Tag: sexual value of men vs women

I’m sure you’ve seen it.

Misery.

In our modern world, it is everywhere for men.

I believe it is because men are simply not living their lives correctly.

Men are not living in such a way as to facilitate their happiness.

Time to explain why…

Bad Deals

Most men allow bad deals to ruin their life.

They are told by their parents (beta dad and controlling mom) that they should facilitate the matriarchy.

Being the good boy they are, they follow their parent’s instructions to the letter.

They then lead themselves down the path of misery.

They allow themselves to be taken for a ride, as it were, by women.

What are these deals?

Here’s a list:

1. Be monogamous
2. Get a nice drone job
3. Suck up to women

When a man agrees to do these things, he is sacrificing his life for the lives of others.

He is killing himself so that others may live.

This obviously leads to intense regret down the line.

Cultural Programming

The sad part is that it isn’t the beta’s fault.

They were simply lied to their whole lives and were doomed to misery.

Most men have no idea what will ACTUALLY make them happy because they were raised utterly rudderless.

Since their parents and society led them astray (for society’s benefit and not theirs), the beta now knows nothing at all about how to live a life where he’s truly happy.

This is the tragedy of cultural programming.

In order to facilitate a matriarchichal reality, it sacrifices the lives of all the common men.

Men must suffer so that women may live.

Humans Are Not Monogamous

The primary lie, which I believe is the principal cause of male unhappiness is the teaching that humans are monogamous.

They are NOT.

Men are polygamous (they want multiple concurrent partners) and women are SERIALLY monogamous (they go from one partner to another, never remaining with one for a truly long period of time).

The people that stay together for long periods of time are the EXCEPTION to the rule (and are often miserable as well).

If betas knew this from a young age, they would be truly reticent about entering into monogamous relationships.

Instead, they are fed Disney bullshit which makes them feel happy in the short term (several months to a few years – the honeymoon phase) and then dooms them to misery for the rest of their life.

Alpha vs. Beta Treatment

Something else that betas are told from a young age is that women are “saving their best” for them.

The women are making mistake after mistake and finally end up with the “right guy” – the beta when they’re older.

This is a HUGE lie.

Women are NOT sexually attracted to beta men.

They are with them as a safety net when their attractiveness fails them.

They give their sexual best to alpha men when they are most sexually attractive and available, and give barely anything to betas later in their life.

Basically, sex with a beta for a woman is a carrot that needs to be given intermittently to accrue other benefits.

Obviously this leads to utter misery for betas in the long term.

As I have mentioned previously, it is a travesty that men are not made aware of the extent to which they are used if they are betas.

If they would wake up to the truth, they would NEVER settle for such a raw deal.

A New Hope

Luckily, with the internet and other forms of information exchange, men are being made aware of the truth.

More and more men are waking up to the realization that women have been using men for ages.

They are beginning to realize what holds the key to their happiness.

I will state it clearly now.

The ONLY time men are EVER happy is when they are NON-MONOGAMOUS.

When a man controls his own sexual fate and his balls are not in the vice of any woman, he is able to be free and happy.

Men can NOT be happy in a monogamous arrangement due to the biological differences in sex drive between men and women.

When a woman knows a man is sacrificing his sexual happiness for her, he is seen as a loser BY DESIGN.

THAT VERY ACT is a signal that the man is a weak beta to be used and discarded.

Heed my advice, if you decide to be monogamous, that is your fate as well.

No man is special in the eyes of hypergamy.

Non-Monogamy

Non-monogamy holds the key to male happiness.

Only enter into arrangements with women that favour you.

Here’s a list of great choices:

1. FWB (friends with benefits)
2. NMG (non-monogamous girlfriend)
3. SNMG (serious non-monogamous girlfriend)

Notice how none of these options include monogamy, or even real commitment.

When women know that they don’t have you, they work hard in order to compete with your other options.

When women are competing in this way for you, they see you as an alpha BY DESIGN.

Since most men are NOT doing this, you can differentiate yourself greatly from the beta crowd, simply by holding strong to a non-monogamous frame.

You will be incredibly sexy and attractive to the women you are with.

*Important note: this only applies if you meet women’s minimum standard for sexual attractiveness (you’re well dressed, well groomed, not overweight and have relatively good game).

I know some of you are going to balk at this and state that it is possible to be happy in monogamous arrangements.

I agree, you can be happy for 3 month – 3 year periods.

After the honeymoon phase, however, you don’t have a snowball’s chance in hell of being as happy as a non-monogamous guy.

Non-Commitment

Non-commitment is extremely important for male happiness.

You must hold the ability to be independent.

I would extend this to your financial life as well.

Are you truly happy if you are at the behest of one company, or one woman?

If you are dependent on only one source for your income/sex/happiness, you’re going to have a very bad time in the long term.

You need to spread out your options in order to hedge your bets.

If anything should happen to fall, you always have a backup.

When your income/sex/happiness is spread out over multiple sources, you never fear losing anything.

This lack of fear is a key component to masculinity and overall happiness.

Sex Is A Must

For men to have enjoyable relationships and a good quality of life, they must have at minimum, access to sex.

This means that sex is a necessary component to your relationships.

What you’ll find when you’re in multiple non-monogamous relationships is that your sex is robust, passionate and frequent.

Many men have never experienced the sheer sexual quantity that a non-monogamous man has over the LONG TERM.

Of course, a man in a long term relationship in the honeymoon phase has frequent sex, but it is inevitable for that sex to drop off over time.

Non-monogamous arrangements with multiple women prevent this problem entirely.

In fact, if any girl in your arrangements begins to deny sex, she can simply be replaced, with limited negative impact to your sex life or even mood.

Such is the power of keeping your options open as a man.

Options Are Power

As I’ve stated in previous posts, options are power.

The men who are most attractive to women are those that are clearly openly exercising their power of non-monogamy.

I don’t mean you’re having direct discussions with your girl about the other girls you’re seeing (unless you’re having “the talk” with a girl). 

I mean that you’re aloof and constantly meeting and sleeping with your multiple options.

When women know that they aren’t your only option, they compete to be your favourite option.

Nothing really compares to the behaviour women show men who they’re trying to impress.

You want to attain that enviable position for yourself.

Conclusion

The only time men are ever happy is when they are non-monogamous.

The matriarchy tries to convince men to sacrifice their happiness and their future for female happiness.

Only the men that refuse to sacrifice themselves can truly acquire the happiness and independence that embodies an alpha.

Hold strong and fight for your own happiness!

You’ll be glad you did.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions

My Mom Tells Me That I Should Find One Girl I Really Like and Make Her the Happiest Woman in the World. Should I?

Should you sacrifice your options and your balls for only one woman?

Nope!

That is for NPCs who don’t know any better.

If you truly want to be happy as a man, you would never take a deal like this.

I Told My Friends and Family That I Would Prefer to Not Have A Girlfriend and Explore My Options. Several of My Male Relatives Told Me I Was Being An Idiot. Were They Right?

Crabs in a bucket.

They are miserable and are trying to drag you down into misery with them.

What the fuck do they know about being strong and independent?

They have literally sacrificed their lives to fuel the matriarchy!

They have no idea on how to give a man advice on how to be happy.

The only time they were ever happy was in the honeymoon phase of their relationships (which ended long ago)!

All Of My Female Friends Say That They Only Want to Be With One Man For the Rest of Their Lives! They Sound Monogamous to Me!

You’re right.

Their WORDS say that they are monogamous.

I’ll bet their ACTIONS say otherwise though.

They have all likely been with multiple men in monogamous arrangements.

This makes them SERIALLY monogamous (which isn’t really monogamy at all).

Humans are NOT monogamous.

Cultural programming tries to brainwash you into believing it though.

I Finally Have Multiple Girls I’m Sleeping WIth! Each One Says That She Wants to Be My Ride or Die. What Do I Do?

NEVER commit.

Let them chase forever.

This is as good as it gets.

Disney LIES to you and tells you that once you’re monogamous you’ll live happily ever after.

YOU won’t.

Only the matriarchy benefits if you are monogamous.

Both you AND your partner become miserable over time in those arrangements.

Mate guarding is a well-known concept in biology.

Of course, it also happens in humans.

We’re going to discuss the alpha/beta dynamics of mate guarding today.

We’re also going to discuss why people mate guard and whether you should mate guard or not.

On we go!

What is Mate Guarding?

Mate guarding describes the actions that people take in order to protect their partner from poaching by other partners.

It is a common behaviour that is evolved in humans.

Mate guarding often presents itself as jealous feelings in response to competition anxiety and actions taken in order to allay that fear/anxiety.

Mate guarding occurs in many animals in the animal kingdom, and definitely happens in primates.

Mate guarding is done by betas (especially physically fit betas) who are experiencing scarcity.

If you only have one girl, and she is your sole access to sex, you might be tempted to fight in order to maintain you access to sex.

A man who had plenty of sex wouldn’t need to risk himself like that.

Mate Guarding in Primates

In our closest relative, the chimpanzee, mate guarding is a known phenomenon.

More “alpha” males are known to physically hurt less “alpha” chimpanzees in order to prevent them from copulating with their partners.

A lot of chimpanzee aggression is due to mate guarding.

Many chimpanzees end up permanently maimed as a result of mate guarding.

Mate guarding also occurs in orangutans and baboons in much the same way.

Effectively, the strongest males use their muscles to prevent other males from breeding.

Of course, many primates end up being severely hurt due to mate guarding.

This also applies to humans.

Who Does Mate Guarding In Humans?

In humans, both males AND females mate guard.

Males mate guard by keeping their partner away from other males and through other jealous behaviours.

Women mate guard in a similar fashion.

Obviously, mate guarding is more pronounced when the partner is considered to be valuable.

This means that if one partner considers their partner to be valuable, they will try to prevent their partner from seeking other mates (or prevent them from having the opportunity to seek other mates).

Sometimes, men even consider their partner so valuable that they would fight to protect her.

This is going in the wrong direction!

Allow me to relate this to an important rule of relationships.

The Person Who Wins the Relationship Game is the Person Who Cares the Least

The person who wins the relationship is the person who cares the least.

This means that in reality, the person who mate guards is the person LOSING the relationship game.

I’m sure you’ve heard of men mate guarding far more often than women.

This is because, for the most part, men are the LOSERS in relationships and so, their partner is more valuable than them.

I recommend against mate guarding for this reason.

By mate guarding, you are signaling to your partner that you care that they are present.

Since you seem to care more than she does, you are signaling that you need her more than she needs you.

You lose the relationship game as a result.

Women want to be with men who win the relationship game.

Is Mate Guarding Alpha or Beta Behaviour In Humans?

It is my opinion that mate guarding is beta.

For betas, women are a scarce resource, one which should be held on to no matter the cost.

Betas are much more likely to mate guard, since they have no other options.

Thus, mate guarding is a beta tell.

Since alphas have such an abundance of women, they don’t care if they lose one or two.

They are chased, rather than the chasers and are far less likely to mate guard.

When alpha men hear stories told about other men (their potential rivals) from their partner, there is often no attempt at all at mate guarding.

This is because alphas do not need to mate guard, their sex comes from multiple sources anyway.

They gain nothing really by mate guarding.

Should You Mate Guard?

As I said before, if you want to signal to the woman that she is important to you, you should mate guard.

Keep in mind that the winner of the relationship game is the one who cares about the other the least.

By mate guarding, you are signaling that your source of sex is likely only her.

She will thus lose attraction to you if you mate guard.

Rather than mate guard, you should be totally nonchalant in the face of competition.

You know that your access to sex is spread out over multiple women and so there is no NEED to mate guard.

It is an extremely powerful frame to have.

Imagine a situation where a guy is hitting on your girl and you sit there, laughing and watching as the guy shoots his shot.

When he’s done, your girl comes over to you and tells you about what he did.

Imagine that you react with a smile and tell her what she should have done to signal her interest better.

She will immediately get the clue that you don’t care at all.

How could that be possible?

Only if she was replaceable!

Her attraction will skyrocket as the dread of the reality of her situation hits her.

Consequences of Mate Guarding

In humans, there are multiple potential negative consequences to mate guarding.

Of course, the obvious one is that you have to fight, and depending on the venue you’re fighting in, you could end up seriously injured.

It is thus risky to mate guard.

Sadly, fighting in this way for a woman does NOT signal that you are an alpha.

Rather, it signals that you are a beta who experiences such scarcity of women that you have to fight for a single one.

Women thus LOSE ATTRACTION for men who mate guard over time.

Ideally, you want to keep women around with the least amount of effort, and thus, I recommend NOT mate guarding.

Aloofness is Attractive

Aloofness is extremely attractive.

When you’re aloof it signals to the woman that you don’t care.

When a girl tries to entice you into competition with another man over her, you should LET HER GO.

She will have her plans thwarted.

When she sees that you truly don’t give a shit about losing her, she will understand the message that she is replaceable.

She will thus fight to keep you around (and beat her competitors)!

You are able to turn the game around to your advantage by having multiple sexual options and demonstrating a complete aloof non-neediness.

You can cement your alpha status in her eyes by doing the counterintuitive move, rather than the obvious one.

Conclusion

Mate guarding is extremely common in animals, and it also exists in humans.

The person that wins the relationship game is the one that cares about the other the least.

Men who demonstrate mate guarding behaviours signal scarcity to women, and thus cause their women to experience a loss of attraction over time.

I recommend, therefore, that you practice being aloof and being totally non-reactive in the face of women’s attempts to get you to mate guard.

She will get the message that she is replaceable.

Turn the game on its head!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions

What is Mate Guarding?

Actively trying to stop other men from getting your girl is mate guarding.

It is seen in other animals too, and women do it as well!

This Guy Was Hitting On My Girl So I Beat Him Up! I’m So Alpha!

By beating up another guy that’s trying to get your girl, you are signaling to your girl that she is so valuable to you that you would risk your health for her.

You are thus signaling that she is more important to you than your own health.

This is a beta tell.

If you had access to multiple women, you wouldn’t need to defend your own girl from poaching, since you WOULDN’T CARE if she left.

Is Mate Guarding Alpha or Beta Behaviour?

Mate guarding signals scarcity,

It is thus BETA.

You could be the strongest guy around, if you are fighting over a girl, you are signaling to her that she is above you.

AVOID mate guarding.

So You Recommend That We Learn Martial Arts But That We Don’t Exercise It To Keep Our Women? That’s Idiotic!

Martial arts is about self-control, not beating people up.

Fighting is done as a LAST RESORT, not to maintain access to a woman.

What the hell are you doing risking yourself for someone less important than yourself?

Idiot.

Here is another necessary topic.

Men keep seeing the term NMG rolling around this blog and want to know how to get one themselves.

I’ll give you a step-by-step guide on how to do it for yourself!

Basically, you do everything you do to get a FWB, and then when she asks to define the relationship, you explain the arrangement to her.

If she agrees, congrats, you’re in!

Here we go…

1 – Get Her Phone Number

Obviously, the first step to getting a girl is to get her phone number/some way to contact her!

There are multiple ways to do so.

Any of these will do:

1. Online dating (apps like tinder, bumble, etc.)
2. Cold approach (talking to a random girl you’ve never met before)
3. Warm approach (a girl gives you some kind of invitation to talk to her, like smiling at you in public)
4. Social circle (your friends introduce you to the girl)

If you’re getting her number through cold approach/warm approach or social circle all you need to do is have a small talk conversation for a few minutes and then ask for her number.

If she agrees to give you her number, you’re good to go!

Simply text her the next day after you got her number and set up the first date!

If you’re getting her phone number from online dating see my guide on how to get an FWB online.

Here is a summary of the steps, basically, to online dating:

1. Send her a message with a call to action and sign your name
2. Ask her something about herself that does not involve her appearance
3. Pitch the date for 2-3 days from the day you texted.
4. Get the girl’s number after you have pitched the first date

2 – Go on the First Date 

The first date should be 1 hour long and should be at one of the following venues:

1. A park
2. A mall
3. A chill coffee shop
4. A non-expensive bar

The first date is for RAPPORT ONLY!

You meet up, talk for an hour, and cut it short!

You should talk for 15 minutes, and she should talk for 45.

You need to direct the conversation towards topics she likes and is passionate about.

Once the date is going well, leave!

Remember: rapport, then cut it short.

3 – Set Up the Second Date

The next day after your first date, if it went well, set up the second date.

The second date should be set up to be 2-3 days after you texted her.

For the second date, you invite her to your place for some kind of activity.

Here is a list of possible activities:

1. Watching a movie
2. Playing music
3. Cooking together
4. Playing games
5. Listening to music, etc.

When she comes over, have the activity set up and do it together.

When it’s going well, you can escalate sexually.

Use her body language to help you understand if she wants to go further or not.

If she’s receptive, keep going.

If not, slow it down and try again later.

In general, if she comes over to your place and you’re alone together, she is interested in sex with you, she may just need to be more comfortable first.

4 – Set Up the Third Date

The day after you’ve first had sex, text her and mention how you had a great time the day before (do not mention the sex directly).

Set up the third date at your place again, with a different activity planned (see the list above).

Once you’ve had sex with her twice, you can begin to text her weekly, for logistics only.

Have her come over regularly to your place (a maximum of once per week).

5 – Have a FWB Arrangement for at Least Three Months

Even though your goal is for her to be your NMG, it should start as a FWB (friends with benefits).

In these three months, you can determine if she’s worthy of being an NMG or not.

She’s generally going to be a good NMG if:

1. You both enjoy each other’s company
2. She doesn’t have serious psychological problems
3. She doesn’t do drugs
4. She treats you well and is respectful

If she is worthy of being an NMG in your opinion and you are interested in her being that for you, you can then have “the talk” with her.

6 – Have “The Talk”

Usually, around the three month point, women will want to define the relationship.

They will ask you something along the lines of “what are we?”.

All you have to do at that point is explain a few things.

You need to tell her the following:

1. You will never be monogamous
2. You really enjoy her company
3. You’d like to get to know her better

Notice how I did not mention the word “girlfriend”.

Since this is a non-standard relationship, you don’t want her to associate it with standard tropes of BF/GF relationships.

Don’t mention the word girlfriend.

She will happily agree and your NMG arrangement can begin.

7 – Start Your NMG Arrangement

An NMG is not that different from a FWB.

There are a few differences though.

Some things you can do with a NMG that you should NEVER do with a FWB.

Here is a list:

1. NMGs can spend the night
2. You can watch a movie with an NMG
3. You can go on “theme dates” like a hike, or a fancy park, etc.
4. You can buy them SMALL gifts VERY OCCASIONALLY

There are some things that you CAN’T DO with an NMG though.

If you do, it will signal to them that they are your monogamous GF (very bad).

Here is a list of things NOT to do with an NMG:

1. Say you love her
2. Buy her something for valentines day/her birthday 
3. Have her meet your parents
4. Texting all the time
5. Going on fancy vacations together

Hold strong to the frame of your relationship!

8 – Maintaining Your NMG Arrangement

To maintain your NMG arrangement, you just need to keep to the rules of your arrangement and not deviate no matter how much you like her.

Do the following:

1. Keep texting her once a week for logistics only.
2. Have her keep coming to your place and spending the night and doing fun things together, but never move the relationship past that point.

If she ever tries to push on your frame by implying you should do serious boyfriend things, simply decline politely.

The classic shit test answers work too:

1. Agree and amplify
2. Reframe

9 – Upgrading/Downgrading Your Arrangement

If she has consistent good behaviour for a period of 1.5 years to 2 years, you may want to consider further upgrading her to an SNMG (serious non-monogamous girlfriend).

In this arrangement, you are still non-monogamous, but your other girls are only FWBs that you don’t care about.

To the public (your family, etc.) your SNMG is your girlfriend.

At this point you can do all of the regular things you would do with a girlfriend, with a few exceptions.

Still NO declarations of love, and still ONLY text for logistics.

If your SNMG starts to disrespect you or take you for granted, she can be downgraded back to a NMG (but more likely a FWB).

If your NMG is misbehaving, or constantly tests your frame, you can downgrade them to a FWB.

Do not tell them what you’re doing.

Simply stop inviting them to do fun activities with you, only invite them to your place for sex and do not let them spend the night.

They will get the message that they have seriously screwed up with you and will likely try to rectify the situation.

Conclusion

I hope that these steps are helpful to you in getting an NMG!

Remember that an NMG is NOT a GF.

If you do all of the traditional boyfriend behaviours, you’re going to have a bad time.

Hold strong to your non-monogamous frame and you’ll do great!

Good luck.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions

There’s This Girl’s Phone Number That I Really Want to Get, What Do I Do?

Go talk to her!

You can talk about anything really, just don’t linger.

Talk for 10-15 minutes about something (usually related to the venue you’re in), then ask for her phone number and LEAVE.

Women look for reasons to DISQUALIFY.

You want to give her little reason to do that.

Why Can’t I Kiss A Girl On The First Date?

Sex is tension + logistics.

If you diffuse the sexual tension by kissing her before you’ve had sex, you’ll spoil your chances of a greater reward later.

Hold off for one date so that you may have MUCH better results on the second.

You Must Be a Loser Helios, You Don’t Fuck Girls On the First Date!

When I was a younger seducer, I used to think that the gold standard was sex on the first date.

I had lots of ONSs that way, but women would not want to sleep with me after.

It also often took me 8 hours plus to sleep with girls on the first date.

I wondered why, and then I realized it was because they thought of themselves as being “bad girls” for sleeping with me on the first date.

I then stopped sleeping with them on the first date and did on the second instead, and this “bad girl” thing disappeared.

It also made girls much more likely to become FWBs, so I stuck with the second-date-lay system.

Both will work, but I believe my system is simply BETTER.

You get MUCH more sex for less effort over time using the second-date-lay method.

You also only have to spend an average of three hours over two dates to get laid using the second-date-lay method (vs. the 5-8 hours it usually takes for a first date lay).

My NMG is Drifting Away From Me, What Did I Do Wrong?

Probably you started doing regular BF stuff.

Nothing makes a woman less sexually attracted than a guy who does beta/NPC/slave shit.

Even if you started off as being extremely attractive to her (alpha), your behaviour can signal to her that you’re a beta and kill the attraction she had for you.

Be strong and hold to your personality, or be replaced by someone who will.

Today we’re going to talk about something interesting.

We’re going to talk about who wins in a relationship.

Most people think of relationships as being mutually beneficial.

In our modern society, this is often NOT the case.

Our society is purposefully structured in order to maximize one particular group winning relationships over the other.

Curious?

Let’s get to it.

The Winner of the Relationship Is the One Who Cares About the Other the Least

First, let’s talk about who wins in the relationship.

The winner is the one who cares the least about the other.

This means that the person who is best able to maintain multiple options is the winner in a relationship.

In our modern society, guess who is best able to maintain multiple options?

If you guessed women, you’d be right!

Women and Orbiters

A woman’s “orbiters” are her other options.

They are the men that she would immediately hop to in case of emergency.

A woman’s orbiters have been carefully crafted by a society that raises men to worship women in order for women to actualize their sexual strategy.

This means that a woman in a “monogamous” relationship is not monogamous at all!

She is polyamorous in the sense that she always has other options that she holds.

This means that the average woman will win the average relationship, if no work is put in by the man.

The matriarchy has structured relationships in order to favour women’s sexual strategy in this way.

The Matriarchy’s Plans for Men

The matriarchy’s plans were always to maximally free women while simultaneously reducing the freedoms of men.

This is why male children are raised to be more like women and are shamed/medicated for stepping out of line.

The matriarchy aims to hobble men before they ever learn the truth of male/female sexual dynamics.

In this way, women can win all relationships before they have truly begun.

By advertising relationships that favour women (in order for them to easily win) as the standard, they rig the relationship game in their favour.

The Best Relationship Strategy for Women

Every person knows the relationships that favour women!

These are the “traditional” relationships we are all familiar with.

Here is what I’m talking about:

1)  Traditional monogamous LTRs (long term relationships)

2)  Traditional monogamous marriage

If a man is in one of these arrangements, he has agreed to not see other people.

The woman however, still CAN!

She can see/communicate with her orbiters!

This means that she fields MANY more options than the man.

As a result, she needs him much less than he needs her (since she can easily switch to a new partner when the relationship ends).

Thus, women WIN in traditional monogamous LTRs and marriage.

Men should therefore NEVER enter into these arrangements.

Men are rigged to lose that game.

The Best Relationship Strategy for Men

For men to not need any specific woman, he needs to play the field.

He needs MULTIPLE CONCURRENT sexual options.

When a man has multiple women he’s sleeping with, he never fears losing sex.

This means that his sex drive cannot be controlled by any singular woman.

Any arrangement that allows a man to have multiple concurrent sexual options is the best arrangement for him.

Here are some examples (and I recommend you ONLY enter into arrangements of this type):

1)  FWB (friend with benefits)

2)  NMG (non-monogamous girlfriend)

3)  SNMG (serious non-monogamous girlfriend)

When a man is in any such arrangement, he WINS the relationship.

Women WANT a winner, they just don’t want to tell a man HOW to become one (that ruins his alpha authenticity).

Women Don’t Mind Sharing A Winner

Here is the true beauty of all this.

Women don’t mind sharing a winner!

Once you learn that women actually prefer to share men with multiple sexual options the world becomes your oyster.

This means that a man who “gets it” can have his cake and eat it too!

He can fuck multiple women (with no fear of losing any one) and ALSO win EACH relationship he’s in.

Alpha vs Beta Strategy

An alpha’s strategy is one of aloofness.

He cares about himself and if he’s not getting what he wants, he’s gone.

A beta’s strategy is one of supplication.

He believes that by identifying with the feminine, he’ll be able to attract the feminine.

Only one of these two strategies actually works in the real world.

You guessed it, ONLY the strategy that WINS (the alpha strategy) is successful.

Thus, the attitude of not giving a fuck, as you can replace a girl at any time wins over the strategy of slavery/NPC-dom.

How Dread Can Help You Win A Relationship

Dread is simply the anxiety women feel when they think they might lose you.

They feel this when you are actively entertaining multiple options.

Women actually need a cycle of positive and negative emotions in order to stay maximally attracted to you.

They need BOTH the good feelings of being with you AND the tension/anxiety that they might lose you.

These feelings should cycle so that she experiences the full range of her emotions, something that women love.

Dread helps you to win a relationship because the woman knows on a limbic level that she might lose you, and so she knows she might be replaced.

She works double hard in order to impress you as a result.

It is incredibly easy to win a relationship from this position.

Conclusion

As you can see, the person who wins in the relationship is the one who needs the other the least.

Your goal in a relationship is to set it up so that you do not NEED your partner.

This will allow you to win the relationship.

Of course, women love winners and are even willing to share them!

It’s a double win for you in that case!

Aim for the prime position in your relationships, always!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions

Who Wins In A Relationship?

The person who needs the other the least.

In traditional monogamous relationships, due to women’s ability to control men’s sex drives through the relationship, women win. (also, they can maintain a harem of beta orbiters).

In non-traditional, non-monogamous relationships, men win.

You should aim to always win in your relationships!

My Girlfriend Really Loves Me, She’ll Never Leave!

Maybe, but she also doesn’t NEED you.

She has you in a position where if she loses you, you can be easily replaced.

She also knows for sure you don’t have other options.

This will lead to her attraction plummeting like a stone over time!

Mark my words, your fate is sealed.

What Are the Best Relationship Arrangements for Men?

The best relationship arrangements for men are those where the man is not forced to be monogamous and has multiple sexual options.

Here is a list (of relationship strategies I highly recommend):

1. FWB (friend with benefits
2. NMG (non-monogamous girlfriend)
3. SNMG (serious non-monogamous girlfriend)

These relationships heavily favour men and allow you to win very easily, something that women want for you (they want to fuck a winner).

I Do Nice Things for My Girlfriend, Unlike You Manipulative Assholes. That Gets Me Laid!

That gets you beta/slave/NPC starfish sex or no sex at all after the honeymoon phase (3 months to 3 years).

Mark my words, you will suffer in the long term if you’re thinking this way.

Suffering is the only way you’ll learn though, since you’re not willing to listen to reason.

Suffer and be enlightened.

Many men get married thinking that their wives will stay just as sexual and amazing as they did during the honeymoon phase.

This is further encouraged by our society, who promotes the “happily ever after” trope.

It is a lie.

The majority of marriages are “bait and switch”.

Husbands expect one thing, and receive something entirely different.

It should be no surprise to any of you that men have mid-life crises, as they realize the shit decisions they’ve made.

Here we go…

I Do, You’re Mine

Both men and women believe this, for different reasons.

Men believe that they will have their wife forever sexually once she’s agreed to marriage.

Women believe that they will have their husband’s resources, status and provision forever.

Only one of these two statements is correct in modern society.

Want to guess which one?

If you guessed the matriarchy’s one, you’ve been reading this blog.

Of course women have their cake and eat it too in marriage.

They have a government GUARANTEE of their husband’s resources.

Do men have a guarantee of their wives’ sexuality?

Nope!

It is an inherently unfair exchange masked as a good one!

The Myth of Sexual Wives

People seem to believe that wives are sexual in marriages.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

Once the honeymoon phase ends (3 months to 3 years), the sex begins to dry up.

Married women also talk endlessly about all kinds of topics, including how much sex they’re having with their husbands, with other married women.

Do you think that these conversations lead to all of them deciding to have more sex with their husbands?

Hell no!

It leads to women deciding on a “standard” amount of sex wives should give to husbands (an amount they can tolerate to give to a beta, as a kind of reward for slave behaviours).

Often (99.9% of the time), this amount of sex is WAY less than what the average man needs for his sex drive to be satisfied.

Marriage is for Duty, Not Passion

Here is the main point.

Men think that they are getting married to consolidate their passion.

That is false.

Men get married so that women can consolidate their RESOURCES.

Women understand that there is a dutiful amount of sex required to keep a beta around.

They will do that much, and NO MORE, pushing over time to lessen and lessen the quantity of sex.

They will then talk to their husbands about how marriage is about “duty” (while shamelessly not sticking to their “duty” in a marriage).

Beta Safety Nets

Effectively, marriage traps a beta into a trap of the government’s making.

Marriages trap betas so that they can be a guaranteed safety net to women.

This government-backed guarantee allows the matriarchy to stay in power.

Women have constitutionally written power over men (through control of their resources) once married.

The beta walks into this trap, lured by the honeypot of honeymoon sex.

Insidious, no?

Obviously, once he is in the trap, there is no more need for the honeypot, and any supposed desire from the wife can be withdrawn.

It is a sad reality that the scope of the lives of many men is simply to be a safety net to a woman.

He is a tool, not a man, at that point.

Alpha Seed, Beta Need

As has been mentioned in previous articles, women truly desire alphas sexually, and use betas as drones.

The desire they had for a beta was never genuine, it was a ploy to get him to commit himself wholeheartedly to her and fall into her trap.

Once in, there is no more need for pretense.

If you want the true desire of a woman, you need to be alpha in her eyes.

Marriage cements your status as a controllable beta, regardless of what you were before the marriage.

In fact, women that marry men who they see as alpha often try to change him, to mold their husband into a beta, to secure his provisioning.

This often works, as the government holds the “alpha” married man at threatpoint through the pillaging of his resources should his relationship end.

Allowing yourself to be put into such a terrible position not only lacks forethought, it also signals weakness to women (who understand exactly the position any woman is in a marriage).

Hypergamy Doesn’t Care About Your Happiness

Ultimately, hypergamy doesn’t care whether YOU are happy or not.

It cares about the success of the female sexual strategy.

She gets to experience the joy of all of the alphas she can get her hands on, while being saved by a nice beta.

You are raised to be a pawn in this strategy, and sacrifice your life and happiness for it.

Only those men that wake up can prevent the problem of “bait and switch” marriages.

Only those men that wake up can actually live a life worth living, where they can experience genuine desire and enjoyment in their relationships with women.

It is a sad reality that we live in, but a true one.

Following the Socially Acceptable Script Leads to Misery

If you follow the script your mom and beta dad taught you about how you should be as a man, you’re going to have a bad time.

You will suffer in all of your relationships with women as you get tossed around and ignored, by men who know better than you.

Following what mommy tells you is going to lead to your rejection until you “just get it”.

If you keep doing what mommy told you your whole life, you’re going to end up in exactly her husband’s position.

You will be a convenient slave, used to facilitate the matriarchy’s goals for women.

You will not be human to them, you will be a tool, for use and deletion when your utility has finished.

Remember that.

Don’t Get Married!

I have been implying this the whole time, but let me state it outright.

DON’T GET MARRIED.

I will also add cohabitate to this.

Marriage and cohabitation are the foundations of women’s control over you.

When you let her control you, you let her drain your masculine essence.

You lose what it is that made you a man in the first place.

Destroying your masculinity is NEVER a good strategy, especially if you want to experience a life of long-term happiness.

If I told you not to hit yourself in the head with a stick, you’d probably think it wise advice.

When I tell you not to get married, I’m telling you not to put your balls in a vise.

Believe me, putting your balls in a vise is MUCH more painful than hitting yourself in the head with a stick.

Marriage is that.

Avoid!

Cohabitation and Monogamy

As I mentioned in the previous section, cohabitation is a terrible proposition.

In some states, just living together with a women for a certain amount of time means that you are married.

Obviously that’s terrible.

When you cohabitate, it gives women the power to control your actions, as she gains knowledge of what your regular habits are.

Once she knows that, the mystery is gone.

If you agree to be monogamous and cohabitate, basically all of the competition anxiety that women have is greatly reduced.

Sadly, competition anxiety is a large part of many women’s attraction for men.

Effectively, by agreeing to be monogamous and cohabitate, you have destroyed two of the absolute best tools men have for seduction.

NEVER shoot yourself in the foot this way.

Conclusion

It is clear that many men enter into relationships that destroy them.

A great example is the “bait and switch” marriage.

In these relationships, men think that they are gaining the attraction of their wife by consolidating their relationship, but actually, they’re moving in the opposite direction and guaranteeing their beta provider spot for her for the future.

Thus I advise that men avoid marriage, monogamy and cohabitation in order to maintain their power and the attraction that the women in their lives have for them.

Be wise and in control!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions

My Wife Is Very Sexually Experienced, Why Won’t She Fuck Me Well?

You’re a beta who is married to her.

What attraction could she have to a plough horse when she’s had mustangs her whole life?

You’ve seriously messed up in your strategic thinking here.

Have a sexually experienced girl as a FWB, NOT a wife!

My Wife Keeps Telling Me That She Wants Me to Do the Right Thing! What Should I Do?

Often, when women tell their partners to “do the right thing” or “be vulnerable”, these are shit tests designed to see if the man knows what women are attracted to or not.

If a man submits to these tests, he greatly damages how the women feel about them.

If your wife is trying to shame you into doing chores, doing them will NOT make her want to fuck you.

I Love My Girlfriend So Much, I’m Thinking of Proposing

All of the women around you will freak out and encourage you to do this.

Know why that is?

It’s because women WIN in marriage.

Asking her to marry you WILL NOT increase the sex or the quality of the relationship.

It locks YOU into commitment and provisioning.

Proceed at your own (mortal) risk.

Me and My Girlfriend Used to Have Marathon Sex. Now We Live Together and the Sex Has Gone Down Drastically, What Gives?

You’re not longer hot and mysterious!

Now you’re just a man.

All of the competition anxiety she previously had (when she didn’t know what you were doing) is GONE.

She has lost serious attraction for you as a result of your  boneheaded decision to move in together.

Dumb.

This has not been discussed before on my blog, and I think we should talk about it a little.

I believe that men are on the cusp of a neo-renaissance.

The original renaissance gave birth to what the west is today, and recently (for the past 60 years or so), there has been a dark age.

Men are waking up from it, in surprising numbers.

First, a bit of background.

Let’s begin, shall we…

The Dark Ages

The original dark ages occurred after the fall of the roman empire.

In the “Dark Ages” the keeping of records was greatly reduced.

It also marked the greater Christianization of the western world and a decline in rational thought.

Though the term has fallen out of favour, I’m sure you already see parallels between the dark ages and the modern era.

We have currently moved away from rational thought and towards cultural marxism and an egalitarian, matriarchal society that worships women.

The Renaissance

After the “Dark Ages”, there was a so-called Renaissance (rebirth).

This Renaissance happened when men discovered ideas that had been forgotten since ancient roman times and re-interpreted them in a new context.

Some of the greatest minds in all of human history appeared during this time (such as Leonardo da Vinci).

During the Renaissance, people once again began to focus on rational thought and this snowballed into modern medicine, and the scientific revolution.

In many ways, we owe a large part of our western world to this time period in human history.

Of course, the wheel of time turned, and a return to darkness was inevitable.

What Does It Mean That We Are In A Modern Dark Age?

Nowadays, with the death of religion and information so interconnected and widespread, you wouldn’t think that it would be possible to have a dark age, but here we are.

Rather than information not being available nowadays, information is PURPOSELY hidden in piles of trash.

Valuable information becomes impossible to find when it is literally a needle in a haystack.

The truth of how the world works is hidden behind an active smokescreen.

This smokescreen keeps beta men in line, sacrificing themselves for the matriarchy at the expense of their livelihoods and happiness..

We are currently in a dark age because most men have no idea the real way the world works and how they have been manipulated for so long to serve the needs of the matriarchy. 

What is the Neo-Renaissance?

The neo-renaissance refers to a time (in the relatively near future) when the average man (not just we enlightened alphas) understands how the world works.

The average man will understand exactly what has happened to him and why he was a pawn in a women’s grand game.

He will then apply that knowledge to better his own life, rather than sacrificing it for the aims of someone else.

When the average man understands that going his own way is the correct way, we will have a true neo-renaissance.

A rebirth in understanding and a paradigm shift in male-female dynamics.

The social and political upheaval that will be caused as a result of the neo-renaissance is going to be massive.

What Does it Mean to Be a Neo-Renaissance Man?

A neo-renaissance man does not have his life controlled by the whims of others.

He understands what his role was in paving the way for feminine supremacy and chooses to stand apart from that.

He focuses on a rational, stoic approach towards life that favours him as an individual.

He is independent and able to think for himself.

He is not a slave to women, or society.

A neo-renaissance man understands his value and actively works to cultivate it.

What Skills Does A Neo-Renaissance Man Need?

A neo-renaissance man needs to be able to identify what information is valuable and what information needs to be discarded.

He needs to know how to take care of himself, physically, mentally and spiritually.

He needs to be well read and understand history, so that it may not repeat itself for him.

A neo-renaissance man needs to be valuable in multiple ways, so that the world does not decide his direction for him.

A neo-renaissance man needs to cultivate multiple options in his business, social and sexual life.

A neo-renaissance man needs to understand that he is a valuable, rare individual who is worth working on.

What Ideas Are Important to the Neo-Renaissance?

The most important ideas to the neo-renaissance are the throwing away of modern feminist thought and cultural marxism.

Specifically, it means to discard the following ideas:

1. Woman are perfect, beautiful angels who can do no wrong
2. Women should be treated as above men in every avenue of life
3. Women and children are more valuable than men
4. Women have been oppressed by evil men throughout history
5. Everyone is equal regardless of ability or effort
6. Women deserve unilateral control over birth and serious relationships
7. Women deserve to be married and have children, regardless of their previous behaviour or life choices

Once these cancerous ideas are thrown away by the average man, the world will realign itself to a new normal, one where women do not have sole dominion over the fate of beta men.

The average man will be free of slavery once the average man understands that those ideas above are the result of cultural programming, rather than reality.

How Red Pill Ideas Fit Into the Neo-Renaissance

Red pill ideas refer to understanding what the real world is like and what women are truly attracted to.

A neo-renaissance man, who throws away his women-worshipping ideas can much more easily fit into a new paradigm of behaviour where he can be attractive to the women that he has always wanted to sleep with.

Once the average man understands what the real world is like and what women are truly attracted to, he becomes truly competitive in a way that was impossible before.

The average man will raise the standard for all of humanity.

Humans as a species will forge ahead ever stronger, as the competition for women becomes MUCH more fierce, but also MUCH more fair.

People will not be born into slavery for the female cause.

Women will also have to adapt to this new situation and be much more convincing in order for men to want to be in relationships with them.

The Reclamation of Power Through Knowledge

Effectively, once the average man learns the truth (and not just an enlightened group of individuals), men will have reclaimed power from women.

Relationships will be a much more egalitarian prospect, as men understand what women are really like and use their logic and abilities to their advantage in order to secure what they desire from women.

Men will no longer be slaves to the matriarchy, and put into mental prisons from birth.

Natural selection will still happen, but the average man will have a chance at happiness.

Men will no longer be churned by the grinder of divorce as the average man understands exactly why women enter into those kinds of relationships in the first place.

Takeaways From the Neo-Renaissance

As a result of the neo-renaissance, the world will be tumultuous.

After the upheaval, however, the world will settle into a much fairer place for men.

Women will no longer enjoy the worshipped status they have today, but they will still be respected for who they are as human beings.

Average men will have a chance at true happiness again.

History tells us that the truth cannot be hidden forever. 

In the same way that people learned that the Earth revolved around the Sun and now the average 5 year old laughs at anyone saying otherwise, the average person will know women’s true nature in time, and the paradigm shift of the world will be similar.

Brace yourselves, the neo-renaissance is inevitable. 

Conclusion

In the same way that there was a dark age previously, there is one now.

The difference is that this dark age is one of obfuscation, rather than lack of records.

The truth of how the world really works and what women are really like will be revealed in time to the average man.

Once the average man understands what we enlightened few do, the neo-renaissance will have begun in earnest.

The world will never be the same once that happens, much as it changed once we learned that the Earth orbits around the Sun.

Be wise and judicious.

Prepare for the coming cultural tide!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions

I Know How Women Work! If You’re Nice to Them, Communicate, and Keep Them Happy, They’ll Make You the Happiest Man In the World!

Oh my poor, sweet summer child.

You are lost.

Please come to the light.

Read EVERY post on this blog and try to internalize the concepts here.

You will die miserable thinking those thoughts…

Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

What Is the Neo-Renaissance?

It is when the average man understands red pill concepts.

When the average man understands how men have been used and abused as pawns, the paradigm thought shift necessary will have occurred.

This paradigm shift will make the western world realign to a new, more egalitarian normal.

Men Are Powerful, What Are You Saying? Helios, You Don’t Know Shit About Shit!

If you believe thoughts like “happy wife, happy life” you’re not powerful.

You’re a pawn.

I don’t want the average man to be a pawn, I want the average man to have a chance at happiness.

Helios, This Is A Pipe Dream! We’ll Never Get to A Point Where the Truth of Female Nature is Known to the Average Man!

You wanna bet?

People used to take it AS A FACT that the Sun revolved around the Earth.

If they could accept that the Earth rotates around the Sun, they can accept the fact that women are dicks to men if you let them.

It’s not NEARLY as far-fetched.

I’ll bet you’ve never heard of Sheryl Sandberg!

Guess what, that will change today!

She is the famous “strong independent” COO of Facebook.

She will go down in infamy as the person who revealed Hypergamy to the masses.

Oops!

Let’s get on with it, shall we?

The Infamous Quote

The quote we will be discussing today comes from her book, “Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to Lead”.

It’s a doozy, I hope you’re ready:

“When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects, or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier”

Oh lord, so much to break down!

Let’s get to work…

The Quote, Translated From Womanese into English

This quote is full of information to unpack.

Read what it is really saying and try to understand how insidious this message is.

Womanese	English
When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys	When you’re young, date ONLY alpha studs.
The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands	Alphas are for sport fucking, betas are for resource extraction.
When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner	When you’re at the end of your strong independent phase and starting your lady phase (the wall/~age 30), find a beta/slave/NPC/loser man.
Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious	Someone who worships women and puts women before himself in all aspects.
Someone who values fairness and expects, or, even better, wants to do his share in the home	Someone who is willing to do anything you say, no matter how degrading.
These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier	Your beta/slave/NPC safety net exists and you will not be attracted to the men in this category, though you can pretend with platitudes like this one to keep them around.

Yep. I’m amazed at it too.

It’s like watching a train wreck happen in front of your very eyes…

Hypergamy Explained

As Sheryl so kindly explained in her quote, women are hypergamous.

They seek the absolute best men when they are in their sexual primes, and they seek a safety net when they are no longer competitive.

Often, they seek the safety net when they are no longer able to tempt the alphas they initially fucked into sticking around.

Of course, women are never happy with the men they settled for and even when they have children with them, wonder what could have been.

Another sad reality is that the children produced with a beta often turn out to be betas themselves,  perpetuating the safety net that women have.

Effectively, betas are the bred cattle of the human race, to be used and discarded in order to serve women’s hypergamous imperative.

Alpha Fucks vs Beta Bucks

Sheryl said it best!

Take it from the mouth of a strong independent woman herself, here’s what women want (alphas):

1)  The bad boys

2)  The cool boys

3)  The commitment-phobic boys

4)  The crazy boys

You need to embody the qualities of at least one of these archetypes to be sexually attractive to women.

Here is who you DON’T want to be (again taken from Sheryl’s own mouth, listen close, betas):

1)  An equal partner

2)  Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious (masculine women)

3)  Someone who values fairness and does their fair share in the home (choreplay)

ALL of those qualities will signal to your woman that you are a beta slave.

You want to be the guy who fucks, not the guy who gets used, ordered around and discarded when you’re no longer useful.

Hypergamy isn’t Hidden Anymore

The quote that Sheryl said marks the beginning of open hypergamy.

This is the concept that women are no longer hiding their sexual strategy from men anymore.

Women feel they have such a good position (and they do) that they can gloat about it.

It is YOUR CHOICE whether you want to be the man in the first part of the quote (a sexy alpha stud) OR the man in the second part of the quote (a beta slave, useful only for what he provides and sexually useless).

YOU need to wake up.

Once you realize the raw deal you’re getting from women in marriage/serious relationships, you won’t be inclined to ever enter into one.

Funnily enough, “commitment-phobic” is one of the very qualities that women find attractive.

Lucky you!

Don’t Be Her Safety Net

I was implying this before, but I will state it openly now.

DO NOT EVER agree to be a woman’s safety net.

You will not be considered “sexy”, you will be considered a TOOL.

You are not a man to a woman if you put yourself in this position, you are a slave who serves at the behest of the matriarchy.

You can choose to stay in your mental prison, or break free and be happy.

You WILL be miserable as her safety net, I guarantee it.

You will feel used.

You will be unappreciated.

Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

Marriage as the Endgame of the Feminine Imperative

Marriage is the endgame of the feminine imperative.

In the west, if you get married, the girl has you totally by the balls.

She can control your sex drive as well as your resources.

It inevitably leads to the destruction of your masculine essence as she grinds you down over time.

Unless you want to become a husk of your former self, do NOT allow yourself to submit to her endgame.

You need to formulate a counter-strategy and bring her into your endgame instead.

Hold frame and stay strong to what YOU want as opposed to what the feminine imperative says you should do.

Will You Be a Free Pariah or Sandberg’s Praised Slave?

As I’ve said in previous articles, you yourself have a choice to make.

In going against the wishes of the feminine imperative, you will inevitably become a pariah.

You will be free from the slavery of the feminine imperative however and will actually have the opportunity to live a good life.

You could choose to be one of Sandberg’s slaves though.

You will live a life of quiet misery, but women all around will praise you for your “sacrifice” (while snickering that they could have their cake and eat it too)

Non-Monogamy as a Solution to “Sandbergism”

If you want to prevent yourself from being “Sandberged” – being used as a safety net when the woman is done fucking alphas, you just have to be non-monogamous.

With a roster of women, you are never beholden to any individual for sex.

As a result, no girl can control you through the throttling of sex.

Since you’re not able to be controlled, you will fall firmly into the alpha category, and the beta torture will not happen to you.

Conclusion

As you can see, Sandberg exposed female hypergamy in her book.

She obviously masked the truth by saying that nothing is sexier than betas.

We can tell clearly by the actions of women everywhere that they are not sexually attracted to betas and in fact use them for resource extraction.

If they did find them truly attractive, they would choose beta men over alphas in their sexual prime, yet they never do.

Be smart!

Listen to women’s actions and not their words!

-Helios 

Frequently Asked Questions

Women Love and Lust After Beta Men, Sheryl Said So!

Did she though?

She said that OVER TIME, nothing is sexier.

Meaning, she finds the extraction of resources sexy now that she’s past her prime.

Last time I checked, men wanted to sleep with women in their sexual prime, and not after they’ve had all their experiences with someone else.

I Just Want to Be A Good Boy and Do What Sheryl Says!

Welcome to misery.

You will be used and abused as a beta slave for the entirety of your life.

You will then have a crisis as you realize that your whole existence was just there to facilitate feminine primacy.

Fail.

What is Hypergamy?

The concept that women are always looking for her best partner.

They want a man who is superior to her other options.

She wants the best genes for herself.

Once she has the genes, she then needs to secure resources.

Often these two needs are not met by the same man.

How Do I Be An Alpha?

According to Sheryl, you should be one of the following:

1)  The bad boys

2)  The cool boys

3)  The commitment-phobic boys

4)  The crazy boys

If you want more information on this, read my blog post about the qualities of the alpha male.

Dread is an extremely important component in seduction and the maintenance of any long term relationship.

Relationships for men are always better if there is a little dread involved.

Many women try and shield themselves against dread in the way that they setup their relationships (monogamous, live-in LTR/marriage).

Let’s dive in, shall we?

What is Dread?

Dread is the feeling that a woman feels when she knows that she might lose you.

She experiences dread when she sees other women being interested in you, or when you seem to be either emotionally unavailable or unavailable to talk all the time.

Dread creates extreme tension in women, and as I have mentioned before, sex = tension + logistics.

As a result, I recommend that you try and have all of your partners experience dread regularly.

Dread as it Relates to Competition Anxiety

Competition anxiety is what women feel when they know that they have to fight for you.

It is what they feel when they know that you are exercising multiple options.

She does not feel the safety of a committed relationship, she feels the pull of having to convince you that she is the best.

Competition anxiety is an extremely important component of any relationship, and if your girl doesn’t fear your loss, you’re in for a bad time.

With dread, you stir the competition anxiety in her, to your benefit!

Women Would Rather Share A Winner Than Have A Loser All To Themselves

A harsh truth is that women would rather share a winner than be saddled with a loser.

Dread is a way of signaling to her hindbrain that you’re a winner.

If she fears losing you, it means that you are someone worth stealing, someone she doesn’t want to lose.

Funnily enough, women poach men all the time.

It is one of women’s primary strategies for getting men.

Rather than vet the man yourself, steal a man who is already vetted from a girl who has him.

You ideally want women to be fighting over you in this way.

When women know you have multiple options, and they fight each other over you (indirectly), you will always get their best, most convincing behaviour.

There is therefore, no better point in a relationship than when a girl knows she doesn’t have you and has to try and convince you to be with her.

Creating Dread

Creating dread is one of the most important strategies in relationship management.

Here are a few tactics you can use to inspire dread in your partner:

1)  Do not text regularly. When she does not know what you’re doing exactly, she wonders if you’re not out seeing other girls.

2)  Make a plausibly deniable move on one of her friends when she’s not around

3)  Mention how skilled one of your exes was at giving head. Mention it again the next time you meet as though you forgot you mentioned it the last time

4)  Be seen by your girl to flirt with other women at the venue you’re in

5)  Do something memorable together, then do not message her for four days afterwards

6)  Ignore her calls or messages for a week. When she gets mad, act as if she’s sabotaging the relationship

7)  When someone talks about how cute you look together, say “yeah…” while looking away

8)  When she flirts with another guy, have no reaction and give her tips

9)  Say that you really value your independence and freedom in response to nothing in particular

10)   Have an affair and make sure she finds out, then after she’s super mad and raging at you, tell her she’s never looked more beautiful and you’ll never stop loving her. Walk away and go no contact for two weeks.

You are signaling by these actions that you’re not really all that into her.

She knows for sure that you’re seeing other women, and in every case except the affair, she can’t confirm it!

She will fear losing you in every one of these instances, and is much more likely to stay and give you good behaviour as a result.

Why Dread Is Useful

Dread is useful because women don’t just want to feel good when they think about you.

They want to feel good and bad in cycles.

With dread, there is an easy way of making her feel uncomfortable without having to be domineering .

When she’s with you, she feels love, affection and positivity.

When she’s away from you, she feels anxious, sad and fears your loss.

It creates a constant cycle of positive and negative emotions, BOTH of which women enjoy experiencing.

Set Up Your Actions and Environment to Maximize Dread

Rather than actively trying to generate dread, you should aim for passively generating dread.

You can do this by not texting and also by living alone.

In this way, the girl never knows exactly what you’re doing when you’re not around.

She has no way to verify your behaviour and she imagines all of the amazing things you’re doing and all of the women you’re seeing.

You basically have to do nothing in order to generate these feelings other than being busy.

If you’re so busy you don’t have time to text and you need your independence, you will naturally generate the dread that women desire in their relationships, without having to actively work on it.

If you wanted to “fake it”, you simply need to only text for logistics, and have your own place, where she doesn’t live.

Fantasy vs Reality

Women don’t REALLY want to know what you’re doing when she’s not around.

They want the FANTASY of being able to imagine what you’re doing when she’s not around.

Do not break her fantasy by being too available!

Fantasy is the thing that will maintain your relationship like no other.

Men think that women want to know everything about them, but that is untrue.

Women want to peel back your layers and feel like they’re slowly discovering you, bit by bit, using their feminine “intuition”.

It’s the Little Things

Ultimately, it’s the little things that cause dread.

A woman’s hair band here, a side comment mentioning another woman there, an aloof attitude, etc.

These are all things that signal to women that you’re entertaining multiple options.

It passively triggers their dread without much effort on your part.

If you set up your life to passively trigger dread, you will have much happier, longer lasting relationships.

Conclusion

Women desire men who have multiple options.

When they receive confirmation that you’re seeing multiple women (directly or indirectly), it triggers dread and competition anxiety.

Dread and competition anxiety are absolute necessities when it comes to the maintenance of any kind of relationship with a woman.

Use these tools well, and you’ll improve your quality of life significantly!

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions

What Is Dread?

Simply put, dread is the feeling women have when they fear they’re losing you.

It can be triggered a variety of ways and is amazing for maintaining relationships.

Women want men who have multiple options.

My Girl Wants to Text Every Day, Should I?

Hell no!

That is extremely unattractive.

You are too available and giving her too much information about yourself.

There is no mystery or fantasy!

Women need those things in order to be maximally attracted to you!

My Girl Wants Me Tell Her Everything I Do When Leave the House and I Hate It! What Should I Do?

You should NEVER follow instructions like that.

Who is she to tell you what you are to do with your time?

She is not your keeper and is not privy to any information or behaviour she wants just because she wants it.

That entitlement to your time and behaviour is something you should never allow.

How Do I Create Dread In My Partner?

Try any (or all) of the following techniques:

1)  Do not text regularly. When she does not know what you’re doing exactly, she wonders if you’re not out seeing other girls.

2)  Make a plausibly deniable move on one of her friends when she’s not around

3)  Mention how skilled one of your exes was at giving head. Mention it again the next time you meet as though you forgot you mentioned it the last time

4)  Be seen by your girl to flirt with other women at the venue you’re in

5)  Do something memorable together, then do not message her for four days afterwards

6)  Ignore her calls or messages for a week. When she gets mad, act as if she’s sabotaging the relationship

7)  When someone talks about how cute you look together, say “yeah…” while looking away

8)  When she flirts with another guy, have no reaction and give her tips

9)  Say that you really value your independence and freedom in response to nothing in particular10)Have an affair and make sure she finds out, then after she’s super mad and raging at you, tell her she’s never looked more beautiful and you’ll never stop loving her. Walk away and go no contact for two weeks.

A lot of betas have no idea the sad state that they’re in.

They think that submitting their entire being to women is just “how it is”.

“Happy wife, happy life” is all they know and so, they suffer.

Let me tell you outright, what your situation is.

BETAS, YOU’RE BEING USED.

You are a PURSE to your girl, not a human being.

Let me elaborate…

False Concept of the Saviour

Because of christian religion, or other things in beta upbringing, many men are raised to believe that they need to be the saviour.

They believe that they CANNOT be happy without sacrificing themselves.

They have no idea that BY THE VERY ACT of sacrificing themselves, they are putting the person they are sacrificing themselves for ABOVE themselves.

Since they pedestalize their partners, they are totally unable to experience the true love and devotion of a woman.

Sad, I know…

White Knights

A white knight is a man that stands up for and defends women no matter the circumstance.

They believe that by standing by women, no matter how brazen the woman’s actions may be, those women will want to fuck them.

They have no idea that they are simply useful idiots to women.

Women almost invariably DON’T fuck white knights.

Instead, they USE white knights, while fellating bad boys.

Heed my words betas:

If you white knight for a woman, you are signalling not only that you are stupid (as you can’t break free of your mental prison), but ALSO that you are BELOW HER.

A double whammy of signals which show that you’re unattractive from a mating perspective.

Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks

Alpha fucks, beta bucks is the red pill creed.

Heed it well.

If you’re not fucking, you’re a beta.

Clearly, you must be doing something wrong if you’re not fucking.

Here is how this relates to the sunk cost fallacy.

In a marriage or other LTR, many men notice a significant drop in the quality of sex over time.

This is especially true if the couple lives together.

The man then, instead of leaving, succumbs to the sunk-cost fallacy and stays.

He stays, thinking that their partner will appreciate and reciprocate their sacirifices.

They never do.

Men suffer and suffer and destroy their masculine essence with absolutely no absolution or praise.

Their sacrifice is expected.

Your Sacrifice WILL Be In Vain

If you sacrifice yourself to the sunk cost fallacy, it WILL be in vain.

You will NOT be appreciated for it.

Betas are never appreciated.

They are used and discarded in order to facilitate a female primary reality.

This is the fate of the 80%, that they should suffer while women truly enjoy the other 20%.

Open hypergamy also leads to open misery for the majority of men (and women) in the long term.

Hypergamy

As I have mentioned in previous posts, hypergamy is the idea that women want to enjoy their absolute best sexual options while in their sexual prime, while being saved by a beta when they are too old to be competitive.

The sunk cost fallacy is AMAZING at keeping a suboptimal (in terms of sexual attractiveness) woman provisioned in the long term.

Once a woman has secured a beta, he is very unlikely to leave (due to having no other options) and she is likely to have provisioning secured for the long term.

It is a win-win (for women, of course).

The matriarchy facilitates short term and long term success, by giving her the fallback option of white knight beta/NPC/slave men.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about your happiness.

Solipsism

Women are solipsistic, meaning that they see everything through a self-interested lens.

This means that they are VERY unlikely to appreciate the sacrifice of any man.

If you’re not getting anything from an LTR, LEAVE!

The sunk cost fallacy is the only thing preventing you.

Believe me when I say that any new option will do a better job of being enjoyable to you as compared to a woman who is simply using you.

Ultimately, women will NOT look out for you, only for themselves and their own feelings.

Keep that in mind while you’re in a relationship.

The Matriarchy

The matriarchy exists to further women’s goals (hypergamy) and to perpetuate the matriarchy.

Betas are useful idiots who help to maintain feminine primacy.

It is important that you understand that women will not give you advice to help you, but to help themselves and the matriarchy by extension.

By listening to women’s advice, you are extremely likely to become one of the used.

In order to be alpha, and experience true joy and appreciation from women, you must break free of the mental prison the matriarchy has made for you.

The Consequences of Betas Being Used

Betas experience misery in the long term as a result of being used.

Betas also often experience long-term sexlesness, as their behaviour is entirely repulsive to women.

It also perpetuates a female primary reality that has led to the greatest “survival of the fittest” competition since ancient times (before marriage was instituted as a backbone of civilization).

Betas are essentially the donkeys of the modern world, having no idea that the carrot they’re chasing is a false one.

Conclusion

Betas, you’re being used!

Wake up!

Investing more in women and white knighting for them will NOT get you laid.

It is the path to misery and to your long-term destruction.

Unless you want to be used and discarded when you’re a husk later, break free of the mental prison you’re in!

Be strong.

-Helios

Frequently Asked Questions

Helios, This Is All Conspiracy Theory Garbage, You’re Literally A Quack!

Rather than listening to what the textbooks and your teachers tell you without any hint of questioning them, how about you try, with a doubtful mind, my ideas.

If they don’t work, you can discard them and call me a quack.

If they do work, you will have learned that not all things are clearly visible in front of your face.

Just because an authority tells you something is true from a young age, does NOT make is NECESSARILY true.

Trust, but verify.

Once you’ve verified my theories, you’ll see that I’m correct.

UNLIKE your rulers, I don’t expect you to trust my words just because I said them.

TEST THEM FOR YOURSELF.

You’ll see I’m correct.

I’m Not A Slave, I Have Access to More Information Than the Kings of the Past, You’re Full of Shit!

Yes.

You also have much more MISINFORMATION than ever in history.

Our modern dark age is caused by PURPOSEFUL OBFUSCATION of correct information.

If you cannot see that, I’m afraid you need to work on your critical thinking skills.

Oh wait, your educational system failed you and you have no critical thinking skills, right.

Are You Saying That If I Do What My Mom Tells Me I Should, I Will Be Unattractive to Women?

Yes.

That is exactly what I’m saying.

Your mom doesn’t have your best interests in mind, she has the best interests of herself and the matriarchy in mind.

If she raises you to be a good beta bitch, you’ll serve her imperative well.

If you rebel against her teachings, she also wins, since you become an alpha and are exponentially more likely to multiply her genes (though you’ll piss her off).

Her raising you to be a little bitch is a win-win FOR HER, see?

(Notice the solipsism).

You’re A Fucking Idiot Helios. I Learned in My Women’s Studies Class That We Live In An Oppressive Patriarchy Which Aims to Control Women!

Yeah, no.

Do you see 80% of women living in quiet desperation and being used?

You’re so far up your own ass you have no idea what the real world is like.

Your women’s studies course does NOT qualify you in any way to take part in this discussion.

You are brainwashed.

Read some history and find out the truth of the world for yourself.

Just because a professor of cultural brainwashing tells you it’s true, does it mean it is?

Give me a break.