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Men have been fooled for much of their lives into believing that women are romantic and men are pragmatic.

While that may be true outside of a relationship context, in the context of male-female interactions men are definitely romantics and women are definitely pragmatic.

It is truly amazing how much the wool gets pulled over men’s eyes due to cultural programming.

Luckily, I’m here to explain.

Here’s why women are pragmatic…

Women Don’t Love As Men Do

Women don’t love the way that men want them to.

Many men believe that the love they will receive from the women in their lives will be akin to the love their mom showed them.

This is NOT the case.

Women love much more pragmatically than all that.

Women will love you based on what you can provide them (be they good sexual experiences and a tingle-inducing alpha demeanor, or resources and security from a beta demeanor).

No man is EVER loved for who he is as a person, instead, he is loved for what he provides and what he does.

Basically, men are loved as STATUS OBJECTS, the same way that women are loved as SEX OBJECTS.

This means that if, as a man, you’re not providing anything to a woman, she will NOT love you, period.

You have to have some value in order to be attractive and be loved.

I know it’s tough to hear, but I’d rather you knew the truth than to doom you to a life of suffering due to ignorance.

Hypergamy

In the same way that men are polygamous (they want multiple partners), women are hypergamous (they want the best partner).

This means that women’s strategy is to attract as many men as they can, and then select the best one.

They then keep other frontrunners on the side in case the main man slips, and another becomes the best.

Women move on extremely quickly once they’ve decided that one man is better than another.

It often surprises men to see this, and they’ve even given it a name (something I have spoken about in other posts):

“The light-switch effect”.

Basically, their attraction for one man instantly turns off, and they move on quickly to a new man.

In any case, those men are often surprised, because the women they were with were showing them love basically up to the point of turning off.

It often jars men out of their comfortable NPC reality when this happens.

They then turn to explanations and tend to actually learn some truths of the world afterwards (the red pill).

Utility

Women love men in a utilitarian fashion.

“What can this man do for me?”

They do not love as a matter of course.

This naturally means that women cannot love you in the way that you expect.

You will always be disappointed if you expect women’s love to be like yours.

It will never be.

As I mentioned before, you are only loved based on your usefulness (or attractiveness), and so, if these ever wane, your girl will replace you, as she would replace a broken purse or some ruined shoes.

You must not take this personally.

Women have evolved to do this over thousands of years, as their partners would often be killed or maimed in wars and needed to be replaced.

This means that you must always hold strong, no matter what you’re truly feeling internally.

Unfortunately, a man can never relax in any relationship he’s in with a woman.

Sad, I know.

Orbiters

As I’ve mentioned before, women select the best due to hypergamy, but best is relative.

If ever at any point, one of the men that she’s stringing along becomes better than her main man for whatever reason, she will quickly replace the main man.

This could be for a whole host of reasons.

Here are a few reasons why her main man might fall in attractiveness:

1. He becomes depressed
2. He becomes fat and lazy
3. He loses his job
4. He becomes physically handicapped
5. He comes down with a serious illness

In these cases, women often abandon their partners in favour of a superior one.

They leave their previous man in the dust, leaving him bewildered at how quickly she shifted in attitude towards him.

Again, this reflects the biological realities of raising offspring in an uncertain and often dangerous past world.

A partner to a woman who was weak would inevitably lead to her death and the death of her children, so she must have had some mechanism for cutting her losses.

Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks

In modern times, survival isn’t so much of an issue, but sex and provisioning still are.

Women fantasize about a man that has both of these traits optimized, but often they do not.

As a result, women will often fuck an alpha, and siphon attention, love and resources from a beta (or several).

The betas never know they’re being used, and the alpha is often not told, or doesn’t care about the men she has on the side.

This is doubly true during ovulation, where women are more likely to take sexual risks with an alpha male.

Of course, if the alpha ever falls in her eyes (due to failing shit tests, or other factors), she can simply move on to a new one.

Alphas and betas are not in short supply (though alphas often have multiple women, an unfortunate reality that women must contend with).

The One

Both men and women often believe in the myth of “the one”, though these manifest in different ways.

Both genders often spend lots of time looking for this mythical being, who does not exist.

Here is how the myth of “the one” manifests for both genders.

For a man, “the one” is a woman that loves him for him, who he can truly relax with and who treats him as his mother did, loving him unconditionally.

Let me repeat this again, this woman DOES NOT exist.

For a woman, “the one” is a man who has both all of the alpha traits and all of the beta traits. 

This means that he is extremely rich and can provide for her every need and kisses her ass, but he’s also a dominant, sexual alpha.

Obviously, in reality she can only pick one.

What I am trying to communicate here is that women CAN’T love you the way you want.

This does not mean they’re incapable of love.

Women are totally capable of love and infatuation, but it manifests for what you provide for her,  not because of who you are as a person.

Men’s Realization of the Truth, and Rationalizations

When men realize that they are being treated effectively as status objects, or purses for women, many men embrace it!

They are not upset, and in fact brag about how good of a purse they are.

They do not realize that in doing this, they are beta-izing themselves, effectively submitting to a feminine reality.

Men also often rationalize women’s love for them as true love and not as the exchange that it really is.

All love is transactional, as are all relationships, but since men are romantics, they often do not want to accept this.

Read some literature and poetry for proof of this statement (most of which is written by men, for women).

Explaining to Women How You Want to Be Loved Creates Obligation

Some men realize that the women they are with are not providing them with the kind of love that they want and so they try to have a conversation with them.

“Please love me the way my mother did.”

This often repulses women, who react in disgust at the idea.

They don’t want to be a mother to the man they’re with, they want to be his wife!

Being a mother to the man they’re with naturally means that she is above him, and the very suggestion of that disgusts her, and makes the man seem weak in her eyes.

A weak beta man is unnatractive and sex all-but dissapears for men who have this conversation with their partner.

Obligation is not hot.

You’ll Never Find Motherly Love Again

Ultimately, it’s important for you to understand that unconditional motherly love only comes from one person, your mother.

No other woman in your life will ever provide you with that kind of love.

Failing to understand this will lead to your misery.

To women, you are what you do for them.

You can decide for yourself whether you want to provide provisioning, or tingles.

You cannot provide both, though many women will try to make you provide the other.

You decide for yourself which kind of man you want to be, and think about your overall life outcome and happiness as a result of your choice.

Vulnerability Leads to Quick Destruction

Men are not allowed to be vulnerable.

The way we love means that we want to feel as though we can be vulnerable, to experience the freedom and love we had as a child from our mother, but it is not to be.

Men who allow themselves to be vulnerable in relationships are praised by their partners, then quickly replaced by a man who refused to be.

Women cannot love a vulnerable man and instead seek to destroy him.

Be vulnerable at your own peril!

Conclusion

As you can see, there are many reasons that men are romantics and women love pragmatically.

I hope that you can see that love is conditional from women, and when you are not providing them with value (be it alpha or beta value), you are quickly discarded for a man who can provide that value.

It is your choice which kind of man you want to be, though I think you know which one you should choose.

Be strong!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

My Girl Said She Loves Me! I’m On Top of the World!

Great!

Keep in mind that women don’t love men the same way that men love women.

You can’t lose your edge, or you will see that love quickly wane…

My Girl Keeps Mentioning Other Guys In Her Life, What Do I Do?

Women naturally cultivate many options in case you falter.

If you were non-monogamous, you wouldn’t care about this, as you would have options of your own.

She uses them for the utility you don’t provide her with, most likely.

All of the Previous Girls I’ve Been With Have Been Garbage, I’m Looking for The One!

There is NO ONE.

That is a nice lie told to men to make them believe that they can be loved unconditionally.

They can’t.

I know reality is sad, but that doesn’t make it untrue.

Lose your edge and be destroyed.

You will NEVER find this mythical unicorn girl.

Maybe If I Explain How I Want to be Loved, Women Will Do It For Me!

Creating obligation is not hot.

Women can’t love you the way you want, even if you explain it to them.

In fact, they are likely to be repulsed by the notion.

This is an extremely important topic which I believe needs to be covered (pun intended?).

We’re going to talk about using protection today.

Ironically, we’re not going to be talking about it in the usual context (preventing STD’s), but in the MUCH more likely context of preventing PREGNANCY.

Here we go…

Why Would A Woman Want to Get Pregnant in the First Place?

Many women decide that they want to get pregnant for all kinds of reasons.

Here are a few:

1. They want a child
2. Their friends all have children
3. They want someone to pay them child support
4. They want to be a strong “single mommy”
5. Their parents pressure them to
6. Their partner pressures them to
7. Their biological clock tells them that it’s “getting late”

Notice how only one of these has the input of a man.

Basically, these feelings could hit one of your partners at any time, and if you’re not careful, you may just end up with a baby you now have to pay for!

That is even if you didn’t want the baby, by the way.

Save yourself the trouble and protect yourself.

Let’s elaborate on this a bit more, shall we…

They Just “Forgot” to Take Their Birth Control

There are many reasons that women get pregnant, but a common one is that they “forgot” to take their birth control that day.

If you let a woman have full control over her ability to get pregnant, with no agency on your part, she could get pregnant without you even knowing, and surprise you with it later!

You will greatly regret not having had any choice in this matter at that point.

You should certainly use protection, in order to make sure that she’s not getting pregnant with your sperm, unless you seriously want a baby.

Lots of men throw their lives away because they had a baby at a time that they didn’t want it!

Have agency over your ability to impregnate a girl, use protection!

Approaching the Wall

Many women surprise men with a pregnancy when they begin to approach the wall. 

The wall is the time in her life when she knows that her rockstar/strong independent phase is over and she has to settle down.

Often, it is because she simply cannot command the same sexual attention that she used to.

She feels her attractiveness slipping and her fertility window as well, and so she feels she has to get pregnant before it’s too late.

She then has an “oops” baby with the current alpha she’s seeing (you).

Of course, not ALL women do this, but you should use protection that you have brought yourself to make sure it doesn’t happen to you!

Some women have even been known to poke holes in condoms they have bought themselves!

Don’t let this be you!

They Were “In Love”

Sometimes, some women who feel they are in “love” (honeymoon phase) decide that it’s time to have a baby with the guy they’re with (without his permission).

They stop whatever treatment they had for birth control without ever telling their partner in the hope that having a kid with him will keep him around.

Obviously, if the guy wasn’t using condoms at this point he would be SOL.

You want to have control over your life and as a result, you need to be using protection with the women you’re having sex with!

It may not be malicious and may be done with the best of intentions, but you don’t want to be paying child support if you didn’t want a baby in the first place!

Make sure that you’re covering yourself!

Sperm Jacking

I’ve heard this with regards to NBA players.

The athlete will sleep with a girl and throw his condom in the trash at her place, she will then take it out of the trash and try to impregnate herself using the sperm in that condom.

Obviously not all women will do this, but I recommend that you take any condoms that you use with you!

This way you can totally prevent this problem from happening.

I would hate for a girl to trap you with a baby when you had no intentions of ever having children with her!

Sexual Pragmatism

Women are sexually pragmatic and strategic in ways that men usually fail to understand.

They will try to impregnate themselves with alpha seed when they’re ovulating and take advantage of male(beta) attention when they’re not.

As a result, women are more likely to perform sexually risky behaviours when they’re most likely to get pregnant.

You need to prevent this problem so that you don’t end up with a child that you didn’t want.

Once again, it is extremely important to protect yourself!

We are not in control of women’s actions, but we are in control of our own.

Before you have sex with a woman, think of the consequences of impregnating her.

If you’re not ok with them, cover yourself!

Child Support

I’ve mentioned it several times, but basically what you’re trying to avoid is unwanted child support.

What will happen if you have a kid you don’t want is that some women will press for you to be forced to pay child support (through legal means).

For the next 20 years, you will be stuck paying the tab for a child you didn’t want.

Some women actively try to have children with different fathers in order to get child support from each one individually.

Obviously this is a huge problem that we want to avoid!

You don’t want to be one of those “deadbeat dads” because you wouldn’t put a condom on.

When you control the birth yourself, regardless of the method of birth control she says she’s using, you prevent this problem.

Chains If You Don’t Comply

In many places in the west, if you fail to pay child support, you can go to jail!

This means that a woman who baby trapped you can legally strongarm you into paying for a child.

If you don’t want to, it doesn’t matter.

The law will force you, or put you in jail!

At that point, you will have wished that you were more prudent with your choices.

Prevention is the best cure.

Unless you absolutely want a child, USE PROTECTION for your own safety.

Conclusion

I hope that repeating this message as many times as I did helped to reinforce the idea that you need to LOOK OUT FOR YOURSELF.

If you are trapped in this manner, there is no legal recourse!

You will be strongarmed into paying child support by the government!

That would be a terrible result for a man seeking freedom in this world.

I’ll repeat this again:

We cannot control the actions of others, but we can control our own actions.

Don’t let a dumb decision like failing to use protection be the reason that you remain a slave for the rest of your life!

Take care.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

My Girl Loves Me, She Would Never Do This To Me!

Honeymoon phase.

You need to make the correct choices regardless of your feelings.

Do you want a baby with her right now?

If you’re cumming in her, it could happen at any time!

Watch out!

My Girl Told Me To Stop Wearing Condoms With Her, Should I Do It?

She desperately wants you to get her pregnant.

Do you want to pay child support for the next 20 years?

Protect yourself then!

I Always Use A Condom, What Do I Have To Be Worried About?

You should be worried about sperm jacking.

Make sure that you don’t throw the condom away in the garbage at her place.

She could impregnate herself with your sperm that way.

Take it with you!

Is Child Support Really That Bad?

It’s money you have to pay for the next 20 years.

Why would you pay that over a child you didn’t even want?

Think about the consequences before you cum in a girl!

Use protection for your future!

Only have kids if you really want them.

This is an extremely important rule!

Ignore it at your peril!

DO NOT EVER LIVE WITH A WOMAN!

This is a huge mistake betas/NPCs make, especially if they do this early in the course of a relationship.

You’ll see why it leads to all kinds of problems…

Anti-Aphrodisiac

Living with a woman is probably the best anti-aphrodisiac on the market!

Within a few months to a few years, living together will have ruined all of the sexual urgency and all of the mystery of your behaviours.

As a result, it leads to a great reduction in sexual frequency and overall relationship satisfaction.

Many men believe that living with a girl will give them more sex.

Ironically, in the long term, it has directly the opposite effect.

Once the mystery is gone, and she knows through your behaviour that you don’t have access to sex from anywhere else, the frequency of sex will drop precipitously.

Women Love to Think About You When You’re Not Around

The problem with living with a girl is that it removes the most important thing needed for female arousal, imagination.

Women love to think about you when you’re not around and imagine all of the amazing things that you’re doing.

When they see you every second, they know for certain that you’re not an incredible badass like she believes in her mind (though the truth is that no-one can measure up to our imagination).

Since she knows you’re not a badass, she’s much more inclined to be convinced by a new guy who hasn’t had his mysterious veil removed yet.

A guy who is hot and mysterious (by comparison, since he doesn’t live with her) will be much more likely to capture her imagination, and therefore be competition.

This competition would have never occurred if you weren’t living together!

Mystery is Hot

I’m going to repeat this.

Mystery is hot!

Women don’t want full disclosure!

Full disclosure naturally happens over time when you’re living together as she learns more and more about you.

When she knows everything and has figured you out, there is no longer any mystery.

In general, women want a man who is archetypal, they don’t want a real man.

What I mean is that they want Achilles, or Superman, or Gilgamesh.

These men are not real! They are heroes.

Women want to feel like they’re with a hero, but the only way for that to happen is for her imagination to be stimulated (as no actual heroes of this type exist in reality).

As a result, mystery is an absolute necessity to being an attractive man in the long term.

Do not allow this to be shattered by living together!

Don’t Be Monogamous

It is very hard to be non-monogamous when you live with a girl.

She can see whenever you go in or out of the place that you live in together, and she can use that against you.

She can constantly question your behaviour, leading to annoying arguments.

It is easy for you to have multiple women when you don’t live with a girl and rarely text, since she has no direct idea exactly what you’re doing and when.

When you don’t live together, and rarely text, her competition anxiety rages fiercely and she knows that she has to work hard to keep you.

She knows instinctively that you will favour your other options over her if she isn’t behaving in a respectful, kind and sexual manner.

Ironically, doing this is also much less work than having a live-in relationship.

You effectively just live your life, however you choose, and when you decide, you spend time with the girl that is your NMG.

At the same time, you can also have other FWBs on the side.

If your NMG ever asks you about details regarding the other girls you’re seeing, you refuse to answer and deflect.

This way, she knows you’re seeing other girls but does not have the specific information to cause super drama with.

Don’t Text All the Time

I have already mentioned this, but you should not be texting all the time.

The only thing texting should be used for is logistics (or confirming your dates).

When you text all the time, you signal that you’re a beta/NPC who has time to waste texting women.

You are signalling that your time is not valuable.

I’m sure many, or all of you, have better things to do than spend all day texting back and forth.

Ideally, you want your girl to not be able to keep tabs on your behaviour.

This allows you freedom in your actions and allows you to do the things you want to do without having to ask permission.

When you don’t text all the time, you buy yourself independence, an extremely attractive quality!

Once again, the combination of not living together + not texting all the time yields mystery.

Mystery is hot!

Familiarity Breeds Contempt

As you live with a girl over time, you build familiarity.

As you’ve already heard, I’m sure, familiarity breeds contempt.

She will slowly start to resent you as the little idiosyncrasies of your behaviour, which she was never privy to before, surface.

These little things, combined with the knowledge that she “has you”, combined with texting all the time make you extremely mundane and boring, no matter how attractive you were when you started.

If you do all of these things, you will have practically castrated yourself in her eyes.

Is it even a surprise then, that because of all of these actions combined with falling into her frame, she leaves you for another man?

Women want mystery and excitement, not a boring doormat who’s there all the time.

Don’t put yourself in that position and you’ll never have this problem!

Slow Beta-Ization

In long term relationships that are monogamous, there begins a process called beta-ization.

Often, men that enter into relationships with women (who are interested in having children with these men) are NOT beta from the outset.

They are simply ignorant of how the world works, fall into all kinds of traps, and slowly end up beta-ized.

Beta-ization is basically when a girl slowly turns a guy who was confident, attractive and handsome into a classic beta (out of shape, loserish and obedient).

You can become a beta if you allow the classic culturally mandated feminine frame to become your frame.

Here it is again (from my article about tactics that women use to make men wait for sex):

1. Women are the prize
2. Women should be worked for
3. Women should be fought for
4. Women should be listened to
5. Women should have nice things bought for them
6. Women deserve attention for free
7. Women should be allowed to date and sleep with any partner they desire

Obviously you can see that if a man begins to adopt these beliefs he is destined for doom.

The sad part is that many men have no idea they’re even doing these things!

Insidious…

Common Progression for Cohabitation

It’s time to show you what happens when you start to live with a girl (to give you an idea how beta-ization occurs).

Here is the classic progression of a live-in relationship with a girl:

1. Marathon sex
2. Sex drops off in quality/quantity
3. Man gets confused/angry
4. Man asks why/man demands answers
5. Girl replies with some bullshit excuse (you didn’t do the laundry, I’m tired, etc.)
6. Sex continues to drop off
7. Man desperately tries to rectify situation
8. Nothing works
9. Sexlessness/Cheating/Relationship implodes

The marathon sex (step 1) occurs over a 3 month to 3 year period, followed by the other steps, as the honeymoon phase of the relationship ends. 

What this means is that effectively all long term monogamous relationships are doomed to either explosion or misery.

It isn’t hard to see this in the real world (just ask any married man who has been married more than three years behind closed doors, away from prying eyes.).

But What About Kids?

This is the sad part.

Due to our current society, the old frameworks that were in place previously are no longer there.

Women are free to follow their feelings, no matter who they hurt.

We all know that children are a huge sacrifice, and they will often lower your happiness.

If you want kids, you’re very likely going to have to cohabitate.

This means that you are putting your relationship on a timer, no matter what you do, and likely, you will separate from your partner and your children will likely end up living with their mother.

You need to have contingencies in place beforehand to make this likely break as clean as possible.

Before having children, you’ll likely need the following in place:

1. Be living in an area of the world that has no common-law marriage
2. Have totally split finances (including no co-ownership of any property, and no co-owned rentals)
3. Not be married
4. Have a parenting plan signed by a notary in case of split
5. Have some kind of apartment, where you can discreetly and without drama sleep with your FWBs
6. Your partner should know that you’ll never be monogamous

With these contingencies in place, you can have children while still being protected in case of a split (which is likely due to the reasons above).

Conclusion

As you can see, there are many reasons why cohabitation leads to the death of a relationship.

Unless you desperately want children, you will want to avoid cohabitation!

Even in the case of wanting children, there are several contingencies you must have in place first, which simply serve to protect you in case of a likely split.

You should aim to keep the mystery in your relationships, and that is only possible if you don’t live together!

Good luck out there!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

My Girl Keeps Texting Me, What Do I Do?

Lower your reply rate significantly!

Reply a maximum of once every week, and to that reply, add your logistics for meeting up again.

You aren’t free to talk all the time, remember?

I Really Love My Girl, Why Can’t I Live With Her?

You’ll shatter her love for you by destroying competition anxiety!

The mystery that you have will be gone!

Don’t do it!

This is ESPECIALLY true if you really like her.

I Want Kids So I’m Gonna Get Married, Even If It’s Stupid!

No prenup? Shared finances?

You know that hitting yourself on the head with a hammer is stupid and you’re going to do it anyways?

I have no sympathy for you.

This, my friends, is an example of an idiot.

He’s literally on a site that can save him from the demons of the world, and he sells his soul to them anyway…

I’m Having Marathon Sex With My Girl Now And She’s Perfect, the Best I’ve Ever Had! You’re Full of Shit Helios!

Ever heard of the myth of Icarus?

You’re about to learn what it means to fly too close to the sun, my friend.

You need to play the long game!

Don’t let your feelings in the moment tarnish your actions for the future!

Many (dare I say all) men have encountered these common female tactics that aim to make men wait for sex.

Many men wonder what they did wrong in order to receive these, while many women are frustrated at the horniness of men who need sex more often than they do.

Many men wonder how they can prevent women from using these tactics on them.

This is going to get a bit involved, I hope you’re ready…

Some Facts About Biological Sex Drives

First, I need to explain some things.

It is a biological FACT that men have higher testosterone (12 to 17x more than the average woman).

This means that on average, men are going to be WAY hornier than women.

A way for a woman to experience just how horny a guy actually is would be for her to inject herself with the equivalent of 12-17x as much testosterone as they currently have.

This has been done before!

Women report an INTENSE surge of horniness and desperation for sexual activity nearly immediately after taking the same amount of testosterone as the average man. 

In the specific study I am describing, women went so far as to say they wanted to “make it stop”. 

THAT is what men have to contend with from the age of 14 to about the age of 40, lowering to about 80% of that level by the age of 60, and we CAN’T turn it off.

It is only natural, as a result, that men would want sex more often than women. This is NORMAL.

For women to state that they get just as horny as men is PATENTLY false.

No “right guy” will make them as horny as men are in the LONG TERM.

Women are cyclical in their sex drive.

They are more horny at certain phases of their ovulation (where they seek out alpha men) and less horny at others (where they’re more ok with beta men).

They are also more horny at different points in their life (more horny in their rockstar phase than in their lady phase).

If She Makes You Wait for Sex, It’s Not Worth the Wait

Now it’s time for some sad truth.

Some women will not be interested in you no matter what you do.

Sometimes, women that are not interested in you will PRETEND they are because they like things about you that are not related to your sexual attractiveness to her.

Examples include:

1. She likes your money
2. She likes your apartment
3. She likes your friends
4. She likes your humour
5. She likes your style

In that case, she will actively try to keep you around, while denying you sex for whatever reason.

If she EVER denies you sex in this way, it is NEVER worth the wait.

In the case of women denying you sex in this way, your reaction should ALWAYS be to walk away.

Your time is too precious and your happiness is too important to entertain someone who is not interested in reciprocating your affection.

She is perfectly allowed to not be interested in you, but you are also perfectly allowed to not be alright with that and to LEAVE.

Women’s Sexual Frame

Many men have no idea the game that is being played around them.

As a result, they often fall into women’s default sexual frame, which is dictated by our current culture.

Women’s default frame is often this:

1. Women are the prize
2. Women should be worked for
3. Women should be fought for
4. Women should be listened to
5. Women should have nice things bought for them
6. Women deserve attention for free
7. Women should be allowed to date and sleep with any partner they desire

Women imply, with their cultural frame that if they don’t receive these things, you won’t get laid.

In fact, these things are a LIE.

If you buy into and truly believe these things, you label yourself as a beta and will LOSE MANY sexual opportunities with women.

You need to have YOUR OWN sexual frame and hold strong to that.

Simply flip the script on it’s head and you have an alpha male’s sexual frame.

Here, I’ve done it for you:

1. I am the prize
2. I should be worked for
3. I should be fought for
4. I should be listened to
5. I should have nice things bought (done) for me
6. I deserve attention
7. I am allowed to date and sleep with any partner I desire

When you see women behaving in a manner that runs counter to your frame, DO NOT point it out.

Simply soft next them! (Leave for a week, go no contact, then contact them as though nothing happened.)

They will get the message that you’re not some kind of beta who is easily trifled with.

You don’t have to get into shouting contests or arguments for this to be your frame. 

You simply withdraw your attention if you aren’t being treated according to your standards.

You NEVER have to force the issue.

If someone doesn’t comply, you simply LEAVE.

Move on to prospects who are willing to do the things that you need to be happy.

Try reversing society’s frame, you’ll see it works like magic!

Common Sexual Filibuster Techniques for Women

Many women use filibuster (stalling) techniques in order to fool betas/NPCs into thinking that they might, at some point in the future, be sexually interested in them.

Women never are.

They simply string these betas along for as long as the attention and gift train runs for, and fuck alphas as soon as the opportunity presents itself.

Here are some examples (you may have heard some of these yourself in your life):

1. I love you but I’m not in love with you
2. We’re just friends
3. I need a stronger connection before we can have sex
4. I’m a good girl and don’t do that
5. I’m saving myself for marriage
6. Let’s try a long distance relationship

The sad part is if you’ve heard these while in an LTR with a woman.

She’s simply stringing you along until she finds a better guy than you, don’t let this be you!

This is especially true, by the way, if you’ve agreed to be in a long distance relationship.

Those aren’t relationships. You’re being used, dude.

Let’s Just Be Friends

This is a classic!

I wanted to take the time to devote one section to this one since it is so common.

If she says she just wants to be friends, you have NO sexual chance with her, now or in the future.

You would have to become an entirely different person for there to be any chance of sex.

She’s wasting your time and using you for the other benefits that you provide.

She will NEVER give sexual intimacy.

You have been warned.

Women that LJBF you, no matter how wonderful, are TIMEWASTERS.

My heart aches thinking about how many sexual opportunities men have lost by wasting their time with women that treat them as literal time ho’s and taxis.

It really kills me…

Online Penpals

Here is another amazing one.

This is for those of you who use online dating.

I’m sure you’ve been talking to a girl online, and had everything go well only for her to say something like:

“I need to get to know someone better usually before I meet them in person.”

Women like this NEVER meet up (ask me how I know).

When a girl suggests that you become online penpals in this manner, you should promptly ghost her.

She deserves not ONE IOTA of attention from you.

Once a girl has labelled herself as a timewaster who is not willing to put in the effort to meet you in person, your valuable time should instantly be moved elsewhere.

NEVER talk incessantly with a girl online, it invariably leads to a ghost down the line when a better man (in her opinion) comes along.

Never allow women to string you along like this.

Every Date Should Have Sexual Progression

Some guys go on date after date after date, and nothing sexual ever happens.

There are several causes to this:

1. The man is a beta/NPC who has no idea how to escalate sexually
2. The man is not attractive to the girl
3. The girl is in her lady phase (29 years old +)

As a man, after the first date (which should be one hour long and for rapport only!), you should be escalating to sex every date.

If she declines, but does something sexual every date, you can consider things to be going well.

You should expect more and more sexual things each date in this case, culminating in sex at around the 4th date.

I would say that this sort of progression will happen about 10% of the time (4th date sex). 

Usually, using this model, you will be having sex by the second date.

Some women will absolutely not ever have sex, no matter what you do.

They will kiss you, grope you, etc, but every time you try to actually have sex, they will decline.

In that case, you’re going to have to have a mature conversation with her that states that sex is an absolute need of yours, and if she isn’t willing to provide it, she can find someone else who she is willing to have sex with.

You are not required to blue-ball yourself sexually, or spend your time with women that aren’t interested in sex with you.

She is totally allowed to decline sex, but you are also totally allowed to not accept a relationship with a girl who would deny your needs.

If You Don’t Really Like Me GTFO

This should be one of your frames as an alpha.

If women don’t really like you, they can fuck off.

The best women in your life are going to be those that are really into you.

There are many women like that for all of us. Women that specifically like our style, or our personality, or whatever, and they fuck us passionately as a result.

You should focus on those.

If a woman doesn’t like you all that much, you should be totally alright with her leaving.

Your goal as a man who wants to maximize his happiness is to find women that are “fuck yes” about you, and not just girls who tolerate you because they don’t have anyone else.

You’ll be much happier following this rule.

Conclusion

As you can see, there are many tactics that women use to make men wait for sex.

If they use these on you, the sex is never worth the wait.

You should only accept women into your life that contribute positively, and not those who make you wait, or simply tolerate you because they have no-one else.

Remember these rules and maximise your happiness!

Godspeed.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

Me and My Girl Have Marathon Sex Every Day, She Seems Every Bit as Horny as Me, Helios!

Yeah, she is.

Temporarily.

Watch her long term behaviour and see if she can keep that up. (past 3 months to 3 years)

I bet you can.

Sex drives are biologically different between men and women, and this is clearly shown in long-term trends.

I’ve Kissed This Girl At A Party Once or Twice, But Every Time We Spend Time Together She Doesn’t Want to Have Sex, What Gives?

She’s stringing you along dude.

She’s just not that into you.

Stop wasting your time with her and move on to prospects that actually want to fuck you passionately.

Me and My Girl Are Trying to Make A Long-Distance Relationship Work, So Far So Good!

You sure bro?

She’s not your girl if you’re not fucking.

You’re now her time ho.

Congrats.

I’ve Gotten to First Base, Second Base and Now Third Base With My Girl, But She Just Won’t Have Sex! I Want It So Bad, What Do I Do?

You’re going to have to have a mature conversation with her about your needs.

Sex is a need for men like vision is.

If she can’t accept that you have needs just as she does, then she shouldn’t be with you.

You should not accept blue balls every time you try sex just because she’s not acknowledging your needs.

If that ends the relationship, oh well.

She would never have had sex anyway, and you would have been tortured constantly.

Many men make the mistake of bragging about how many sex partners they’ve had to new women, only to be met with disgust and instant rejection.

Don’t do it!

It is a very common way to shoot yourself in the foot, and I’m here to explain how this problem can be prevented.

Don’t let your ego go to your head and ruin your opportunities with women!

First, some background…

Some Background

There are two kinds of men out there, alphas and betas.

Betas tend to be more supplicative and alphas tend to be more confrontational.

Women tend to find alphas attractive and betas repulsive.

As a result, they string betas along and fuck alphas.

You ideally want to be an alpha, and that is achievable through work and dedication.

Often, as a result of becoming more alpha, you acquire more sexual partners.

You then run into this shit test (the one where a woman asks you about the number of partners we’ve been with).

Covert vs. Overt Communication

Men communicate overtly (directly), women communicate covertly (indirectly).

You telling a girl how many girls you’ve been with is like slapping her in the face!

It is too direct and hard hitting!

Women want to know that they’re with a stud, but not EXACTLY why.

Men want to know things like exact figures. For the most part, women don’t.

Women live in the world of indirect communication. A girl will only resort to direct communication as an absolute last resort.

You’re much better off signalling covertly that you’re a stud.

Here’s how…

Don’t State, Imply

Don’t state, imply.

Rather than say you’ve been with 50 girls, talk about the fun times you’ve had with your “friends”. Don’t mention the gender of these friends.

If you’re confident and have good frame, she’s going to assume that a bunch of those “friends” were not really friends at all, but girls you were seeing.

You’ve signalled covertly that you’re a stud, good job!

When you don’t text her, she assumes that you’re seeing lots of other people and that you aren’t that interested in her.

Great! You want her to chase!

Of course, if she thinks you’re talking to a bunch of other girls, this competition anxiety will make your life much easier.

Women want to know that they’re with a man who is desired by other women.

Notice how through these strategies, you’re communicating without communicating.

There is an expression for that:

“The medium is the message”.

The way in which you’re talking and texting is telling of the kind of person you are.

We want to use strategies like this to our advantage as much as possible!

What Kind of Man Do Women Want?

Women SAY they want a beta.

Women’s actions, however, imply they want alphas.

It is your choice whether you want to follow what they say they want, or what they actually want.

When you reveal the number of girls you’ve been with, you automatically place yourself in one of the two categories.

The problem is that if you’ve had a number of partners that the girl’s friends don’t approve of, the conversations your girl will have with her friends will ruin her relationship with you.

Her girlfriends will not approve of you and this will cause all kinds of drama, which you could have avoided by not telling her the number.

It also makes her much more likely to flake on you, or boomerang if you tell her.

This is something you want to avoid, even if you’re an alpha with lots of sexual partners.

Deflect!

If a girl ever asks you directly for how many women you’ve slept with, you need to deflect!

Something witty is often a good response.

Her: “How many sexual partners have you had?”

You: “Today?”

Also you: “Actually, you’re my first, did I do that well?”

These both dodge answering the question and turn it into a joke, a very good proposition for you!

Once again, your goal is NOT to answer the question directly, as it is death to your interactions with that girl.

She wants to know she’s with a stud, but not EXACTLY how studly you really are.

Her imagination is a powerful thing indeed!

Open Communication As the Secret to a Good Relationship is a Lie

The secret to a good relationship is not open communication.

The secret to a good relationship is the maintenance of the proper male-female dynamic.

The man, in a relationship, needs to be a man and hold on to himself despite the world trying to change him.

Men should not be communicating openly about everything.

Men need to retain some kind of mystique.

Women say that the key to a good relationship is open communication because having all of the information gives them all the ammunition they need in order to win arguments and beta-ize the man.

When the man holds his cards close to his chest and is emotionally reserved, there are much less points of attack.

These allow men to have much more comfortable relationships with women.

Women NEVER want the full truth, they just SAY they do.

Humans hide all kinds of things from each other in order to protect the other person’s feelings, I’m saying that you do the same in order to preserve her attraction for you.

She doesn’t need to hear your every thought or belief and in fact, that will only serve to hurt you.

Responses to Common Shit Tests

Here are some responses to common phrasings of the question of how many women you’ve slept with:

Shit test	Response
“How many girls have you been with?”	“Today?”“Actually, you’re my first, did I do that well?”
“You look like a fuckboy”	“Everyone seems to think I’m just a sausage with legs, I’m so much more…”
“You must say that to all the girls”	“Only the ones I like!”
“To be that good in bed, you must have slept with a thousand girls!”	“Or maybe aphrodite just likes me?”

Try these answers out and be amazed at their ability to help!

Not answering the question is also a valid answer, after all.

Why Do Women Want to Know How Many Partners You’ve Had?

Women want to know how many partners you’ve had

 in order to ease their competition anxiety.

If they know that you’ve been with no, or very few girls before her, their need to impress you lessens significantly, as they know they have barely any competition.

When women know they have no competition, they take their liberties with you, knowing that you don’t know any better.

A lot of men have no idea how much power they actually have, and let it go so easily.

Obviously, giving away your power like this is a terrible position to be in for any man, and you should avoid it.

Simply don’t tell her your N-count and you prevent all the associated problems!

Deflect instead!

Conclusion

As you can see, revealing how many women you’ve been with is a bad idea that will just lead to super drama and give the girl ammunition she can use against you in the future.

Rather than state directly that you’re a stud, imply it through your actions.

This behaviour will allow for much better outcomes on your end.

Go out and try it!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

I’m Proud of the 20 Girls I’ve Been With Previously And Want To Tell My Current Girls About It!

If you want to make them feel cheap, tell them!

Women want to feel like they’re special.

Stating that they’re just “number 23” does nothing good for you!

Don’t do it!

Why Can’t Girls Just Tell Me What They Like So I Can Do It?

Most people have no idea what they want.

As a result, most people can’t verbalize exactly what they need.

Instead, they verbalize what they have been taught they should want based on societal programming, which favours women.

If you follow that, you are lost.

My Girl Asked Me How Many Women I’ve Been With, Help!

Deflect!

This is not the time to tell her exact numbers!

She doesn’t really want to know the truth, trust me.

Either way, it will be used against you.

My Relationship Counsellor Says That Open Communication is the Key to A Happy Relationship, You’re Wrong!

If what you’re interested in creating is a relationship that heavily favours women and disempowers the guy, then yeah, you’re right!

Unfortunately, this makes neither partner happy in the long term, so I’m going to have to go with the counsellor being wrong on this one.

Let’s talk about a fundamental concept of seduction today.

This concept is called frame.

Frame is extremely important in your interactions with women and it often determines how a relationship is going to turn out.

If you have good frame, often, your relationships will have good outcomes.

Let’s explore this in more detail, shall we?

What is Frame

Your frame is your viewpoint on the world.

It could also be defined as your reality.

In many ways, your frame defines who you are as a person.

Frame is the underlying thing behind all of your actions.

To have a strong frame means to have a strong grasp on the things that you want and who you believe yourself to be.

The goal of your relationships with women is to have them enter your frame.

You want them to believe in and want the same things that you do.

When a girl enters your frame, it will feel like you “have her”.

This means that she is inclined to go with what you want to do, as she wants it for herself as well.

It is not possible to have a 50/50 frame. You are either in her frame, or she is in yours.

Let’s now list a few key things that you should include into your own frame…

Things to Include In Your Frame

Your frame should have some kind of rules on how you expect yourself to behave and how you expect her to behave.

You want to have some kind of sexual frame.

This is basically your expectations for sex.

If your expectations for sex are not met, you need to be willing to walk away!

For example, your frame could be that every time you meet, you expect to be sexual with your partner.

If it doesn’t happen, you need to be prepared to leave the interaction (temporarily, in the case of a soft next, or permanently, in the case of a hard next).

You should also include some kind of expectation for how women should behave around you.

You likely want your frame to include some kind of expectation of pleasant behaviour.

Again, if it isn’t shown, you leave!

Your frame should also include some kind of boundary with relation to texting/other forms of communication.

You will text for logistics only, and if she doesn’t agree, you leave.

All of these things could also be explained through the concept of boundary creation (what you’re ok with and what you’re not ok with).

You need to be able to say no in order to have strong frame, and you need to know what you want for the same reason.

The Default Societal Frame is Women’s Frame

Society teaches us, from a young age, several women’s frames, and these become default beliefs for NPCs.

Here they are:

1. Women are better than men
2. Women are more important than men
3. There are certain things that men can do to each other that they can’t do to women
4. Women need to be provided for
5. Women need multiple expensive dates before sex
6. The proper relationship progression is: dating > serious relationship > marriage, nothing else is considered a good relationship
7. Women are the same as men and want the same things
8. Men must ask VERBAL permission before sexual activity
9. Monogamous relationships are the ONLY relationship that kids can be raised in

If you adopt any or all of these, you are doomed from the beginning.

Following these scripts is antithetical to getting laid.

Your frame should often be the opposite of these, or at least, should resist these common societal scripts.

It’s ironic that doing the opposite of what we were taught as kids is what is correct.

Often, if you do the opposite of what you remember your mom’s advice being, it will be attractive to women.

If You Fall Into A Woman’s Frame, You’re Done

Women’s sexual attraction drops like a rock for anyone who agrees to her in principle.

If you believe in and follow the feminine social script (women’s frame), you ARE a woman to her (or at least a feminized man).

Most women are not sexually attracted to other women.

By following the societal scripts, you lower attraction.

You make it inevitable that she will leave you, or at least sexually tire of you.

Women will try to impose their frame on you through shit tests mostly.

These are tests that are designed to flip the script of your alpha frame, in order to see if you are actually alpha or just a pretender.

If you fail and fall into her frame too many times, the sexual game is lost for you and her light goes out.

You are then better off pursuing other women than continuing with this failed prospect.

Women Want to Fall Into A Man’s Frame

Despite protests and shit tests, the reality is that women want to submit to a man’s frame.

They want the assurance of being with an alpha that will absolutely not bend in his worldview.

Women want to test, and test, and test no more, as they realize that he is unbreakable.

Women want to lose!

The reason they poke at you is to make sure that you can win!

If you can beat them, you can beat others too.

In many ways, shit tests are a ritual.

They are the repetition of the thing that animals have been doing for millions of years.

Shit tests are simply a genetic fitness test.

If you are being tested for your genetic fitness though, it means you are in the running!

It’s a very good sign!

Don’t Get Monogamous

An easy frame to hold that will make you wildly successful with women is the non-monogamous frame.

No matter which girl you’re with, no matter how amazing she is, you will NEVER commit to only one girl.

She will test and test, trying to break that frame and get you into an exclusive relationship.

By denying her pushes to become monogamous, you pass her shit tests with ease.

Your focus on yourself also dispels many of the common societal frames that favour women as well.

Try holding true to your non-monogamous frame and watch your success with women soar to heights you didn’t even know existed!

The “Yes Dear” Frame

Many men get into monogamous relationships with women (despite what I suggest), since they believe that their special angel is not like the rest.

Once in these types of relationships, they immediately adopt the woman’s frame, which is their ultimate downfall.

Her frame is as follows:

“Do everything I say or you don’t get laid.”.

From this, we get the “yes dear” frame.

Another one you may have heard is this one:

“Happy wife, happy life.”.

Both of these are fem-centric garbage frames which will only serve to turn you into a butler.

Butlers don’t get laid, they do work.

Doing more chores and labouring for your wife, doing every little thing she desires will NOT get you laid.

It will cause resentment to grow as she fails to understand why you’re debasing yourself so.

She thought you were a stud and you have reduced yourself to a list-following butler.

You will also be severely unhappy in such a state.

Try this frame instead…

The “I’m Me” Frame

This frame is one held by many rock stars.

It goes something like this:

“I’m me, and if you don’t like it you can go fuck yourself.”.

You hold strong to who you are, even if you are weird, and no matter what anyone says or does to the contrary you remain firmly yourself.

This gives you a powerful aura.

You think Freddy Mercury wasn’t made fun or for his style?

How about the Beatles when they had long grungy hair?

They simply said fuck you to anyone that made fun of them and went on their merry way.

They were themselves, however weird.

Eventually, people envied them, and even copied them!

Such is the power of a strong frame!

You need to have a strong frame, despite doubters.

Conclusion

It is very important to have strong frame, despite what other people, and especially what society has taught you.

You need to be your own man and hold on to yourself.

Ultimately, you are responsible for how you allow other people to treat you!

Don’t accept a raw deal just because society has raised you to be a chump!

You need to rise above all that.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

What is Frame?

Frame is how you view the world.

You are either in someone’s frame, or they are in yours.

You cannot choose to live a frame-less life and so, you must try to hold on to yourself in situations and relationships that would seek to take your power away.

Having poor frame in your interactions with women will lead to rejection or LJBF.

If you’re in a relationship, it will lead to sexlesness and disrespect, ESPECIALLY if you’re monogamous.

Helios, I Could Never Be Non-Monogamous, I Respect My Partner Too Much!

Respect your partner by respecting yourself.

A man with weak frame is not a man worth following.

Women would rather share a strong man than be shackled to a loser monogamously.

By Frame, Do You Mean I Have to Be An Asshole to Women to Get Laid?

Actually, you don’t have to be an asshole, or even rude!

You can be, but it isn’t a requirement.

What you have to be is a NON-DOORMAT.

You have to be able to say NO, however respectfully or kindly you say it.

No matter how nice, or beautiful, or perfect, or amazing the girl is, you STILL have to stay true to yourself and say no when it is the correct play, regardless of your feelings.

I Thought That the Patriarchy Was the Default Way That Society Runs?

Sure!

On the surface.

But look more deeply into the way the world works and uncover the truth for yourself.

Who can you not criticise in today’s world?

Men, or women?

Who is treated as superior?

Men, or women?

I’m not talking about the absolute upper echelons of the world, I’m talking about the average person.

That should yield your answer.

Think for yourself, don’t just blindly accept everything everyone tells you as gospel.

Here comes another tough article.

This one might hurt to read for some of you, but the red pill is a bitter one, unfortunately.

Some of you need to hear this, as you will live lives of quiet desperation without this information.

Listen and learn.

This is but a small fraction of the information a real man needs to know to have a successful life.

Fail to acknowledge this information at your peril.

Here are some truths of the world…

No One is Coming to Save Us

No-one gives a shit about men.

We were raised from a young age to be disposable pawns in the game of life.

Our ability to work and our ability to produce was meant to be harnessed from birth, much in the way that humanity harnesses livestock.

Our work ability was not meant to be harnessed for our benefit, no.

Our work ability was to be harnessed for the benefit of society (a corporatist oligarchy currently).

Such was our fate from birth, to be pawns in a grand game we didn’t even know we were playing.

If we fail to break free, we will be churned in the meatgrinder of history, as most have before us.

We will die as we lived, mindless and abused by the system.

No one is coming to save us.

The only thing we have is our wits, and our wisdom.

Our knowledge can guide us to freedom, but only that.

Ignorance is folly in the modern world, as it has always been.

Our Mom/Parents/Family/Teachers Lied to Us

Today, information seems to exist purely for the obfuscation of the truth of the world.

Our parents, family and teachers lied to us.

They told us that the world is fair and just, and that people get what they deserve.

Most people get nothing.

Most people are farmed as cattle and discarded when their usefulness exceeds their value.

We were told that we are free when really we are chained from birth.

We were born into a mental prison.

There does exist a way to escape, but the key is hidden on purpose.

We were told that women were wonderful angels.

Women are human, like the rest of us.

All lies, serving one common purpose.

Slavery and control.

Society Actively Teaches Men How to be Good Slaves Who Supplicate to Women

Society teaches men to worship women.

The current cultural trends all point to this.

When men worship women, they give them everything, much as a corporate drone gives his life to a company.

In the same manner, when the drone has outlived his value, he is discarded, a useless husk.

Such is the treatment of the average man nowadays by women.

The average beta male is a drone in the corporation that is the feminine ideal.

When the drone outlives his usefulness, he is discarded, and replaced by another.

Round and round this carousel goes, men abused at every step.

No-one is coming to save them.

We Have Been Brainwashed NPCs

Most men have spent their formative years as brainwashed NPCs. 

We had no idea what the real world was like, and simply regurgitated what society told us was correct.

Worship women, be a corporate slave.

Sacrifice your life for others and be rewarded.

These rewards never came.

Instead, we were rewarded with pain for our obedience.

We deserve better.

We deserve the truth of the world, unvarnished by societal programming which aims to control and manipulate.

We are worth more than that.

That is why the redpill exists.

Take it and be free.

Suffer no more.

Christian Religion in the West Has Been Co-opted

Christian religion no longer worships God.

Controversial, I know.

It worships something else entirely.

While claiming to worship God, what modern christian religion currently worships is women.

Men in modern christian religious groups are expected to live their life virtuously, as cattle, to feed their female masters.

Men are to obey women in all things and follow their life plan (marriage and monogamy).

Men are to sacrifice everything for their perfect, angelic, one.

They are not to follow God’s plan, no, they are to follow women’s plan, disguised as God’s plan.

The tragedy of this is that religious people are being manipulated.

They believe that they are worshipping god and being virtuous, when really, they are dooming themselves to a life of misery and needless sacrifice (as a result of the current state of divorce in the west).

God would not approve of this idolatry.

Women Are Likely Attracted to the Opposite of What You’ve Been Taught

Men are taught from a young age that women respect men that sacrifice for them.

Men are taught that women love and give sex to “good men” (men who worship women and do everything they want).

Men are taught that they should wear their emotions on their sleeve and be more feminine in demeanor to be attractive to women.

Men are taught that women appreciate men who take things slow sexually.

Men are taught that they should be emotionally vulnerable to be attractive.

Men are taught that they should buy women gifts and take them on expensive dates.

Men are taught that the shape of their body is unimportant, but “personality” matters above all.

Men are taught that they should have only one monogamous girlfriend.

Men are taught that they should get married.

These are ALL LIES.

ALL of these things will repulse women sexually.

EVERYTHING you have been taught from your formative years regarding attracting women sexually have been LIES.

They have been told to you in order to maintain feminine cultural supremacy, and POWER over men in relationships.

If you even follow ONE of the precepts that you were taught in your formative years, you will GREATLY reduce your chances of being successful sexually.

This is done on purpose, to control you.

Wake up!

Your Looks Matter

As I mentioned in the previous section, men are taught that the shape of their body doesn’t matter.

That is a lie.

Your appearance is extremely important in order to get your foot in the door with women.

You will have a MUCH harder time getting laid if you don’t look good.

You MUST exercise regularly in order to be attractive and remain at least in the healthy BMI range (although, nowadays, even men in the healthy BMI range are considered below average to attractive women).

Long Term Divorce Rates Are Around 80% Now

This means that if you enter into a traditional, monogamous marriage, as most men do in the west, you are 80% likely to get divorced within ten years.

Many people don’t believe this statistic.

If you google current marriage statistics, they say that the rate is around 50%, or even slightly below, but this does not account for long marriages.

It only accounts for short term marriages.

Of course, most marriages that don’t split are also miserable (just ask any man in a traditional marriage if he’s happy, or take a glance at his face.).

Taking such a risk with your finances is utter lunacy, and I cannot understand why the NPC does it.

My guess is that societal programming is so strong that it overrides any sense of self-preservation.

Some men believe that you’re fine if you sign a prenup.

Prenups often get discarded in court.

There goes your life, bucko!

Let me state this, in case it wasn’t clear:

DON’T GET MARRIED.

Why?

You shackle your sex drive and your happiness to the changing emotions of another person, who can change their mind at any time about you, tearing your life in half in the process (while suffering much less pain than you due to the structure of society).

The West is In Decline

The west is dying on the vine.

You can see it in the street, and in the stores, and especially in how youth are unable to afford a house.

The next 50 years are bound for some interesting times in the west as the ship slowly sinks.

The ship sinking is going to drag us all into the waves.

Intelligent people should create an exit plan as soon as they can.

The American Empire will not be so for much longer, mark my words.

Move to a place in the world that isn’t on the decline, or watch your life be upended as the world changes from under your feet.

We live in interesting times indeed.

Women Are the Way They Are and Not How You Want Them to Be

Ultimately, and I hope this is obvious by now, women are not as you want them to be.

Nobody is perfect and expecting any human to live up to some perfect ideal is asinine.

This is what angers me most about our societal programming.

If it just taught us that women were human, as men are, then we could come to our own conclusions.

Instead, we are biased from the beginning and have to unlearn a great deal before we can even begin to imagine taking control of our own destiny.

Ridiculous.

Most men are stuck in their NPC loop of doom simply because they will not trust outside sources over their family (who have been feeding them lies since birth), who in turn are just repeating the programming that their parents told them, and so on.

You have to want to break free!

Conclusion

As you can see, the red pill is a bitter one.

There are several lies that you are told from a young age which are used to control you and keep you as a beta NPC.

It is up to you to recognize what is happening, break free and unburden yourself from the chains of society.

I know it’s hard, but ultimately it’s your choice to make:

Be a free deviant, or a praised slave.

I have already made my choice.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

What If I Just Want to Live A Quiet Life?

You can, but not here.

Things are about to get real crazy, real soon in the west.

Are There Really No Life Paths That Are Perfect for a Man?

In my opinion being a free deviant is perfect.

Your parents and your beta friends won’t approve though.

My Religion Isn’t Like the Rest, Mine Does What it Says on the Tin!

Does it promote marriage?

Then unfortunately, it promotes the worship of women.

It isn’t the religion’s fault, it had the best of intentions, but I’m afraid the old adage applies:

“The road to hell is paved with good intentions.”

Where Should I Move to Avoid the Collapse?

Asia is on the rise for the most part.

Hope you like asian women!

A lot of men suffer greatly due to our culture.

Since our culture teaches us the myth of “the one”, many men suffer at the end of a relationship.

Oftentimes, it feels like our whole world is ending when a relationship ends, since the way that many men are taught is to worship women.

When the object of mens’ affection is removed (and the only source of sex), men become miserable.

Luckily for you, I’m here to help.

Here is what to do once your “perfect” relationship ends.

Understand that More and Better Exists Out There

Because of the false teachings of modern culture, many men lament over the loss of that one perfect girl for them.

The truth is, however, that there is NO ONE.

There are MANY women out there that would make you very happy.

There are literally thousands of women right now that would be exceptionally happy to be with a man like you, with your specific talents and personality.

You do not have to fixate on THAT ONE.

Rest easy, more women will come.

What people in your life try to hide from you is this fact:

Where there is one, there is more than one.

I’m sure many of you have noticed that when you’re with a girl, she assumes that other women are into you.

That is because it is TRUE!

She fears her competition, and tries to convince you that she is special (as do all of your beta friends, and relatives).

This could not be further from the truth.

Delete Everything of Hers

In that vein, once your relationship is over, it is time to DELETE everything.

You want NO REMINDERS of her at all.

You’re trying to start fresh, and you don’t need beta reminders of her everywhere.

All those pictures of her on your phone? Delete them.

All of your beautiful, perfect couple pictures? Delete them.

Things that she has given you as gifts which have sentimental value?

Get rid of them.

She’s GONE.

Good riddance.

Once you have removed the mental reminders, it’s time for the next step.

Go No-Contact

NEVER contact her again.

Block her everywhere, and delete her number.

You want no chance of her messing with your head, or of you being tempted to go for her again.

Absolutely NO CONTACT, especially if it was a bad breakup.

She has proven that she is low value, why would you ever entertain her in your life again?

DO NOT EVER message her again.

As far as you’re concerned, she’s on Mars now.

Spend your time focusing on yourself instead, and pursuing other women.

Establish Yourself as the Centre Point of Your Own Life

Many men, especially those that have had a bad breakup, have ended up in that place because they were no longer the centre of their own lives.

They made the girl they were with the most important thing in their life and supplicated to her endlessly.

That needs to end now.

Even if it feels selfish, you have to establish YOURSELF as the centre of your own life and no-one else.

No-one deserves to be given higher priority in your life than you.

You need to focus on yourself and your own development.

Once you are self-centred in this way, you will feel the pressure of the old relationship relax.

Hit the Gym

A lot of men, especially those coming out of bad relationships let everything fall off.

They stop exercising and being the badass they were before the relationship.

This of course, eases your partner’s competition anxiety, but also makes you a total beta slob.

We are not aiming for being a slob, we are aiming for greatness.

Start going to a gym (to lift weights), or a martial arts/boxing gym.

You need a regular routine established of working out at least four times a week.

The workouts need to be so intense that you can barely move afterwards.

With a nice, more healthy body, you will find that you relax, and your confidence increases.

This will help a lot in the future, when you’re going to begin your journey of establishing multiple FWBs/NMGs.

Re-establish Contact With the Friends You May Have Been Ignoring

A lot of men, in their relationships, allow the other people in their life who are important to them to fall off.

They stop contacting their friends and stop spending quality time with anyone except their girlfriend.

This cuts off any support you might have had, which would have prevented you from sinking this low.

You need to re-contact the people who you have allowed to drop off, as you need a network of people who care about you.

Having a support system helps to establish the secure base from which you can take risks.

Risk taking is an extremely important trait of alpha males.

You will see that once you cut the girl off, work out regularly, and re-establish contact with your friends, you’ll begin to feel much better, though you may be suffering from lack of sex.

This brings us to our next point.

Learn Some Game

Many men coming off of bad relationships got into a bad relationship in the first place because they were NPCs.

They followed the societal script of what they were supposed to do and got burnt because of it.

If that is you, the problem is that you had no knowledge of game.

You’re lucky.

This blog has that information.

You’re going to have to learn the basics of game in order to be competitive and have the skills needed in order to establish a roster of women with which you’re having regular sex.

This likely means a change of personality, life outlook, appearance and other life-changing events are on the horizon.

It also means more pain and struggle.

I know, I’m sorry.

Ultimately, making the changes in your life that you need to make after the pain of a breakup are going to take even more pain and struggle.

You’ll see though, that once you come out the other side, you’ll never be the same again.

Work on yourself and the results WILL come.

I at least will not lie to you.

Decide to Not Be Monogamous Again

Time for a paradigm shift.

The whole reason that many men enter into shitty relationships in the first place is that they allow women to grab them by the balls.

A woman has the most control over you when she has control of your sex drive.

Because men on average need more sex than woman, women can employ the tactic of sexual denial to control your behaviour.

Many women do once the honeymoon phase of your relationship is over (6 months – 3 years).

If you never allow yourself to be monogamous, no girl will ever hold that power over you again.

Both of you will know that you can immediately leave at any point towards your other options if you aren’t happy.

Thus, it puts the ball in your court.

Women have to respect you and treat you well and if they don’t, you can easily, without loss of sex, move on to other women and simply replace the woman who was disrespecting you.

A lot of bad relationships could simply be prevented through the strategy of non-monogamy.

It is hard to do for many men, however, because it goes against their programming.

You have to resist the brainwashing in order to be free of your shackles I’m afraid.

Cultivate Three Concurrent FWB/NMG’s

Once you have decided in earnest that you won’t be monogamous, you need to establish THREE concurrent women that you’re seeing.

These women should be in FWB (friend with benefits) or NMG (non-monogamous relationship) arrangements with you.

With three concurrent women, if one leaves for whatever reason, you’re still not monogamous.

It buys you time to replace the girl you’ve lost as well.

The level of happiness you’ll feel once you have established three concurrent women is hard to describe.

Just having the freedom to know that no girl has you by the balls is amazing!

Any time a girl tries to get you to fall into her frame, you hold the nuclear option of simply walking away, while not losing access to sex.

Having multiple women concurrently is an extremely effective tactic that will save you YEARS of suffering.

Something cool is that the women who leave you often boomerang back (after 4 months or so) since you were the only guy who didn’t bend.

Once you have a network of several women who are in on-again, off-again non-monogamous relationships with you, the sex part of your life will be handled.

You never have to worry about it again!

Amazing, right?

Live Happily Ever After

Once you have a roster of women, that one bad breakup will mean NOTHING to you.

You can rest on your laurels, knowing that that bad relationship was the push you needed in order to change yourself and your life for the better.

Thoughts of “the one” will be non-existent in your mind as you realize that there are many women that you could be happy with.

You will feel a sense of freedom that you’ve probably never felt before.

Options are power.

Conclusion

In this article, we talked about how to get over a bad breakup.

There are several things to do, and they will all build towards that goal.

Mostly, the strategies here will help you to put yourself at the centre of your life, as well as to decouple your access to sex from one woman.

Here is a review of the list again:

1. Understand that more and better exists out there
2. Delete everything of hers
3. Go no-contact
4. Establish yourself as the centre of your own life
5. Hit the gym
6. Re-establish contact with friends you had before
7. Learn some game
8. Decide to not be monogamous again
9. Develop a roster of three concurrent FWB/NMGs
10. Live happily ever after

Once you have done these things, you can truly be free!

Work hard!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

She Gave Me A Really Nice Vacuum, I Don’t Want to Toss It!

It’s your life.

I’m telling you that the objects that you associate with her should be discarded so that your mind has as few reminders as possible.

What you do with that knowledge is up to you.

Do I Really Have to Work Out?

Yes!

No fat slobs have harems of women, come on!

What If the Girl I Was With Was Just A Bitch, and I Haven’t Found the Right One Yet?

Women aren’t bitches for taking advantage.

Men are losers for allowing themselves to be taken advantage of.

If it wasn’t her, it would have been another girl who would have used you, since YOU were the problem.

You need to change yourself on some fundamental level to prevent those problems from occurring again.

Try non-monogamy. 

I promise it will help!

I Don’t Have Time For Three Girlfriends, What the Hell, Helios?

Neither do I!

That’s why I recommend 1 NMG and 2 FWBs. You could also do 3 FWBs.

Usually I have 3 FWBs, since I’m more detached as a person.

That choice is up to you!

I’m sure you’ve heard this term before.

NPC stands for non-player character.

These are men that go through life as seemingly programmed robots.

They never think once for themselves and just plainly do everything culture and societal programming tells them to do.

They are praised to the heavens for their good decisions, but on closer inspection, we see that they end up miserable, lonely, and often destitute, as a result of cultural trends that take advantage of them wholesale.

Obviously, you want to avoid being an NPC.

If you have noticed yourself doing any of these things in your life, you just might be an NPC yourself.

Take control of your own destiny!

Resist!

1 – NPCs Believe That Sucking Up to Women is Effective

An NPC listens to what his mom and his TV tells him.

He believes entirely that women are little perfect angels who need to be supported and supplicated to on every occasion.

He will miss no opportunity to treat every girl (that he’s interested in) that he meets like the queen she is.

He will listen to all of their problems, genuinely believe all of the words they say and excuse all of their actions, no matter how foul.

He supplicates to women on every occasion and wouldn’t dare express his sexual wants or needs to her.

Women are virginal beauties who don’t show that side to just anyone, they think.

He constantly experiences rejection by every woman that he meets and believes he simply has not found the right ONE.

2 – He Enters Into Covert Contracts with Women

An NPC does things for women, which often are highly annoying or time-consuming, all in exchange for assumed intimacy in the future.

Here’s a list:

1. He drives them around on command
2. He orders them food
3. He cuddles with them
4. He listens to all of their problems
5. He helps them to move their furniture
6. He takes care of their pets

He assumes that by being nice and supportive and helpful that he’ll receive her beautiful, perfect love in the future.

This never transpires.

Often, women use the NPC for these favours with no intention of EVER giving any kind of intimacy.

They often then complain to the NPC about their problems with real men and wish that the real men they were fucking were more like the NPC.

Women string NPCs along because it is so easy.

NPCs will do anything for just a few words, or a hug!

3 – NPCs Believe that Being A Martyr Is Attractive

NPCs believe that the more they sacrifice, the more they will be appreciated.

They believe that the more they supplicate, the more attractive they are.

NPCs have no idea that it accomplishes the exact opposite.

The more devotion and supplication an NPC shows, the less attractive he is.

An NPC would sacrifice anything for that one beautiful angel of his dreams, even his life.

He believes that that places him above all the other men in her life she’s fucking.

In fact, this puts the NPC below even a dog in terms of attractiveness to a woman.

It doesn’t deter the NPC though, as he often doubles down and supplicates even more when he notices this.

4 – NPCs Believe That Women Actually Want Friendship Before Intimacy When They Say “Let’s Just Be Friends” 

NPCs believe that if they stay in a friendship with a girl that has told them LJBF, they will eventually receive her love and sex in the future.

This could not be further from the truth.

They do not understand that when a girl says LJBF, it is a hard rejection.

Women simply want the NPCs time, affection and devotion without giving anything in return.

NPCs become women’s “time ho’s” as a result.

5 – NPCs Believe In Third Wave Feminist Doctrine

NPCs believe that because in the past women were treated as cattle (they weren’t), they should now be treated as angels, to make up for the sins of the past.

NPCs sacrifice their own lives and happiness in order to facilitate this false reality.

All that this accomplishes is to make themselves lower than a dog in women’s eyes.

Women use NPCs shamelessly and discard them when they’re no longer useful.

Even as women rise far above men in status and treatment (the current social norm), NPCs still shout about how unfair the world is for women.

Women gleefully exploit these robots for their own gain.

NPCs have proven, after all, that they don’t even respect themselves enough to see themselves as equals to women.

If they don’t respect themselves, why should any woman?

6 – NPCs Rely On Dating Advice Given to them From Mommy/Early Adolescence

NPCs still believe in Disney fantasy dating.

They believe in “one-true-love” dating.

They believe that things like fancy dinners and flowers are what women like.

They believe that if they spill all their feelings to a girl and explain how the woman is wonderful that she will reciprocate and love him forever.

He believes that a diamond ring is necessary for marriage (and all the money that that ring should be worth).

NPCs believe that you should only be with one girl at a time and that you should remain fiercely loyal to her despite her behaviours.

NPCs believe that all women that reject them are bitches, but out there lies a perfect flower just for them.

NPCs do everything mommy tells them regarding dating.

According to NPCs, women are the best advice givers when it comes to dating.

7 – NPCs Believe that Women Know Exactly What They Want, and Will Communicate this Information to Them Precisely

NPCs believe that when they ask a woman, that like a man, she will tell him exactly what he needs to do in order to seduce her.

NPCs take every word a woman says at face value.

NPCs believe that if you do everything women say they want, you will get laid much more than “those douchebags”.

NPCs will not listen to a woman’s actions (they will instead rationalize those) and listen ONLY to her words.

All of the honeyed words women use to misdirect the NPC, he believes.

Women are wonderful, and so they cannot lie or be confused about what they want, the NPC believes.

NPCs believe that women are absolutely rational in their decisions and will make every decision based on logic, rather than emotions.

8 – NPCs Rely Heavily on Things to Keep Them From Being Rejected

NPCs do not take risks.

They will watch porn instead of inviting girls to their place.

They will stay friends when they’re friendzoned by their sexual interest and wait for another opportunity (one that never comes).

They will focus on one girl and avoid all others, until they’re friendzoned, then they’ll never move on.

NPCs will remain in long-distance relationships and be utterly loyal to their penpal, even when she’s fucking other men.

NPCs will use only online dating and say it “doesn’t work”.

NPCs are never direct in their sexual interest in a girl, instead they keep talking “as a friend” with her.

9 – NPCs Believe that They’re “Not Like Other Guys”

NPCs act in a supplicative manner in order to show women that they’re not like other guys.

They believe that being entirely non-sexual, like a teddy bear, will get them laid.

NPCs do everything a woman says, and are a total doormat in order to show her how different they are.

NPCs allow themselves to be treated like common trash to prove their devotion to a woman.

They follow a false idea of chivalry that relies on worship of the feminine.

10 – NPC’s Believe in the Madonna-Whore Fallacy

NPCs believe that all women that are interested in them are virginal perfect angels, and all women who aren’t are whores who slut around.

NPCs justify all their failures with women through rationalizations such as these.

NPCs have no idea that women are human, as they are.

Because the women that NPCs are interested in are perfect virginal angels, NPCs treat them as such (only to be promptly rejected).

NPCs never try to understand that women are HUMAN.

Conclusion

If you see yourself thinking or doing any of the things on the list above, you’re doing it WRONG!

You are literally mutilating yourself on the altar of women.

You don’t have to sacrifice yourself to be attractive to women!

Read this blog and be enlightened!

Fix it!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

My Best Friend (A Girl) Always Gives Me Such Good Advice About Relationships, You’re Full of Shit Helios!

Bullshit.

I’ll bet you 1000$ that your best friend is giving you advice that is SABOTAGE.

Unless she’s giving you information like that of this site (in which case, you’re lucky indeed), SHE’S PLAYING FOR TEAM GIRL.

If you listen to her, you’ll help all the future WOMEN you’ll date, and NOT yourself.

What A Misogynist, Third/Fourth/Fifth Wave Feminism Is A Necessity in Our Unfair Glass Ceiling Society!

Look up apex fallacy.

Read some history and ACTUAL statistics (not from feminist journals, but ACTUAL scientific journals).

Then come back and tell me that.

How hard are you trying to bury your head in the sand here?

DON’T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU READ.

You think feminist papers are going to tell you the truth, or push their own agenda?

Goddamn, just use some reasoning.

I Do Everything for this One Girl, Why Won’t She Fuck Me?

She won’t fuck you because you’re a loser beta NPC.

No woman will ever fuck that.

In her eyes, you’re lower than her dog.

Think about that.

Please read all of the articles on this site twice, then come back and answer your own question.

I Have a Lot of Female Friends, and They’re Awesome! Helios, You’re a Misogynist!

Are your female friends hot?

Do you want to fuck them?

Goddamn, you’re castrating yourself by wasting your time with women that won’t fuck you.

Stop giving yourself blue balls, ditch them and go after your own goals!

Make friends with some men.

You’ll find that men love and are companions in a way that women can never be.

You may even find some brothers you never had.

I’m about to tell you something that you may have never heard before.

Two life paths lie ahead of you.

These paths are very different, and will lead to entirely different outcomes.

One will lead to your happiness and freedom, and the other will lead to your destruction.

I’ll bet I have you curious now.

Let me enlighten you then…

What Are the Two Life Paths Available to Men in the West?

There are only two currently available sexual life paths for men.

They could not be more different from each other.

You are likely already on one of these paths (and not the good one).

Here they are:

1. Be a cog in the system for women and miserable
2. Be a social deviant and be free

Notice how neither of these looks good on the surface.

I’m going to explain both of these points in much greater detail and you’ll see how being a cog will never make you happy.

In fact, it will very likely lead to your misery and eventual destruction.

Let’s move on, shall we…

Part 1 – Being a Cog in the System for Women

In this section I’m going to tell you a story to explain what being a cog means and also how it relates to your sexual satisfaction and eventual life path with women.

You’ll see that being a cog will make you miserable eventually.

1 – What We Are Taught As Small Children

As small children, we are taught to obey.

Who are we taught to obey by?

Usually an overbearing mother and a beta father.

Our role models growing up are those that encourage beta-ness in every fashion.

Here are some messages you must have heard growing up:

1. Don’t hit a girl
2. She’s a girl, don’t say that to her
3. Can’t you see that she’s sensitive?
4. Respect your elders
5. Can’t you see she’s a lady?
6. Buy her flowers
7. Don’t forget to tell her you love her
8. Make time for the girls you care about
9. Tell her how you feel
10. Take her out on a nice date

We have these messages repeated to us from a young age up until we leave home for whatever reason.

These messages all repeat the same message, effectively.

They all repeat this fact:

“Men should defer to and respect women in all situations”.

Phrased differently:

“Women are superior to men and should be treated that way”.

As impressionable young men, we listen and internalize.

We hear that we should defer to women, and so we do!

2 – How Young Men Are Treated By Young Women As A Result of the Lessons From Home

We were good boys growing up and so we internalized the lessons of deference to women.

When we treated young women at school with this deference, they were really nice to us!

So far, so good!

We were happy.

Everything that our parents taught us worked!

The world worked as we believed it did!

Everything changed after puberty though.

Once we kids reached puberty, and wanted sex with women, all the these lessons that we were taught failed us!

We treated the girls that we liked with deference and respect and got rejected!

So we asked our parents for help…

3 – The Lies Our Parents Tell Us When We’re Rejected As Kids

When we boys get rejected as kids by girls we like, we then receive false advice to further indoctrinate us.

Here is who it comes from:

1. Our dad, who is clueless with women, and has been a beta for at least 10+ years at this point
2. Our mom, who knows, but gives us advice to help team girl, and not us

We receive the advice that the girl was wrong for us.

We must have made a bad selection and that was the problem.

No problem lies in our deferential behaviour towards women.

The problem lies with the choice of woman.

All women are angels, but THAT ONE you chose just happened to not be the right one for you.

The cycle repeats, and repeats, and repeats.

4 – The Lies We Are Told By Our Female Friends in Young Adulthood

Eventually, we reach young adulthood.

Women are still rejecting us, and for the same reason.

At this point, we are a little smarter, and so we no longer ask our parents for advice on how to get girls.

Instead, we ask the source!

One of our friends, who is a girl. 

She’s always been nice to us, so we believe that she’ll give us good advice on how to get that girl of our dreams.

And she gives us EXACTLY the same advice that our parents did!

She says something like:

“That girl was a bitch. Find one who isn’t a bitch.” 

And we believe her!

We keep failing with women, however, though we might have kissed a girl at this point.

5 – The Lies We Are Told At University

We get to university, and we’re STILL doing terribly with women.

We see women having a fuckfest with all the douchebags and we think that those women must be bitches and not right for us.

We still haven’t learned anything about the real world at this point.

We now don’t believe our parents, or other women (even if they’re our friends), as their advice has never led to us getting results with the women we want.

So we ask our male friends, who seem to have had some success with women!

They tell us that they have no idea how they got the girl they got, they were just lucky and found the one.

Notice how insidious all of this programming is.

By the time you’ve reached university, NOT ONE PERSON has told you the truth.

All the women in your life have lied, and all the betas are too indoctrinated to know better.

If you don’t unplug now, you’re in for the next stage of being a cog in the female system.

6 – The Lies We Are Told About Monogamous Relationships

After much struggle, and maybe the acquiring of a new lucrative job, we FINALLY get a girlfriend.

She’s not as pretty as we would have liked, but the pretty girls were bitches anyway, right? (We don’t understand at this point that women are women, and none are actually bitches).

FINALLY, after YEARS of failure, we are finally having sex, and it’s amazing!

Everyone around us tells us that this girl is the one!

We’re so lucky to have finally found her.

Nobody will tell you that in three years the sex is gonna dry up and you’re going to be miserable.

Everyone, including our girlfriend tells us that our decisions are justified and that they love that we’ve finally “gotten” it.

Everyone around us who is also in a monogamous relationship keeps up the lie that they’re so happy (when behind closed doors, most of those guys are not fucking at all, or are fucking at a third of the rate that they would actually want).

7 – The Lies We Are Told About Monogamous Marriage

We are told from a young age that out there lies one special girl for us.

One special person who will love us and be with us forever and give us all the happiness in the world.

We see our parents as being relatively happy and are tricked into believing.

We have no idea what happens in our parent’s bedroom, or how happy they actually are.

We only see what they show us.

We FINALLY get MARRIED!

Everyone in our family praises us!

We feel like we’re on top of the world!

We did it!

We found THE ONE!

One year goes by, and we’re happy, two years go by and we’re happy.

At this point, we have a kid, and everything feels fantastic!

We feel so justified in all the struggle and pain that we suffered as young men up to this point.

Everyone was right!

We just hadn’t found the one yet.

But then, disaster strikes…

8 – The Truth Hits Us

Three years pass, and something strange happens.

Our wife, who was very sexual and happy before, suddenly starts to deny us sex.

First it reduces to three times a week, then two, then one.

Finally, we’re only having sex once a month, and even then, it isn’t passionate or wild, like it used to be.

We wonder what we did wrong.

So we ask her!

She says:

1. She’s too tired
2. She’s achy
3. She has a long day tomorrow
4. She hasn’t showered
5. She needs to watch her show, etc.

The truth is never uttered (She’s sexually bored of you because humans are not monogamous).

One sexless year passes, then two, then three.

We realize what is happening, but at this point, we’re stuck.

What about the children?

What about the house?

Oh god, what about us?

We sink into despair and utter beta-hood.

And now, finally, the coup de grace…

9 – Cheating and Divorce

Our wife, our beautiful, gorgeous wife, who was the only one for us in this whole world, who now denies us sex has found another man.

She starts to become emotionally unavailable and we can feel it.

She pulls away at first, and then starts disappearing at weird times (having to work late at the office, or some other excuse).

She blindsides us.

She wants a divorce.

“But, honey, what about us?”

“There is no us anymore”

We then have to leave our matrimonial house and move out to an apartment.

We have to pay alimony, child support and basically be destitute.

We see our kids once a week, and we don’t feel good talking to our ex-wife, as we had a really nasty divorce.

We feel bitter and sad.

10 – Endgame of Being A Cog

This is the story of the average beta male.

This is the life that the average beta male lives.

Rejection after rejection after rejection, praise for a stupid decision, and finally ending in divorce.

All of the work that a beta has put into his life is now siphoned into the account of his ex-wife, who never loved him, and was never the one.

It was all a lie told from the beginning to facilitate this endgame.

Do not let this be you!

You have been warned.

Part 2 – Being a Free Social Deviant

I hope that just by reading these words you are inspired.

There is a better path out there for you.

Let’s talk about what COULD HAVE happened if we instead chose from university to become a social deviant (and learned the truth then).

Alternate 6 – Discovering the Truth

In this path, we simply got lucky.

We sucked up our pride, and went up to one of the jocks and asked him:

“How are you so good with women?”

He then actually told us something truthful for once (remember, nobody up to this point has told us anything true).

He said:

“I’m just hot, dude. Girls love a hot guy. I also don’t give a shit about them.”.

And rather than rejecting what he says outright, we actually listen to the wisdom in those words and try to improve ourselves.

We ask him about how he got a body like that and he explains his crazy training regimen.

We ask him if we can join.

We become friends with this natural alpha and follow him, changing our body and our mind to be more like his.

Suddenly, the world isn’t like what it used to be!

Alternate 7 – All of Your Friends and Family Shame You

Once we start our path to improvement and go home for the first time, everyone around is making fun of us.

“Look at Mr. Sweaty over there, working out so much.” 

“Why can’t you have a nice girlfriend like your brother?”

The crabs in our life are trying to pull us back into the bucket.

But we’re lucky and resist, despite their attempts.

In fact, we feel some serious contempt for them, since we’ve been lied to our whole lives.

We leave in a rage, but we are determined to not be like them.

Alternate 8 – Despite Massive Rejection, We Finally Figure It Out

Our alpha friend tells us to stick it out even though we’re getting rejected.

We have sex not once, but a FEW times without any commitment at all.

We look better than we’ve ever looked and we even have one friend with benefits!

A girl who wants to fuck us regularly just because she likes how we fuck!

It’s amazing.

Alternate 9 – We Get Older and Keep Following Our Strategies While Everyone Around Us Gets Married 

We get better and better at seduction, getting to the point where we can always have a roster of three girls that we’re sleeping with.

We decide to never get married at this point.

Our family shames us into oblivion, mentioning every time we see them what a failure we are for not following the societal script.

We try to explain why our system is better.

Our family won’t hear it.

They think we are a failure, and mention it several times.

ALL of our friends get married, including that natural alpha that taught us how to be this way.

We remain.

Alternate 10 – All of Our Married Friends Become Too Busy to Talk to Us Anymore, But We Make New Ones

Because we have labelled ourselves as a social deviant, all of our friends who used to be so close to us leave.

We make new friends in unexpected places.

We are the pariah of our family, but we are happy and free.

We eventually have a serious relationship with a woman, but we never become exclusive with her.

Our parents try to shame us into marrying her, but even they know at this point that it’s futile.

We have children with her while still sleeping with women on the side.

She knows, and accepts that that is who we are.

She remains passionate for the 10 years that we are together, and when we split, it is amicable.

Because we understand how women work, we never share financial accounts or possessions, and so, no splitting of assets occurs when we decide to go our separate ways.

Because we have a parenting plan in place that accounts for splitting, we already know how our children would be treated in the case of a split.

There was no confusion or serious argument.

We remain on good terms to this day.

Conclusion

As you can see, there are two paths you can go by.

In the long term, only one of the paths will make you happy.

You will likely have to sacrifice your friends and familial approval to attain this happiness, however.

That is life, there are no perfect options.

Choose to be a cog and miserable, or a free deviant.

I know which one I’ve chosen.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions:

My Wife Would Never Cheat On Me, She Loves Me!

Wait three years then tell me she still loves you when she has you by the balls in a marriage and denies you sex.

I’m waiting.

Are There Really No Life Paths That Are Perfect for a Man?

In my opinion being a free deviant is perfect.

Your parents and your beta friends won’t approve though.

My Mom Loves Me, She Would Never Lie to Me!

I thought so too, as a young man.

As the saying goes: “The road to hell is paved with good intentions”.

Women, as a rule of thumb, don’t give advice to help men, only women. 

This is even true if the person asking for advice from the woman is a man.

This Shit is Stupid, No Way Boys Are Indoctrinated From A Young Age to Defer to Women!

Ever opened the door for a girl walking into a store?

That’s all I have to say.

Some of these things are so insidious, you have no idea they’re even happening to you!