot spend the night.

You continue in exactly this fashion until she asks to define the relationship, or she leaves you.

If she does ask you to define the relationship, tell her this:

“I like how things are going, and I would like things to continue as they are. I think we’re great together.”

You never talk about other girls you’re seeing or your arrangement. You just keep messaging her to come to your place, with the implicit understanding of what’s going on.

Congratulations, you have a successful FWB! Now do all of the previous steps two more times in order to get two more 🙂

You now have a successful polyamorous lifestyle! All you need to do now is not get jealous when she sleeps with other men!

You don’t care right? You have other girls!

Step 9 – Boomerang

Many girls, after some months of FWB, and you not wanting to be their boyfriend will ghost you without drama, and go get a boyfriend, or whatever.

You should NEVER chase them.

If they tell you they’ve found a boyfriend, or don’t want to see you for whatever reason, your reply through text should be no reply.

Wait 4-6 months and text them again like nothing happened. She will boomerang back to you and continue the FWB like nothing happened.

Often, something went wrong with the boyfriend.

Humans are not monogamous, so don’t worry. She’ll be back!

Conclusion

Getting a FWB from online dating is easy once you know how.

Keep these things in mind:

1. Your pictures are 80% of your success online.
2. Don’t get sexual on the first date
3. Once you’ve had sex twice, text her only once per week, for logistics
4. If she leaves, don’t worry, she’ll boomerang back in 4-6 months!

Keep in mind the hardest part of creating a FWB arrangement is sleeping with a girl the first time two times. Once that has happened, it is relatively smooth sailing.

Keep these things in mind, and go create a beautiful polyamorous lifestyle for yourself!

Good luck!

-Helios

Ever had a girl react differently to you even though you did the exact same things you did with another girl?

When I was a younger seducer I had this problem, and I’m sure you have too…

Many men wonder why women are so different and difficult.

They have struggled, and messed up with women because they didn’t treat them the way they wanted to be treated.

What if I told you that the reason that you made this mistake was partly to do with the phase of life she’s in?

With this post here, I’ve simplified women into three easy age phases. They’re all different and need to be approached differently in terms of relationships. 

Ready to find out what they are?

Look no further!

Alt text: A girl in her rockstar phase. Good luck tying a girl like this down!

The Three Phases of Women by Age

1. 18-23: Rockstar/Party Phase (RP)
2. 24-29: Strong Independent Woman Phase (SIP)
3. 30+: Lady Phase (LP)

Yep, just three.

And you have to have different relationship strategies for each one!

1. Rockstar Phase (RP):

For some girls, this phase hits earlier, for some it hits later, but basically, in this phase, an attractive or even relatively attractive girl is treated like the average male rockstar. 

She gets boatloads of attention and gets things for free. Guys offer her the world and instant commitment. Some guys offer to fly her across the world just to hang out, etc. Other women are jealous and want to be her (especially women in the lady phase).

Girls in the rockstar phase are impossible to control (not that anybody is controllable, really). 

They have so much relationship power, you can do little to stop it. They can do whatever they like, with whoever they like, with impunity. Some girls don’t know it, but that doesn’t stop the reality of their situation.

Many women in this phase do drugs, drink heavily or sleep around heavily. They will do this whether you judge them or not, and categorize it under “discovering themselves”. 

You cannot stop this because you dislike it, they’ll do it because they have the power to do it. As the famous saying goes:

“Those with power, use that power”

Acknowledging reality is a huge step towards success, don’t deny that women have power in this phase or resent them for it. It is simply how it is.

2. Strong Independent Woman Phrase (SIP):

In this phase, women have usually completed university, or have had lots of societal programming from their experiences in the world, TV, social media, etc. 

They are much more rational than rockstar phase women. This does not mean that they are necessarily rational, as many women use their emotions for their reasoning system, but it is certainly better than a teenager (and many girls in the RP phase act just like teenagers do).

Often, they stop doing drugs or whatever crazy stuff they were doing in their rockstar phase, but they still miss it. 

They are often looking for a more serious type relationship, but not always. Depending on the woman, they might have a lot of baggage at this point, but it really does depend on the girl and her environment.

Some women pretend they’re not in this phase and continue their rockstar phase all throughout 18-29. These would be the exceptionally attractive women (again, there are always exceptions).

Alt text: An educated hot girl. A true strong, independent woman. Not so wild and crazy anymore, but she wishes she could be! Is that a wedding ring on her finger?

3. Lady Phase (LP):

Many women in this phase have had it with their crazy life and want to “settle down”. They don’t “do that anymore, they’re a lady”. 

All the crazy stuff of their youth, including flings are quickly tossed aside for the ever important biological clock.

Many women in this phase feel like their time is running out, and they desperately need to have a kid and get married (shotgun marriages anyone?).

But Helios! These Categories Are So different!

Obviously, these categories are incredibly different, and so you need to consider that only certain relationship strategies are going to be good at these different phases.

What Kinds of Relationships Should I Have With Women?

Well, that depends on the phase they’re in.

Let me reiterate:

1. 18-23: Rockstar/party Phase (RP)
2. 24-29: Strong Independent Woman Phase (SIP)
3. 30+: Lady Phase (LP)

1. 18-23: Rockstar/Party Phase (RP) – Relationship Strategy

For RP girls, the best relationship strategy is FWB. 

With a friends with benefits arrangement, you don’t have to worry about her seeing other guys (she will, whether she’s your girlfriend or not monogamous guys). Instead, you can enjoy the radiant beauty of a RP girl, and the horniness she instills in you, without any of the dramatic downsides (she cheated on me with a guy from the football team!).

I know, it’s hard for alpha males to accept that your girl isn’t your girl, but ultimately, the world doesn’t care about your feelings. 

Also, humans don’t start being monogamous just because you want them to be.

Humans are not monogamous, accept it and move on. 

When that beautiful 18-23 year old sees that you really don’t care who she sees or what she does, it takes all of the pressure off her. 

You know what lack of pressure does to a girl? It makes her relax!

When she’s relaxed and comfortable around you, while still being sexually attracted and she sees you’re non-needy that leads to exactly what you think:

Sex, and lots of it!

A lot of you guys are gonna complain that you can’t have any kind of serious relationship with a young girl with this strategy.

I’m here to tell you that if you’re looking for a serious relationship with a girl in the RP phase you’re going to be slapped by reality pretty hard and pretty fast. 

You can’t hold a girl in the RP phase for a long time, in any kind of relationship arrangement, including FWB (you can probably hold her around 4-12 months, depending on the girl). 

She’s gonna flit from flower to flower whatever you do.

If you maintain an attractive, non-needy alpha frame, however, she’ll boomerang back to you, often multiple times.

2. 24-29 Strong Independent Phase (SIP) Girls – Relationship Strategy

For SIP girls, it’s your choice of FWB (friends with benefits) or NMG (non-monogamous dating or non-monogamous girlfriend). 

If you truly want to have a stable NMG (non-monogamous girlfriend) situation, the minimum age the girl must be is around 25. 

Before then, she will certainly be seeing multiple guys and “finding herself” (of course, there are always exceptions). 

If she is younger than 25 and you have somehow convinced her to be monogamous with you, she will always wonder “what could have been”. 

That resentment will break a relationship. Ask me how I know.

Often, SIP girls will have two guys. They are more realistic about life and realize that they want the sex of an alpha and the providership of a beta.

Which do you want to be?

Obviously, you’re here, so I know. 

You want what I want, which is to have a regular supply of sex without the drama and emotional ups and downs of tying sex to one person.

Often, your relationships with an SIP girl will start as an FWB and within three months they’ll try and define the relationship.

Some girls will try and lock you down into a monogamous relationship (which of course, you should deny). 

Others will ask you to define the relationship and you can tell them that you really like them but will remain non-monogamous forever and it is not because of her.

You can then explain how society has brainwashed us into believing that we should be monogamous when non-monogamy is actually what will make all of us happy. 

Some women will never ask you to be monogamous, sleep with you, and get a boyfriend on the side. 

Congrats, you are in the sexzone!

DO NOT be jealous. 

The other guy is the beta she uses for gifts, companionship, complaining, taxi services and showing off to her friends, while giving him duty/pity sex.

Unfortunately, in this life we were only given the choice of being a sexzone guy or a friendzone guy. You cannot be both.

3. 30+: Lady Phase (LP) – Relationship Strategy

For LP girls, most will never accept a FWB. 

They may accept an NMG if you are very attractive, but you’ll find that you have to go on 4 or 5 dates before you ever sleep with them if not more, and you’ll have to jump through hoops for sure.

There is an exception to this, which some of you (and me) have experienced. 

If you are a young 20-something guy and you go after a cougar (a girl in LP), you may sleep with them as early as the first date!

What gives?

To an LP woman, she’ll never consider you for a serious relationship if you’re a lot younger than her. 

This means that the only thing she’s considering you for is sex!

This is often how more beta guys or newer players get their first FWB (the case for me for sure).  

LP girls are often not looking for extremely masculine alpha males, and less calibrated players do tend to come off as less masculine, by virtue of their inexperience.

To you older men who are worried about older women being notoriously difficult to seduce and not worth the effort, don’t worry!

There are women who specifically like older, attractive men, so if you keep yourself in shape, you’ll be slaying forever, albeit at a slower rate than when you were a young buck (not that you’ll mind when you have that young 20-something on your arm).

Why the hell are older women harder to seduce than younger women?

LP girls often have made an amalgam at this point in their life. 

An amalgam is a guy who is the fusion of all the best guys she’s ever been with, and if you don’t beat her amalgam you’ll never sleep with her. 

Some guys like the challenge though!

What if I want to get married, or want something more serious than an NMG?

If you want that, you’re going to have to go for a SNMG (serious non-monogamous girlfriend) or OM (open marriage) arrangement. 

Conclusion

To sum it up, women have three different life phases.

Once again, they are:

1. 18-23: Rockstar/party Phase (RP)
2. 24-29: Strong Independent Woman Phase (SIP)
3. 30+: Lady Phase (LP)

You should date women differently depending on the phase of life they’re in.

Doing this will maximize your happiness, and theirs.

Good luck!

-Helios

Traditional relationships are garbage.

Most people in traditional relationships (as defined by society) are miserable. Don’t believe me? Ask them! 

Ask them behind closed doors, away from prying ears and you’ll hear the truth. Most wish they never did it, or wish there was another way.

Here is what I mean when I say traditional relationships for men:

1. Having a traditional, monogamous girlfriend (GF)
2. Being in a traditional, monogamous marriage (TMM)

If you’re in a traditional relationship in the west, you’re doing it wrong!

For many people, however, it wasn’t their fault. They simply did not know that other options existed. They went by their societal programming, and what their parents (especially their mom) taught them, and ended up there.

So what are other options to traditional relationships?

Alt text: A 1950’s drawing of a traditional nuclear family. A standard, traditional relationship style that no longer works in the west.

A Better Way than Traditionalism

Many of you are wondering, I’m sure, how you can replace traditional relationships with a different model, something that works better for you.

Many men are pissed that they have to rely on the whims of one woman to get laid. This is one of the fundamental problems of traditional relationships.

Many men also have higher sex drives than the women they are with, and are simply not satisfied sexually with the sexual quantity that their partner provides them, even if they are sexual with each other.

Well, have I got some alternatives for you!

Here are three amazing ones: 

1. Friends with Benefits (FWB)
2. Non-monogamous girlfriends (NMG)
3. Serious non-monogamous girlfriends (SNMG)/ Open Marriages (OM)

These alternative relationships fix many of the problems that traditional relationships impose upon men.

They solve the sex problem, that’s for sure, but they also improve many women’s behaviour. I’ll explain in a sec.

Alternative 1 – Friends with Benefits (FWB)

Exactly what it sounds like, you’re friends, and you’re sleeping together, but there isn’t anything more serious to the relationship than this. 

The girl either knows you’re with other girls, or suspects and doesn’t care. Very often, with FWB’s, you don’t have to tell the girl you’re seeing about other girls. You date, and sleep together, have some casual conversation, and go your separate ways.

Obviously, if you have multiple FWBs you get all your sexual appetite satisfied, with none of the drama of sexual denial. It is very easy for you to stop seeing a girl who you’re only sleeping with and don’t know that well.

With a FWB, you only meet up and sleep together with very casual hanging out, there is no relationship stuff, really.

The true power of the FWB arrangement is that many women are held at threatpoint in this kind of relationship, very similarly to how men are held at threatpoint in a marriage.

The girl knows that if she misbehaves or is too annoying, you’ll instantly drop her for your other options, stated or not. This parallels marriage exactly. In marriage, men know if they step too far out of line, their entire life is gone, axed by divorce.

Notice however, that in a FWB arrangement, the woman simply loses access to an attractive man, and no loss of money or property happens. Which arrangement is worse for the other partner?

Certainly FWBs are not destructive the way TMM is.

The woman enters into a FWB arrangement knowing what’s going to happen, and no real loss, other than hurt feelings happen at the end of an FWB. It is almost always a clean break.

Something interesting also happens in FWB arrangements that many men, including myself,  have noticed: 

Women often ghost out of FWB arrangements. No drama-intense breakup occurs.

What this means for you, is that if you’re a drama-hating guy (and many men are), FWBs are amazing for you!

Something even more amazing often happens: 

If a girl ghosts out of an FWB with you, she’s bound to boomerang later. 

The strategy is simply to not message her ever for 4-6 months and then re-contact her. She will very often agree to a meet and sleep with you again like nothing happened. You can then resume the FWB, no problem!

What this means is, ironically, FWB’s are some of the most stable long-term arrangements you can get!

Over time, you can have a woman and in fact, several women for many years, albeit with small breaks as they try other guys and inevitably realise that you were the best of them.

The only problem with FWB arrangements is jealousy on the part of men (women are often not as jealous). Men often wreck FWBs by trying to control them.

Don’t.

Let her flit from flower to flower while you remain the rock and she will come back over and over. Many women desire stability, and will come back to you just to feel that sense of non-judgment and love that only an alpha like you can provide.

Important Note: She isn’t allowed to spend the night in this arrangement. It blurs the lines too much. Keep that in mind.

Some guys don’t like how casual this is, so here is an alternative for you guys who want something more serious…

Alternative 2 – Non-monogamous Girlfriend (NMG)

After about three months of FWB, most girls will ask to define the relationship. They’ll ask you something like “what are we”, or “where do we stand?”

If you don’t want something more serious, simply say “I like how things are going with us and I’d like things to continue like this”.

If you want something more serious, you have to have “the talk” with a girl.

You’ll have to tell her something like this:

“I like you very much, but I need you to know that I will always be with multiple women. You are totally allowed to want to be with someone who isn’t like this, but it will not be me. Of course, if you’re with me and you want to be with other men, you’re free to do what you want, I will not force you to be monogamous with me”

If she still wants to be with you, congratulations, you’re now in an NMG situation! 

Some girls will refuse and leave at this point, but it doesn’t matter, you had multiple girls anyway, right?

With an NMG situation, you are doing relationship stuff together, but not everything. 

Here are some examples of things you do in an NMG:

1. You “go out” together, as in, you watch movies, go to museums, restaurants, parties, etc.
2. You hang out at your place
3. You go on trips together, such as hiking and rock-climbing
4. You hang out with your friends and your NMG comes with you
5. You can let her spend the night at your place
6. You text her occasionally, to meet up

As you can see, many of these are exactly things that you would do with a GF, but here are some things you NEVER do with an NMG.

Here is a list to NEVER do:

1. Lend her money
2. Carry her purse
3. Go shopping with her (to buy things she wants)
4. Buy her expensive things
5. Introduce her to your parents
6. Tell her you love her
7. Text her every day

These are all things that put you in the beta/provider category. Once you’re firmly there, the disrespect begins and she’ll replace you with you, the guy she initially fell in lust with.

With a NMG, you get the best of both worlds. You can have a more serious relationship, while still being able to see and sleep with other women.

There is also the benefit of potentially having threesomes in this arrangement. Some of your NMGs will want to sleep with their acquaintances who are women, and you can happily oblige, benefitting from your non-monogamous and accepting frame.

Of course, even with an NMG, you have to be alright with her sleeping with other guys. 

You cannot hold a woman in a one-sided non-monogamous relationship.

As much as the harem fantasy exists in men, know that it is only maintainable for about a year before it breaks, and “your” woman feels heavy resentment.

Ask me how I know.

Here is a super important point:

Jealousy management is key to both FWB and NMG arrangements. In fact, if you can learn to control your natural male instinct to mate guard, you can get laid like you never imagined.

Always keep your non-needy, non-judgmental frame. Also make sure that you don’t give her details about other girls you’re seeing. You can tell her that you’ll always be with other girls, but no more. Details lead to super drama.

But Helios, what if I found that one special girl who isn’t like the rest and I want to get married?

If you get into a TMM (traditional monogamous marriage) arrangement with any girl, the word idiot isn’t good enough for you. You’re too far gone for advice at that point. Do you really want to sign your life on that dotted line?

There is no one special girl, but there are some that you can go even further with than NMG with.

Let’s explore that next!

Alternative 3 – Serious Non-Monogamous Girlfriend (SNMG) / Open Marriage (OM) Arrangement

Serious Non-Monogamous Girlfriends and Open Marriages are for older men only!

Let me repeat this two more times.

Serious Non-Monogamous Girlfriends and Open Marriages are for older men only!

Serious Non-Monogamous Girlfriends and Open Marriages are for older men only!

Seriously Helios? I can’t have a girlfriend until I’m older? 

I didn’t say that. Have as many NMGs as you like, but nothing more serious!

Helios, how old is old?

The minimum age for an SNMG or OM for a man is 35, though I would recommend 40.

But Helios! She’s 19, and I took her virginity and she loves me and says she always will!

Honeymoon phase, my son. Also, you can’t hold a teenager in a stable, serious arrangement.

Women are dream killers. 

Once you have a girl in a serious arrangement, you will make no more progress in life, especially if you have kids. Your time will be spent managing that relationship and spending money on kids.

No more travelling, or dreaming big.

I mean, that isn’t strictly true. If you use my SNMG/OM model, you still can do these things, but you’ll have a financial chain regardless (your children) that will hold you for at least 20 years if not more.

Here are some things to consider if you want a SNMG or OM:

1. You need a parenting plan, signed by a lawyer
2. All your finances should be separate
3. All property is owned by either one person, or the other, never both
4. Prenup
5. Divorce allocations should be determined before marriage, in the prenup
6. No co-leases/co-financing of anything
7. The man needs a logistical way to sleep with other women discreetly without super drama (a small apartment, or other venue)

And on top of that you need to be able to maintain frame and a positive disposition while living with the girl too.

Something very important about OM’s and SNMG’s is that you both agree to some rules. You can’t both do everything you want anymore. Here are the rules for an SNMG/OM:

1. You both can sleep with other people, but nothing more. No dates, no romantic dinners, no long strolls by the beach, no activities together, nothing. Just sex.
2. You both agree to certain rules around the house, such as who has to do which chores, and stick to it (on the basis of income)
3. You live together, but the lease/mortgage is only in one person’s name

SNMGs and OMs are not for the lighthearted, that’s for sure.

But Helios, if I just stay alpha and hold frame well enough, I can hold a girl in a TMM!

Yeah, you’re a fool. Humans are not monogamous. Life is not fair, deal with it!

How Old Should the Girl Be if I’m Considering a SNMG or OM with Her?

For an SNMG or OM, the absolute youngest a girl can be is 25, though I would recommend 27.

She’s too busy discovering herself, or being strong and independent before then.

The girl should be stable in her love of you and should not overly piss you off. You should also have some activities you both like doing together.

She should be alright with you sleeping with other women, and you should be alright with her sleeping with other men.

Conclusion

Traditional relationships, defined as the regular GF or TMM (traditional monogamous) relationships are terrible for men.

You should instead choose relationships that work better for you.

They are:

1. FWBs (friend with benefits)
2. NMGs (non-monogamous girlfriends)
3. SNMGs/OMs (serious non-monogamous girlfriends/open marriages)

These relationships can actually lead to long term, stable happiness!

Never sign your life on that dotted line…

Good luck 🙂

-Helios

Helios, woe is me, I’m in the friendzone, what will I ever do?

Does this sound like you?

I’m here to help!

Many guys struggle with the friendzone (or the provider zone, or the beta zone).

I’m here to teach you how to never be put in that box again.

But first, let me explain why you’re in that box in the first place.

Let’s go on a journey to the land of alpha and beta…

Alt text: A guy hugging a girl that just had a baby, with another guy. Oh god don’t let this ever be you…

Why You’re In the Friendzone 

Part 1 – The Different Kinds of Men 

There are three kinds of men: 

1. Alphas
2. Betas
3. Undesirables (Omegas)

Let’s talk a bit about each one of these, so you understand why the friendzone is even a thing.

Alphas: 

Alphas are the kings of the male hierarchy, women want them and men want to be them.

They are the winners.

Often they are attractive and non-needy. 

Alphas impose their will on situations and are usually charismatic. 

Alphas will often have multiple women, or at least, multiple women are interested in them.

These guys are quite experienced with women and can keep their cool around them, for the most part.

Alphas are risk takers and for the most part don’t fear rejection.

To women, alphas are extremely attractive.

Betas:

Betas are second-in-line in terms of the male hierarchy.

They are often quite intelligent, but clueless when it comes to behaviour around women.

They are often inexperienced and risk averse.

They have the ability to be alpha with some practice usually.

To women, betas are almost attractive. 

Some women settle for betas, but don’t enjoy the experience (duty sex anyone?).

Undesirables (Omegas):

These men are such losers in terms of sexual dynamics that they literally don’t exist to women.

They might as well be invisible.

Undesirables sometimes have debilitating conditions which make them unable to be even somewhat attractive (and it is a crying shame that they’re never given a chance), or they’ve given up on life, such that they’ve let everything go, and thus are not competitive in any way, in any field.

If you fall into the omega category, know that it isn’t impossible to get out, it is simply MORE effort than for a beta.

Alt text: The three types of men. Alphas, betas and omegas. Top, close to top, and losers.

Part 2 – The Type of Man that Gets Put in the Friend Zone

Only one category of man gets put in the friend zone: The Beta

Alphas get put in the sex or date zone immediately, but betas just missed the mark with that girl, for whatever reason.

As a result, she holds the guy as a backup, but he was never in the actual running to have sex with her.

What this means is the following:

If you are in the friendzone, you were just not alpha enough for that particular girl. You almost met her alpha criteria, but not quite.

There is a huge problem here for men. 

The problem is this:

If you are put in the friendzone, there is less than a 10% chance you can break out.

Once a woman has categorized you as a beta. You’re done. You have practically no sexual chance with that girl.

There is a silver lining to this, however:

If you are constantly being put in the friendzone by multiple women, it means that you’re NOT in the undesirable category.

You are desirable, you simply need to change a few behaviours to be put in the datezone/sexzone (alpha category) instead.

Let me show you how!

Alt text: This is Freddy Mercury. If you had his inspirational godly confidence, you’d be an alpha too!

Part 3 – Comparing Alphas and Betas

Before I show you how to break out of the friendzone, let me put some alpha and beta behaviours side by side to show you how they’re different.

Keep in mind that when you do beta behaviours, you signal to a woman that you’re almost good enough for her sexzone. 

If you’re beta, you’d be a good provider for her later, when she’s sick of all that alpha dick.

Sound like something you want? I didn’t think so!

Here are some typical beta traits (things to avoid at all costs):

1. Getting stuck on one specific girl
2. Being timid
3. Being overly available
4. Kissing up to women
5. Doing whatever a woman tells them
6. Texting the girl he likes all the time
7. Spending too much non-sexual time with women they like
8. Talking to women about their guy troubles
9. Doing no exercise
10. Being overly emotional
11. Having no life or real hobbies

Here are some typical alpha traits, by contrast:

1. Sleeping with multiple women
2. Being confident
3. Being unavailable (including emotionally)
4. Is who he is, regardless of the woman he’s with
5. Does what he wants to do, regardless of what the woman he’s with wants
6. Not being available to text except for logistics
7. Spending his time having sex with women he likes
8. Does not talk to a girl about her guy problems
9. Exercises frequently (at the gym or a good martial arts/boxing dojo)
10. Is unemotional/stoic
11. Lives a fulfilling, great life 

So, how do you break out of the friendzone?

That is an interesting question…

Alt text:I don’t always get friendzoned, but when I do, I get benefits. -Dos Equis 🙂

Breaking Out of the Friendzone

I have bad news.

If a woman has put you in the friendzone, you only have a 10% chance of success.

But it CAN work.

Here are the steps to breaking out of the friendzone…

Alt text: A jacked dude bending the bars of the cage he’s in. Perhaps he doesn’t want to be a beta anymore?

Step 1 to Breaking Out of the Friendzone – Ghost the Girl You Want to Fuck for 6 Months

WHAT?

Helios, you just said I get to sleep with her, what do you mean I have to ghost her?

Right now, my son, you’re in the friendzone.

She needs time to forget about you.

The first step to breaking out of the friendzone is ghosting the girl you want to sleep with for at least 6 months.

NEVER contact her, even if she texts you. NO CONTACT. None.

And now, it begins, the hard part…

Step 2 to Breaking Out of the Friendzone – Work on Yourself

Wait, what?

I thought Helios, that there was an easy way to break out of the friendzone!

There is.

Once you’ve been friendzoned, just go sleep with another girl. You have a much better chance at sex with a new woman, who you can make a better impression on. 

Just cut your losses.

But if you really want that one, you’re going to have to improve yourself.

All of those beta things you were doing with that one special girl?

You need to train yourself to never do those again.

Here is that list again.

List of behaviors to DELETE:

1. Getting stuck on your one special girl
2. Being timid
3. Being overly available
4. Kissing up to her
5. Doing whatever she tells you
6. Texting her all the time
7. Spending too much non-sexual time with her
8. Talking about her guy troubles with her
9. Doing no exercise
10. Being overly emotional
11. Having no life or real hobbies

You have to delete all your bad habits! Here’s a list of what to replace them with…

You replace those behaviours with:

1. Sleeping with multiple women
2. Being confident
3. Being unavailable (including emotionally)
4. Being who you are, regardless of what women want
5. Doing what you want to do, regardless of what women want
6. Not being available to text except for logistics
7. Spending your time having sex with women you like
8. Not ever talking about her guy troubles with her
9. Exercising frequently (at the gym or a good martial arts/boxing dojo)
10. Being unemotional/stoic
11. Living a fulfilling great life 

6 months later, you message that one special girl again.

If you’ve worked on all the areas in the alpha category, congratulations, you’re no longer the beta she knew.

At this point, you probably have a roster of 2-3 other women that you’re sleeping with that see you as their amazing alpha. Congrats. The confidence that instills in a man is amazing!

This brings me to the next part! The true hard part of breaking out of the friendzone…

Alt text: That one special girl. The one you’d do anything for that friendzoned you. Time to break out!

Step 3 to Breaking Out of the Friendzone – Fighting her Frame

You thought it was over right? 

Once you’ve worked on yourself and become a different person, you thought that the sex would come on tap?

Wrong.

Despite all your work, effort and strategy, she STILL won’t believe you’re this new person.

If you’ve recently changed your personality, she’s going to throw every shit test in the world at you.

She’s going to try and piss you off. 

She’s going to talk about other guys.

She’s going to try and text you all the time.

She’s going to complain about her guy trouble to you.

She’s going to say that you’re not this alpha guy and she hates who you’ve become (guilt).

Everything she’s doing has one purpose:

If you’ve changed your personality, she shit tests because she’s trying to pull you back to your older loser self. She wants you to be the man who kisses her ass and does everything she wants.

If you do? You’re done.

And not only are you done with her, but with all her friends too. She’s going to tell them ALL about what a fake you are.

Hold strong to your new self!

Tough right?

If you manage to hold, THEN you can turn her into your friend with benefits (FWB)!

Here’s how…

Alt text: You’ve passed all of her tests. Now it’s time to turn her into a friend with benefits!

Turning that One Special Girl into a Friend With Benefits (FWB)

Step 1 to Turning that One Special Girl into a FWB –  Setting up the First Date

I’m sure I have some of you guys foaming at the mouth with such a bold flip of the script.

Here’s how you turn her into your FWB.

Step 1 is simple.

You ask her to meet for a first date at some neutral place like a coffee shop.

Text only for logistics (don’t have any long conversations about meeting up, just tell her the time and place).

Here’s an example of a text script you could use to set up this first date:

You: Hey, what’s up?

Her: Nm, you?

You: I’m doing fantastic! What you get up to this week?

Her: I went for a hike by the ravine and got a new puppy!

You: Awesome, is he cute? We should totally meet up! How about we meet at *insert place here* at *insert time here*. We’ll go for a chill walk/we’ll grab a coffee, etc.

Her: Sure!

Simple as that.

Alt text: This hot girl agreed to go on a first date with you, and you’re not in the friendzone anymore. Amazing!

Step 2 to Turning that One Special Girl into a FWB –  First Date Strategy

On the first date, you CANNOT do anything sexual.

Helios, why are you torturing me like this?

Unless you want this to be a one-time-thing (ONS), and her to bounce, you cannot do anything sexual on the first date.

Instead, you have a short date for about an hour, where your only goal is to establish rapport. 

You want her to feel that warm, fuzzy feeling she gets when she meets a new guy she’s interested in.

Once she gets that, cut the date short.

Congratulations, now she wants more!

DO NOT text her the same day as your first date unless she messages first.

You can text her the next morning. 

The real fun can begin now…

Alt text: You just had an amazing first date with this stunner! You lucky guy, you 🙂

Step 3 to Turning that One Special Girl into a FWB –  Second Date Strategy

Message her the next morning after your great first date. Tell her how you enjoyed it. Set up another date for 1-3 days from now.

This time, invite her to your place.

You DO NOT tell her you’re going to have sex.

Just say you’re going to watch a movie, or play a boardgame, or listen to music, or play guitar, whatever.

Once she’s at your place, make sure everything is set up.

Your place should be relatively clean and the activity that you want to do together should be set up.

Start doing the activity that you had planned.

When things are going well, escalate sexually.

Watch her body language! If she’s receptive, finally, you can have sex with her.

Try and make her orgasm!

I don’t care how long it takes, or what you have to use, try!

Most women achieve orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Use your tongue, your fingers, anything that works. Take as long as you need!

She CANNOT spend the night. That would lead to an NMG (non-monogamous girlfriend), and you don’t want that, you want a FWB right?

Almost done, but not quite…

Alt text: You finally slept with the girl of your dreams, congrats! It’s not over yet!

Step 4 to Turning that One Special Girl into a FWB –  Third Date Strategy

Text her the very next day. Make it very clear how much you enjoyed the time you spent yesterday.

Be very nice! DO NOT MENTION SEX.

Set up your next date for 1-3 days from now, inviting her to your place again.

Invite her to do an activity again, and do not mention sex in the text.

Do exactly the same thing on this date as the second. 

Do the activity you had planned, when it’s going well, escalate sexually.

Try and make her orgasm again.

SHE STILL CAN’T SPEND THE NIGHT. Or any night, for that matter. FWB’s don’t spend the night.

Congratulations, all of the hard steps are now done!

She is your FWB now and you only need to do one more thing to continue the arrangement…

Alt text: You’ve slept with this gorgeous girl twice? Without offering her commitment! Amazing. Almost done!

Step 5 to Turning that One Special Girl into a FWB –  Relationship Management

All that remains now is relationship management.

You need to slow down the texts now. 

From this point on, you text once per week, and ONLY for logistics.

You message her to come to your place and do some activity. Each time, it leads to sex.

You repeat this as long as you want!

After about three months, she is going to want to define the relationship. If you want it to continue as a FWB, you say:

“I really like how things are between us, I’d like things to continue as they are.”

If she agrees, good.

If she disagrees and leaves you, DO NOT CHASE!

She will boomerang back to you. Just don’t text her for 4-6 months, then reinitiate contact like nothing happened and invite her to your place again.

And that’s it!

Alt text: You lucky dog. Look at how this gorgeous girl is looking at you! What a great friend with benefits you are!

Conclusion

The reason you’re put in the friendzone is because you’re demonstrating beta qualities. 

Beta qualities disqualify you from a sexual relationship, and put you in the friendzone.

Alphas and betas are different, and you need to embody alpha qualities if you want to get laid.

If you want to break out of the friendzone, and turn a girl into your FWB, you first have to ghost her for a minimum of 6 months.

You then change yourself for the better and reinitiate contact later.

At that point, you seduce her, making sure that you don’t do anything sexual on the first date.

Once she’s your FWB, don’t worry about her leaving you, she’ll boomerang back later.

Good luck, and I hope this post helped you solve the friendzone problem!

Godspeed!

-Helios

Ah, the shit test.

I’ll bet you’ve never even heard of these!

Shit tests are extremely common.

I can guarantee you that you’ve been shit tested before. All men have been.

You just had no idea the game that was being played right beneath your nose…

Shit tests are where attraction can be built, or destroyed.

Before we dive into the details, let me take you back in time to the early 2000’s…

The History of the Discovery of Shit Tests

“Why Helios do we have to talk about history?

I just wanna get to the fun sex part!”

“My son, those that don’t learn from history are doomed to repeat it.”

Here is the story of Mystery and Style:

In the early 2000’s, there were some weirdos in Toronto that wanted to get laid.

They were called Mystery and Neil Strauss (Style).

Back then, there was no internet, or online dating. Certainly not how we have it now.

This meant that men who wanted to get laid had to go out to the bar (nightgame), or talk to women on the street (daygame).

These men, Mystery and Style, dressed very flamboyantly when they went out (Freddy Mercury style) in order to attract attention.

Obviously, they stuck out like sore thumbs with their peacocking and got made fun of like crazy, especially by women.

Here’s the thing though…

When they refused to bend to the women making fun of them, the women became attracted,  even interested in these weirdos.

Mystery and Style had an expression for the women shit-talking them to try and get them to balk.

Shit Tests!

What if I told you that you can look, dress and act however you want?

It’s true! You can. 

All you need is the ability to deflect bullshit people throw at you as a result of how you dress or act.

Once you’ve mastered the art of deflection, or verbal jiu-jitsu (thanks David D.), you’ll be unstoppable!

You’ll be like the OG’s, Mystery and Style…

Now we can get to the bread and butter of the matter. 

What are shit tests?

Understanding Shit Tests

Part 1 – Some Ancient History

A long time ago, when humans were still living tribally trying to eke out a living hunting animals in a world full of disease and danger, the test of whether you were an alpha or not was every day.

If you lived, you were alpha; if you died, better luck next time. 

Obviously if you died your genes didn’t pass on.

We still carry the genes of those hunters in us. 

Thank them! 

They’re the reason we like seducing women so much (it is just like hunting, isn’t it?).

As humanity became more advanced, and we became masters of our environment, the matter of survival was no longer in question.

Now, women had much greater choice in their reproductive partner, as many more men were surviving.

The problem was, they had no way to determine who was an alpha and who was beta anymore.

Thus, for good or ill, there evolved a cultural system for the determination of alpha and beta.

This is gonna blow you away:

Women evolved a system of teaching children how to act and behave.

From a young age, children were taught to treat women “respectfullÿ” or as a “woman should be treated”.

Let me translate this womanese for you:

From a young age, men are indoctrinated to FOLLOW THE ORDERS OF THEIR FEMALE MASTERS.

This is the system by which alpha and beta is determined. Do you see how simple it is?

Let me spell it out for you…

If you bend to the will of your female masters, and treat women as they tell you they want to be treated. You are BETA.

If you instead, treat women as they ACTUALLY want to be treated, and not how they SAY they want to be treated, you are alpha.

So what is a shit test?

Now we can actually talk about it…

Part 2 – What is a Shit Test?

A shit test is a girl asking you a question in womanese whether you’re alpha or not.

If you “get it”, and respond appropriately, you’re alpha and pass!

If you fail, you’re a beta.

Fail too many shit tests and attraction plummets like a stone.

No attraction, no sex.

The key to understanding how to pass shit tests is to understand the subcommunication underneath the message.

This is all sounding very esoteric at this point, so let me give you some actual examples so you can understand what I’m talking about.

Here’s a confidence booster for you: If a girl is shit testing you, it means she’s interested! You have a real chance of sleeping with this girl! Well done.

Part 3 – Some Examples of Shit Tests

Here is a list of some common shit tests. I’ve put them into categories, so when you encounter something similar, you know what you’re up against

1. Insults to your appearance:

• “Sorry, I don’t sleep with guys under 6 feet tall.”
• “You have moobs.”
• “You must have a really small dick.”

2. Insults about something you own:

“Eww, you play nintendo?”

“What’s with that jacket, those shoes, etc.”

“That hat though…”

3. Insults about your abilities:

“That was lame, you couldn’t even score that goal!”

“You couldn’t catch that ball if you tried!”

etc.

4. Situational shit tests:

You trip, and she makes fun of you

You stub your toe, slip on ice, etc.

You have trouble opening a jar and she laughs, etc.

You should be happy if you’re being shit tested. It means that you now have the opportunity to pass it and gain attraction. 

If you’re passing shit tests well, you’ll get laid!

Part 4 – How to Pass Shit Tests

There are two common ways to pass shit tests.

Here they are:

1. Agree and amplify
2. Reframe

1 – Agree and Amplify

Agree and amplify is a powerful technique that works extremely well on girls shit-testing you.

The idea is that you take what she says and make it ridiculous.

In this way, you’ve diffused her shit test, and even made a joke out of it!

Here is an example of agree and amplify:

Her: Your car has more scratches than an old record

You: You’re right, it’s the most scratched bangpad around!

Her: *Giggles*

Shit test passed!

And another!

Her: You’re an asshole!

You: I know, I’m the worst!

Her: At least you admit it

Shit test passed!

You’d be surprised how magically effective agree and amplify is. Try it!

2 – Reframe

Reframing is the idea of changing what she’s saying to suit you.

It is a type of verbal jiu-jitsu, a redirection of frame.

Here is an example of a reframe:

Her: You’re too tall for me

You: Giants are amazing, we can breathe the free air up here. Here, try it! *pick her up*

Her: *giggles*

Passed!

And another!

Her: You’re so mean

You: And a bane to my mortal enemies

Her: What?

You: The black knight takes many forms

Her: *giggles*

Passed!

Reframing helps you to redirect the conversation in a direction that favours you. Amazing!

Which of These Should I Use, Helios?

Try both reframing and agree and amplify and see which suits you more!

I personally prefer to agree and amplify, but both strategies are great!

Conclusion

In this article we learned about what shit tests are and why they exist. We also learned how to pass them with our two strategies:

1. Agree and Amplify
2. Reframing

Good luck out there. Use the strategies!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

What is a Shit Test?

It is when a girl tests your alpha frame. If you remain calm, alpha and use the correct strategy you pass, and attraction increases!

What are the Strategies I Can Use If a Woman Shit Tests Me?

You can use agree and amplify or reframing! Scroll back up to the article for some examples.

What Happens If I Fail Too Many Shit Tests?

Attraction drops like a stone, and she’ll not be interested in you sexually. Likely she’ll friend-zone you.

How Do I Get Better at Passing Shit Tests?

That comes with practice. Once you know what to look for and you’ve been shit tested a few times, you’ll know how to reply.

Is It Only Women Who are Attracted to Me Who Will Shit Test?

Some women in your family might do it too, especially if you start to make big changes in your life. The strategies I talk about in the article (agree and amplify and reframe) work amazing even in those situations!

Today I’m going to talk about cluster B personality disorders.

This is an extremely important topic, and will lead to the prevention of many potential problems in your life.

I’m going to talk about what the cluster B personality disorders are, what traits they contain, and why you should avoid people like this.

You’ll see that the greatest cure is prevention, in the case of these people.

Here we go!

What Are Cluster B Personality Disorders?

Cluster B personality disorders refer to a group of psychological disorders which lead to consistent, long-term patterns of terrible thinking, feeling and behaviour.

Here is a list of the Cluster B personality disorders:

1. Antisocial personality disorder
2. Borderline personality disorder
3. Histrionic personality disorder
4. Narcissistic personality disorder

Obviously, since we are aiming for a life of consistent, long term happiness, we should TOTALLY avoid people like this.

I’m going to describe each disorder and the traits that each have so that you can be forewarned and prevent the HUGE problems that are caused by dealing with these types of people.

Of course, if we’re talking about women, if she has cluster B traits, she is to be TOTALLY AVOIDED for any kind of relationship.

Antisocial Personality Disorder

People with antisocial personality disorder have a TOTAL DISREGARD for the rights and feelings of others.

People like this lie and cheat in order to achieve their goals and are extremely manipulative.

People with this ASPD (antisocial personality disorder) feel no remorse for their actions and are more likely to be addicted to drugs.

Here is a list of traits to look out for:

1. Persistent lying or deceit for the purpose of exploiting others
2. Callous, cynical disrespect of others
3. Extreme arrogance
4. Recurring criminal behaviour
5. Failure to plan ahead
6. Lack of remorse and empathy
7. Recurring abusive relationships

People like this have a hard time hiding their bad behaviour.

Any behaviour like this is an extreme red flag, and you should IMMEDIATELY remove yourself from the presence of people like this for your own safety and long-term happiness.

Obviously, even if it is easy to sleep with a woman like this, I NEVER recommend you do so.

The amount of long-term backlash such an action will have on you is HUGE.

Avoid at all costs.

Borderline Personality Disorder

People with borderline personality disorder have extreme difficulty maintaining relationships with any person.

It is much more likely for women to have borderline personality disorder than men.

Men in relationships with women who have BPD (borderline personality disorder) often have HORRIBLE things happen to them.

If you see any of the following behaviours or patterns of behaviour in a girl, RUN:

1. Intense fear of abandonment, often leading to extreme behaviour to prevent it
2. Idealizing someone, then, on a whim, suddenly believing that they’re cruel
3. Extremely impulsive behaviour
4. Suicidal threats of self-injury, often when told that their relationship is ending
5. Giant mood swings
6. Constant feelings of emptiness
7. Inappropriate, intense anger and fighting
8. Periods of extreme paranoia

If you see even ONE of these traits, I recommend an immediate termination of ALL contact.

Believe me when I say that you will NOT come out of such a relationship unscathed if it lasts for any prolonged period of time.

Women with borderline personality disorder are EXTREMELY dangerous and TOXIC to men.

TREAD LIGHTLY.

Histrionic Personality Disorder

Women are much more likely to have histrionic personality disorder than men.

They strive to ALWAYS be the centre of attention.

They will even do these attention seeking behaviours in inappropriate situations!

Here is a list of traits that people with this disorder have:

1. Uncomfortable unless they are the centre of attention
2. Dress provocatively and can demonstrate flirtatious or seductive behaviour in inappropriate situations
3. Act dramatically, without sincerity
4. Rash decision making
5. Fake suicide for attention
6. Overly concerned with physical appearance
7. Easily influenced by others
8. Low tolerance to frustration or criticism

Obviously, a woman with such a distorted self-image is impossible to please or to have any kind of relationship with.

I would recommend entirely avoiding these kinds of women, for your own happiness.

A woman with HPD (histrionic personality disorder) cannot be in any kind of stable arrangement, as they are extremely likely to cheat on their partner, due to their extreme impulsiveness.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Both men and women can have this disorder.

People with this disorder believe that they are superior to others.

People who are like this never care about their partners, only about themselves.

Here are traits of people with narcissistic personality disorder:

1. Extremely negative reaction to criticism
2. Elevated sense of self-importance
3. Constantly thinking about success
4. Excessive need for admiration
5. Strong sense of entitlement
6. Always think they’re right
7. Talk about themselves a lot
8. Exaggerate their talents and achievements

Women who are like this never think about their partner, only themselves.

As a result, they are extremely likely to discard you for another partner on a whim.

Also, due to their extreme entitlement, narcissists are impossible to please.

Since narcissists are a constant headache, I recommend avoidance.

Why We Should Avoid People With These Disorders

We should avoid people with cluster B disorders because they are extremely likely to contribute negatively to our lives.

A person like this has no regard for others, only for themselves.

Since they have such a lack of care, they are extremely likely to explode their relationships and the lives of those around them.

The low empathy and lack of regard for others also means that these kinds of people are extremely toxic.

They are to be avoided!

What Happens If You Fail to Avoid These Kinds of Women

If you fail to avoid these kinds of people, you are BOUND to get burned.

Many men who end up with BPD women, for example, end up stabbed, or accused of horrible things.

You want to totally prevent these problems.

You do that by identifying the problem, and not playing their game.

Once you have identified that a person has the negative traits that make up Cluster B disorders, they are to be immediately avoided!

Conclusion

As you can see, people with Cluster B personality disorders are to be avoided.

You can thus prevent the extremely negative problems that people with these disorders can cause in your life.

Once again, the Cluster B disorders are:

1. Antisocial personality disorder
2. Borderline personality disorder
3. Histrionic personality disorder
4. Narcissistic personality disorder

Pay attention to the signs of cluster B and prevent the problem!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions

What is A Cluster B Personality Disorder?

It is a psychological condition that occurs in people.

People with these disorders often cause severe problems to the people around them.

You should prevent the problem and not associate with these people.

Here are the Cluster B personality disorders:

1. Antisocial personality disorder
2. Borderline personality disorder
3. Histrionic personality disorder
4. Narcissistic personality disorder

My Girlfriend Has Extreme Mood Swings, and She Even Pulled A Knife on Me Once! What Should I Do?

Don’t associate with her!

She likely has some kind of Cluster B disorder, which will lead to extreme misery down the line!

Watch out!

You WILL be hurt by her in a terrible way at some point.

My Girl is Always Talking About Herself and Seems Not to Care About Anyone but Herself! What Do You Think the Problem Is?

She’s likely a narcissist.

Or extremely entitled.

Either way, you should NOT associate with her.

Her behaviour patterns indicate that she WILL hurt you at some point down the line.

Cut it NOW!

My Girl Has Admitted to Doing Several Hard Drugs, As Well As Frequently Stealing. She Also Laughed At How She Scammed Someone. What Should I Do?

End the relationship!

She probably has antisocial personality disorder!

You think her low empathy isn’t going to hurt you at some point?

Doubtful.

Today we’re going to talk about 8 things that women find most attractive in men.

Out of these 8, only 1 is out of your control.

I guarantee that if you work on the traits that you can control, you will skyrocket your success with women.

Off we go!

1 – Muscularity

Women are very attracted to muscular men.

Muscles and height are clear indicators of masculinity and women are attracted to masculinity.

Bigger muscles = greater masculinity.

Of course, there are diminishing returns to this.

You only need to reach a certain threshold of muscle in order for women to find you attractive.

Past that point, you would be better served spending your time doing something else.

Of course, if you want to compete with other men in terms of muscle (as in bodybuilding) or you are a professional athlete, train as much as you need to!

Just know that past a certain point, it isn’t really doing much more for you than any other attractive muscular guy.

2 – Height

Women prefer taller men.

Height is a masculine trait.

Unfortunately, height is outside of your control.

If you are under 6 feet tall in the west, you may want to consider shoe lifts in order to increase your height.

Ultimately, you’re going to have to work harder than most men if you’re short in order to get laid.

The silver lining is that shorter men have an easier time putting on muscle (as there is a smaller surface area that muscle needs to build on).

This means that a shorter man is capable of becoming male-model jacked in a much shorter period than a taller man.

Work on your muscularity if you’re not tall, you don’t really have a choice.

3 – Frame

Women find frame to be extremely attractive.

Frame is the idea that no matter what the external world wants from you, you remain yourself.

You are capable of being a rock despite the world trying to change you.

A man with frame is a man who isn’t afraid to be true to himself despite the crabs around him trying to make him act otherwise.

Women who are attracted to you will shit test you in order to determine if you can stay true to yourself.

If you can, you pass the shit test and have demonstrated good frame.

If you fail, you are not a good sexual prospect for her.

4 – Game

Women are attracted to men with game.

These are men that clearly show that they know how to seduce and sleep with multiple women.

Women have been sleeping with players for as long as there have been women.

Men with game give off a charismatic, attractive vibe which women tend to find irresistible.

Practice seducing multiple women concurrently.

The process of practicing this will skyrocket your success with women, as well as improve your frame immeasurably!

5 – Style

Women are attracted to men with style.

A man with style embodies an archetype much more easily than a man without.

As I have mentioned in previous articles, women are attracted to male archetypes, not to men themselves, so having a solid sense of style will help you to attract more women!

Try leaning into some kind of attractive male archetype with your sense of style.

You’ll see your success with women soar when you do!

6 – Unwillingness to Commit

Ironically, women find men more attractive who are unwilling to commit.

When a man is unwilling to commit, it is for a reason.

Often, the reason is that the man has multiple options and has no need to commit.

Even if you don’t have multiple options at the moment, showing an unwillingness to commit is a powerful frame to have.

It implies that you don’t need her and women are extremely attracted to non-needy men.

When a woman knows that she isn’t the centre point of your life, she is much more likely to relax around you and be pleasant!

7 – Emotional Unavailability

Women LOVE men who are emotionally unavailable.

These are men who don’t believe in love and don’t overly show emotion with women.

Women who are with men like this try very hard to win them over and get them to show their emotion.

These women try and try to “fix” these men and it never works.

When a man is emotionally unavailable it puts women in a constant chasing frame.

They want desperately to connect with you more deeply and realize that no matter what they do, they can’t.

This constant chase and drama is what women live for!

8 – Evidence of Other Partners

When a woman knows that you are with other women, she will be much more attracted to you.

It does not have to be stated by you overtly, it only needs to be implied.

A woman will understand by the implications of your actions that you’re seeing other women and she will try and compete in order to be your favourite.

Many women are happy with you being with multiple women, so long as they know that they are your favourite.

When a woman knows that other women are into you, she knows she has made a good hypergamous choice!

In the SMP (sexual marketplace), the rich always get richer.

Conclusion

There are many traits that women find attractive.

Here is the list again:

1)  Muscularity

2)  Height

3)  Frame

4)  Game

5)  Style

6)  Unwillingness to commit

7)  Emotional unavailability

8)  Evidence of other partners

Most of the traits that women find attractive can be controlled by you.

You should actively work to embody these traits in order to maximize your attractiveness to women, and your results!

Work hard!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions

What Are The Traits That Women Find Most Attractive In Men?

Here is a list of things women find most attractive in men:

1)  Muscularity

2)  Height

3)  Frame

4)  Game

5)  Style

6)  Unwillingness to commit

7)  Emotional unavailability

8)  Evidence of other partners

Betas do not have most of these things, and are thus disqualified.

Why Do Women Find Tall, Muscular Men Attractive?

Tall muscular men are attractive because these qualities are what women don’t have.

They are both signs of high testosterone.

Women find beards attractive for the same reason!

Why Are Women Attracted to Men Who Clearly Have A Partner Already?

Women are attracted to these men because they have social proof.

Obviously, there is something attractive about this man if other women are interested in him.

Through this logic, women are more likely to share a stud than have a loser all to themselves.

Why Are Women Attracted to Men Who Won’t Commit?

If a man refuses to commit, it is because he doesn’t need to.

He obviously has other options.

Women will spend time trying to convince him to commit.

When a woman is chasing a man, the script is flipped!

Here is an interesting discussion.

We’re going to talk about whether emotions or reason should be most important.

Today, we live in a world where emotion comes before reason.

I would also argue we always have.

Let’s get to it, shall we?

Should Emotion Come Before Reason?

I would argue that emotion should NOT come before reason.

The reason why so many people experience long term negative consequences in their life is DUE to poor logical reasoning and planning.

If more people would use their logic rather than emotion, they would be better served in the long term.

Our modern society does NOT encourage people to think.

If they did, they might realize the terrible conditions they’re living in.

It favours the ruling class to foster ignorance in the population.

After all, the more ignorant a population is, the more obedient they tend to be.

Modern Society

Our modern society is one that encourages ignorance and emotional reasoning.

It encourages split second decisions and basing people’s lives on ephemeral things like “love” and “chemistry”.

There is no thought to the long term, or to the consequences of poor decisions.

Our modern society encourages women to indulge their every (alpha) fantasy while wasting away their most precious commodity (their youth and beauty).

Our society encourages people not to read, study or try hard.

It emphasizes quick fixes and get-rich-quick schemes.

In short, society is all about short dopamine hits.

These things do NOT serve anyone in the long term.

Why Most People Are Miserable Today

The reason why most people are miserable today is because they never think strategically about their lives.

In our modern society, people are so absorbed in their own dopamine hits and short term pleasure, they never think about the consequences of their decisions.

As a result, we get most of the population stuck in relationships they hate, in jobs they hate and slaving away their loves to nothing.

It is not a way to live for anyone, yet we call it normal.

More people should think logically and strategically about how they should live their lives.

If they would do so, they would maximize the positives in their life while minimizing the negatives.

What We Are Taught As Young Children

Nowadays, as young children, men are taught to be more like women and women are taught to be more like men.

Since they are taught this way, everyone ends up miserable in the long term.

Men find womanly qualities attractive and women find manly qualities attractive.

The only thing teaching people the opposite accomplishes is a reduction in overall happiness and compatibility between the genders.

As a result of this modern day rift, more couples are miserable than ever.

If more people would use reason, they might arrive at the logical conclusion that teaching both genders to be the opposite of what the other gender wants is something that should be discouraged.

The Matriarchy

The matriarchy does not care about the happiness of either gender.

It only cares about maintaining its own power.

As a result, the matriarchy will continue to teach people to be more emotional.

Teaching men to be rational might encourage all the wrong things, like critical thinking and a bettering of their lot in life.

The matriarchy also doesn’t care enough for women to teach them what they need to know to attract a man they might want.

The matriarchy encourages maximum female freedom and chasing alpha males, while not telling them that they are burning out their ability to pair bond with any male by doing so.

The matriarchy does not tell women the cliff they are headed for, instead they encourage women to run off it full speed!

The Scientific Method

Rather than following base emotion, I encourage people to use the scientific method in their lives.

Use what works, discard what doesn’t.

Constantly test and be willing to discard things and modes of thinking that aren’t leading to the results you’re looking for.

If more people were to apply the scientific method to their daily lives, we would have much less misery and delusion in the world.

People would know the truth and could use it to better their lives, rather than being told platitudes and failing in following them.

Result of Emotions Coming Before Reason

As I have mentioned before, the result of emotions coming before reason in modern society is that the majority of people (90%) become miserable in the long term.

Most people do not end up in arrangements they want in the long term, and suffer greatly as a result.

Without reason, the world devolves into madness and anarchy.

We are seeing this in the modern dating market as more and more men are pushed out, due to the mental prison they have been locked in from a young age.

Their mental prison encourages them to indulge their emotions, ignore reason and follow the dopamine.

Expect things to get much worse before they get better.

Use What Works, Not What You’re Told You Have to Do

Rather than following the terrible advice given to you by pop culture, your parents, your female friends and your teachers, use the scientific method in your life.

Use what works, discard what doesn’t.

If kissing a woman’s ass didn’t work the first time, what makes you think it will work the next 10 times?

Apply this to everything regarding your relationships and you’ll realize that most things you were taught are utter trash when it comes to getting the results you want out of life.

Use what works, discard what doesn’t.

Remember that!

Conclusion

We live in a society that encourages you to abandon your logic and use your emotions for everything.

Most people live for their short term pleasure, with no thought about what their actions mean for the future.

As a result of their poor choices now, most people (90%) suffer terrible consequences later.

I highly recommend that you use logic rather than your emotions when you consider your actions in order to create the best possible future for yourself.

Be wise!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions

Should Emotion Come Before Reason?

Never!

Even though society encourages you from a young age to indulge your emotions as much as possible, you must make decisions for yourself using logic and not emotions.

You have no chance of a stable happy future without logic!

I Listen to Everything My Mom Says, She Always Knows What to Do!

Your mom has been inculcating you in the matriarchy’s teachings from a young age.

You need to free yourself from the teachings of your mother if you want to be successful in modern society.

Indulging your emotions without reason will lead to your long term destruction (as it will for 90% of people).

If Not Emotions, What Should I Follow?

In order to get the best results out of your life, use the scientific method.

Use what works, discard what doesn’t.

You will maximize your long term success by doing this!

What is the Result of Our Emotions Driven Society?

The result of our emotions-driven society is one where 90% of people end up miserable in the long term.

It is impossible to be happy when you don’t consider the long term implications of your actions.